| | Texting all the time, at our age?Page 2 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | | Well here's one for ya. I dated a guy for about 4 months that dumped me because I DIDN'T text and call every day. I call him my favorite "chick with a**** cuz after he broke up with me for not calling and texting all the time he kept showing up at my job twice a day. Texting is the bane of relationships in my opinion, call me on my phone don't text me. I can get a lot more from the tone in your voice than the choice of words you know how to text. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:13:04 PM | I suppose if someone calls you on your home phone at 3am it's the phones fault? Don't fault the technology for the person who doesn't use good judgement.
For every horror story mentioned in this and other threads I could give you just as many thoughtful and useful stories about tech communication tools.
Someone who breaks up with you by text is just a rude person. Someone who sends you a text to ask you if you are still up and is it too late to call is being thoughtful.
What do you some of you think you are doing when you are posting to these forums or sending emails? It's really no different than a text. I was on the road for 6 weeks recently and brought nothing but my smartphone. Everything I did on my laptop I did using the smartphone. The keyboard you are typing on now is not much different than the one on a smart phone. It's just smaller.
Texting doesn't replace a visit or phone call for those people who use good judgement. It's in addition to. In many instances if I hadn't texted the person I wouldn't have called either. It was the only option. I'm not going to risk waking someone up late at night or early in the morning, interupting them on the job, calling them when they are driving or take them away from whatever else they might be knee deep in. I consider it being courtious.
I have found in the short time I have been single that those that text or IM the best aren't so good in real life. Its a small survey to be sure, but its been pretty accurate. Its easy to be what ever they think you are looking for hiding behind typed words. But in person, they faulter.
You don't think I have good RL communication skills? Try me. I'd be happy to put that theory to rest. : ) | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 1:26:13 PM | I have an HTC Android smartphone and I love it. GPS, internet, phone, appointment book, etc. in one device I can slip into my purse. But I still do not like guys who only want to text or email or who contact me during work hours when it is not appropriate. If a man cannot carry on a live conversation in person/on the phone and does not respect the professional boundries regarding my workplace, he won't hold my attention for long.
And because my niece was killed by a rapist, when I read that women are giving their phone numbers to men they may not have met or do not know well, I am concerned. Ladies, rapists shop dating sites for potential victims because they know the women on them are single and likely live alone. You should NEVER give out your cell phone or home phone number to someone you have not met in person first. Once they have your phone number, they can do an online reverse phone number search and find you within minutes.
A safer approach is to ask the guy for HIS number, do a reverse search and sex offender registry check. If you do want to call him, dial *67 before his number so that your number will not show up on his caller id. I know this sounds paranoid, but rape, abductions, stalkers and internet predators are very real. Better to be safe than sorry. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 1:54:45 PM |
I have an HTC Android smartphone
I have that very same phone. I was thinking. Maybe your phone would like to get together with my phone some time and go to a show or listen to some live music.
We could tag along to make sure they don't get into any mischief. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 2:53:32 PM | I'm not a phone person so I find it annoying when someone is having a conversation within ear shot of me while I'm at work. Windy people are a bore
I can't imagine ever texting, I'm much too lazy | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 3:03:45 PM | my son just texted me from the other room...he wants to go to the movies.
here we are 2012..............
oh i am not answering him.....he just sent me a..."well"? hehehe
and hear he is....wow I won this one...so few! | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 3:09:24 PM |
oh i am not answering him.....he just sent me a..."well"? hehehe
and hear he is....wow I won this one...so few!
As he types away on his keyboard to a dating site forum.
You sure showed him! Oh the irony. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 3:42:22 PM | I rarely text. I tell people that and if they think that I will answer every text that they send me--or even read them--they are wrong.
In fact, I have to laugh -- the guy I dated who was REALLY into texting (sent me over 2500 texts in the course of 2 months!) broke up with me via text! How juvenile is that?
Gotcha one better! My sister's niece by marriage was dumped by her husband of ten years (two kids) via a text. He texted her and said that he didn't love her anymore and wanted her to move out ASAP. Even more ironic, she is young enough to be his daughter (she is in her mid-30s, he is in his 50s)! Who was the immature idiot in this relationship? Age is no indicator of maturity. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 7:07:11 PM | Import from UK: God, you're right, I TOTALLY deserved his bad behavior of breaking up with me via text! *face palm* HOW could I not have seen that it was ALL MY FAULT? Men are like dogs, ya gotta teach 'em right from the git-go, or they pee all over your floor! We wimmins sure do deserve whatever crap we get from men, don't we? How DARE we complain?
I need to go to confession now to confess my many sins. Be back later.
*rolls eyes* | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/13/2012 10:11:53 PM | happy dude 63 related:
I have my 17 yr old son who lives with me, and like it or not cell phones and texting is the way to communicate..
