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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/17/2012 6:43:05 PM | | Haha, got another message from him tonight asking if I would ever meet him. This is like, #6. He actually added this time "I know it's weird since I just popped up out of nowhere" so at least he knows his behaviour is strange. Anyway, haven't decided yet on the meet/not meet. lol. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/17/2012 7:25:14 PM | ^^^^^^^
i think you should tell him sure i will meet up with you go ahead an set up a day an time an then 15mins before your suppose to meet up how bout you come up with some flakey excuse like oh im sorry i just remebered that i have to be up early in the morning to take my dog to the vet so im going to have to call it an early nite..
or do what some guys do just dissapear an when or if he tries to contact you ignore him or pop up weeks later contacting him an say ohhhh awww im so sorry but something major came up..
hey nothing wrong with giving him a bit of his doo doo back to him..
my experience has been that first or second meets if the person flakes out with something lame or so life threating all of a sudden..likely they will do it again on the second or 3rd set up for a meet..why they keep wanting second an 3rd chances is beyond me..
but like a few other posters noted likely this guy has or had another woman who was or had been in the picture for awhile sounds like now shes dumped him or long gone now he's trying to pick up any trail he can right now..
ask him directly why he picked this time to pop back up...say whats wrong she left ya high an dry?? | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/17/2012 7:50:58 PM | Hahaha, that girl, I love your comments.
I was thinking of stalling him by telling him I'd accidentally dyed my hair green, but I decided to tell him I might meet him sometime soon but did not yet know my schedule. :P | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/17/2012 8:51:41 PM | | Btw, I just blocked him on facebook. He started internet-yelling at me for "ignoring him" after HE cancelled our date. Umm, I assumed he wasn't interested because he DIDN'T COME TO OUR DATE. Any fool would assume that! I guess I should have begged and pleaded him to give me another chance or something?! Sorry, you're not that wonderful, dude. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/17/2012 9:26:44 PM | SOME men can be such drama queens an b itches at times
low an behold when a woman starts giving them the s hitty treatment that they have been giving out to others then my God all of a sudden its the end of the world an how dare you treat them like that..
really dude?? so ya mean to tell me its not fair to throw crap an sand back in your face but it's ok to treat women like that all the time then when you get it back or she goes off on you shes either labeled "crazy" "scorned" "childish" or its not fair for her to treat you like that..LOL dam HYPOCRITES.. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:58:32 AM | It has the words..
'your the last resort' written all over it.
He only contacted you again because he had no one else and he's horny. End of story.
He probaly got dumped by someone, and healing his bruised ego by contacting you again.
I had a guy that would do that. Every couple of months would contact me for slutty pictures...Instead of sending them, i'd point out 'so your single again are you?'...Yup....that was it.
Don't fall for it. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 10:28:32 AM | I see that he turned out to be an idiot and you had to block him from FB etc so I guess the point is moot.
But I think the advice in this thread is very, very bad.
Meeting a guy for coffee costs $3 max and 30 minutes of your time. If everything falls apart, you at least get a good story. It's almost always worth it to meet even if there's like a 5% chance that it might work out.
So you probably shoulda just met him. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 1:18:59 PM | | You have nothing to lose by just setting up another date, but at the same time it is likely he will probably flake out again but be indecisive to the point that you won't even want to meet up. That is my experience. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 3:56:23 PM | lol i had this problem in the past way too much. so much drama worthless fools who didnt know how to prioritize and expected you to kiss their ass and do what they want when they want. a guy i met on yahoo chat long ago, contacted me not knowing im a relationship asking me if i wanted to meet him and his wife?! lmao i said i stopped talking to u for a reason and he said im sorry but i had issues back then i said you dont just disappear and not tell anyone whats going on yada yada. i remember who he was and told him im in a relationship i do not waste my time on ppl who cant keep their word etc and it blew up into a big fight.
then he started bringing up shit about me in the past, i said i moved on why can't you? he said we can all get together lmao i said what part r u not getting? i dont care i have no interest/use in you anymore if ppl in life can not keep their word on anything and you reappear months or years later, what else could you be hiding/lying about? if you can not face someone as to what is going on then ur not much of an adult imo. he got quiet when i said that then he proceeded to get angrier and angrier telling me who do i think i am etc? he threw in shit about my life i said ive acknowledged years ago that my life is still not where it should be and would like to improve as i dont disappear and reappear back to ppl months or yrs later like you do.
yea, it was a huge mess with that conversation. too many ppl have done that to me i have no time in them. i wouldnt call/txt him at all drop him move on he has time for u or anyone in his life - friends or family. if ppl are not interested in dating and do this disappear/reappear act then they should just say i have no interest in anything in life then it would make everybody's lives much better and we can weed out the fools better. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 4:54:10 PM | Sounds like he broke up with his current squeeze and is looking for a place to 'put it'
Glad you blocked him on facebook, make sure you have your privacy settings on and that only 'friends' can see your activity (he can always create a new account and monitor you if your account is open to anyone to see)
Keep fishin | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 5:39:05 PM | It's hard to argue that this particular guy seems like a bit of a dud, but at the same time, I agree with whoever said that these forms tend to be very quick to recommend the harshest measures. I've only been here a few days and the culture really seems to be one of fault-finding and knee-jerk negativity.
