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| | age, appearance and what you thinkPage 10 of 13 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13) | | I think i unfairly judge potential dates a lot of the time , not because i look younger than my age , but because my ex did .As well she should have . She was nine years my junior . | |
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| age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/14/2012 7:15:53 PM | | Well I gotta agree with Whiskeyrivers also.First if your 60 yrs old it doesn't matter if you weigh the same as you did at 25,your body is not going to look the same even with surgury there is just no way.And I have high cholesterol and gall bladder prob,been a vegetarian for 4 years,worked out 1-2 hours 7 days a week for 40 years,oh and weigh the same as I did at 25.So that theory doesn't always ring true,just sayin! | |
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| age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:46:49 PM | never cared about how i look when it comes to others opinion. possibly true of course, that a person may look different than pics online, given everyone can have a not so flattering pic or just not real skilled at photography as it were. just meet with the person, if the pics online are not the truth then over and out. also, they will judge me as frame of perception fits for them regardless of how much preparation h one puts on face wrinkles... yes, never did check the facts on that one. :) let's try an experiment, you are younger than your age if the following:
1. more than three strangers have stated that you look much younger than your age
2. you are not mistaken for a wal mart greeter. or, wherever retired people get similar jobs.
3. you do not have people constantly opening doors for you out of pity for your lack of mobility
4. you do not remember what it was like to hitch the horses to the wagon
5. your kids kids... well enough said
6. your first dates are not always at night and not always in dimly lit places
add as you will. that's the fun of experiments in here. a much broader sample. and yes, if you had some sexual inuendo go through your mind from the last sentence, then i would suggest you are too "young" for your age. :)
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Posted: 7/15/2012 7:25:18 AM | nativerock;
Not really once you understand your own metabolism.. Most people at 60 plus will not be successful if they do not change their eating habits
Exactly. Metabolism changes but many folks keep scarfing down the same crap foods and same amount of those foods. Doesn't take a brain wave to put down the bag of chips and pick up an orange. Pudgy becomes the norm in society as poor diet is the norm.
Agan, a healthy person need not weigh anymore at 60 than 25. 'Getting old' is just used as a deflection. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:19:50 AM |
I'd also love to know exactly what the petite/slim ladies in this thread eat exactly & their exercise routine. I also want to make it clear I do not think you look unattractive at your weight, I just think for it to be posted by anyone that 99, 109, 119 lbs is perfect on women, even ones who are 5ft 1 etc is incorrect...after all the eating disorder stuff I posted on. And yes it is way extreme to have kids eating McD's all the time, too much fat & salt, a treat here & there it is OK.
First thing in the morning right after brushing my teeth and moisturizing my face with coconut oil ..
Breakfast one 8 ounce glass of glacial spring water (slightly higher in PH that regular spring) with a squeeze of lemon
Brunch is a combination juice and smoothie, that contains very fruits and veggies and a tablespoon of dried coconut to add a little fat to it..
Afternoon snack: A piece of fresh fruit or a nut yogurt parfait with fresh fruit
Dinner:
Two huge bowls of salad (combination of romaine lettuce, red shredded cabbage, shredded carrots, green onions, daikon radish, 2 tablespoons of flax meal sprinkled on top and some of my Asian dressing
Bowl of either cooked or raw soup depending on the weather outside.. often made using lentils, or beans with veggies
Night Time Snack: handful of nuts or some of my raw ice cream that is made with nuts and fruit, or some raw or cooked healthy dessert I made.. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 9:37:19 AM | NR...
I lost 5 pounds just reading that!!
I weighed 127 when I was 17....I am 65 pounds heavier...some fat, but definitely a LOT more muscle. I was a scrawny 5'11" scare crow. But I would like to lose ...? 15 pounds I think. But I also have great stamina...as well as stuff just hurts from time to time...
:}
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Posted: 7/15/2012 10:24:17 AM | A lot of 'normal' for image is cultural. Nativerock is in Quebec...in general the women tend to be more fashion oriented than in English North America. A guy can walk the streets of downtown Montreal and girl-watch to his heart's content. Women enjoy being women. There's a healthy flirtation that takes place.
