| | Most impotant questions to askPage 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | When I first start communicating with someone I prefer to have conversation rather than just asking and answering questions. That gets tedious and B O R I N G!!!
What you get when you ask questions is informaton, but you get to KNOW someone through conversation. Asking a question or two here and there, I realize that's hard to avoid, but they should be questions that would lead into conversation.....not just to extract information. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 10:42:10 PM |
When I first start communicating with someone I prefer to have conversation rather than just asking and answering questions. That gets tedious and B O R I N G!!!
What you get when you ask questions is informaton, but you get to KNOW someone through conversation. Asking a question or two here and there, I realize that's hard to avoid, but they should be questions that would lead into conversation.....not just to extract information.
Now that is very true. I only ask one of two of my "for fun" questions if I like the guy and I can tell he has a sense of humor...otherwise it would be a disaster to go there. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 11:06:09 PM | | Put on your profile that you are looking for something serious and that if they are looking for a hook up to move on. You are only interested being intimate with someone willing to put in the time. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 11:54:46 PM | true ! but i always just ask 1 = are you single?
2= where were you born?
and ill tell you most guys ive talked to go on about how much they make / what they do/ troubles in thier lives / thier last girlfriend / how wonderfull they are ! blah blah blah! seriously ! i just need them to answer those 2 questions and ive made my decision right there on how they answer the questions / funny but it usually works! | |
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| The first questions women ask me are penis size and income. LOL.
Posted: 7/5/2012 6:43:16 AM | | I don't know who u been dating hun..........but thats not what 99% of women ask right off the bat. You need to find a better dating pool/watering hole whatever!!! lolol. Besides its widely known it is not the size of the wand but wizardry of magician that matters.!! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 8:26:54 AM | You are widowed and must feel very much "Outside of your shell" at the moment.
You were with your partener for some time it seem's before he was taken from you.
Important questions?
1. What was your longest relationship and why did it end?
2. What are you looking for from life right now?
3. I'm not going to ask anymore questions, I want YOU to tell me about YOUR life.
4. ALWAY'S leave the ball in HIS court. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 10:33:27 AM | | Why are you on here when you are only seperated? That's a good question. If you want to be on her get a divorce is what I think. Talked to 3 like that and guess what they didn't want a divorce. 2 were actually still with their wives. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 12:07:01 AM | "What are you looking for in a relationship?" This tells me about a man's intentions. No answer IS an answer.
"How long have you been single?" and "Have you had a long term, loving relationship since your divorce?" I refuse to date a newly divorced man. Crazy-making behavior is guaranteed.
"What kind of meals do you like to cook?" I cook healthy, low fat food. I recently met a man who NEVER LEARNED TO COOK. An extremely picky eater, he was proud of himself for tasting for the first time (with me): lettuce, sprouts, celery, tomato, cantaloupe, cherries, green onion, apricot, avocado and prawns. "What is a prawn?" he asked. He did not even know how to cut a lemon in half. I had to show him. I introduced him to whole grains, vegetables and fruit that he gingerly tasted with tiny bites like a preschooler. Not surprisingly, he has serious health problems including Parkinson's Disease. We are NOT a good match.
I am accustomed to men who are good cooks. A man who never learned to cook seems like a throwback to a past generation. I'm not willing to be a kitchen slave. "I'll make dinner for you" is music to my ears. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 5:37:46 AM |
5. How many licks does it take to get to the Tootsie Roll center of a Tootsie Pop? (Been pondering this question for more than 30 years) lol
What a ridiculous question......
WE WILL NEVER KNOW! It's one of those things God put on Earth to torment us until we die. It's like the super secret way of putting caramel into a caramilk bar. AHHHHHHHH!!!!
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Posted: 7/9/2012 8:04:24 PM |
1: If you and I were in a committed relationship and I wanted to do something that you knew might not be good for the family, but I really, really, REALLY wanted to do it.... would you say yes?
*They always say it depends on what it is...but it doesn't to me. The answer is in the question so it doesn't matter what it is. Every guy I have been with always answers the question the same way.
First, if I knew it might not be good for the family, I would explain in the clearest terms possible the why then, after you've understood the consequences, I would ask you, is your wanting to do that something worth the potential damage to the family ?
Second, what is it you are really trying to accomplish ? ... is it just doing that (whatever it is) or, is there an implied goal you want to achieve ?... if there is an implied goal then figure out a different way of reaching the goal without the negative consequences.
Third, ask if there is a reasonable alternative you'd trade that for. Is there something else you'd like to do as much or more that does not have the negative consequences ?
Fourth, if all of the above fails, weight the damage to the family against the damage of denying you the pleasure. The alternative with least damage wins.
2: The deserted island question: You have a choice. Your best guy friend who is an excellent craftsmen or a beautiful young woman.
If there are enough resources in the island to build a way out, always pick the excellent craftsman. Two good craftsmen will build what's necessary in half the time or less.
