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Boy, what a lot of negativity. Girls, if you prejudge everything and everyone how are you going to find someone you might like.
Actually, I met my present boyfriend at a grocery store, but it took running into him three times over the course of a year before we exchanged phone numbers (well, ok, the third time was at Taco Bell--we frequent high class establishments).
OP, the problem isn't so much men speaking to me, but the ones who cannot distinguish between a "Hey, how are ya?" and, "Oh, my, well, how ARE you?" A man once said to me, "I like your hair." I thanked him. Then, "I like your dress"--another thank you. When he started getting around to my shoes and pantyhose, I moved on.
What is so hard about a polite, "thanks, but no thanks"?
It becomes hard when a man won't take "no" for an answer. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 9:12:22 PM | | Some guy actually followed my ex-wife home from the grocery store, parked out in front of my home and wouldn't leave until he talked to her despite me being no one to mess with. So, I let her go out and talk to this idiot, but he doesn't leave. I eventually had to call the police and them run him off. Ya, be careful who you talk to, he might follow you home, have your address and return at his convenience. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 11:14:43 PM |
You can meet women anywhere if you know how. Just because you have never mastered the necessary skill set does not mean no one else has.
Its important to read body language carefully and if you dont have that skill you are pretty much screwed. It is essential.
and if most of the girls you see at the grocery store give off the body language of not wanting to approached or talked to, then how useful are grocery stores with hooking up with girls or getting their number? I think location helps, the ones I see, when I rarely do see girls my age that are cute and not with a bf with them, they are in a hurry or always moving. and you'd have to kinda be a creep to be approaching them, I'm not gonna follow some girl. Then again I live in a small city, I saw more cute girls and maybe the chances more reasonable there, but then again thats 40 minutes away and am usually not going to that one when I have grocery stores in my own city. But then again if you're one to like to talk to every person and chat then I guess it works or if some guys don't mind it being a while getting a date from the grocery store because the girls they talk to at grocery stores, most of them just want to go in and go out and arent interested in meeting guys, then I guess thats fine. I just dont know how reliable grocery stores are with getting dates even if a man is attractive and has personality, because of the place and I guess mood or mindset women are in or not in as far as metting guys. I dont mean like not saying how or saying something back if talked to but nothing more than that and going off on there merry way to shop more.. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 11:41:14 PM |
OP, did you check for a ring? Shoulda done that early on. If the married woman didn't have a ring, she was especially deceitful to you. She disrespected her husband in any case.
Really. So she’d deliberately remove her wedding ring to deceptively pick up a guy at the grocery store for a nasty night together, just to turn around and tell him all about her husband. That makes sense. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 5:14:01 AM | and if most of the girls you see at the grocery store give off the body language of not wanting to approached or talked to, then how useful are grocery stores with hooking up with girls or getting their number?
I know what you mean, women aren't as approachable by strangers in public. You have to have some sort of real good reason to even start a conversation with them. I've tried my share of striking up convo with a lady in a check-out line. One was wearing flip flops and a swimsuit top, buying beach products (sunblock, lip balm, etc) and I said to her, "Hey, looks like you're headed to the beach. Great day for it."
And she said she was going boating with friends at the local river and she isn't much for swimming. More of a sunbather. I could even tell by the tone of her voice was very monotone, had no inflection to it, basically not sounding at all friendly. Most of my approached to women in public had been met with such shortness. So I hardly bother, unless it's a REAL good reason. (Like for instance, she's buying a product that I hardly ever see people purchase, but I use as well.)
So, now it's just best to approach women at your local college, nightschool, etc because you're there for the same reasons. Or perhaps a friends BBQ or social gatherings at their houses, where people are more open to meeting new people they've never met.
Women just don't seem to be open to meeting people, if they aren't prepared for it.
I wear earbuds and sunglasses when I go shopping.
Really? That's kind of....strange. LOL Someone who goes OUT of their way to avoid talking to someone? | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 7:10:34 AM | Grocery store relationships can happen...My best friend met a guy at the grocery store, and since then they have had a very cute baby together. And to think, all she was doing was pushing a cart. Now she is pushing a stroller lol
But, I know when I go grocery shopping my mind is generally on what I need to buy so I don't forget anything. The last thing I am thinking is about picking up a guy there. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 7:48:58 AM | RT_2 Aldi, cheep grocery store in Vegas, surely you jest, and I could only wish. But yes I do as a mater of habit check for a ring, not that it matters in the realm of polite conversation, but certainly I'm always testing the waters when there is no ring, like seeing if she's interested in cars, etc. I didn't see a ring, but she did have nervous hands. Should have been a clue to stay away.
