| | Imaginary love triangle??Page 3 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | My kinda girl! Fabulous ploy O.P.! You have every right in the world to check out or set up any potential lover to prove himself genuine or a fool.
I've been blessed with a couple of great LTR's but inbetween them what a girl(or guy) can suffer is mind-boggling and I consider the disingenuous free game for any practice you so desire.
Only once or twice like you did I feel the need for a little score settling with someone dishonest who tried very hard to hook me in and it was well worth it. I walked away laughing not crying.
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Posted: 7/16/2012 4:55:18 PM |
The point of me going through all of the rigmarole is to teach this young fool a lesson.
Ambitious project. And after him, who’s next? Gonna clean up POF?
Nobody likes a liar. Learn to cut your losses and move on. Don't be a hater. Nobody likes them either. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:01:19 PM | Why bother? You just barely met. Until you are in a committed relationship where both of you have agreed to be exclusive, he holds no obligation to be tied to one person he just met. Perhaps he just does not feel comfortable talking about his dating/sex life to someone he JUST met.
Now if you had been in a committed relationship for some time, were engaged, or married, hell yes be pissed and raise hell. But you are still getting to know each other, this is a massive waste and pure drama for the sake of drama. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:22:18 PM | Some posters already mentioned this..but if you look at this from his perspective...he probably saw you coming....
thought this would just be a quick lay with a crazy chick...and treated you that way...thinking it was all a game from the moment he met you...as he was playing for Aimee and Dana...or whatever split personality name you are using....
Become the person you want to meet....and you will find you don't have to lie...or get pregnant to keep a guy...which you have proven doesn't work either way. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:37:19 PM | | Before Darlite starts jumping in and disrespecting others maybe it is she that needs to get the Facts!!! The OP profile clearly states that she has 4 children. So let the OP tell her story and answer to the post. If your dying to jump into drama why don't you go scat some up and post it. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:48:32 PM | | Get him to meet Dana for sex and show up. Take a pic of his face. Priceless. lol | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:49:21 PM | | I think so much energy has been wasted. I think its very sad that you do that. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 8:55:20 AM | | Why does it matter if he's talking to someone else when your intent say not looking for a relationship or commitment of any kind? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 10:15:34 AM | | I can't believe ppl are agreeing w what u did. U guys agent even in a relationship. I'd hate to see how u would act then. If u think he'd no good. Just walk away. Geez. The time and energy u wasted. Are u really that bored? Find something to do. If u don't change ur ways now how will u ever have a good relationship? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 10:31:48 AM | | OP, perhaps you need to figure out how to be happy and whole without a man, you'll put out a different vibe and attract a different type of man which would then have you starting off in a different spot rather than returning to the same why am I a crappy-guy magnet moment. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 11:13:47 AM | Facts:
1. Men are very sexual
2. You and he were not exclusive
3. You baited him with the lure of easy no strings sex
4. No matter how much he may have liked you, you sabataged your own chances through 'Dana's's actions.
5. Your insecurities enabled you to create this ploy and sabatage your own chances for happiness.
6. Most people are so busy looking for the integrity and character of others that they fail to maintain their own character.
My gut tells me you are probably the type of woman that projects her insecurities from the start. Analyzing a guy's schedule for any possible flaws that you might beleive he is cheating. Or asking a guy why he likes you, what traits he likes about you on date one. Or analyzing times he texts you thinking he could be up to no good. Point is, we project our own outcomes. If you keep a positive confident approach positive things will happen, and if they don't you'll be able to bounce back more easily. If you keep a suspicious doubting approach, you'll drive even the most faithful man out of your life. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:06:47 PM |
1. Men are very sexual
Nope, you can't use that one anymore, since the fall of patriarchy we all know women are just as sexual as men. We are the other half of the sexual equation, remember? Beside that's a terrible excuse for dishonest behavior, shame on you. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:29:27 PM |
I'm really just a lonely woman who really wants to find that special person.
You must be really lonely or lying to us from the start, to take back a guy who would cheat on you in a second. Doesn't matter how long you were dating, once someone tells you he is exclusive, you have his word. Yikes! You must be playing us not the ficticious boyfriend. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:36:19 PM | I'm sorry, OP, but that's just a totally bizarre decision.
Now you're going overboard in the other direction.
Just because you did some weird stuff to him doesn't mean he's some kind of prince now. You found out who he is through your shenanigans and now you're going to disregard that information?
I know what your next thread is going to be about. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:54:04 PM |
It's always been hard for me to understand the real intentions behind a mans words and/or his actions.
You and just about everyone else on this Earth at one point or another.... 
Seriously though, you think we`re all here because of our incredible talents at discerning other people? I like to think I`d be married...with children! if I was that good at discerning bad apples from good ones.
Point is however, its a good thing you found out about it, but your reaction, albeit very funny and deserving of a 5 star medal in my book, arent very productive at all for you. And your not going to teach him any lesson, your going to make him have a lesser opinion of you for acting in a way that will be perceived as not quite 5 years old (pretending to be a different person, etc....)
