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| | age, appearance and what you thinkPage 9 of 13 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13) | | I think I look 10 years older than my real age. | |
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| age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:43:42 AM | ""My gal is 56, 5'4" and 114lbs. This week she bought a polka dot 'retro' bikini and looks hot. Back in her 20's she was a ballerina and says she was around 105lbs max. 2 kids later, most of the gain has fortunately been in the right places.""
""Sure, we age but it doesn 't mean we have to let our bodies go.""
If you're all perfect and she's all perfect, why be spending hours on here. If I had the perfect partner and was perfect myself, I'd be out living life, spending time with my partner. I'm thinking it's not so perfect...just sayin. And I know that if I had a perfect partner and he spent hours on here I'd dump him and I wouldn't blame him for doing the same if I spent hours on here.
As for letting our bodies go, I'm in better shape than I was in high school, probably fit into smaller sized clothes. But, in our 50's and 60's it's harder to maintain, our body shape changes, our skin wrinkles/sags or gets thinner. So what. I wouldn't discard someone who has lived a full life, has the wrinkles and grey hair to prove it and is carrying an extra 20 pounds. As long as they eat relatively healthy and lead a relatively active life - who cares if they're not the same waist size as they were in grade 12. I want a realist with realistic expectations. Someone who brags about a tiny waist/fits into a bikini/eats vegan/can still do a 100 pushups, etc. comes across as egotistical and boring as hell. I want a real person. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 8:56:18 AM |
So what. I wouldn't discard someone who has lived a full life, has the wrinkles and grey hair to prove it and is carrying an extra 20 pounds
Why does someone have to carry an extra 20 pounds? I like women who take pride in their appearance and are fit. Exactly what is the relationship between leading 'a full life' and having a role of fat? your attitude is that is that a role of fat is some type of reward for having lived...au contraire...fatness is just fatness. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:10:51 AM | The point of the OP can be construed in an easy way. Some think they are because they get told this often. After all the camera "puts on 10 pounds" can be ""photogenic" and depending on where you stand can be your friend or enemy. I myself hate the camera. I don't think I get a good pic to show what I look like, and often people comment the same. But some people you take a picture and you think they look good, then see them in person and think, "WTH??"
I myself grew my goatee (partly because i can't grow a beard) but simply to make me look older, When i tried to shave it off everyone balked and said keep it, I looked better with it.
Anyway back to the point. Opinion or impression is simply that of both people. the person saying it(usually because of the constant input of those around him) and that of a person seeing a photo. You might meet them and think, the camera does you no justice. (ever heard that one before?) But the point is these photo's and profiles both need to be taken for only what they are. A simple introduction to something familiar. Because that's what most of them are. Many elaborate on the profile to an extent that you think wow. And the photo's often are either the best they could come up with or reflect the not so true nature of the person. I just think some put too much stock into photo's even when there are multiple shots. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:20:41 AM | I keep forgetting how perfect some folks are. Some folks really have to work at staying slim, some folks do have the blessing of a long/lean body naturally. Some of us come from short and stocky genes and there is not a damn thing I can do to make me long and lean - I can work on keeping my weight down to where I am comfortable. Some folks don't have realistic expectations of their fellow human beings, they look for fluff - those are the ones still thinking with their little head instead of their big heads. I like to accept folks for what they are on the inside before I discard them for the outside. But that's just me.
When I read shyt on here about folks seeing red flags because someone doesn't read books in their leisure time (wtf), or is bald, or doesn't look good at 60 in a bikini (really, wtf again), some will even go out with someone with a history of affairs - let's give them a chance, folks bragging about being celibate like that's a badge of honour, folks not willing to share a home with a partner, and on and on...I shake my head.
And no, I don't see having a roll of fat as some type of reward for having lived, I just see it as being realistic. You only look for fluff. Again, you seem to have found your "perfect" for you yet you spend a lot of time on here - go live your life. And yes, fatness is fatness - s0 what. If people can't accept other people, warts and all, I don't want them in my life because heaven forbid they fall off the pedastal or you fall off the one you've put yourself on. Again, I'd rather spend my time in a relationship or friendship with someone with realistic expectation than spend my time with an egotistical unrealistic person.