BLoNde__ANgeL, let me second that.
Gwendolyn2010
"Hey, how are ya?" and, "Oh, my, well, how ARE you?"
Well said, only I wish the girls would learn it too, I do truly regret having not picked up on a couple of those girls that only made conversation and meant more. But, oh well, you can't win them all.
mysterioustallmn, stalkers, I don't think anyone likes them, well I'm sure there is someone that does, but... Had a few too many of those myself. Ug, and yikes. I do love people, and greatly enjoy talking to most anyone, so I understand the anxiety the early part of this post, but I won't let those few bad ruin my life, I'm not going to change, just because I might pick up a creep. Sounds like you did the right thing regarding yours.
miami_man81 I seem to run into that bf problem most in Auto Part stores. A girl that knows about cars is always an instant attraction to me, but they always already have a bf.
Fleuron, Indeed, and probably the biggest reason I moved to the next line, my gut was telling me she was on the prowl, looking for someone to cheat with, not my scene. As attractive as she was, and as magnetic as her interest in me was, my guts were turning, saying, run! The husband, was as I said a slip, she looked away when she slipped, and made to cover her mouth, but then changed course and made lite of it.
bigbellyoflaughs, wish it were that simple.
Infinity_G, I think your saying that anyone is approachable, and I agree. Everyone wears something, or is buying something that says something about them, and if that something is interesting, there is your point in common, your spark of interest. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 8:27:53 AM |
Unlike a bar, where there is a reasonable chance that someone is single and looking, you simply can't know at a store.
You can't know anywhere (bar, store, library) without asking. It seems that so many people attach emotional trauma with having to say "no". | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 3:06:03 PM |
I know what you mean, women aren't as approachable by strangers in public.
A woman who smiles is approachable! My experiences in the last week:
Parking lot at Walmart, I am putting my "stuff" in the car. Guy walks by and says, "Hi." I respond, "Hi." He says, "How are you?" I respond, "Good, you?" Suddenly, he is standing next to me, asking me my name and if my hair color is natural. Dude! Then, he asks if he gives me his phone number, would I call him?
Today, Wendy's. I eat my baked potato, plain, salt and pepper, and my grilled chicken wrap, no sauce. The guy across the restaurant keeps glancing at me. I get up to go, so does he. "How are you"? he asks. "Fine," I reply. The main door opens in a foyer with doors opposite each other; I deliberately take the door he doesn't take, but he manages to walk by my car. He makes a remark about the weather. I answer. He says he is going back to work and I say that I am going shopping. He tells me that he is SINGLE and likes to shop, too. I say that I am going to meet my boyfriend. He looks disappointed and walks away.
It is not my nature to be rude (despite what people on POF forums might think). I smile a lot and am friendly: it does not mean that I am hitting on every man at whom I smile. Why should I go against my nature because men can't read the difference between a smile and a "come hither" smile? | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 3:27:27 PM |
Why did the Fates deliver me a Married Woman? Well guess I might look a little more toward Grocery Shopping next time, or is it maybe I should stop avoiding the crowds and shop more often early in the month?
Perhaps 'Fates' presented you a nice person, and you took the instance as her hitting on you.
People can be friendly you know...I know, amazing to think about, but really..there are nice, cordial, people out there. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 3:30:11 PM | Why should I go against my nature because men can't read the difference between a smile and a "come hither" smile?
That's why most men are just better off meeting you through friends home parties, bowling events,
The gentleman who was attempting small walk with you was just grabbing at straws, asking questions about the weather, just asking random questions pretty much. He was probably better off not making small talk with you.
I had a situation where I was at a bookstore coffee shop, I placed my order for the coffee of choice, at least for that day....and an attractive woman is behind me in line.....she places her order for "pumpkin spice"...after she's done...we're both standing there, kind of an awkward silence....so I figured I might as well strike up a conversation with her by asking her how the "pumpkin spice" coffee was, since I never had any. She quickly looks at me, and says, "It's fine" and looks back at the menu (even though she's already placed her order, lol)
The awkward silence in the cafe was deafening.
I say something else like, "Oh, sounds pretty good, perhaps I'll try that next time."
She just says, "Yeah" We both get our coffee and go our separate ways.
