| | Show up or not ?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | Thanks for all the replies. Sounds like the social norm is what my gut said as well to not show up. I'll meet up with somebody else. For sure at a different place :-) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 9:57:14 PM | | Fer sure, follow the crowd. That's always the right thing to do. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 10:03:33 PM |
Fer sure, follow the crowd. That's always the right thing to do.
Are you sarcastic ? | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 11:25:27 PM | Are you sarcastic ?
ummm .. no
I believe she's basically saying, follow what the "crowd" in this thread is saying. We all pretty much believe she isn't going to call or show up.
Just live your life as always since she deleted her profile and didn't contact you. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 6:13:28 AM | In the past, when someone is going to cancel their account because they are tired of such and such site, they at least have the courtesy of sending you an email indicating where to contact them. Second. Usually I do not give my phone number, but rather ask for theirs. The reason for this is that most women liked to be called first, as opposed of them making the first call.
I would not show up either. I have one rule, no phone call, no date. So even in the past, with women that were reluctant to give me their phone number, I told them. However, most women I have gone out with, they offer their phone number without any problems. But that also means that as a guy you have to make them feel comfortable enough to do so.
So, I am with all the others that said. No. Don't show up. And if she calls, tell her. "You disappeared from the face of the earth with no explanation." | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 7:14:10 AM | | If she is close I would go but have other plans as I expect she will not turn up. If a distance away then no way will I go. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 11:56:08 AM | Some of us are like that. I get a number or two and BAM I drop my account in a flash and go about living. Sometimes it takes a few days to get in sync with the other parties because they ain't like me and are likely to just drop their POF. However, I'm always in control and not just hangin like you are, so maybe you screwed that up.
I took a que from one girl's Facebook wall, where she just lobbed a "Let's go to lunch. Any takers?" on her wall. When I did my business in LA and dropped into SD via Temecula, I didn't give her much time to prep or think. It was a take it or leave it deal for dinner. Otherwise, she likely would have been busy. She liked ****ing with me so I ****ed with her back.
Of course she showed, she was a self-confessed "mess." | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 1:54:59 PM | | I agree that you shouldn't go. She obviously isn't interested in meeting if she hasn't been in touch AND deleted her profile and didn't give any way to contact her beyond POF. I've deleted my profile for a bit and the guys I was talking to that I felt like I wanted to know better I made sure they knew how to contact me beyond POF. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 2:37:04 PM | | Not... You dont have a real date set up. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 3:04:17 PM | | It was probably a kid messing with you. Who else would make semi-plans to sort of meet, and then disappear? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 3:23:20 PM | And the winners are:
Those who said to go. She texted me just now asking if we were still on. So now I'll try to squeeze both dates in. Hopefully karma won't bite me in the ass for double booking, but I think in this case what I'm doing is justified. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 3:42:43 PM | | oh wow!!! I"m so shocked... well, I hope it goes well. Let us know how it turns out. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 8:53:02 PM |
And the winners are:
Those who said to go. She texted me just now asking if we were still on. So now I'll try to squeeze both dates in. Hopefully karma won't bite me in the ass for double booking, but I think in this case what I'm doing is justified
I don't see how those are "winners," - if your post had said "someone removed their profile, but they just texted me, should I meet her," i think everyone would have said "yes." :) If she never texted you, you still shouldn't have gone; it's the fact that she texted you that precludes you meeting her. :) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:05:09 PM | Couldn't decide after all the replies, but I turned the tables, and if a guy did that to me, I'd take the hint. She'll be back, no doubt. She was probably fat anyways.
edit-- LoL, saw your reply that she ended up texting you and you went on the date. How was it?! LoL | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:28:22 PM | | It obvious that if her profile has been deleted and she has not contacted u she wont b shown up! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:40:18 PM | I wouldn't have showed just b/c she was so inconsiderate of my time. She had a few days to follow up with you and then waited until last minute. Now you have to try and squeeze in two dates for this vanishing inconsiderate cow.
Hopefully it was worth it! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:42:38 PM | I had been talking with someone and suddenly he dropped off...not because he cancelled, but because POF was having technical issues. The same could have happened to her. If your number was in a POF email, that too probably went POOF. In my case, neither of us thought to exchange numbers but we both took the chance to show up and had a good first meet.
Take a chance and show up; you had nothing better planned anyway. Give her 30 minutes to show, then if she is a no-show, leave...with the barista. =) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 10:19:27 PM | | Don't forget to tell us all how it turned out. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 10:51:07 PM |
I don't see how those are "winners," - if your post had said "someone removed their profile, but they just texted me, should I meet her," i think everyone would have said "yes." :) If she never texted you, you still shouldn't have gone; it's the fact that she texted you that precludes you meeting her. :)
She texted a day after my initial post. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 10:57:06 PM |
Don't forget to tell us all how it turned out.
She's really smart and beautiful. She thought I had her number and said that she stayed on the site for two weeks as a deal with her friend.
We'll see how things turn out. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 4:28:29 AM | | no dont waste your time unless she rings/texts you | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 8:32:25 AM | | I was pretty sure that since no formal cancellation of the meeting had happened that she probably thought everything was still good to go :) | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 10:53:21 AM | I was one who would have said to go anyway unless it was a matter of long distance.
I've always found it a good idea to both give-and get-an alternate contact method-a regular email addy, a cell-phone #, an Instant Messenger ID... I can understand how a woman might be reluctant to give out her home telephone number to a photo and profile on an internet dating site, but there are other means of communication. And for Pete's sake, write that information down somewhere, in case of technical glitches with the dating site.
But this thread is a good illustration of how sometimes a simple miscommunication or misunderstanding can tank a dating prospect.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 2:58:59 PM | I hope it works out for you now that you have met her.
If I am arranging to meet someone, I ask for their mobile number then I text them straight away to confirm it. They then have my number in their phone and we can converse before the date, and if I didn't hear from them I would text them to check if it was still on or not.
I also wouldn't delete my account until I was happy that things were working out. I suppose she should be forgiven if she genuinely thought she had given you her number, but she still could have let you know about stopping her account. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 10:02:28 AM | | She will not turn up, I was chatting to a guy through her and via text then the night before we were due to meet he went quiet and did not respond to text so I did not go. It's rude and childish to behave like that but I guess people have there reasons | |
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