I suppose being overweight is indeed 'normal' for many Americans. They just accept that getting fat with age is the way of the world. The clothes at Walmart, 12 oz soft drinks, plate size, etc. all reinforce that haveng an extra 2olbs of pudginess is the norm. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 10:50:49 AM | ""I weighed 127 when I was 17....I am 65 pounds heavier...some fat, but definitely a LOT more muscle. I was a scrawny 5'11" scare crow. But I would like to lose ...? 15 pounds I think. But I also have great stamina...as well as stuff just hurts from time to time...
:}
all good.""
I'll take normal, like the above, anyday over tofu, raw food, smoothies and lentils. No wonder some folks haven't been laid in 6 years. I like normal. And normal doesn't mean shopping at Walmart and supersized everything. It means lingering over a glass of wine and a lovely salmon dinner with a little salad and vegetables. It means gazing into eyes and a gentle touch while sharing a fruit plate with a little cream on the side. Or walking hand and hand in a park while eating an ice cream cone. It means making love with the lights on low while sharing a bottle of champagne. It means being careful and healthy without extemes.
And as for Quebec and the women - just as many fat men and women there as are in Halifax, Toronto, Saskatoon or Edmonton and just as many beautiful people to gaze your eyes upon. And beautiful on the outside does not guarantee beautiful on the inside. | |
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| age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/15/2012 10:56:17 AM |
A lot of 'normal' for image is cultural. Nativerock is in Quebec...in general the women tend to be more fashion oriented than in English North America. A guy can walk the streets of downtown Montreal and girl-watch to his heart's content. Women enjoy being women. There's a healthy flirtation that takes place.
It's that Joie De Vivre we all seem to have here. I know I lived most of my life in the U.S. but was born here in Montreal.. I went to the States to earn a good living and when I retired I came back home.. I must say I forgot how lovely Montreal women are.. Even I could not stop looking at them and I am straight.. I remember on one of my many urban hikes getting to a corner and looking at this gorgeous woman that was also out their urban hiking.. Our eyes met and we nodded and went on our own way..
Yes women enjoy being women here.. I had a few nice compliments this past week. One took place this past Monday at a Vegetarian dinner.. My older son had come to spend my Birthday with me so I took him along.. People at the dinner asked what our relationship was.. I am the quiet type so my son answered before I could. He said she is my mother..
I which point the gentleman that asked the question sputtered and apologized.. As we were leaving I said goodbye to the host that was sitting at the opposite end of the table.. I introduced him to my son, he asked him if I was really his mother.
Then last night another dinner and as I arrived was looking for the group.. This young gent 41 told me they have not yet arrived and that he was the first one to get there. We ended up sitting with the group later on and chatting. A very nice young and handsome man I must say. He then asked me how old I was and I told him 60.. His eyebrows raised and asked me if I could give him some of my recipes..
As for exercise I got rid of my car and have gone back to being a hunter gatherer. I will drag my stylish cart for miles to get my organic food back home. Meanwhile I enjoy the fresh air and funnershine..
Namaste
nativerock | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 11:16:29 AM | Well, I rarely drink soda, if I do it is diet. I have animal flesh maybe once a week, & not alot of it. Fat free or low fat yogurt 3x a week, fruits & veggies, some TVP vegan products, I am aware of the calorie/fat/sodium content & portion size, almond milk, tofu/vegan cheese, whole grain bread/multigrain/wheat bread, no starches, no crap!
I haven't had crap in my house since my baby was dx-ed w/ diabetes at age 7, he will be 22 next month.
I may have 2 brown eggs 2x a week, cooked in nonstick pan...everything is portioned out...my cholesteral & BP is great- yet I am overweight. I cannot be a gym rat bec. of my achilles tendon that shredded, but even w/ simple daily activities & a good diet...some of it is genetics, do not assume that anyone who is not slender/athletic/ballerina looking is a pig or a cow, stuffing themself on chips, sodas or supersized MCFatty foods!
