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Greeneyes is right.
Most of us are NOT trainable.
Main reason we stay in here
now that I think of it.
:-P
but that's what makes us fun!
And most of us on the other end don't wish to begin training a new one ~ which makes us fun just like you. 
It's amazing how many of us single ladies have resisted caving into the trophy husband material. I think I've got it down to a science.......haha. I'm SOO disciplined!
I learned all I know here from you and RedDragon. (He caved in and has now been successfully trained by a trophy GF, bless both their hearts.) | |
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| Is a married person welcome on the POF forums?
Posted: 7/5/2012 9:27:28 PM | | What people tend to forget is that this isn't just a dating site, there are areas where you can find friends, just chat, or join in on the forums...I don't know why so many get hung up on thinking everyone here is looking to hook up. Some people just like jumping to conclusions and making judgments against others. I see no reason for you to not be here, I trust that people can talk without trying to cheat. Welcome :) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 10:44:01 PM | A big "Welcome" to you,Op,and yes,of course,you can be here.
There's lots of singles,marrieds and naughty people lookin' for a bit on the side.....but you've been open and honest about your status!
Have fun and enjoy  | |
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| Is a married person welcome on the POF forums?
Posted: 7/6/2012 2:49:21 AM |
If you can handle the temptation of all the handsome
intelligent got~it~going~on guys in here,
then you are more than welcome to be in here.
Did I blink and miss that profile ? Oh wait now, maybe that was the one in another Province/Country who would be perfect - or if local, who has no interest in me ? LOL
OP - I don't think people will mind that you are married, there are more then a few regulars who are too. Or as good as. The more the merrier. I think. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 4:49:36 AM | Welcome Op! Most peeps here i guess are secretly only here for the forums.
The forums are great and a great distraction, they are funny, diverse and educating.
OMG this sounds like an advert, but we can also all be moody, bit*hy and so on to tone it down a bit ;-)
But pst really these forums are a secret! | |
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| Is a married person welcome on the POF forums?
Posted: 7/6/2012 5:34:09 AM | While the Forums are good and might be interesting to a married person, with all the responsibilities of married life, I do not think it would be a priority and would be advantageous to a married person. A lot of the advice given on forums could be judgmental, critical, and way off left field. Do married people really have TIME to chat on forums with all the responsibilities of married life???? They need to spend time with their spouse, nurture their marriage, take care of their children and all the activities and responsibilities that come with children, grandchildren, etc..
There is no time in the day to do an adequate job of handling the responsibilities of married life, your spouse, children, grandchildren and still sit and chat on the Forums to strangers that do not know or care for you. YOUR FAMILY COMES FIRST. That is your priority, not the Forums. They will only bring you trouble and temptation when you are feeling low and lonely. Find your energy from eating right, working out and your family. Your family is worth your extra time. Nurture these relationships. THE FORUMS ARE ADDICTIVE AND WILL SAP YOUR TIME AND ENERGY AWAY. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 5:57:17 AM | | Heck yes, I'm seperated, & seeing someone, so that is almost like married, LOL! I've been in & out of the forums here since at least 2006 & pretty much have dated thru that time period...The forums have nothing to do w/ dating, other than u r giving advice about it in some instances... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 6:02:30 AM |
THE FORUMS ARE ADDICTIVE AND WILL SAP YOUR TIME AND ENERGY AWAY. Can't argue with that even coming as it did from a person with at least 2 references to TV in the profile. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 6:03:50 AM | No. YOu should not be able to post here. Particularly if you also happen to be happily married and have good relationships with your espouse. You should bask in misery and resentment and engage in treacherous activities.
(Sudden silent, so the OP has a chance to realize that some members have a sarcastic sense of humor.)
As you expressed yourself, many of the regulars are in relationships, or were in relationships for a while. I just came out of a long relationship and she knew that I came to the forums. So welcome to the group. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 6:07:01 AM | I personally never forget this IS a dating site, LMAO!!!
I enjoy the forums, but they are an added bonus.
Maybe dating is the added bonus? I guess it depends on the week.
Either way Bug has it right. We are a lovable odd bunch.
Stray Cat is too; we waste a lot of time in here.
