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| whats the point of being a good man if your not seen
Posted: 7/14/2012 3:18:08 AM | ^^^^
"fine F U have fun being along forever cuz ken doesnt exsist".
..and when a women your not attracted to gets blown off by you, she's probally thinking the same thing.
It's ok for people to have preferences, just becuase you get blown off doesn't mean you have to think badly of the person... | |
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| whats the point of being a good man if your not seen
Posted: 7/14/2012 6:29:47 AM | I've read your posts oceanman and they are all about what you want a woman to want - maybe you should read the individuals post more often and see if you fit into what they state they want, if you don't...well... bog off & try another instead of winging about what you can't have unless you change your ways.
As far as a 'good man' or for that matter 'good woman' is, sounds to me like some M/F bimbo who has to fit into someone elses idea for the benefit of the 'wanter', I've never heard that term to describe anyone since I stopped watching Hopalong Cassidy.
I think you were brought up on to much Copellia. | |
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| whats the point of being a good man if your not seen
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:30:18 AM | So, now I see you’re not invisible. Many people have noticed you and “talked” to you.
First, being a good man, you get reward for your own self.
Second, it’s a big mistake you “just feel like women are putting to much I want i want and not letting destiny give them their dream come true.” There maybe some women are like that for the first part in your quote (before the and). But most well-educated, confident women know what they want in life and work hard themselves to get it. They don’t want to “let the DESTINY give them their dream come true”. I believe in “God helps those who help themselves.”
Third, this is 21st century; women and men are equal. Most women don’t want to stay at home to do all the housework and wait for their men to bring breads home. And most men don’t want women to just stay home to be housewives either. Women want to do things for themselves, want to be helpful, supportive in finance and activities for their partner, they want to be a fair part with their partner, not just a shadow. And men want women whom they can be proud of too, not JUST A HOUSEWIFE.
Last but not least, no offense, you may need to re-write your profile and have some pics with smiling. You look too serious. Women want kind, happy men. Everybody wants to be with somebody happy, not too serious. I know it’s not easy to do the picture things for somebody sometimes, but “practice makes perfect.” Practice yourself in the front of a mirror, think about something happy and smile, sing in the shower, read comedy books or read humour websites and laugh, etc.
Good luck! | |
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| whats the point of being a good man if your not seen
Posted: 7/16/2012 2:15:09 PM | If you are being a good man because you think it will get you women, then you're being 'good' for all the wrong reasons. Besides, your definition of a "good man" is probably different from what many women would consider a good man.
Not cheating on women and not beating women does not give you brownie points. That is expected out of men from the get-go. No women dates a man if she knows she is going to get hurt or beat.
Insecurities, complaining, being needy and clingy, and low self esteem will ruin your chances before you even get your foot in the door. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 6:07:48 AM | It's like that for virtually all guys on online dating sites so don't think it's just you. Sadly this is the way things are....men probably outnumber women 10-1, so it's always going to be tough regardless of what your personal qualities are. I agree it can be annoying and disheartening to read someones profile, see you match the criteria of what they are looking for, write them a decent message to then see it's just deleted without a reply or even being read, but what can you do? One thing i especially find annoying is to then see that same woman state on her profile that she can't seem to meet anyone genuine and that 'all men are the same' and you can't help but think that if they actually gave people a chance then they just may find someone instead of moaning, but like i say such is the way of online dating!
It does go both ways too...i have had women message me who were completely mismatched, or whom just couldn't be bothered to write more than 'hi' so i have ignored them. I do often think it's better to find someone in real life situations rather than online but not as easy. I have met my last two girlfriends from this site and both turned out to be awful deceitful, dishonest, manipulating and unfaithful people filled with issues, so you do have to tread carefully. If you can't find anyone on here, or from any other online dating sites then maybe think about joining some clubs that cater for your interests. As you believe in God there are dating sites with likeminded people on them??? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 1:55:50 PM | | YA know its weird when a dude keeps stalking you rumblebumble wont stop sending me messages saying that I'm pathetic and Boring women to tears. If thats true than ya know what I can turn around and go from being a good man that respects women to one that treats them like dirt that would make you happy wouldn't it rumble knowing that you cause me to throw away everything I am just because you told me following my heart was a wrong thing to do. I Ignored you because you wouldnt stop stalking me with your insults so dont post in my forum or I will write the main person of this site and tell them IM being harassed by a dude telling me I would get a woman if I treated one like chit and you know what I'm not going to change my heart for anyone this world has tried to make me do that and each time it die I fought it women dont see me thats their problem Not mine! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 1:15:57 AM | | my dear man I am not stalking you in the least, you put yourself on a public forum so you have to deal with the replies you get. you sent me a message but i cant reply because you have blocked me. In any event the message you sent was another long pathetic moan about how good you are and how angelic you are and how you do not assault women. from my point of view I really think that there is something else going on here . | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 1:55:58 AM | | and on a special note I really don't know what women want im starting to agree with men that say if you try to understand a woman you'll run smack dab into a wall each time so I give up Let true love come to me because its either that or Im gonna become a monk to where they will treach me how to not even think of women lol. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 8:37:03 AM | | Rumble that last comment you left on my other forum pissed my mother off so bad you have no right to disrespect my religion nor do you have any right to speak to me with such disrespect. She told me to tell you that that comment reminds her of her ex husband that tried to kill her when i was a kid. You are 54 years old, You are an Elder but yet you don't act like it you speak with Disrespect towards my saying I am a Christian and that I'm letting god carry my heart to my soul mate I Will not be spoken to with disrespect. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 10:36:30 AM |
...that last comment you left on my other forum pissed my mother off so bad you have no right to disrespect my religion nor do you have any right to speak to me with such disrespect. She told me to tell you...
