| | Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)Page 7 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | Bottom line, there is nothing that says women have to be receptive to men approaching them. However, having the expectation that men not approach under any circumstance is unrealistic.
When I leave my house, I am entering the world and I must interact with the other people in it. I do not get to dictate the terms of that interaction. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:07:29 PM | "Its true about the south (and I don't mean Ala.) we are ALL friendlier here........"
You are in the Panhandle, which we central and southern Floridians like to call "L.A." -- "Lower Alabama." ;) | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:45:52 PM | Earlier I compared it to being approached by religious groups, or salesmen, or those annoying girls who spray perfume on people in department stores. If you've ever been annoyed by any of that, then can you blame women for getting annoyed when a guy tries to sell himself to her? Especially so if it happens to her a lot?
For whjat feels like the millionth time, no-one is arguing that you SHOULDN'T be annoyed by things like that. We're saying that there are better ways to handle it than whining, or thinking that, because it's "annoying", it's okay to be rude in response. How you REACT to the ann0ying stimulus will determine if you're a mature adult, or a whining little adolescent.
Remember: for every guy you shoot down rudely, a hundred other guys will see it, and a thousand more will hear about it. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:48:26 PM |
I'm guessing you've had a very anti-social life. It's the only thing that can explain some of the stuff that you've said.
I'm guessing that some women here are taking such an extreme stance, because it's a great way to kill a few hours at work, and they're bored of Solitaire... don't take anything that's said here seriously. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 1:14:51 PM | A woman could always approach me in a swimming pool......its not likely you would get very close, you probably wouldn't even be able to touch me with a 6"pole (yes I said 6 inch)!!!! just make sure you brought your mask....I'll provide all the other required equipment....
wow people relax a little....its Friday oh ya I'm retired...is it Friday?... | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 2:09:33 PM | Whoever lives in Charleston and has read the "Southern Lights" please tell me if there's some truth in it. I believe before Danielle Steel wrote that book, she must have done some research about and observed the lifestyle there a lot.
I would rather live somewhere everybody minds his/her own business than somewhere everybody knows everybody else's business. But I like to live in a place where is balanced of those two environments though, which means people still care for others but not being nosy and gossiping so much.
And I think whoever lives on mountain, she/he is high enough, she/he can either look down or look up to the sky with confidence and high spirit. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 2:32:04 PM | Im here in NY where I grew up, and hardly anyone speaks to each other.
I can wave at neighbors I used to play with when kids, and get snubbed.
Many of the same faces I see in town dont even look my way.
No wonder I cant live here these days. I like nice, and social people.
Im so ready for 80% of the people giving a hoot about others.
Comfortable, friendly, and helpful qualities are what southerners just have :) | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/13/2012 11:32:08 PM |
I really suggest watching animal planet….That physical / sexual interest IS what drives people to meet each other.
I’ve seen praying mantises mate and I’m inspired. Next time I f*ck a guy I’m gonna eat half his head off when I’m done. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:41:14 AM | LOL. That's funny, fleuron.
"I really suggest watching animal planet….That physical / sexual interest IS what drives people to meet each other."
If people could be simple like animals. I think for animals, before and/or after sex, they don't have to worry about what comes next. They don't have to worry about money, food, job, status, having face, vanity, marriage, divorce, society, the law, what others think about them and their partners, future, etc... They don't fight about who's doing what for their children, child custody or get angry about child support. They don't talk bad about their past partners when they depart. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:46:52 AM | | It depends on the timing, approach, a woman's personality, and yes a man's looks. Some women will only get offended when a man states something that is clearly inappriorate. Some women will get offended anytime a man she's not interested in approaches her. Some women will get offended almost any time a man approaches her. Regardless of his looks and how he approached her. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/14/2012 1:12:36 PM |
You make it sound like wanting sex is a bad thing. It's not.
It can be.
This morning, I was in a thrift store buying Homer Laughlin vintage dishes when I looked up to see a man and his wife. This same man used to say a few words to me in a McD's where I go to grade. when I have a batch of papers. After a couple of weeks, the few words turned from being, "Hey, are you today?" to suddenly, "You know what I want from you."
Whaaaa?????
You want to talk about politeness and friendliness being taken for interest! After asking him a few pointed questions about how his wife would feel, I firmly rebuffed him and he went back to saying "hello" when he saw me--I made sure there was no more small talk.
He looked distinctly uncomfortable this morning.
So, yeah--wanting sex in the wrong quarter is a bad thing AND married men should really understand the dangers of trying to pick up women in public places: you never know when you will see that woman in another public place. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/14/2012 2:52:33 PM | A guy's first instinct is to assume a very attractive woman is taken because she is hot. However, it is actually the opposite half the time. I am a personal trainer so I have trained some pretty attractive women. They all say the same thing. "I wish men would just approach me. " We also think that we have to use some flashy pick up line, but in reality, just walking up and introducing yourself gets the job done.
You know why I got into online dating? I suck at starting conversations out of thin air with people I don't know. I am great on dates, have tons of confidence, and have no problem being myself when I have had a chance to at least have some type of interaction with a woman before hand. But approaching women in real life is still hard for me to do. However, my New Year's resolution was to start conversations with people in real life and get at least one laugh every time I did. For the most part I have stuck to it. Now if I go out to places I frequent like the grocery store, sandwich shop, the gym, the movies, etc I will start a conversation with one of the female employees, make her laugh a bit, etc.. Hell, when I was moving into my new apartment, I chatted up and flirted with the manager the whole time she was showing me around. But you don' crap where you eat. It is slowly getting better and I was an inch away from actually getting a number a few weeks ago at the grocery store. However, I still prefer online dating and I don't see myself asking a woman out in public anytime soon. But I am definitely more comfortable with it then I used to be. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/15/2012 7:31:25 AM | ^^^ So you like a challenge?
Become a college student. Enroll in any womyn's studies course and pretend you're interested. Approach your classmates before and after class. If you make it half way through the semester without campus police being called you're a real man. | |
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| Where DO you feel it's okay to approach you? (women)
Posted: 7/17/2012 7:52:38 AM |
It's not about the place, it's about reading someone's body language and grasping when they might be open or receptive to being approached.
I agree but women can be too aloof and shy, or even winding you up, it's often very difficult to know who is approachable, no fun. That's this country anyway, bless em. | |
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