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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 12:04:55 AM | I love the way women like Landra2 ASSUME that they know the real reason... and that you are not over him. I wonder if she every thought of the following...
OP, my guess is that he is an ASS and you are 100% correct in trying to get in touch with him so that you can get him to stop. No respectable woman would want nude photos of herself on the internet without her permission. It has NOTHING to do with "not being over him". But also be aware that this type of attention may be what he really wants. He may actually have no desire to post the pictures but knows that even the threat will piss you off and get you angry. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 8:16:30 AM | In this day and age with all of this technology available WHY would you allow someone to take pic's of you nude?
His imaage of you should be in his head.
If he has decided to display your images then he is obviously a very well unbalanced man and you should feel nothing more than pity for his current girlfriend.
He probably has pic's of her too...which he will use in the future.
Don't mistake the scenerio that he may still have feelings for you...He doesn't , if he did then he would not expose you like this. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 11:59:15 AM |
I then decided to message my ex and ask him why he would do such a thing. He didn't respond back to my messages.
but he keeps coming at me every so often but now I think I finally blocked him
Wait... he didn't respond but he keeps coming at you? Confused. Did you at least get an answer before you decided to block him? If he keeps coming at you, he'd obviously be game for a phone conversation and you can get it that way. You could do some diplomacy to calm him down about it + make it feel like not such a good idea. But if he's insistent about it, then yes, just block him and forget about it. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 12:38:04 PM | I think you are asking the wrong questions here.
1) Does he respect you? From what you have said the answer is no.
2) If he does post the photos of you then you can handle it in civil court. Either way argueing with him only gives him a window to access your happiness and it sounds like he dosent deserve that access. Take charge of your life.
Best wishes. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 2:50:12 PM | | Ignoring your ex means COMPLETELY. No responses of ANY sort. Not even a stupid smiley face, angry face, or whatever. The dude feeds on your tension like a friggin' vampire. If he actually has nude pics, and posts them, STILL IGNORE HIM. The only way to deal with an attention whore is to leave them alone. Changing your phone number or email is fairly simple nowadays. Getting him perma-banned from ever contacting you on Facebook is a piece of cake. Cell phone companies allow you to block up to about 20 phone numbers for 3-4 months for FREE - USE IT. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:20:35 PM |
Trust me I have ignored him a lot but yet he still comes back and bugs me. And NO I am not interested in my ex at all. I am seeing a new guy. Besides that my ex has a new girlfriend who has a baby so why is he hung up on me and bugging me?
Why? Because YOU let him, and he knows he can...... | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:30:13 PM | | el suena algo de pelegroso, me te aviso que no contatarle a el nunca jamas, y mover tu casa a una otra cuidad. buen suerte. chau | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/29/2012 11:16:00 PM | Why does he? Because he is a jerk.
From the sounds of it, he may also be bordering on criminal harassment. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/30/2012 8:19:21 AM |
Your ex AND his friend (somehow) got one of your friend's cell numbers? .....I would start asking your friend some question's.
A lesson in life NEVER put anything in writing and NEVER allow yourself to be photographed nude! | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 7/30/2012 11:48:45 AM | No, we don't "trust" you because you don't trust yourself to just drop it.
You seem to know quite a bit about his new life because you're interested in some way. You still have your foot in the door.
Classic doormat syndrome. You are blaming his contacting you for your own responsive behavior. No one is accountable for your actions but you. You can't make him go away, you can only continue to ignore it until HE decides to go away (unless you take legal action, which will only escalate the situation and which he can further ignore a court order anyway).
No one makes us "mad". We do that all by ourselves by how we CHOOSE to act/react.
