| | Ending a relationship via text message/emailPage 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | It would not set well with me if someone broke up with me via a text message. I definitely would wonder what kind of coward takes this way out. If you are an adult then act like one. Face to face rather it hurts or not is always the route a person should choose. I think many just don't want to face the aftermath once the words are said, crying, trying to convince the person why they shouldn't break it off, asking multiple questions as to why it is ending, etc. People need to grow up and always remember you should treat others as you want to be treated. | |
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| Ending a relationship via text message/email
Posted: 7/14/2012 12:26:08 PM | I don't think there's a universally correct way to end a relationship, it depends on the circumstances. I've broken off with someone by text after I discovered them cheating. A recent 3 year relationship was mutually ended on the phone after a couple of hours talking it through.
Just today I ended things with someone I've been dating for the last 5 weeks. I had the opportunity to tell her on the phone this morning but instead I went to her house and discussed the reasons. The outcome would have been the same either way but she's a good woman and she deserved to be treated with respect and be given a proper sense of closure. I'd also genuinely like us to remain friends and that would be unlikely if I'd taken an easier option. It was upsetting for both of us but it was the right approach for this situation. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 2:28:02 PM | The breakup should be done face to face.
Only exception of course, being if he/she is an abusive and controlling partner.
The only reasoning to me not to do it to their faces, is you being afraid of *them* as opposed to being afraid of *telling them* regarding this matter. The latter makes you a coward.
If you in the slightest way respect them, you will allow them to have the very same closure you will have from doing things right.
No it won't make them feel warm and fuzzy inside, but at least they will have some closure from it.
I see someone in their 30's or even mid-twenties still breaking up in a cowardly manner like that, and its a sign to me, that someone has a long road to travel down prior to becoming a mature adult. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 3:19:43 PM | | i have dumped someone over a text message and it wasnt worth it but at the same time she needed to get out my life..she has two kids and cant stay home with them and wants to mother my next child...yeah the **** right..anyways she was fake to me (even her mother said so) but i have to move on and get my life on track you know? stop worrying about her 2 kids that i adore more then anything other then my own son..she is a bad mom and a text message was all she deserved from me... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 4:54:29 PM | | I just wrote a post today about how my BF of 3 1/2 yrs waited until I was out of town and texted me to break up. It's disrespectful and a cowards way out. Personally speaking it was very hurtful that he did it that way. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 12:47:59 AM | | I think it depends on how you comminucated through out your relationship. I personally have sent a break up text and email . It gave my reason for wanting out and listed all the problems with the relationship from my view. He texted back he understood and we should be friends. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 7:42:43 AM | this week...I severed with no communication, what I had been understanding was a monogomous relationship. Before everybody leaps on me, I had known for a while that this fellow hadn't been telling 'entire' truths and I knew he was actively pursuing others on other dating sites .. and Monday morning I just happened to catch him in another 'untruth' in a face to face situation.
I felt and believed there was nothing more to be said after he walked away from me. Moreso after two days of no contact.
In other scenarios:
I have been dumped by text... when I was the other side of the country... one week away from coming home. That sucked...
I have always tried to break up with people to their faces... even to the point of driving 3 hours one time to do so. It's not easy, they are in pain, shock and denial, and they want to lash out and hurt you as much as they are hurting... so I believe it shows character if you can put yourself in the path of that hurt. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 2:15:23 AM | | Unfortunately it's the new age of technology and I (being older) find it very immature. Who needs people who are gonna act this way? Not me,. I want a real man, not a 13 year old that texts me all the time, etc. Sorry this happened to you. )= | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 6:03:33 PM |
I've never actually had anyone break up with me as any of you've described. It's usually been a slow death of pulling away and then me pulling the plug...