Welcome to the forums OP~ | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 6:15:47 AM | Welcome to the forums, Dorothy.
Why did you feel the need to ask permission, when its clear from the profiles there are options for different relationship statuses?
Why would you allow a group of randomers to tell you whether you are allowed to post in the forums, or not, given you are perfectly entitled to do as you please? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 7:13:06 AM |
Do married people really have TIME to chat on forums with all the responsibilities of married life???? They need to spend time with their spouse, nurture their marriage, take care of their children and all the activities and responsibilities that come with children, grandchildren, etc..
Your TIME question would have to answered on an invidual case-by-case basis, not as a generalization. Me? Yes, I have the time, because I am at a period in my life where I've got some extra time and I don't watch much TV. My marriage is strong, my husband and both work full-time, and then after work, we work together on our rental business, where he's the boss and I'm the gofer, or on our eBay business, where I'm the boss and he's the gofer. My daughter college attends out of state, and my 17 year old son spends a great deal of time out in our shop building, working on cars. So, yeah, I have some extra time.
There is no time in the day to do an adequate job of handling the responsibilities of married life, your spouse, children, grandchildren and still sit and chat on the Forums to strangers that do not know or care for you. YOUR FAMILY COMES FIRST. That is your priority, not the Forums. They will only bring you trouble and temptation when you are feeling low and lonely. Find your energy from eating right, working out and your family. Your family is worth your extra time. Nurture these relationships. THE FORUMS ARE ADDICTIVE AND WILL SAP YOUR TIME AND ENERGY AWAY.
Now, that paragraph is a little different than the first. That one is pretty much pure, utter nonsense.
First, I go the gym for an hour every day, except Sunday. We've never hired a babysitter. We usually eat dinner, at the kitchen table, every night of the week. We didn't drink and smoke, so we had enough extra money to travel, always with the kids.
That being said, I'm already very knowledgeable about forum posting - I've been a regular contributor to eBay's most popular forum board for over a dozen years. How did I do it when the kids were growing up? Easy -- you set a limit for your time spent on the boards, and you post only after the kids are in bed. The key is not TIME, the key is TIME MANAGEMENT. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 7:20:54 AM |
That one is pretty much pure, utter nonsense.
Agreed! Life involves choices, and our choices reflect our priorities and ability to balance among multiple priorities. I've found that having separate interests/hobbies is not a bad thing, and probably a good thing, in a relationship. If you are interested in reading about people and relationships (as I am), then why not participate in the exchange? I think you answered the objections well. Welcome to the forums! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 7:26:40 AM |
Why did you feel the need to ask permission, when its clear from the profiles there are options for different relationship statuses?
Why would you allow a group of randomers to tell you whether you are allowed to post in the forums, or not, given you are perfectly entitled to do as you please?
Hmmm. Good questions. (1) I was fishing for a warm welcome, and got even more than I sought, thank you. And (2) I guess, because I think it's a bit unorthodox for a married person to be posting on a dating site forum, so I wanted the opinions of the regular contributors, who, for the most part, are savvy with regard to that unwritten set of "rules" that essentially, are what make a forum board vibrant as opposed to it being a dud. <---- Wow, what a sentence - wish this board had a word count feature. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 7:51:17 AM |
Hmmm. Good questions. (1) I was fishing for a warm welcome, and got even more than I sought, thank you. And (2) I guess, because I think it's a bit unorthodox for a married person to be posting on a dating site forum, so I wanted the opinions of the regular contributors, who, for the most part, are savvy with regard to that unwritten set of "rules" that essentially, are what make a forum board vibrant as opposed to it being a dud. <---- Wow, what a sentence - wish this board had a word count feature.
I can see the virtue of a warm welcome as you establish yourself as part of the forum community by introducing yourself. Likewise you get the, "what are you doing on a dating site you married harlot???" questions and justifications over in one fell swoop.
What if the only replies you got were from the pitchfork wavers and by some fluke, those of us who think what you do with your time/life is your own business were all working, asleep, or something? Would you have ceased to post because some people think its their right to tell you what to do with your life, or make prejudgments about you?