She was short with me, very non-engaging in conversation, etc. After the 2nd question, I laid off. I was thinking to myself "Why do I even bother?" LOL
But at least I had an "in" since we were both ordering coffees AND there was a considerable amount of wait time.
I think though, women are constantly are on alert status or have their defenses up constantly, and when someone they don't know approaches them or strikes up a conversation, they don't know him from a hole in the ground.
The last thing I am thinking is about picking up a guy there.
That's right, I think women will only attend venues where they're prepared to meet other single men. Venues that aren't necessarily conducive to meeting other singles is just something they aren't really "psyched" for.
I mean, would you try to pick up a woman in a doctor's waiting room? Not a likely place, right? lol
So, in comes the online dating sites, a venue where people are here for a reason or perhaps a speed dating event? Or for the non-singles/dating venues, like I said above, BBQ's, Holiday events, friends' of friends parties, etc. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 3:32:09 PM | I went to the beach at a friends summer home, and on the way back my brother and I stopped at a hard ware chain. We have been working in my mothers yard this week, and I was picking out plants, and flowers. Outside with sand still in my shoes, a damp sun dress, hair up in a hat, and obviously in a hurry I got hit on. Apparently saying "mom will like this" was an open door. He loved my southern accent (funny cause I was born here in NY), and asked me if I needed help with my sun burn, after quite a conversation. He was giving me great landscaping design ideas. When my brother heard the sun burn bit he sent him on his way. I love my big brother, but the guy was a cutie pie!
Oh well... we could have had much more informative help... | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 4:34:41 PM | | This thread has changed into "Women, whine and bytch about how horrible life is because those nasty inferior men dare think they're worthy of talking to us!" | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 4:50:38 PM |
This thread has changed into "Women, whine and bytch about how horrible life is because those nasty inferior men dare think they're worthy of talking to us!" No they are simply moaning that some numb nutz dont know when to speak and when to STFU and leave them alone. I tried to explain this is an art learning how to do this.
So many guys moaning about "This pretty gal in front of me and when I tried to make small talk she bit my head off". Yeah well its possible she was not in the mood but just as likely that if another guy she liked the looks of more, an that had a better line smiled he could of started talking to that same gal that just bit your head off. Funny how that works huh? You gotta have game guys. In the grocery store just like the rest of the world.
You gotta know when to approach and when not to. And even if she talks to you... you still better know when to just STFU as she is done. lol This is not a game for the timid. It can pay off big time but only if you can play the game at the highest level.
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Posted: 7/7/2012 4:58:41 PM | Gruff is the new black, right? Women are on all sorts of drugs these days. Texting while driving, taking six bathroom pics and posting all of them
concurrently on POF. Wearing Birkenstocks in public. Then about 10pm they realize they forgot to get laid this month and viola, there you are!!
Imagine it takes billions of years for this event to happen. It does. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 6:57:10 PM |
This thread has changed into "Women, whine and bytch about how horrible life is because those nasty inferior men dare think they're worthy of talking to us!"
And now it has turned into a man whining because apparently, he has been turned down once too often when he tried hitting on women in grocery stores.
I have no problem with guys who talk with me; I do get tired of the pathetic look in the eyes of some when I say, "No, thanks." I also hate it when they persist after I do say, "No, thanks."
Women are on all sorts of drugs these days. Texting while driving, taking six bathroom pics and posting all of them
concurrently on POF. Wearing Birkenstocks in public. Then about 10pm they realize they forgot to get laid this month and viola, there you are!!
You mean like the men who are also on all sorts of drugs these days? They text while driving, take bathroom pics and post them on POF, show their nasty toes in sandals in public, and never get laid.
Such is life. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 7:11:46 PM |
So many guys moaning about "This pretty gal in front of me and when I tried to make small talk she bit my head off". Yeah well its possible she was not in the mood but just as likely that if another guy she liked the looks of more, an that had a better line smiled he could of started talking to that same gal that just bit your head off. Funny how that works huh? You gotta have game guys. In the grocery store just like the rest of the world.
You gotta know when to approach and when not to. And even if she talks to you... you still better know when to just STFU as she is done. lol This is not a game for the timid. It can pay off big time but only if you can play the game at the highest level.