All I ask is that someone do the best they can with what they've got. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:21:06 AM |
I am with your girlfriend on this.. In fact today I am smaller than I was in high school.. In high school I weighed 121 pounds, today 113..
In high school, I weighed 118 lbs. At age 20, I was b/w 105-110. I was diagnosed w/ scurvy & anemia & was borderline anorexic. I had to take supplements for a year to undo the damage!
Haven't weighed over 105 in 25 years. I have a hard time staying in triple digits now. Changed my diet and exercise habits and my whole body/health changed ~ apparently for good. Haven't weighed UNDER 105 in 33 years. Changed my diet and exercise habits and my whole body/health changed ~ apparently for good.
"My gal is 56, 5'4" and 114lbs. This week she bought a polka dot 'retro' bikini and looks hot. Back in her 20's she was a ballerina and says she was around 105lbs max. 2 kids later, most of the gain has fortunately been in the right places." Well, I had 2 kids, each was a 9 pounder. The gain may not have been in the right places, but I am a mother & proud of it. I ate well while I was pregnant!
"Sure, we age but it doesn't mean we have to let our bodies go." I try to eat right MOST of the times, but have a big azz & thick thighs & cellulite...that is how I am built, it does not mean I let myself go :0)
If you're all perfect and she's all perfect, why be spending hours on here. If I had the perfect partner and was perfect myself, I'd be out living life, spending time with my partner. I'm thinking it's not so perfect...just sayin. And I know that if I had a perfect partner and he spent hours on here I'd dump him and I wouldn't blame him for doing the same if I spent hours on here. touche' Welsh!
But, in our 50's and 60's it's harder to maintain, our body shape changes, our skin wrinkles/sags or gets thinner. So what. I wouldn't discard someone who has lived a full life, has the wrinkles and grey hair to prove it and is carrying an extra 20 pounds. As long as they eat relatively healthy and lead a relatively active life - who cares if they're not the same waist size as they were in grade 12. I want a realist with realistic expectations. Someone who brags about a tiny waist/fits into a bikini/eats vegan/can still do a 100 pushups, etc. comes across as egotistical and boring as hell. I want a real person.
If I came on here & bragged about all the times people fell out of their seat when they found out my age or the age of my sons, I'd get lambasted by all the folks who say no one looks younger than their age. I'd rather have my 20-30 xtra pounds while eating right, sleeping & exercising enough, etc. My "adipose tissue" plumps up my wrinkles, & keeps some oomph in my boobs ;0P
Some people are blessed w/ a small bone structure & a great metabolism & if that is the case, more power to them. But that is a blessing...and if they eat right & exercise & have good health habits that is commendable. But seeing so many who have w/ eating disorders, who suffer, some silently, some not so silently, I don't think anyone should say that a very slim person is superior to all others...especially if they have to severely restrict their intake & compulsively exercise, or resort to bulimia.
My genetics are a blessing, but what I do w/ my health habits is what I should be commended for like the rest of us...But as Welsh so elequently said: I want a real person. Not stuffing fat into their face 24/7, but may enjoy that extra piece of meat or dessert 1-2 monthly. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:36:38 AM |
There is no reason for a healthy male or a female to weigh more at 60 than they did at 25.
HUH? Really? As you get older your body can not NATURALLY do the things it once did, your metabolism changes, your body changes as a whole. Even mentally you change. I can not believe you honestly believe that. The effort alone to lose a pound at 25 is miniscule to that of the same person at 60. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:37:18 AM | There is no reason for anyone to force themself to vomit (bulimia) or walk so much that the bottoms of their feet become one huge blister/callous & falls off whole, because they compare themselves to a small boned person w/ a high metabolism & always fall short.
Eating disorders are way more pervasive than alcoholism & drug addiction...with that, u have to lock the tiger in the cage. The eating disordered person must make friends w/ the tiger & let it out of the cage 3 times a day! Not an easy feat!
HUH? Really? As you get older your body can not NATURALLY do the things it once did, your metabolism changes, your body changes as a whole. Even mentally you change. I can not believe you honestly believe that. The effort alone to lose a pound at 25 is miniscule to that of the same person at 60. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:54:10 AM | The only thing we're feeding is a pathetic troll who has no life.