Btw, I disagree with Cowboy. The relationship section is a relevant place to post this, as you said, the crux of you thread is to do with your relationship status. Its also at the top of the list and probably the most/one of the most active sections. You wouldn't have got this level of response from posting in Off Topic, which would also have been a suitable category to post this in.
Its also interesting that the trust within your marriage has been questioned. Anything we accept, or don't accept from other posters is based on trust, so questioning the trust element of your marriage is based upon trusting that you are married. You could be an unmarried Thorblipian Warrior from the planet Grindleberry with a penchant for armadillos in corsets, for all we know (the truth will out, I tell ya! You can't hide nuffink from us, Dorothy!). | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 8:36:24 AM |
What if the only replies you got were from the pitchfork wavers and by some fluke, those of us who think what you do with your time/life is your own business were all working, asleep, or something? Would you have ceased to post because some people think its their right to tell you what to do with your life, or make prejudgments about you?
Yes, probably. But remember, I said I've been reading for a while. Look at my join date. I've read enough to be able to pick out a few of the posters who offer sound, reasonable opinions, vs some of the others, who are clearly full of sh.... So I guess my decision would have been based, in part, by who said what. Also, I've mentioned that I've been a regular contributor to eBay's most popular forum for dozen years. Though I enjoy my "queen bee" status over there, as opposed to my "pof newbie" status over here; I've just grown sorta tired of the political strife. I mean, how many diff threads can you have stating, "Sarah Palin is dumb." "No, she isn't." "Yes she is." "No, she isn't, you loser." Yes, she is, you Hitler worshipping troll."....ad nauseam.
Years ago, on eBay, I did post a thread about buying a property that had a barn with beautiful, (and valuable) lightning rods. I honestly couldn't decide whether to remove them and sell them on ebay, or leave them up, for passersby to continue to enjoy their beauty. I posed the question to the message board, and I did follow the advice of the majority. The lightning rods are still up there, and I don't regret at all, following the advice of those folks I've never even met in real life.
Its also interesting that the trust within your marriage has been questioned. Anything we accept, or don't accept from other posters is based on trust, so questioning the trust element of your marriage is based upon trusting that you are married. You could be an unmarried Thorblipian Warrior from the planet Grindleberry with a penchant for armadillos in corsets, for all we know (the truth will out, I tell ya! You can't hide nuffink from us, Dorothy!).
I never saw a reason to misrepresent myself on a chat board - especially since they're already as anonymous as you want them to be. If I don't want people to know something, I just omit the info until I'm comfortable revealing it. In years past, I've witnessed folks who were betrayed and/or very hurt, simply because they trusted message-board game-players. And that was just on eBay, a site devoting to buying and selling each other's hoards. I think I'd have even more disdain for the jerks (both male and female) who'd do that stuff on a dating site. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 8:49:38 AM | All I know is when I get stressed out a few minutes on here make me realize life is really good!
Its become an addiction of lesser evils, a way to vent poetically, and have a hearty laugh.
The poetry forums are a closer knit group. Ive made several friends there IRL. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 9:01:16 AM |
BUT, my main question still is: Should a married person be welcome here on the forums?
Why not...?
Not only can people get dating advice, but also advice on how to KEEP that person you're with....
I started coming here to ask questions about the relationship I'm in, and stuck around... I make it perfectly clear I'm in a relationship, not looking to cheat or fool around and pretty much covers it... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 9:26:17 AM | Plenty of room at the Hotel POFornia
Any story you want You can find it here
Her mind is Tiffany twisted, he got the Mercedes Bends.
He got a lot of pretty, pretty girls that he calls friends
How they post in the forums, sweet summer sweat
some post to remember, some post to forget.
They’re posting it up at the Hotel POFornia
What a nice surprise, bring your alibis
You can check out any time you like,
But you can never leave
Welcome to the Hotel POFornia
Such a lovely place…….
LOL, welcome newbie, I hope you enjoy your stay. Yes married people are welcome, but I hope you have thick skin because you will need it. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 9:45:48 AM | Hey op i think its for everyone, married, engaged, whatever thats your business and your fish,
why do you care about majority and minority to post on a forum,
its free, feel free
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