I am definetly without fault.
I doubt that.
The end results of these fights leads me feeling that I have to do all the work,
If you are definitely without fault, you are perfect for the job.
When She talks to me with what I feel is disrespect, I feel that the gloves are off and then get mouthy with her.
That you focus on fault and justification dooms you to misery, whether in this relationship or another.