Well yeah it makes sense that some guys do miss out on blatant hints that a woman isnt interested and keeps pushing which eventually causes her to get mad. Some guys act desperate or do this which will make him be creepy obviously and not get the hint so thats there fault and I agree. And other guys just have a weird way about them thats too forward I should say which could cause a woman to be a **** or not friendy, or whatever. But some women or people for that matter can be ***holes, whether they are in a bad mood or just not friendly people. So its not so much rejection but a man not wanting to deal with any more BS that he mightve already dealt with in the day earlier. Anywhoo, seriously if a woman is a **** to a guy because she doesn't like his looks or find what he said interesting enough and is an unfriendly **** about it, I don't think shes worth going after in the first place . You can say well this guy thats better looking or better line might get her and that might be true, but then again I believe a woman entitled like that or feeling entitled is not worth ones time. Seriously, if thats your opinion thats fine, but a girl should be happy or friendly I'm talking to her, even if its just a simple hi to start things off as quite frankly I feel I'm worth a girls time, if she isnt interested then its her loss and I will find someone better.
But seriously a better line? I have to think of something unique and some nice line to not be ****ed at or get a girls approval? and not a simple hi and obseravtion of something? I feel i should or a man thats a catch himself shouldnt worry about having a great line and just go simple, as i know what i bring to the table, charm, and humor , etc so if the girl wants to continue to talk she will be entertained, etc and flirting once things get going, and not gonna over think having a great ice breaker just because some girls i guess you put on a pedestal think a man should. Play the game at the highest level? What do I win? seriously talking about putting **** on a pedestal man. Yeah if the woman is someone I'm looking for a as in serious relationship, probably wife material, and shows it then you're right, otherwise no. I'm not gonna play the game at the highest level, its not worth it, especially since girls don't play the game back at the highest lever back for quality guys. I'll play the game at the effort and level I choose and be with the ones worth being with. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 9:27:01 PM | So I have been working in the Produce Dept. of the local Walmart for the past few years, and I have had women come up to me to flirt while their looking for the green onions. I have to be very careful what I say to women in particular when working in a major retail establishment such as walmart. I have not flirted with to many women while working, I'm usually trying to keep up with the demand of keeping the tables and shelves full of product. I have had a few women around my age who were married and would compliment me on how nice my beard is always trimmed, and how handsome I look...but for the most part I have to keep my banana to myself while I'm working. As a customer though...I try to keep an eye out for women with particular "body language" like Cowboy alluded to earlier. Talking to people in various social circles is an art form to a degree. I'm waiting for a well endowed woman to walk up and ask me to pick out a nice melon for her... "uh, well maam, you'd be best to stick with the ones you have..." uh? I mean, uh? :)
so anyway...how about hospital/clinic waiting rooms...now their is a place to pick up something, huh? Lol's | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 10:03:27 PM | | OMG This 1 is just too great! I work in a grocery store and part of the job discription is "Customer Service" And I work in produce as well. Anyway, when trying to be nice and give good sevice, they think you are coming on to them. It can be quite an experience! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 11:51:57 PM | I think it's a great idea to meet people at a grocery store or some place like that. When you're not at a club, the women haven't just been hit on by ten drunk guys before you.
I try to be friendly to everyone. Some girl was awkwardly carrying a bunch of ice cream containers and I told her I made the same mistake - I should have gotten a basket. There's nothing wrong with being friendly and making conversation with people around you. Once you get the ball rolling, you can look for signs of interest or disinterest. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 12:34:34 AM | | lol @ women that cant find a man on here,then **** when one hits on them somewhere else. Herp ****ing derp up in this motha****a | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 2:24:42 AM | | I laugh at women who think that a man being friendly to them is "hitting" on them. Some of you women need to get over yourselves. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 3:09:46 AM | It's a myth that you can "meet" women at grocery stores. It gets repeated over and over, but that doesn't make it true. Maybe it's good practice to socialize and talk with people, but that's about it.
Not a myth. Just has it's own set of rules like any place you go.
The direct approach is often the worst choice in a grocery store. Asking advice is often a good entre. Not being over aggressive or appearing threatening is important, and as mentioned above being able to read body language well so that you can gracefully exit if they're not interested.
Also, if it's a place you go regularly, sometimes you'll need to run into them multiple times over several visits (plant the seeds so to speak). | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 3:26:45 AM | If it was a very attractive woman AND it was a sure thing AND there was no pretense whatsiever involved, then I suppose that would be ok, ....
But at least you'd consider it if certain conditions were met, but I'm sure that's pretty true with anyone.
I don't think that's strange. I go out of my way to not talk to people when I go anywhere.
Of course you don't think it's strange, because you're on the inside looking out. :-) But like I said, perhaps that's all moot, since you'd consider it when certain conditions are met. | |
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