We all will choose who we want in our lives. Some of us are willing to take on the less that perfect and by less than perfect I mean ordinary human beings who have gone through a lot in their lives including divorce, illness, deaths, financial losses, those with scars on the outside and those with scars on the inside, the ones with less than perfect hair and bodies, the ones that have been tossed to the side because of perceived inperfections. What I don't want in my life are the ones that have blinders on and unrealistic expectations of their fellow man/woman.
And again, if someones life is some friggin perfect - what are they doing on here? I'm still saying, they're not so perfect or they'd be so long gone from here and out living life to the fullest. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 10:17:52 AM | I lived in Orange County for 30 years and the focus on possessions, beauty and "perfection" is probably much greater there than other areas. It's impossible not to be effected by that environment.
I love it here (Northern CA) now for 1-1/2 years. I no longer drive high-performance cars, wear designer clothes & high heels, have weekly manicures and pedicures... shopping isn't even a pass time I enjoy anymore.
I wear flip flops all summer and boots all winter... tennis shoes daily for my walks.
LOL. I've probably never looked worse and felt better in my life. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 10:18:57 AM |
HUH? Really? As you get older your body can not NATURALLY do the things it once did, your metabolism changes, your body changes as a whole. Even mentally you change. I can not believe you honestly believe that. The effort alone to lose a pound at 25 is miniscule to that of the same person at 60.
Not really once you understand your own metabolism.. Most people at 60 plus will not be successful if they do not change their eating habits...
As for the effort have you looked at how obese some teenagers are today? They might well consider changing their eating habits far more difficult than someone who is in their 60's.. The reason for that is they tend to hang around with a groups of friends that frequent fast food places.. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 11:09:58 AM | I think it is nice for a man to be proud of his woman, & it is great that some women are petite, & look good at that weight, but not everyone has the bone structure to be a ballerina.
I'd also love to know exactly what the petite/slim ladies in this thread eat exactly & their exercise routine. I also want to make it clear I do not think you look unattractive at your weight, I just think for it to be posted by anyone that 99, 109, 119 lbs is perfect on women, even ones who are 5ft 1 etc is incorrect...after all the eating disorder stuff I posted on. And yes it is way extreme to have kids eating McD's all the time, too much fat & salt, a treat here & there it is OK.
I am going over to the health or recipes thread as I have some questions, maybe some of you ladies an help me out!
I think we all can agree to be healthy & sensible about our habits is where it is at!
Some people are ectomorphs, some are endomorphs, some are mesomorphs. I am an endomorph & all the tea in China AINT GONNA CHANGE THAT! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 12:28:21 PM |
ot really once you understand your own metabolism.. Most people at 60 plus will not be successful if they do not change their eating habits...
As for the effort have you looked at how obese some teenagers are today? They might well consider changing their eating habits far more difficult than someone who is in their 60's.. The reason for that is they tend to hang around with a groups of friends that frequent fast food places..
First of all the metabolism changes and slows down. There is a difference between being in shape and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. But to say the no change from 25 to 60 is a bit extreme.
comparing the overweight teenagers of today is also out dated. You have people who do nothing but sit around all day and people who are extremely active. For some it's a matter of extreme conditioning to maintain the condition they were when they were 25 at the age of 60. Testosterone alone lowers as you age and is a key factor in maintaining weight and muscle mass, conditioning etc. I'm not saying don't I'm not saying do it. What one should do is what is comfortable for them. If you think less of them because they don't exercise with the same intensity or even at all, it's unfair to say they should be the same body size. Besides by the time you become 60, just being active should be enough, and expecting the body condition of when they was 25 is is not only unfair it's shallow. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 12:37:49 PM | | To me there is nothing finer than being with someone that is comfortable in their own skin, no matter how big or little they are. To keep fit enough to do the things you love, to have confidence and truly like being who you are. That is ageless. To me it doesn't matter if you are bigger than you were when you were 20, or even smaller.. just so you are happy and don't mind sharing it with me. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:03:32 PM |
Exactly what is the relationship between leading 'a full life' and having a role of fat? your attitude is that is that a role of fat is some type of reward for having lived...au contraire...fatness is just fatness.
Let me see here ..
Carry extra weight is a risk for
breast and colon cancers
Risk of heart disease
Diabetes
gallbladder disease
and this list goes on..
If this is living life to the fullest, it might be sweet but it could be short. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:04:03 PM |
There is no reason for a healthy male or a female to weigh more at 60 than they did at 25
lol....Get real!