Building a simple raft is akin to suicide. At a minimum, it will require the manufacture of an apparatus to obtain fresh water from sea water. Maximum amount of time we can survive without water varies from 5 to 8 days depending on the individual. Maximum number of days without food is a few weeks. Two good craftsmen can build a reasonable way out in a few months. Even if the guy is not a good craftsman, he is still the best choice because he can help with heavy stuff, of which there will be plenty. Stocking fresh water is not a solution, it will eventually be depleted and it subtract bouyancy from the craft. Coconuts (hopefully available) on the exterior would provide a source of food, water and bouyancy.
If there aren't enough resources in the island to build a way out, I'll take the beautiful young woman... bummer! ;-) | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 8:43:48 PM | What are you asking them?
My most important questions to ask:
1) Have you heard anything good on NPR lately?
2) What makes you laugh out loud?
3) If you, and only you, were given the choice of a superpower, which would you choose: flight or invisibility? And why?
4) If you were to be canonized a saint, who or what would you be patron of?
The last is not a question but a request:
Tell me a story.
Depending on how they answer those questions, I decide whether it's worth getting to know them better. Usually the answer is "no." | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 9:16:23 PM | What is the one thing you are most proud of so far in life?
What is the biggest difficulty you've overcome?
What is one of the most important things you've learned so far in life?
What do you think life is trying to teach you currently?
Who do you most respect/admire and why?
of course, I can't promise I'll actually ASK these, as interrogation is not my style, but most definitely, these are things I will be wondering/curious about.-or at least what comes to mind that your post inspired me to muse on OP ;) | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 9:26:59 PM | what is the capital of idaho?
how many career homeruns did yogi berra hit?
why do so many people spell the word loser, looser?
why is there a term non chalant but not chalant?
if you were a thermos what kind would you be?
these questions are a must to be asked if you want someone to think you are totally nuts and want to make it a short date | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 11:53:34 PM | | My rib cages still aching and hurts with laughs from Windchymes and her message #19. I as a receiving end of the same experiences, but mostly I do not have patient nor tolerable for the disrespect from these goons and played up with their fantasies. Surprisingly some of those men have indicated in their profile as an educated beyond college basic and appeared to hold a sucessful career. That shown to me for those whom behaved that way, education did not refined them to see different in class of people. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 10:44:10 AM |
What are your 3, or 4, or 5 most important questions you ask someone new?
This is from a guy's perspective of course but I ask questions and start conversations based on what I've read about them within their profile. I'd say those questions are important because it shows that I actually READ their profile. If they don't have anything that I can start a conversation with I take note of the pictures and ask questions from there. It's a safe bet that she may like baseball if she's tailgating at a stadium, or theater if she's showing off her front row tickets to Wicked.
Is it me, or is it just the men I pick - a lot of questions I try to ask them, they turn it into something sexual. Is this the norm?
If they are giving you asinine answers yet you keep asking more questions you've just given them an invitation to continue. If you don't like it stop contact after the first stupid answer and move on to someone else. And no. It's not the norm. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 10:50:22 AM | Well, given recent events here, I might ask the following:
1. Do you own a gun?
2. Do you own lots of guns?
3. Do you keep a lot of ammunition on hand?
4. Are you handy at building bombs?
5. Just WTH do you plan to do with so much armament? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 11:58:32 AM | It is interesting that so many women here say the best strategy is to just let the man ramble. Though I can obviously write almost anyone under the table, in real life I am usually so quiet that it often freaks people out and with most of the women willing to meet me being quiet, mousey people themselves, it is not uncommon for the two of us to just stare at the menu without a word for half the evening. Really, no one's going to get much of anything out of me without good questions, and they better be the kind requiring elaboration. The people in these forums already know more about me than a couple of women I dated for more than a year (because, I met them in real world situations and we never wrote each other, and I only "speak" a lot when I write).
The only time I ever met a brilliant, outgoing, talkative, sane, mature, career-driven woman from online, I was blindsided with what was for all practical purposes a loan interview. At the time I was attempting to get two businesses off the ground, and she just happened to be a bank executive, so the first question she asked me upon meeting was what I had done that day, and I got about two sentences into the explanation of the first business venture and five minutes later I was wishing I had said, "Oh, nothing much -- read the paper, watched football game, talked to my mom..." She just kept drilling me (in the bad way) about why my financing ideas weren't going to work, the sloppiness of my due dilligence and how I expected my tax structure to pass legal muster. We were done with dinner before I could get her off that rant and on to details about our non-business lives (I actually knew very little about her because she only sent me one sentence responses for the month that we emailed before meeting and her profile was quite sparse; however, she's also the most attractive woman that ever agreed to meet me, so I wasn't going to argue with her lack of communication). Had I known what I was getting into, I would have studied my business proposals a little better before I met with her! (Curiously, despite her disappointment in my business critical thinking skills, she was still interested in dating me after that meeting, but I later blew it. With a rambling email. And never heard from her again.)
