| | Imaginary love triangle??Page 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | toocoldtobe hot- So you THOUGHT he was a liar and you decided you WOULD lie to catch him in a lie, Did I get that right?
I think I hear pot calling kettle.
Go back to the sandbox, sooooooo immature!
Does anyone have some vodka? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:47:15 PM | | I know sad and lonely very well, and reacting that way always made me end up with losers and liars, why?, because I was a mess, no sane man was going to date me. I attracted like. I did a lot of sit & spin in circles most of my younger adult life, until I got therapy, good therapy, while I was majoring in psychology no less so I could look things up, see how they applied to me and it gave me a background to work with my therapist. But what did the most for me was just giving up trying to be something I wasn't and open up, tell my therapist the truth (hard to do) and letting it all work out. Took me 2 years of intense therapy and a couple of weeks on a mental ward, and it was rough on my kids, but it was all worth it in the end. If only I had done this all before I damaged my kids so much with my insanity, that is a huge regret, if only I'd gotten myself help years before I did, I wouldn't have ruined so many lives. The choice is out there, but it's up to the individual to accept it or go on making the same mistake over & over. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:57:33 PM | A friend of mine in a recovery group used to explain her epiphany like this:
I used to wonder why I kept attracting all these losers...
...Then I realized I wasn't "attracting" them, but I was attracted TO them.
We usually end up fulfilling our own prophecies. But we also don't like to own up to our own responsibility in those self-fulfilling prophecies, so we do whatever we can to pawn it off or sabotage ourselves. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 9:41:42 PM | To OP,
You've gotten a couple master plans already, haha; seem like you are enjoying yourself while planning them too.
Your story is indeed crazy, hahaha!!!
Just make sure you have friends accompanying you, in case the situation gets out of control. :] | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 10:40:01 PM | | OP, You used your instinct and proved yourself right, don't second guess yourself now. Just chalk it up to lesson learned. google the definition "womanizer" it will help you catch red flags early before you waste time on a man that has these characters. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 12:42:32 AM | | Actually don't tell him about the whole Dana thing you did. It looks a little level 3 stalker and is pretty wierd. Just move on. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 6:22:32 AM |
So my name is Aimee. I met this dude (we'll call him Bobby) on PoF about a month ago.
You know, I've never understood why people change names in the stories they write about here. As if his name was really Tony, and you had used that name, we would all somehow know who the f*ck he was? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 6:39:17 AM | | Pretty sick & twisted on your part. Your in his emotionally unstable category & he told you so. You never had his full attention. Matters little who else he's chatting, taking to or connecting with, imaginary or not, nothing changes that fact. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 6:48:56 AM |
You know, I've never understood why people change names in the stories they write about here. As if his name was really Tony, and you had used that name, we would all somehow know who the f*ck he was?
I was wondering the same thing. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 9:47:41 AM |
What do you guys think?
I think you should tell him that you would like to do a threesome. Tell him that one of your old friends (who is also on POF) is up for it if he is interested. If he says yes, then send him the link to Dana's profile. :-) | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 11:48:23 AM | I apologize if this might have been posted already but have you ever considered that the joke might have been on you, i.e. that he knew (or suspected) that you were behind this and decided to play along to see how far it would go?
OP, you clearly have trust issues. Work on them then re-enter the world of dating. I understand the loneliness, I often feel it as well but I'm not willing to settle for someone I cannot trust or that I'm interested just because he showed interest in me. One month is not enough to build something.
And if you're contemplating continuing to build a relationship with him, I suggest you come clean about Dana. Better that he find out now than later. You snooped on him, you played him, he has a right to know. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 12:59:52 PM |
YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM IS DOPE. GET OFF OF IT.
AMERICA NEEDS CLEAR THINKERS NOW MORE THAN EVER.
LOL Tom, I think you might be overreacting a bit...
While I am not myself 420 friendly, there are tons of people who are and who have kids, and are moe than qualified to take care of them while keeping consumption to a minimum...