I'd have rather had the text message months prior. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 7:50:58 PM | Doing something like this is:
1. emotionally immature
2. passive aggressive
3. asinine
4. cowardly
5. stupid and ignorant
I bet you are glad NOW that you found out what this person is REALLY like....not quite ready for prime time. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 8:23:25 PM | | I would only end a relationship via text or phone call if the person was capable of being physically violent otherwise I would end the relationship face to face. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 4:41:13 AM | I have to say I agree with a lot of the peoples stating that face to face is the way to go. I as well as others have feelings and a heart and yes it is hard to break up with someone but come on people we can still communicate face to face. I love social media and text messages when it's appropriate but I feel that a person deserves a little bit of respect. It is so dis tasteful to break up with someone that we have probably said we love. I know it happens but that doesn't mean it's right.
Only thing is we can't make anyone do things the way we want things done which is probably one of the reasons for the break up.. Karma comes back tend-fold and that's all i have to say about that.. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 4:52:23 AM | They have tv sitcom episodes about this.
Really, if someone were to dump me, I think text followed by, block would be a godsend.
Best way to cut off an arm is with a very sharp blade and quick as possible. That slow sawing with a dull blade is brutally painful, the scars never heal.
No one gets out of a relationship with impunity. You can complain all you want, but you picked the person. Every relationship is chosen because it cones with something we need at the time, but that does not mean one should hang on to it. When it is time to end a relationship, just do it. There must be fifty ways...... | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 2:13:10 PM | I decided I have had enough of my ex so I called him and said we nee to talk (we were in long distance relationship). He was online and we had an argument. He didn't like to hear what I said so he was offline. I text him then he blocked my text messages and said I should email him. Actually, email him was the only one way he left for me to communicate with him.
I broke up with him via email then deleted my accounts and changed my phone number. That's it my experience on breaking up via email or text message. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 3:34:26 PM | | Times are changing and people use technology and impersonal methods to communicate more than ever. I think it's probably more common and more generally accepted than you think it is, although I would be a little peeved if someone were to end it with me via text. It's happened though. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 8:32:57 PM | Awe, so sad to see that people do not value the friendship of others. Really now, if your family member had a qualm with you, would you not want to talk about it? So what's the difference with a mate? After so much time with them, what is so difficult with talking it in person, at the least just be real about it. Anyone who does it through email, text, etc. is a coward. It's easier to be a coward.....
Let's not minimize human worth..... | |
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Posted: 8/5/2012 2:00:17 PM | It's not that new. Several years ago, my friend was in a business meeting on a Friday, waiting for the end of the day cause she was flying to NYC to see "him."
During that last meeting before heading out on a fabulous weekend, he texts her and breaks up with her. She had to remain calm during that meeting even though it sent her reeling.
There's an episode of Sex/City whereby Carrie is dumped via a post-it note. The impetus for that story was this: one of the female writers on the show had a message from her doorman. Her boyfriend told the doorman to tell her that it was over. Now, that's class.
Getting bad news via text? I say get used to it. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 7:29:58 PM | My ex (granted it was for a long time, but still) did this. She claimed that it wasnt a big deal but I would have preferred a phone call at least. She told me she regretted the way she handled it but still its the easy way out and doesnt make any sense.
If your gonna break up with someone at the very least talk to them over the phone. No matter how long youve been going out it makes it seem you at least cared about the other person. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 5:48:37 PM | | I had to do it by email because he refused to talk to me. He would also put everything back on me and not take responsiblity for his actions. I reallly tried to talk to him face to face and since he refused, I thought ....what choice did I have? | |
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Posted: 8/8/2012 3:10:22 PM | | yea its really sad how this world has changed .. i feel if you are going t0 break it off it should be face to face and yes it is a coward way of doing things .. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2012 5:37:27 PM | | I've been the victim of this as well. I had to drag it out of her to boot. Wouldn't answer calls, emails or texts. Finally after several days of no contact whatsoever she texts me saying she doesn't want to see me anymore, changed her email account as well. Then she popped up on here briefly, not here anymore though. | |
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