I will say my skin looks better when I eat right, if I ate junk all the time it would show in my skin/face...people who eat like that, it shows in their complexion... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 11:47:45 AM | After reading the recent posts I am feeling damn guilty for eating a spagetti dinner with garlic toast last night.
So maybe today I will forgo the roast beef and mashed potatoes I had planned on making for dinner...
Naw, I'm not feeling that guilty ..lol
I'll make up for it on the treadmill *pinky swear*
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Posted: 7/15/2012 11:54:23 AM |
First thing in the morning right after brushing my teeth and moisturizing my face with coconut oil ..
Breakfast one 8 ounce glass of glacial spring water (slightly higher in PH that regular spring) with a squeeze of lemon
Brunch is a combination juice and smoothie, that contains very fruits and veggies and a tablespoon of dried coconut to add a little fat to it..
Afternoon snack: A piece of fresh fruit or a nut yogurt parfait with fresh fruit
Dinner:
Two huge bowls of salad (combination of romaine lettuce, red shredded cabbage, shredded carrots, green onions, daikon radish, 2 tablespoons of flax meal sprinkled on top and some of my Asian dressing
Bowl of either cooked or raw soup depending on the weather outside.. often made using lentils, or beans with veggies
Night Time Snack: handful of nuts or some of my raw ice cream that is made with nuts and fruit, or some raw or cooked healthy dessert I made..
But you forgot 'occasional smoker'....what's up with that? | |
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| age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/15/2012 11:59:18 AM | I drink lots of green tea, exercise, and was a vegetarian/raw vegan for many years.
Eating meat wasnt my idea, but the diet my doctor put me on worked for my health issues.
It made me go from a size three to a size twelve. Im about an 8 now,
and gain when I dont do Nautilus. Cardio alone doesnt cut it for me.
I do look much younger and most people are shocked when I tell them how old I am.
They dont believe my daughter when she calls me Mom.
I just somehow managed to take care of my skin,
and have great genes apparently.
I dont go around professing it though. I am what I am, and look how I look.
When my sister and I were in our thirties people thought we were twins.
It used to make me angry cause Im five years younger.
I dont mind so much these days cause she still looks great too. | |
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| age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/15/2012 12:02:05 PM |
I keep forgetting how perfect some folks are. Some folks really have to work at staying slim, some folks do have the blessing of a long/lean body naturally. Some of us come from short and stocky genes and there is not a damn thing I can do to make me long and lean - I can work on keeping my weight down to where I am comfortable. Some folks don't have realistic expectations of their fellow human beings, they look for fluff - those are the ones still thinking with their little head instead of their big heads. I like to accept folks for what they are on the inside before I discard them for the outside. But that's just me.
And you're assuming that some of us aren't taking folks as they are?
When I read shyt on here about folks seeing red flags because someone doesn't read books in their leisure time (wtf), or is bald, or doesn't look good at 60 in a bikini (really, wtf again), some will even go out with someone with a history of affairs - let's give them a chance, folks bragging about being celibate like that's a badge of honour, folks not willing to share a home with a partner, and on and on...I shake my head.
When I read shiit on here by someone who's angry that I'm thin, I wonder why on earth they're taking that crap personally. As someone so eloquently revealed (a different poster) she was diagnosed with eating disorders and other horrible things. I haven't had to deal with that because I am pre-disposed to being a small person. Some of you act like those of us who are thin are battling internal issues rather than the simple truth? We're just built to be the size we are. I eat what I want, when I want and to the extent I want to eat. I have no eating disorders, I have no underlying "need" to be this thin. I spent last weekend with my Mother and we swapped clothes. She's 68 and is only one pant size larger than I am. It's part of who we are as a family. ALL of us. Cousins, aunts, great-aunts, etc. We're not obsessive or judgmental (unlike others) we're just pre-disposed to being smaller people.
And no, I don't see having a roll of fat as some type of reward for having lived, I just see it as being realistic. You only look for fluff. Again, you seem to have found your "perfect" for you yet you spend a lot of time on here - go live your life.
