| | Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | The way it works in here is, if the opinions posted agree with yours, then you take the advice to heart. When they don't agree with yours, you get out the salt shaker.
And if it takes three pages of posts before one comes along that agrees with yours, you still take only that one to heart. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 8:25:32 AM | | Any advice, no matter who it is coming from, ahould always be taken with a grain of salt. It is coming from someone elses prespective on your situation and may not be valid. We can only go on here what the OP elects to tell us about a situation. Leaving out important pieces of the story often means the advice is all bunk. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 8:45:40 AM |
I've been lurking on the forums for a few days and noticed all the advice given here. My question is: Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt? There's a saying that goes: Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'. (or give 'advice' on forums.)
My answer to this, its fun, its humorous, it can get frustrating (with some of the same old subjects). Most people on here aren't "pros" in any sense of the word. But some have years of experience with these very subjects. Sometimes a little push is all someone needs. Personally if I can help with that push then I am satisfied with my advice.
I've also learned a lot with these forums...not just the usual suspects but a lot about myself. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 8:54:44 AM | The forums will give you the spectrum. Realize that you will get everything here. You will get those that are angry at society and relationships. There are those that are angry at men/or women. There are those that have been in long term relationships and are now out of them. There are those that have their share of bad luck, their share of good luck and can give you dead on advice in many of these issues.
Success is not necessarily being in a relationship, but finding the type of person that makes you happy. As with everything, what people postulate here is for you to use it and kick the tires. If it then works for you, more power to you, if it doesn't move on.
What you should stay away from is becoming one more of the pity parties that on occasion unfold here. You can blame all you want, you can b it ch all you want, but in the end the only thing you can change, improve, make worse, is yourself. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 10:46:09 AM |
As for the saying, I'd take that with a grain of salt, too. I've known several people who could both "do" and "teach" quite well
I've seen it happen a number of times.
There are business mentor programs in many places. The Mentors/teachers are often very experienced, retired/semi-retired executives and entrepeneurs with deep experience. They did it, now they teach as a way to give back.
I was quite successful in one of my earlier careers. I took a break to teach for 3 years. Partially as something to do, partially as an opportunity to give back and grow the profession.
As for why people in relationships continue to post here, I suspect the reasons run the gamut. As for me, my original intention when I return to POF (I tend to take long breaks in between periods of activity) is just to read the forums, partially for entertainment value, partially to gain insight to how people think and approach relationships. Then I end up reading something that someone has written that touches me in some way, and I feel the need to try to help or contribute in a constructive way.
If something I have learned in life can help another human being, they're welcome to it. It's my way of paying back the countless people that have done the same for me throughout my personal and professional life.
Experience and knowledge is not a finite resource. It shouldn't be hoarded like gold, it should be spread as widely as possible. Otherwise, how would any of us learn?
I wouldn't be surprised if there are others here that feel the same. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:09:24 AM | Yes, any and all advice (Including mine in this post), ought to be taken with a grain of salt the size of the Moon!
Of course, if a topic goes way out of hand, consider a grain of salt the size of Jupiter. Maybe even the size of a small galaxy! Be sure to have lots of water on hand - all that salt will make you very thirsty! | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:22:26 AM | OP: I wonder why you ask this.
Are you easily swayed? Worried about taking "advice" on here to heart and it ends up ugly?
Are you, personally, wondering if YOU should? Or are you making a tongue-in-cheek point??
THAT'S my vote......it's tongue-in-cheek!!! ;) | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:37:16 AM | | Any advice should be taken with a grain of salt, use what is useful to your personal situation and ignore the rest, sometimes it's good to hear another perspective on a subject, the more information you have the easier it is to make the right decision, but in the end it's your responsibilty for your life choices. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/4/2012 6:22:48 AM | | I disagree. I think that most of them are pretty predictable. The thing is, predictability doesn't necessarily make things simpler. There have been people that I've played basketball with and I knew exactly what they were going to do but that didn't change the results. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/4/2012 9:25:07 AM | Message boards are what they are, just a bunch of folks from around the country/world talking and giving opinions. There are many different sorts of message boards out there, this being one type. I like different forums at times, such as the Cleveland Browns, some music forums, some history or television/movie forums, political etc. Doesn't mean I spend all my time 24/7 on these things, but if it is something I enjoy, I don't owe any explanation to anybody what I do with some of my free time.
We are not all out saving the whales, some of us do these types of things as one source of entertainment. Given what a hugely important thing that dating/relationships are in our lives and the experiences that come with, I don't see it as a big deal to talk about this sort of thing. I have been here a short time and already I have learned to look at some things differently or with a different perspective then I did prior. Besides, the attack of the femi-nazi is always worth a good hoot - I kid!
I do think there is a misconception that people have regarding dating success rate to one's ability to talk or relate past experiences with those current ones brought up here. The two are mostly mutually exclusive, although this forum thing is a great excuse for someone to say that is the only reason they are on POF when seeing someone lol.
Oh, and for those that do equate dating success as only those who are now in long term relationships, that would be assuming that all those in those said relationships are perfectly happy. I don't buy that one, some people are just experiencing life until they find the one. In the meantime, they can share those experiences with others who are going through things similar to what they already have - good or bad. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/9/2012 4:05:27 AM | I wont call it advice,
its people opinions how they see a thread based on their experience, there are other ways someone form what they have to say, some really try to give an insight, point of view on a thread which is interesting,for some its simply fun , I think its up to the op ,how he want to use, what he find useful and agree with his own reasoning, what he want to test from what he is experiencing, all in your hand bro | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 3:26:54 PM | ^^^ true.
There's an addicting quality to this forum so that's why I return but I've been called numerous names on here when my approach doesn't mesh well with others'.
Anyone who resorts to name-calling and character insults b/c some internet stranger said or did something they didn't approve of has issues, lol. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/10/2012 9:26:15 PM | | No, everything on the internet should be taken completely as factual... especially on free internet forums that anyone can join... We all not only receive our Ph.D's but also an M.D. upon joining POF... Ok now in all seriousness... no. do what you think is best, regardless of what the rest of us brainiacs on the internet say | |
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