Man O man, I can so relate. Son, also 17, is on his constantly. We're out working in the field and he has that thing out every few minutes or so. Got him out of thinking I'm one of his text buddies this past year, I think - could have been last, when he sent a text indicating that he needed me to do something or deliver something - oh, maybe lunch. I received the text sometime that evening or the next day, well past the time it was necessary and we had a brief, one sided, conversation where I explained that we have a land line and this other box is a digital answering machine. If you want me to know you've called this is how you do so.
I should say I am with the other poster in that while I do have a cell phone it is for my use, not someone else's. I use tracfone, it dies what I need and the cost is between $100 - $200 / year. I take it walking and away from the house, but I am not on it 24/7. Geez Louise, if I wanted and umbilicus I would have stayed in the womb.
TK | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 1:07:34 AM | Im in the process of breaking up w a guy right now. That's actually one of the reasons. Even Important & serious conversations are text. I've mentioned it more than once but he doesn't when even answer. We text all night & I've asked him to just call to say goodnight. He did once. I did twice once went to voice mail. We were texting
unites before. The other night while texting but going to bed soon I asked if he could stop & call to say good night. He ignored me. I've told him I like to here his voice ' he's said the same the few times we talked. When texting goodnight its all full of kisses & stuff like that which now have no meaning to me. In person he's pretty shy but texting isn't gonna help that. Im sick oh
F it. Younger guys I used to see in their 30's. Call to ask me out. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 2:50:07 AM | | I must be strange i love txting. I lead an extremly busy life both at work and with family commitments. It is a great way to stay in touch with someone without intruding too much on your day . I just like to talk on phone tosomeone before i first met them as give you more of an idea what they are like. Once i have meet them I prefer to txt, if your are always chatting on phone, what do you talk about when you met up. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:21:08 AM | | I'm not that important! I have a phone....call me and I will get to your message sooner or later....^^^^^ha ha are you kidding me " what do you have to talk about when you meet up " oh boy.... | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:31:05 AM | I find texting downright offensive. If the person has no time to call or, the subject of the text doesn't deserve a call then, it doesn't deserve my time to read it. I ignore text messages, just as if they had not happened.
Those that tell me, "hey, I sent you a text saying blah blah blah", I inform them of the above and let them know that if they want my attention, they can send an email or call, otherwise, they are wasting their time. Since people know that's how I deal with it, I only receive texts from a few clueless who I proceed to clue in. I haven't gotten a text message in months. If my date doesn't get the point the first time, there simply won't be a second time.
I think texting should be against the law across the board. Many car accidents where people died were a result of an idiot texting while driving. An enormous amount of productivity is lost due to texting. Ridiculous errors are made as a result of texting. Ideally, the feature should be removed altogether from cell phones.
Did I mention I don't care for texting ? | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:49:59 AM | | A few months ago I went on a date with a POF person who texted later that he enjoyed the evening. I responded that I enjoyed it also. Then I got the 'good morning' text the next day. I responded at some point in the day. A couple of mornings later I noticed he had sent me a text, but I was at work so didn't respond. Then I forgot about the text completely. The next day he sent me a really angry text telling me 'if I thought he was going to chase me, I was wrong!" OMG! I decided to just to ignore his little tantrum and didn't respond. A few days later (Saturday), he called and asked if I wanted to go to see a movie. I am thinking that people need to use a little self control and think before sending impulsive text messages that make them appear nuts! | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:51:03 AM |
I suppose if someone calls you on your home phone at 3am it's the phones fault? Don't fault the technology for the person who doesn't use good judgement.
Bang on. I don't continuously text to a person. Quick replies,that's it. "I'm boarding the plane", "I've landed","I'll be there in 10". Shiat like that. If I really wanted to talk to ya, I would. But,more than likely I don't, so I won't. I really don't see the need for "constant" contact from anyone. And I do mean anyone.
I think texting should be against the law across the board. Many car accidents where people died were a result of an idiot texting while driving. An enormous amount of productivity is lost due to texting. Ridiculous errors are made as a result of texting. Ideally, the feature should be removed altogether from cell phones.
Against the "law"????? Really????? How about we just make a simple across the board "law" against stupidity????? Wouldn't that be much easier????? | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 6:39:34 AM | @Cowboy: Well said. :up:
OP - I'm with most other posters; not into texting / IM at all. Even emails, back & forth, don't reveal the true person. Phone or Skype are my preferred options when F2F is not possible.
@Chances:
I'm not going to risk waking someone up late at night or early in the morning, ......
Well, I thought that too, once, whilst waiting to board a plane to visit my friend upstate. So I texted him, only to discover his phone was set to ring on text - and received this angry response (which had me laughing hysterically, btw): "You woke me at five in the morning - dark and freezing cold to tell me you are tired? B1tch! Are you ever in trouble ...." :roll:
@1388SmartBlonde :
Once they have your phone number, they can do an online reverse phone number search and find you within minutes.