Anyways, the fact of the matter is that I shouldn't have done what I've done. I've decided that I am going to leave the fake girl behind and try to reconcile this whole thing. I do like him and although he has no idea of what's going on, he still says he's interested in talking to the real me and seeing me again
Yet this leaves me perplexed. You bust the guy, KNOW he`s a liar and he`s just trying to find a good chick to f*** and your willing to go back with it? I`d stay clear kiddo, because he IS just out for a f***..........his actions prove as much.
I`d say try for someone else, someone who actually lives by what his words say. I know you`ve got better odds of coming first in a marathon race, but life often enough fixes itself up for us on occasion.
I'm really just a lonely woman who really wants to find that special person
I`m the guy version of you. For all my witty remarks and incisive sense of humor, if one were to step inside my skin for 5 seconds they would probably die of sadness at all the loneliness inside....yet I`ve learned not to jump at the first nice smile. Not everyone is really interested in going out with YOU; they are interested in GOING OUT, period. The who for them ultimately doesnt matter. Its up to you to take things slow and find those for whom it DOES matter.
What you see is what you get with me
God, what a quality that is in a woman...if you ever visit Montreal look me up, I`ll marry yo....I mean I`ll buy you some coffee and we can talk  | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:56:42 PM |
While I'm generally not a huge fan of the pro feminist type of fear mongering I tend to see on the forums, I would say this might be a case where you have to take some consideration for your personal safety. You don't know this person very well and, well frankly, getting into a highly emotional confrontation might not be the best play for you. This is a person who could react in all manners of ways, which might include things that extend to, sadly and hopefully not, some type of violence.
I think on a base level for you for your emotional health, it's a good idea to walk away, and in the future, maybe walk away sooner.
I also think, on a level for your personal safety, it's a good idea to also walk away and walk as far away as possible.
Good luck. Well I think.
And I thought you were just some crazy macho chauvinist pro-slavery type woman basher, nice to see you actually have some sense in ya, nice post, I`ll apologise for all the past crap I thrown ya.
DISCLAIMER; this is not an invitation to future women bashing | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 1:19:28 PM | You've already seen where things are going with him. He's lying to you and hitting on other women for sex.
If you keep investing in someone who has shown himself to be a poor investment, why are you surprised you're getting a poor return? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 2:31:01 PM | It is crazy and insane. My male friend did #2 with his now (finally!) ex-g'friend. You'd think at that moment he would have dumped her, but he didn't. She gave him some very convincing bullshot, and HE started questioning himself. She's a sociopath in my humble opinion and he's a relationship addict.
I know it's tempting and juicy but just LEAVE IT ALONE. He'll start calling/texting/emailing/facebooking you. Stay strong. You know his game. Take pieces from it and learn something about human pathology.
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Posted: 7/17/2012 4:37:44 PM | toocoldtobe hot- So you THOUGHT he was a liar and you decided you WOULD lie to catch him in a lie, Did I get that right?
I think I hear pot calling kettle.
Go back to the sandbox, sooooooo immature!
Does anyone have some vodka? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:47:15 PM | | I know sad and lonely very well, and reacting that way always made me end up with losers and liars, why?, because I was a mess, no sane man was going to date me. I attracted like. I did a lot of sit & spin in circles most of my younger adult life, until I got therapy, good therapy, while I was majoring in psychology no less so I could look things up, see how they applied to me and it gave me a background to work with my therapist. But what did the most for me was just giving up trying to be something I wasn't and open up, tell my therapist the truth (hard to do) and letting it all work out. Took me 2 years of intense therapy and a couple of weeks on a mental ward, and it was rough on my kids, but it was all worth it in the end. If only I had done this all before I damaged my kids so much with my insanity, that is a huge regret, if only I'd gotten myself help years before I did, I wouldn't have ruined so many lives. The choice is out there, but it's up to the individual to accept it or go on making the same mistake over & over. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:57:33 PM | A friend of mine in a recovery group used to explain her epiphany like this:
I used to wonder why I kept attracting all these losers...
...Then I realized I wasn't "attracting" them, but I was attracted TO them.
We usually end up fulfilling our own prophecies. But we also don't like to own up to our own responsibility in those self-fulfilling prophecies, so we do whatever we can to pawn it off or sabotage ourselves. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 9:41:42 PM | To OP,
You've gotten a couple master plans already, haha; seem like you are enjoying yourself while planning them too.
Your story is indeed crazy, hahaha!!!
Just make sure you have friends accompanying you, in case the situation gets out of control. :] | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 10:40:01 PM | | OP, You used your instinct and proved yourself right, don't second guess yourself now. Just chalk it up to lesson learned. google the definition "womanizer" it will help you catch red flags early before you waste time on a man that has these characters. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 12:42:32 AM | | Actually don't tell him about the whole Dana thing you did. It looks a little level 3 stalker and is pretty wierd. Just move on. | |
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