I have NO issues living life (thin or not). I live my life good and bad, just like YOU do. I buried my only child, I have two parents who are ill and will likely die MUCH younger than they should. Life is no where near perfect simply because I'm thin and prefer men who are into working out. And yep, I prefer a man who reads, but it's not mandatory. Blanket assumptions will be the death of a positive attitude long before a roll of fat on someone will.
And yes, fatness is fatness - s0 what. If people can't accept other people, warts and all, I don't want them in my life because heaven forbid they fall off the pedastal or you fall off the one you've put yourself on. Again, I'd rather spend my time in a relationship or friendship with someone with realistic expectation than spend my time with an egotistical unrealistic person.
I couldn't agree more. Even thin/fit people have "warts and all." This is not rocket science here. Nor does it mean that those of us who don't have a "roll of fat" are shallow, on some invisible pedestal, nor that we are heartless or judgmental of others. Likewise? I know plenty of gym-rats who are far more educated than my own self, read many more books than I'll ever finish and also live a lot more life than I do on a daily basis. Someone wanting someone fit is not a character flaw, nor does it mean those of us who feel this way do so maliciously. Maybe we find being at the gym something we enjoy and feel good about and want to share that with a romantic partner. Maybe, just maybe, we find as much value in that as you find in motorcycle riding. Is that a character flaw in you or an interest??? In my eyes? Your completely entitled to your interests without scrutiny from me personally ~ but clearly? You don't hold the same opinion. Anger towards others is NEVER pretty. Think we're shallow and full of shiit? Fine. I'm sure plenty think those things about others on a non-stop basis. Doesn't mean you're even close to knowing a thing about me or anyone else as a person. (And for the record? I've dated men who "had a roll of fat" and they HATED that I was at the gym and working on my physical appearance. It made them insecure, jealous and just flat out frickin' psycho. Their self-esteem was in the toilet because I wouldn't live as they choose to live ~ that's their problem, not mine. Which brought me to the conclusion that I do better with those who see physical fitness as I do ~ solves a load of BS when I refuse to not live as they do and they refuse to live as I choose to do so.)
All I ask is that someone do the best they can with what they've got.
On this note? I completely agree.
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Posted: 7/15/2012 12:05:14 PM |
do not assume that anyone who is not slender/athletic/ballerina looking is a pig or a cow, stuffing themself on chips, sodas or supersized MCFatty foods!
Assumptions are weak on any subject matter.........but, to reinforce your point, I have a friend, in Kansas, who had thyroid cancer in 2000. Ultimately, she had to have it removed. Since, despite very healthy eating, she has an awful time regulating her weight. Thyroid issues can be just one of many causes...... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 12:21:09 PM | Thyroid issues can be just one of many causes......
A TRUE Medical issue that inhibits weight loss is extremely rare.
People get angry when they are reminded that they are responsible for what they eat and what they weigh.
It IS possible to lose weight at any age and in any physical condition (even sedentary).
It just boils down to priorities. If some people put the pleasure of indulging in potentially "naughty" Foods and beverages ahead of the pleasure of having a slim body, then ... So be it!
No excuses or denials. Everyone should follow Popeye's mantra ... I yam what I yam.
No need to defend yourself. Everyone is entitled to their choices, but one does have to accept the consequences without lashing out at others who live differently.
Me? It doesn't come easy, but I know my weaknesses and triggers, so try to keep a lid on things.  | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 12:41:36 PM | I think as long as folks can embrace who they are, where they happen to be in life, and find the joy of discovery in other people/events throughout their lives........everything else is secondary.
In my work, I have seen almost every type of human body there is, up close and personal and, usually in not the best circumstances. The human spirit, unique to each of us, always rules when folks are at their most fragile and facing the most difficult times.
We are fragile, but we are also extremely resilient. When someone is maimed with burns over their face and arms and comes through celebrating the joy of life with kindness and humor and insight and acceptance of their "new" look...they give different perspective to how important appearance is.