Fortunately, in Australia, reverse number searches were outlawed years ago, so it's quite safe to give out a number.
Just thinking, given your concerns, perhaps a permanent Skype number might work, as I shouldn't think you'd be able to do reverse searches on that. Or one of those Magic Jack thingos? | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 7:01:57 AM | An enormous amount of productivity is lost due to texting.
agreed- at my last job, the 2 young girls (major slackers) spent half their damn day sneakily texting...I do not know how they got any work done, the rest of us older gals were swamped & rumor was they got hired for a good amount of $$. After myself & another middle aged lady left, they lost half their clientele. Gee, I wonder why!
As far as phone # fear, if u r doing dating online & even IRL, buy a cheap disposable trac phone cash, & use that for dating only. It's what serial killers use, why not take a note from their page & use it to be untraceable but for a good reason! | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 10:26:16 AM |
Against the "law"????? Really????? How about we just make a simple across the board "law" against stupidity????? Wouldn't that be much easier?????
Yes, really!!!
Stupid people are driving and texting, running over pedestrians in crosswalks and, causing fatal collisions on freeways that result in the loss of life of responsible people. Talking on the phone while driving has already been made illegal in some places. Texting is much worse than just talking.
Making texting illegal is a law against a specific display of stupidity, just like drinking and driving is another instance of a law against a specific kind of stupidity. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 10:47:28 AM | | I don't even have a cell phone. I think they're great tools, but too many people are addicted to them and let them control their lives. I'm really tired of everywhere I go, people either have a phone to their ear, are checking to see if they have any messages, or texting. And I think it's pretty rude to force people around you to listen in on your conversation with someone else. I've seen people on TV at basketball games in the stands playing with their cell phones. They pay a hefty price to have seats close to the court, but can't put their phones away long enough to watch the game. If I ever get a cell phone, which I probably will one day, you'll never catch me punching those little keys. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 4:20:19 PM | Texting all the time, AT OUR AGE?
Yes, we all must follow the rules as outlined in the Age Appropriate Behavior Handbook for those 45 & Older.
Chapter 152, para 275, pg 1169;
You Are Not Allowed To:
a. use your cell phone for texting
b. own a sports car
c. ride a motorcycle
d. date someone because they have a smoking hot body
e. weigh the same/less than you did in high school
f. enjoy lounging on the sofa
g. have cosmetic surgery or breast augmentation
h. look younger than your age
i. tell anyone you act younger than your age, that is absolutely NEVER allowed.
j.
k.
l.
WTH!? Rolls eyes………. | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/14/2012 10:07:22 PM | this has absolutely not anything to do with gender. dated a couple of girls and they were exactly as the men you dated. personally i am from the face to face generation and not the facebook. so, i do not understand a female, in my age range, who attempts to converse with me via texting. well, okay, i understand that they are either adhd, fragile x, or in some other way challenged at depth of conversation. i think, everytime the texts start coming "this is your life. and it's ending one text at a time." paraphrase of fight club, but seems appropriate. texting has it's place. and it's place for me is completely outside of anything intricate or intimate.
"put the weapon down and kick it over here. you are only going to cause yourself more problems." :) | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/15/2012 9:25:25 AM | I think texting is great and should have no age barrier!
It can be quick and to the point,it's also a good reminder as to what time I'm picking someone up for dinner or when and where me and the guys have a tee time,for example.
Another thing is,I have kind of a gravelly speaking voice (good singing voice though),and I've been told it's a little hard to understand me on the phone at times,especially if I'm in a rush...tend to talk too fast.
So for me,my Droid with the QWERTY board makes for a perfect form of communication,not very personable,but does have it's good points.....and NO I don't text while driving! | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/15/2012 9:49:03 AM | A friend of mine recently bought a new BIG dump truck for his business. While I was over visiting with him, he had to get a load of something and asked me If I wanted drive it. I said no, but he convinced me to go for a ride with him....
we are driving down the road talking and such..nice truck..busy road. I look over and he has both his forearms on the big steering wheel using them to steer the truck, while he is texting!! I also notice we are almost right on the center white line. (2 lane road). I tell him,"geez that seems dangerous"..he laughs and says he does it all the time...
scary...I got home and re-warned my kids about bad truck drivers and to stay away from trucks!!!!
texting has its merits, I think it is morphing into a totally new direction of communication. And it already has happened.
Evolution??? | |
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| Texting all the time, at our age?
Posted: 7/15/2012 10:24:21 AM | I am getting there.
Me, lost:
" I do not know where I am".
Her:
"I am right behind you".
Very useful.
But yes, prefer phone. | |
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