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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:14:10 AM | Well.
Some say men need sex to be intimate. women need intimacy for sex.
I think we are just wired differently. Do you care about him and want to be sexual with him? If not, then find someone else.
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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:30:32 AM | There are really a couple of different themes going on here.
Let's get evolutionary/biological. The act of sex stimulates the body to produce a hormone oxytocin - and orgasms even more so. Oxytocin tends to help engender pair-bonding. Presumabably in the past there was an evolutionary advantage of having partners for life - in particular when it came to raising children to pass those genes along. But for most of history people average life expectancy has been much lower than it is today and people can control their fertility in ways that were not possible before.
It is just speculation but it is possible that this bonding through sex is more powerful for women because of the need to reassure a male partner that offsping are his (even if they are not!
But that also makes sex danagerous. Sex today does not follow a social bonding ceremony where two people commit to life. So you need to be aware of these physiological factors. My advice and I think most others in this thread is to take your time. Don't do it because you feel pressured - in fact particularly if you feel pressured.
Sex is great but particularly when it is part of a loving relationship. If you dream about him, ache when he is not there, can't bear it when he parts, your heart misses a beat when he smiles then you are starting to experience the insanity otherwise known as love. Then is the time to have sex - when you can't bear not to.
You may become less picky later but that's life. First love only happens once. | |
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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/18/2012 2:38:32 PM | | I would NEVER want a woman to have sex with me unless she 100% wanted to. Do not do anything you are not happy with. If the man trys to get you to change your mind then he is not the man for you. | |
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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/18/2012 3:52:28 PM | | OP, sex does bring people together, but it should NEVER be an expectation and no-one should ever pressure you to have sex. Part of the issue here may be cultural, as in China there has long been a campaign to stigmative sex, and to reduce the birth rate. You may be buying into the propaganda, but that does not negate my first sentence above! | |
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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/18/2012 4:10:52 PM | does anyone else think this op is clearly a troll? or whatever you call it..
fake photo. really obvious questions baiting mostly men about sex.
i've seen this op before with the same kind of lame questions.
just my view.. | |
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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/18/2012 5:20:03 PM | | Men want sex and they dont need love to enjoy it. WOmen prefer some sort of relationship and feeling to get intimately involved usually. If you have it early you run the risk that he will disappear and you may want him to, of course. It is up to you. He is not bad, just male. | |
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| sex is a way to bring people together ?
Posted: 7/20/2012 10:47:53 AM | bubble8b let's assume that you are being real. There can be very few attractive 28-year old virgins in Southern China.
...rather than asking the forums what sex is like maybe it is time you found out for yourself. | |
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