The majority of people do and if they weigh the same....trust me, it is not distributed the same as it was at 25.
I giggle at people who think because they are thin/scrawny...at 50 or 60 that they are in great shape....most have no muscle tone....at all!
Anyways....I would rather have a few extra pounds and have a good attitude and people enjoy my company....
I run a farm on my own...mow 4 acres of lawn...shovel and do more physical activity than most can fathom....oh wait.....I don't go to the gym..no time!!
I find people that are so anal about their weight and looks....truly borish!! But, that's just my opinion...yawn.... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:26:59 PM |
To me there is nothing finer than being with someone that is comfortable in their own skin, no matter how big or little they are. To keep fit enough to do the things you love, to have confidence and truly like being who you are. That is ageless. To me it doesn't matter if you are bigger than you were when you were 20, or even smaller.. just so you are happy and don't mind sharing it with me.
I love this post and share the sentiment (thanks wonder5750)
People that are obsessed with size and health and usually fear driven... I've known PLENTY of them. They are not really happier on the inside and their entire lives revolve around their diet, exercise and fear of cell phone radiation, meat or whatever... it's exhausting and unhealthy.
And I would never date a gym rat. Ugg... those are the worst! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:27:56 PM | Hey Whiskey! a fellow farmer lol
I work my rear off.. oh wait.. its still there ...lol
Yes I am about 20lbs over what I should be, so what! I am no longer built like a 12 year old boy... I kinda like it :) | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:34:44 PM | Whiskyrivers:
Anyways....I would rather have a few extra pounds and have a good attitude and people enjoy my company.... You are adorable, and great attitude :)
Janet:
I would never date a gym rat. Ugg... those are the worst! Same here, I specifically avoid those profiles.
I remember a few years ago, when I myself was going to the gym 4-5 days a week, gym guys started taking a lot of interest in me. I can't explain just how turned off I was. I seriously think that was part of my motivation for not wanting to go as much as I had been and eventually not going at all anymore. Yes, life did get hectic and busy and that contributed.. but I don't EVER want to be a part of what I got a glimpse of. No thanks.
So I'm with you Whiskeyrivers, I'll just stick to yoga and enjoying life on my terms :) | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 2:33:11 PM | ladies you are all beautiful....smile and be happy. if YOU dont like something about ur body and it can be changed,
change it. And if ur with a guy, he can help you....
I am always fighting my belly...I have a 34 waist that so badly keeps trying to be a 36..and it gets there every once in awhile. i pull it back...it is fine. Just be honest who you are and be ok with it.
And you know what is funny...how much does the average woman gain when pregnant? most of us guys would never rebound from one baby! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 2:41:52 PM | @wonder5750.....yeehaw and she was a barrel racer..spent many hours at the end of a riding ring/rodeos....but as a spectator!!
@shakti...You're too kind..Just saying it like it is..lol.
@nativerock...
Let me see here ..
Carry extra weight is a risk for
breast and colon cancers
Risk of heart disease
Diabetes
gallbladder disease
and this list goes on..
If this is living life to the fullest, it might be sweet but it could be short
Thin people also die from these diseases....I am in no way condoling or recommending a person be obese/overweight...we all know, it's not healthy....just use some common sense and have some courtesy towards others.
We all can't be perfect! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 2:49:44 PM | | Hey Whiskey.. I am still running! good thing the horses do most the work lol I will ride till Ican't swing a leg over! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 4:19:57 PM | Nothing screams sexuality and sensuality like intelligence, confidence, a sense of self and a sense of humour and someone completely comfortable in their own skin. And many of these folks are 20 pounds overweight or fighting to keep where they are weight wise. I'll take one of these type of folks anyday over those that rag on about how perfect they perceive themselves, how much tofu they eat, their waist size or bicep size and how much they can bench press. Nothing bores me more.
Cancer, heart attack, stroke, alzheimers, etc. don't just strike the chubby - skinny folks get all these too.
To me, shallow is a flaw in character. I'll take a less than perfect with a great attitude about life any day. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 4:27:13 PM | | I'll take the perfect with a great attitude, but hey I'm shallow & I really like tofu, working out at the gym, being skinny & bench pressing. Oh soooooo boring, but to each their own. | |
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