| | Women and SexPage 2 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | I think she was hear playing games. I have noticed all pictures of her were taken down. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:23:56 PM | My profile is real. This was a serious question, but I don't go out and have sex every night with different men. I don't think there is thing wrong with it if that is what happens though and being on this site if a woman gets lucky enough to meet two guys worthy of her time in a week, no one should think any differently of her.
I think people need to lighten up A LOT on this topic. If you don't chose to live your life that way that is definitely your choice, but to tell others they are wrong for feeling that way is not right.
I know everyone has their own opinions and we are welcome to them but what makes one person's opinions righter than anothers is what I am trying to get to. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:26:29 PM | | My pics are just on private. No games here! Sorry you all feel that way though. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:34:35 PM | | ^^^^^^ Dear Ms. 69 - POF rules require all main photos to show the user's face. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:36:18 PM | Thanks, GreenThumb! I will take care of that right away.
I feel like I am back in school again. Guess I will stay out of the Forums where I belong. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:37:47 PM | | I see that her pictures are up again. I think she has remorse over topic. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:42:00 PM | | No GentleBear, I actually have my pictures Private most of the time , but for this Topic of Conversation I thought maybe it would be more appropriate to have my picture on the Post. Guess this was a bad idea all around. I learned from it. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 3:42:05 PM | ^^^^^^
I think we all started off in the forums with lots of attitude, and not so much sense of the written word, which is what this IS. If you back off and watch for a while, you can learn quite a bit from these forums. There are some pretty sharp individuals out here, and much to be learned.
If you did learn something, then you didn't waste your time. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 4:46:35 PM |
Sex is THE most intimate act you can share with another person.
That depends on what the sex consists of and who the participants are. I doubt most prostitutes feel very intimate with their johns, or vice versa--I understand they don't even kiss.
The more intimate it is, the more satisfying it tends to be. I think that's partly because the closer you feel to your partner, the more at ease you are, and the less there is to get in the way of your enjoyment.
That's different to deliberately dating 4 different men a week knowing you are going to sleep with all of them and never see them again.
I'm sure there are some women who want to do that, but everything I've ever heard makes me think they're pretty rare. I doubt most women would be satisfied--even sexually--with a steady diet of encounters that casual.
By the way, sex without affection and acceptance is not necessarily so wonderful for a man, either. I have known a couple women that I sensed didn't much care if I lived or died, as long as they'd gotten their fill of orgasms. It's not fun to feel used, and the coldness afterwards pretty much cancelled out whatever pleasure I got from the encounters. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 4:58:26 PM | | all the power to you. while yeah, there is a double standard... it's also a lot easier for a woman to find a 1 night stand. you could be 100 lbs overweight and bald, and men would still come knocking at your door. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 7:52:30 PM |
That depends on what the sex consists of and who the participants are. No it doesn't.
I doubt most prostitutes feel very intimate with their johns, or vice versa--I understand they don't even kiss. Of course it is the most intimate act. Just because people don't have a sense of intimacy while actually having sex, doesn't mean it isn't an intimate ACT. People are naked (usually), body parts are being inserted into other body parts etc. Of course it is intimate. Whether it feels that way or not is another issue.
"That's different to deliberately dating 4 different men a week knowing you are going to sleep with all of them and never see them again." I'm sure there are some women who want to do that, but everything I've ever heard makes me think they're pretty rare. I doubt most women would be satisfied--even sexually--with a steady diet of encounters that casual. I'm not sure why you quoted this. I'm not saying that lots of women do this, I'm just saying that having occasional casual sex because the mood strikes you after a nice night out is not the same as planning four dates each week with different men just to have sex. I never made an assertion as to whether women would find a 'steady diet' of casual encounters satisfying. You seem to be disagreeing with things I haven't said?
By the way, sex without affection and acceptance is not necessarily so wonderful for a man, either. I have known a couple women that I sensed didn't much care if I lived or died, as long as they'd gotten their fill of orgasms. It's not fun to feel used, and the coldness afterwards pretty much cancelled out whatever pleasure I got from the encounters. I'm assuming this isn't directed at me as I didn't say anything about sex without affection being great or not, whether for male or female. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 3:08:01 AM | | THANK YOU Cobra. OP, people on this forum are not even bothering to read your original question. Pay no attention to the finger-wagging idiots. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 3:23:52 AM | It's a free country, and it works like this. You get to do what you want to do, and people get to think and say what they want to. You don't get to dictate their behavior any more than they get to dictate yours.