We dont know this lady, so we really cant judge. I think her biggest problem isnt the kids or the pot, it's her emotionnal state. But both factors probably dont help it at all either... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 2:18:09 PM | | I AGREE!!! He's a bit radical over the pot. I personally don't participate with the 420 but who am I to act so balistic over it especially since many states have voted to allow certain regulations. I tend to notice that people such this who overreacts about 420 are also the one's that have drinks with dinner, keep alcohol in the frig and cabinets and alcohol is just as dangerous as pot. Maybe they should outlaw both of them and I'm sure there would be less suicides, hit and runs, car accidents, accidental overdoses, teenage alcoholic and drug use, homeless, crime and the list goes on. So now back on topic this lady has her hands full with 4 kids and she's looking for love in all the wrong places. OP I understand that you may feel lonely but until you can feel at peace with yourself you'll NEVER fell happy and at peace along beside someone else. Work on you enjoy your kids then after you are ok with yourself then try dating again but until you'll always feel at odds with whomever your with. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 5:50:06 PM | | Can You say CYBIL with low self esteem? grow up put your kids first, Lord knows what kind of crap you have put them through. Start devoting time to them & them alone until they are adults, then you can have your own time to date. Only thing worse than kids not having both parents under the same roof, is the parents roof they are under having so frequent on & off relationships the kids are exposed to. Scares me to think if your personal relationships are this nuts, your relationships with your kids can not be much if any better ? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 11:17:07 PM | | wow and I thought I had too much time on my hands, the worst i did was read a book! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 6:42:29 PM | I think you are a wacko who needs to grow up and stop playing games.
This isn't Mission Impossible, or some super duper secret squirrel crap...all this planning you're doing..geez
It is you playing games and getting people who you want to play games with.
You've baited this dude..you're weird.
You are getting exactly what you are looking for.
You want to teach someone a lesson..look in the mirror. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 6:44:02 PM |
I think this is one example why POF has such a poor reputation.
Actions like from this wacko, is not the fault of POF. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 8:01:29 PM | Holy Crap! Is life so boring for you to go through all this drama? As soon as you made that fake account you simply told the world and yourself that you like drama. Only a few guys would actually commit to a girl within a month... especially that you guys live in different towns. LDRs take a lot longer to build trust and commitment and if you soo needed to figure out this guy u played your 'drama' card way too soon. Also... did u not just say that u guys arent exclusive? Do u think this guy talks to u the same way he talks to his boys or his other female friends.
Maybe he was being real with you and just playing aroun with the random drama queen u made up. Now u don't know what to believe and u're forever gonna be testing him. Drop him... for his sake. Cuz u already f*ed it up. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 5:59:56 PM | | OP, I don't think you are a bad person, otherwise you wouldn't have accepted the fact that what you were trying to do was self-centered and counter-productive. Loneliness and frustration can bring out the worst in a person, make them do things they wouldn't normally do but the fact that you can easily see what others have pointed out to you is a good first step. You are a beautiful girl so you will have no problem finding someone when the timing is right so don't force it. Let it come to you.... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 6:19:15 PM |
You need to stop looking at every first meet or handful of texts like it is the beginning of something huge. It is just a cup of coffee or a walk in the park....nothing more. you may decide after 2-3 meets you don't even like the guy. Expect that to happen 99% of the time. Not everyone is a match for you.
Yes! Well said!
Now OP, you obviously had way to much time to think and act this through. Your plan was bent on proving that he was lying to you. Well, you got your answer. What would you have done if he hadn't? Would you have told him of your plan and how you can "now trust him" because he didn't take the bait?
Just walk away. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 7:50:57 PM |
He tells me that I have trust issues because I don't believe him. Which I didn't because I knew better.
So right off the bat, when you barely know the guy, you already accused him of being a liar. Even though you still like the guy and want to have a relationship with him, he's not going to stick around when you are already putting him down from the beginning and he could probably tell that you are a little wacko anyways. Even if you don't tell him about your psycho scheme, at some point the truth has a way of coming out: a slip-up here and there. As far as I'm concerned, the guy did nothing wrong. You two weren't in an exclusive relationship-you barely knew each other and only met once-so his love life with other women at that point is none of your business and he has a right not to tell you.
OP: you say you won't ever try this scheme again. Call it men's intuition, but I don't believe you. You haven't done anything to resolve your trust issues. Until you get professional help and have a lot of therapy to deal with your inner demons, anything you say has little or no value. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 8:26:51 PM | | i used to do that stuff when i was single just like you did. as for me, i am the kind of person who gets even whenever i can because i believe in karma an eye for an eye attitude. i have proved my point doing it and also backfired on me leaving me with guys stalking me all the time. u proved bobby is a loser and a hoe yet he claims he wants to hook up with u. i would just tell him u r not interested anymore and move on. i did this to guys i met in the past using fake profiles and it proved my point too i told him what i did and yes it got ugly and blocked them. | |
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