It is a self-affirming /loving thing to provide care for our bodies and trying to maintain our health....but, it seems mightily easy on these 45+forums to lose perspective of one another based on sooooo many specific physical requirements. Certainly, we are attracted to what we are attracted to but sometimes I think some folks here will be 80+, snuggled up with their money, leaning into a mirror repeating a mantra: "they say I look 10yrs younger---I'm NOT going to settle!"---with that glazed look in their eyes. I'm thinking living, loving and accepting folks right where they are has it's own rewards. AND discoveries. Enjoy. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 12:53:26 PM | | Well there is no way that being the same weight as when you were 25 is just as easy.I've been working out since the age of 9 going on 10,and the male body for sure does not direct nutrients to the right places as efficiently as when I was 25.Same for women.Number 1 issue is that plate of spaghetti when you don't deserve it.If some people want to label me a gym "rat" because I make it there 3-4 times a week....you could watch an hour long tv show while I go workout.Most men will be carrying more muscle mass if they work out,trekker might weigh the same but he also admits his ribs and spine protrude.I don't demand that women be capable of appearing in a YouTube fitness vid but an eye has to kept on things.Don't hide that scale. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 1:23:18 PM | Certainly, we are attracted to what we are attracted to but sometimes I think some folks here will be 80+, snuggled up with their money, leaning into a mirror repeating a mantra: "they say I look 10yrs younger---I'm NOT going to settle!"---with that glazed look in their eyes.
I wish the priority that some people place on their weight would not be met so frequently with a counter-attack on the lack of spiritual depth, associated superficiality and attachment to material possessions that some people would like to believe it infers.
For many people who seek to have mastery over the domain of their weight, it goes beyond appearance. In many cases, they may be attempting to defray the consequences of their family health histories: diabetes, blood pressure, joint replacement, even cancers that are thought to be related to dietary choices (colon cancer, etc.). It is very narrow-minded and self-serving to dismiss those who attend to their dietary choices as shallow in an attempt to make oneself seem more emotionally or mentally balanced. In fact, an inability to see the diversity in choices contraindicates such balance.
I keep an eye on my weight for a variety of reasons, one of which is the need for less lead weight and better control over buoyancy while SCUBA diving. I also have more comfort in the confines of wreck diving and cave diving. I have the energy I require for my activities and lower the risks of adverse effects to health based on family history.
Based on the importance of a healthy lifestyle in my own world, I would be most compatible with someone similar. Does it mean I "dismiss" others? Certainly not ... Though I would be unlikely to find myself wanting to nurture an intimate relationship with someone who is dissimilar, I have a broad variety of friends. Some of my best friends (and relatives) are overweight.
Those who accuse people of being discriminatory toward them would do well to examine their own perspective toward those who differ.
BTW: there IS an epidemic of "thin" people who have a large body fat percentage who suffer the same health risks as overweight/ obese people.  | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 2:04:55 PM | | Well, I've posted my opinions based on observations of subject matter in the threads/and life over time. It's not about "counter-attacking"---I sorta find that amusing. I didn't feel attacked so wouldn't need to "counter". Ah well. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:04:33 PM | | By the way genetics or what you eat? My older son needs to lose weight.. Like 30 pounds minimum.. His wife thinks because she buys organic they are eating healthy.. She does not understand what puts weight on people.. My younger son does understand since he is single and I see him far more often.. He is on the thin side 5 feet 11 inches and 165 pounds.. Both of them are really my sons they just eat very differently.. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:24:02 PM | | I think that you are asking for trouble if you put a pic up claiming to be younger than you actually are, even if you look younger - there is only one person u are fooling and thats yourself. Also if you are telling fibs then you will be caught out which is not really a good way to start any relationhip. At 54 I would love to look younger and in dimmed lighting i probably could, but every pic i post is very recent so no shocks, if people like what they see they will contact me, if they don't they wont, simple as...!!! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:24:48 PM |
But you forgot 'occasional smoker'....what's up with that?
I am actually an ex smoker but still consider myself one so did not know how to list this.. so check occasional.. Like an ex drinker will always count the days he has not been on the sauce.. I count the years. | |
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