Do what works for you, and own it. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 3:37:24 AM | | Well, let me see. You meet "two great guys" a week in Manteca, have sex with them. I'd say about 3 weeks into that and you've exhausted all the great guys in Manteca and have now moved down to average guys, another 3 weeks and now you're really scraping the bottom feeders off the sidewalk. Just kidding, you go girl, be all you can be, live it up, you're only young once. In the 70's it was quite common to have sex with three or four different people a week, but it was pre AIDS, herpies, abortion was new, we thought it was just great to murder unborn children as birth control. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 7:51:25 AM | | Mysterious, I agree with you there and it hasn't happened yet, so you are probably right. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 7:56:44 AM | | I mean I asked a rhetorical question. Just in case the situation arose. I don't see that ever being the case on this Site and it't not like I sit around doing knowing else. I will take your advice FOC and just ignore the negative and make my decision for myself if this time ever arises. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 9:16:03 PM | My advice is to ignore anything people say to you and decide for yourself. If you choose to have sex with someone because you like him, practice safe sex, let him know what the conditions are and be courteous to others.
Above don't listen to all the crap about being labeled a 'harlot". Do what makes you happy | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 9:34:33 PM | | Thank you, Kaki! I appreciate that advice. :) | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 9:41:47 PM | | I think things are changing a little bit as far as what's been okay for men but not so much for woman. Your profile says your not looking for anything serious. You could change in the slot where it ask what are you looking for : to INTIMATE ENCOUNTERS. But then again you would be overwhelmed with every single person rather they were looking for an intimate encounter in the first place. Once they see it their hormones are going to step up full speed ahead and he's going to want his intimate encounter (sex). So I would keep it on friends. And if you meet someone that sparks an interest, maybe he's even mature but either way you guys have sex. Accept it as it is. I'm sure nobody has to tell you to be careful and all the safety stuff. Now your wondering how much to share that depends on how comfortable you feel. I have a few friends and it is a MADATORY RULE that when then meet a new guy that they can discuss the pro's and con's of the relationship but they can never discuss the sex life. It seems like it always causes trouble. When the new boyfriend wants to know the size of the old boyfriend and who is better. How long can he go. Stupidness. So anything such of sex life is always off topic. And since you are making it clear that you don't want a BF you don't have to share anything. As far as your friends and family i would say it depends on their way of living because elderly people would fall apart over that behavior but someone your age would be more understanding. But it still is the same only you need to tell if you want too and keep the secret if you feel better. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 9:42:16 PM | ^^^^^
"Above don't listen to all the crap about being labeled a 'harlot". Do what makes you happy"
Sage advice?
Kaki - How many children do you have? None, I thought so.
It's a whole different dynamic when little ones pattern their life after you. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 9:42:23 PM | | I think things are changing a little bit as far as what's been okay for men but not so much for woman. Your profile says your not looking for anything serious. You could change in the slot where it ask what are you looking for : to INTIMATE ENCOUNTERS. But then again you would be overwhelmed with every single person rather they were looking for an intimate encounter in the first place. Once they see it their hormones are going to step up full speed ahead and he's going to want his intimate encounter (sex). So I would keep it on friends. And if you meet someone that sparks an interest, maybe he's even mature but either way you guys have sex. Accept it as it is. I'm sure nobody has to tell you to be careful and all the safety stuff. Now your wondering how much to share that depends on how comfortable you feel. I have a few friends and it is a MADATORY RULE that when then meet a new guy that they can discuss the pro's and con's of the relationship but they can never discuss the sex life. It seems like it always causes trouble. When the new boyfriend wants to know the size of the old boyfriend and who is better. How long can he go. Stupidness. So anything such of sex life is always off topic. And since you are making it clear that you don't want a BF you don't have to share anything. As far as your friends and family i would say it depends on their way of living because elderly people would fall apart over that behavior but someone your age would be more understanding. But it still is the same only you need to tell if you want too and keep the secret if you feel better. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 9:50:43 PM | | Sunniedays, I am not out looking for sex, so you are right here. I am not going to change my profile anymore. I am going to keep it Friends and just go from there. I am extremely picky, so the chance of meeting multiple guys was purely hypothetical. People just kinda went crazy over the comments. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 11:55:43 PM | | it would be lame for society to expect you to be abstinent just because you don't want a serious long-term relationship. i'm a firm believer in doing what you want to, as long as it doesn't harm anyone else. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 8:20:10 AM |
"Ongoing one-night stands" are not cool, and I don't care what the reasons are.
A whore is just a whore, be they male or female..... there are many times in life where it DOES matter what other people label you as .
This is CA, LA, and only 13 millions people live here. You can easily blend in. This is not Small town america where everybody knows your business! Nobody can know what you are doing behind closed doors unless you boast and brag about it... You have sex behind close doors.. right? who's watching to tell others and label you?? Just shut up about it... No one will know ....Simple
oh, and if you take your "one night stand out", please do not go to your usual spot... cuz others will talk! Just use common sense! DUH
Have fun, be safe, you live only once! it's a one way trip! | |
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