Although windchyme's response was as amusing as everyone is saying it is, my favorite is actually: "1). Are you mentally unstable? 2). How mentally unstable are you?..." That's always the first question I want to ask women I meet from online. Because if they're willing to meet me, there's a 95% chance they're one of the 3 "I's": insane, immature or INSANE. Doesn't mean I won't date them anyway. I just like to know what I'm getting into right off the bat. But I never ask them and they always make me wait to find out.
Instead the first and only consistent question I ever ask is: "So why did you decide to meet me?" Often, their insanity is revealed in that response. The problem with that question, though, is after they answer, they often turn around on you, and strangely enough, I'm rarely ever prepared to answer, because my honest answer almost always would be, "Because you agreed to meet me." My meetings are so rare that I'll pretty much meet any woman that I find remotely attractive, no matter how bad of an idea I think it is otherwise. And "Because I thought you were attractive" doesn't always go over well. Arguably, that should be a given (although, early during my foray into personals, I met a number of women I didn't find attractive). All my other questions usually are just an extension of whatever it was we discussed during email and phone conversations, which themselves are extensions of our profiles. It's not too hard to know what to talk about if you spent more than 5 sentences communicating with them before meeting.
"What you have discovered is exactly why these wackos are alone."
I resemble that remark.
Although I've discovered serial monogamists who are essentially never not in a relationship are often just as messed up as us nearly lifelong loners. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 12:54:02 PM |
1. What preparations have you made for the Zombie Apocalypse?
Machete, baseball bat, several cases of shotgun shells.
2. Do you like opera?
Hell no.
3. Have you ever been involved in a 12 step program?
That’s a trick question, right?
4. Are you legally allowed to leave the country?
Which country exactly are we speaking of?
5. May I have a blood sample?
Depends on how you intend to collect that sample. If by use of a hypodermic needle in the hands of a qualified medical practitioner, then sure. If by means of a bite to the neck, then see my answer to question number 1, above. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 1:09:11 PM | Who wants to ask questions? I like to witness how well he handles himself, is he sexy, can he enjoy the simple and beautiful things in life or does he need to get serious or even worse talk about himself?
There's a 24 yr old in the neighborhood(I'm 54) who rides over on his skateboard and from my driveway calls out for me to put on my rollerblades. I'm ready out there in minutes off to an adventure. Obviously he's too young for me but I do wish guys my age could have this much fun. Bust loose guys! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 1:46:53 PM | HawkingJr: you are not resemble any of those wackos at all. With that humor, I am sure you will land another one. It is only a miss opportunity to hook a pricey fish. It is lesson learned to be prepared how to hook a similarity fish if it does happen again.
I think we all should be prepared to ask and answer what is important to each individual wants and needs. If finance is most important to you, then any question about how to handle the finance is important. But it could make the party whom concern the same topic will be on guard and see as a red flag whether the initiated party is a gold digger. So, this issue is delicate to handle. In another thread, I also made a comment that we should question a participating party as interview for a job. We do take interview for job hunting more seriously than question to be in a relationship. Well, sometime the rose color glasses always blind us to make an assumption that should not be, just like in my case to ignore the gut feelings. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 3:44:49 PM | 1. I give them my phone number and tell them to text me
2. I ask them to send me a pic to make sure it is them- if they take too long I'm suspicious
3. the next stuff depends on how the flow of the texts go
That's the kind of girl I like....She has to be really attracted to me and happy to talk to me like I'm a Super Star...lol...it increases my attraction of her | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 7:28:35 PM | Hello Kuzz:
Here is a resource you can use to help achieve the questions you will want to ask a new guy:
It is a book called "100 questions to ask before you marry" by a woman and man team it was published in 2004 so check it out at barnes and noble or your local library I remember it cos I wanted it but couldn't get the resources before I relocated to buy it in my home state and couldn't find it here.
think about it this way:
I believe we should ALL interview the guys and girls we date,live with, and later marry as if they will be performing the MOST IMPORTANT job in our WORLD(COS THEY WILL!!!!!!!!!!!!) so we don't want to introduce lunacy, other mental illness, criminal characteristics, and general weirdness into our family tree more than whatever might already be there! what if you and your future spouse both had a strain of serious mental illness running in your family? your poor future offspring would be sunk for life!I know this cos my now exspouse has a genetic illness that he got from BOTH his parents that NO ONE knew or bothered to test for before they got married in 1954!Him and his whole family had to get tested at the NIH in Washington DC to see what it truly was and it was the PSychiatric community(God Bless 'em) NOT the medical community at that time that really helped(the "damned"medical community at the time advised sticking him in the mental hospital and throwing away the key(it was here in Mississippi!)) it affects him every day until he dies and there is no way to improve his lot in life! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 7:34:41 PM | Hey Johnny Z:
Very cool guy! I love it can I use it as well?(I wish i had had it in 2002-2003 when I met my now exspouse,but oh well!) | |
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