Currently, YOU are the one enabling this issue. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 8/6/2012 8:33:44 PM | | I am trying to end this issue and I have decided to ignore it and IF he contacts me again I will ignore him again and again and if he continues to still bother me then I don't know what his problem is. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 6:44:43 AM | | how do you get over someone you still love | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 6:46:15 AM | | I think that's just hiding from the truth | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 9:31:04 AM | OP has a problem with someone that is behaving like a criminal, and almost everyone wants to shake their finger of wisdom and tell her to remember not to pose nude. What BS. People pose nude for lovers all the time. I'm not saying they should but I sure have a lot of pics of my exex. In life you take chances and she took one and seems to see the consequences with out all the repetitive berating of her as though it's her fault.
She was warned by a stranger and contacted her ex so what? She is being systematically harassed and threatened yet no offers of advice, just keep making it out to be her fault.
vampynapy I would simply call the police and see if they can talk to him. As far as all the horrible finger wagging at you on this thread you don't have to let it make you feel bad. Some people just think Dr Phil is a big hero and love to regurgitate his tripe. Your ex has some real problems and he is threatening you and you have the right to protect yourself and report him. You have done nothing wrong. This is about harassment, stocking and terrorizing. Not about what you did. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 9:52:04 AM | ^^^^^ I agree...the police will pay him a visit... just to talk, sometimes thats all that is needed and he is now on their radar. The next step the police will take will be to make a visit to his place of work if the first scenario doesn't stop him....and if the second visit doesn't do it well the police now know they have a real wack job on their hands....
Best of luck... | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 9:58:53 AM |
^^^OP has a problem with someone that is behaving like a criminal...vampynapy I would simply call the police and see if they can talk to him.
Are you on drugs? Contact the police for what reason? A random girl said the ex is going to put naked pictures on the internet. Is there any proof he is going to do it or has done it? The OP said he keeps bugging her. What does that mean? And how can he bug her unless she allows it, especially when she made the initial contact after talking to the girl? From anything I read here, there is no crime taking place. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 10:07:13 AM |
Are you on drugs?
Ya but mine are better than yours or you would get this. You say that you can't bug a person unless they allow it? LMAO
Initial contact? What should she have done after being told?
She is being harassed and threatened and it can't hurt to call the police. They often talk to people before a real crime is committed and it can do the trick. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 10:26:14 AM |
She is being harassed and threatened and it can't hurt to call the police. They often talk to people before a real crime is committed and it can do the trick.
What post did she mention she was being threatened and harassed? She said he bugs her (probably by text messages). Is that your version of a crime about to take place? There are people that have bugged me at times, but I never demanded the cops to have a swat team take them out (lol). As far as talking to people before they commit a crime: If I call the police and say I think my neighbor is going to commit a crime next week, but I have no proof of it, what do you think the cops are going to do? I would be the one they investigate and probably be charged for making a false claim. | |
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| The EX's Friend
Posted: 11/19/2012 11:24:25 AM | Sorry but this is partly her fault, she sent or gave naked pictures of herself to some guy she may or may not have been dating and they are out there and can be posted all over the place. No one made her pose naked, if you put naked pictures out there you can't control where they end up. And it really sounds rather fake that she later states she's looked online for them but hasn't seen them so she concludes that he didn't post them. WTF? Really? Does she have a list of sites she might end up on? I highly doubt she'd have any idea of the million places he could have posted her pictures. I am pretty sure this is just a troll post to get us to respond.
He has yet to do anything criminal, he's not really harassing her, she just mentions over & over that she's ignoring him, when she is obviously not ignoring him, and that 'friends' of his and/or hers are telling her what he's doing. I don't see where he's actually contacting her with any info. Sounds like the mind of a 12 year old playing on the computer when they should be doing homework. As for the advice she's been given, it's been pretty clear...she screwed up royally and this is the consequence. I don't think anyone gave Dr. Phil the worship that was describe, some people just quote him because he is pretty much all about plain old common sense. The passive/aggressive slams are as obvious as this OPs pleas asking why is he doing this.
The most telling part of all of this, she asks in her first post, why is he doing this, as in, does he still like me? LOL Yeah, she's over him and just wants to ignore him and move on. Again, I think it's just made up stuff but if it's really happening, she's trying to figure out why he's doing this to know if he still wants her, that's my take after reading her posts. | |
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