You need to get away from your mother, your grand mother and any other that is keeping you from becoming your own man.
Move OUT! Make your own life in a new town... establish some new friends, new interests...
and call your mom once a week.
No one wants a momma's boy. They'll be looking for an independent man. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 10:43:52 AM | You sound very bitter. You sound very angry. You do not sound happy. YOu sound like the world owes you for being, or trying to be a good man.
Don't be a good man. F v ck that.
Be YOUR BEST man. Be the man YOU want to be. Learn to be a little more selfish. Take care of yourself. Then take care of everyone else.
I was in a relationship with a bipolar woman, with 2 kids and had cancer. I did everything possible and she still managed to make me feel guilty. I discover that her behavior was typical bipolar but also typical "Victim" behavior. I realized that I had done all that I could do, and then accepted myself.
So dude. Accept yourself. With or without anybody else. F vck the rest. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 11:10:42 AM | Oceanman...OutMind is exactly right. You need to make your own luck in this world and there are times when you have to be selfish to get along.
Personally i'm an athiest but i respect the fact that you are religious and that God is a big part of your life, but God isn't going to find you happiness or a partner in life. People in Africa are extremely religious but that doesn't stop them starving to death or dying from disease or war on a daily basis, so if God doesn't help those people he sure ain't going to help you find what you want in life is he? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 12:10:07 PM |
and on a special note I really don't know what women want im starting to agree with men that say if you try to understand a woman you'll run smack dab into a wall each time so I give up
Just for your information, women do not want to be understood. They don't understand themselves. We do not understand them. NObody does. The reality is much simpler. Women do not want to be understood, they just want you to listen and be empathetic. That is all. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 5:16:29 PM | | Ya know what I am a Family man and was raised to family morals there might come a day when my grand mother goes to pick something up thats to heavy and suddenly has a heart attack. I don't care what anyone says anymore on here i was told by my friend that all of you are heart less and that i need to get off of this site because it can make me bitter to and ya know what i think shes right. I will always be a man that is Family oriented and btw Rumble your the one that needs it with your 54 year old mouth you are no Elder your someone that probably got hurt in one of the wars this country was in and it made your heart so bitter you lash out at everyone you come across. Btw for all of your information My mother was visiting and lives 30 miles away I DON'T LIVE WITH HER she saw rumbles comment and it bought back memories that she didn't want to remember and said i deserve better than to sit on a site with a bunch of women that dont know what their looking for or are so earthly blind that they think love comes with worldly pride. I am a Christian and i am going to go find me a site of Christian women that stand for god not the world and btw Rumbel you are a cold hearted man and always will be! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:00:39 PM | | John 15:18–25 18 “If the world hates you, you know that it has hated Me before it hated you. 19 “If you were of the world, the world would love its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you. 20 “Remember the word that I said to you, ‘A slave is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you; if they kept My word, they will keep yours also. 21 “But all these things they will do to you for My name’s sake, because they do not know the One who sent Me. 22 “If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not have sin, but now they have no excuse for their sin. 23 “He who hates Me hates My Father also. 24 “If I had not done among them the works which no one else did, they would not have sin; but now they have both seen and hated Me and My Father as well. 25 “But they have done this to fulfill the word that is written in their Law, ‘They hated Me without a cause.’<-----hate me all you want people but I do believe in god and i gave up and gave it to him and now rumble seems to think that i was wrong.......God is never wrong hes the one person to turn to when the rest of the world trys to hurt you. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:25:02 PM | Oceanman1977, we see past your mask... you are not fooling anyone...
The seven deadly sins of narcissism by Dr. Hotchkiss:
1. Shamelessness: Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.
2. Magical thinking: Narcissists see themselves as perfect, using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.
3. Arrogance: A narcissist who is feeling deflated may reinflate by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.
4. Envy: A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person's ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.
5. Entitlement: Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an "awkward" or "difficult" person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.
6. Exploitation: Can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.
7. Bad boundaries: Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist there is no boundary between self and other. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 12:38:48 AM | If you are a true follower of Christ, you should be a lot happier. You are not being attacked or hated by the world, you posted in a forum where anyone can reply with any of their opinions. The fact that you are not having any luck on the site does not mean the world hates you, you should read ALL the threads that people post all the time about the exact same issues. It seems to happen to a lot of the members on here.
I think a lot of the members have given you good advice...and Yes, God helps those who help themselves. As believers, we acknowledge the fact that God is sovereign but we cannot blame him for our shortcomings. It sounds like you are more concerned with getting what you want and that you feel entitled, over serving God.
Matthew 6:33
Jeremiah 29:11 | |
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| whats the point of being a good man if your not seen
Posted: 7/20/2012 1:21:31 AM | | Its POF dude, most girls never message me back either. Too many needy dudes on here. Meet girls in real life and just use this site as an casual source for meeting people, keep this in the backround of your life. The ratio is insanely unfair to men in online dating. Dont worry about it too much | |
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