I guess I'm in the minority here, but I believe that you don't owe a damn thing to somebody with whom you've exchanged a few measly e-mails or text messages. Of course, it is very courteous to be open and forthright all the time, but I just don't think you're obligated to do so with a complete stranger you've never met. Since both parties are presumably full grown adults, they've read the fine print and understand that "flaking" always has been and always will be a part of dating, even more so in the rapid-fire world of online dating. This has happened to me several times, and I just walk it off.
Who cares if so and so chose to pursue some other option instead of you? Really what he did was decide to chase profile A over profile B--not person A over person B. Maybe if you meet that person for real, they will be won over by your real-world self, and none of this petty crap will matter. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 7:40:27 PM | | Hey dating sites are a buffet of single and non-single people. Sounds like you were looking edible but then something more appetizing messaged or caught his attention. I cannot confirm or deny if I have ever been guilty of such behavior but it does happen. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 8:00:41 PM | | For the person who asked, my facebook profile privacy settings are friends only. I also see this guy has closed his account down on here. I'm not sure when that happened though as we'd been talking on facebook and not here for quite awhile. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/18/2012 8:38:39 PM | It has the words..
'your the last resort' written all over it.
He only contacted you again because he had no one else and he's horny. End of story.
He probaly got dumped by someone, and healing his bruised ego by contacting you again.
I had a guy that would do that. Every couple of months would contact me for slutty pictures...Instead of sending them, i'd point out 'so your single again are you?'...Yup....that was it.
Don't fall for it.
Spot on! Oldhag's right on the money as usual!
I suppose I should be ashamed to admit that I've done this a few times myself. And it all originates from chatting and arranging to meet a woman who I really wasn't interested in meeting in the first place - so then I calll off at the last minute and don't meet her. Used every excuse in the book and told them I'll rearrange, but I don't.
A few months later I'm horny, see them on-line and contact them again - I don't ever beg though. And it's amazing the amount of women, who after a bit of gentle persuasion, will agree to meet again...and most of the time I call off again!
PS; Oldhag - I would NEVER cancel on you - not even the first date...any chance you could forward me some of those slutty pictures? XXXX | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/19/2012 10:06:06 AM | | Yes. The excuses, may lame & bogus, are why I no longer entertain their BS. Dude flaked out first because his car, now it was his finances & next the dog will eat the direction to the meeting spot. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/19/2012 11:13:33 AM | I would never meet anyone under the veil of "giving him a chance".
This sets a terrible imbalance for you both.
Whether he is lying or not, it doesn't matter.
Don't let your ego enjoy the prospect of being "on top" and have him run circles to win you over.
If he ever does gain your affection, he will start resenting you for the circle running he has been doing.
You can (and will) do better than this. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/19/2012 4:39:31 PM |
and you are the reason why the rest of us MEN look like dogs. good going champ!
Oh dear, sounds like someone's having trouble getting dates on here...
Hey listen, don't blame me if you and the rest of the so called "men" on here, are being mistaken for dogs. If the majority of you were to exercise some honesty once in a while instead of trying to portray the NICE GUY all the time, you'd get on a lot better in the internet dating world. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/19/2012 4:42:25 PM | His behaviour is over the top and sounds like he was with other women but is now looking for more. I would not bother with him. He may have been in a relationship that has now ended. He is really stalking you and is being too full on as you have not even met I am presuming.
What is with the Facebook thing? He is not a friend, he is a stranger really.
. Too many other fish in the sea to bother with a guy that I feel is a flake but up to you. If someone cancels so soon before a date it is usually for someone else. He is an idiot to think that you would be interested after that behaviour or he doesnt remember the circumstances. | |
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| Flakes out, but begs for another date months later?
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:39:01 PM | | Ugh, he is so annoying. He just made a new account on facebook because I blocked him on the old one, and he only added me and another girl (maybe another love interest of his). He just sent me an apology note saying he's a d*ck.The worst part is it says I added him, and he accepted.. I definitely did not.. is he some sort of hacker?! | |
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