| | Getting more rigid the older you get?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Not really more rigid, maybe a little bit set in my ways but I can live with it. I'm training for a marathon in October so my life is a bit regimented with running, cross training, sleep and different eating habits. I know that if I deviate too much from my eating habits or sleep pattern I'll pay in the end (i.e. can't party on Saturday evenings, I get up at 6 on Sunday mornings to go running at 8:30 am).
So yes, I have my little habits but I'm ok with that. I don't expect everyone to like it :) | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:07:19 PM | I can tell there's a natural tendency to get more rigid. But I'm not too rigid because I'm active, and that means physically and mentally, and thinking about consequences of my actions (am I a horrible bore etc), and keeping humor alive.
All of that prevents you from falling into a routine, a tunnel in terms of ideas, attitudes etc... a vicious cycle, etc.
You remain fun and capable of relaxing just like when you were a kid.
I still enjoy cartoons, humor and acting silly. So I guess I'm doing ok. Indicates I'm not rusty... People who are overloaded with responsibilities and stress, and tough times, may develop into more cynical, jaded, disillusioned people with no tolerance for frivolities. | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/19/2012 6:29:14 PM | | Pfif, if "detailed advanced preparation" is a rigid habit, then color me rigid in that respect. I have packing lists saved in Word for almost every kind of trip: biking vacation, hiking vacation, pleasure, business, etc. Having a standard list for that kind of stuff is a huge time- and memory-saver. | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/19/2012 9:43:59 PM | If a guy has all that, mjinict I would put up with a lot. If he rigid and doesnt like change, then just need to adjust if you care for him a lot. You cant change people and shouldnt try. If you wont go along with him, he will find someone who will.
As we get older we know more of what we want and like and wont settle for second best I would say. We are more assertive and sure, more set in our ways perhaps. Some people like the comfort of a routine and the familiar and others are more flexible and adventurous. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 10:26:04 PM | | It's kind of comforting actually knowing what he's up to. At my age, I think it's a small price having the other qualities. Not a deal breaker at all. | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/20/2012 12:49:24 AM | Responding to the original post by the OP.
It sounds to me that your gal pal is not rigid but more that she has changed to a more healthy lifestyle.
As far as you being rigid - that to me sounds more like forgetful, not rigid.
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In response to the 'subject' of the thread: I personally don't put up with as much as I did when I was younger. When I was younger I wasn't as outspoken as I am now. I was pretty shy so I just went with the flow and was more of a follower then. I don't know if that means I'm more rigid or just less tolerant or less accommodating because I'm more confident and I am more aware of what I want out of life and what I won't tolerate so I don't feel the need to do what everyone wants and do more of what I want to do. I guess that could be called rigid but I just figure I just don't want to waste my time doing things I don't enjoy or want to do because life seems more precious as I get older - not gonna be here forever. At the same time, I do enjoy spending time with friends/family so I am flexible in the sense that I don't have to do only the things I like or I wouldn't get to see my friends/family if I didn't try some of their things too. Besides, I enjoy learning/doing new things. It all seems to work out.
Edit: I noticed later that the OP later mentions lists - to me that just means you are organized. Perhaps you are not rigid but just more organized as you matured and gained experience on how to handle things in your life? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 3:07:37 AM | I think this is a "point of view" thing.
Is a person who tries things until they find what they like, 'becoming more rigid,' or are they 'keeping what works, and discarding what doesn't?'
When I was a baby, I remember clearly that I had to conduct a series of experiments to figure out what this gravity thing was all about, and how I could use it to get what I wanted out of life. I don't do near as many gravity experiments now (on purpose), because I've got that sector pretty well mapped out.
In relating to women, when I was a teen, I gave time to absolutely any female who I found to be remotely structurally attractive to me. After a series of experiments, I was able to determine that a long list of personality traits and personal habits in them or in me, would invariably result in my having an EXTREMELY unpleasant emotional experience, or in my getting discarded within seconds of making an approach.
Am I 'rigid' because my memory still works, and I learn from my experiences? Am I 'flexible' because I refuse to learn, or because I am completely mystified every tie the same thing goes wring in my life over and over? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 4:45:01 AM | I think it depends on alot of factors...one being personality traits..for one, i like change..i like challenges..i'm good at multitasking and routines bore me to death. Alot depends on how long you have been on your own w/o a sign. other too.Have i "lost' my cell phone temporaily..sure and panicked..of course..searching my car..the garage..my office, the last bar i was in..etc..I run 3 different companies out of my house, am on 2 boards, have a new puppy,love socializing, etc..so my lifestyle has to be very flexible.
It sounds like your friend has been 'alone' for a long time..she may also be OCD..as i've seen that expressed in the ways you have described. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 4:57:39 AM | | My friend may have OCD-like tendencies, but she doesn't exhibit the more extreme OCD repetitive behaviors. I think it's just that she likes things "just so" and doesn't want them any other way. In which case, other people have to bend around her, because she won't go out of her comfort zone. She isn't alone but is married to a guy who commutes to Chicago for work and travels a lot....so she may as well be alone. Well, with her 3 dogs. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 7:46:52 AM | I am easy going and flexible and ready for an adventure. There are only a few must haves - good toilet paper, Heinz ketsup, Kraft Miracle Whip and I prefer to sleep on "my" side of the bed. The rest is negotiable and not a huge deal. I don't need a 5 star, just clean sheets and a decent meal and I'm good to go. If he has a hobby or interest that I don't share, I have more than enough to occupy myself and I'd hope he'd be the same way.
So nope, not really set in my ways and not rigid. Go with the flow or do my own thing...easy. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 11:00:27 AM | Are you more rigid? About what? If not, to what do you attribute your persistent flexibility?
I'm more rigid in the things I consider important - honesty, communication, loyalty, consideration, respect. I have learned, without these, a relationship is going nowhere fast. But the other details, I now view just as that - details. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 2:27:44 PM | | You can start by..wear a wrist braclet with a tracker on it..it will send a signal to your keys and make a weird noise for you to locate them. One problem over. Without getting to twisted about being rigid..you can find games on the internet or hand held units that help you activate/enhance you mental awareness. Problem two over ! Having a more pain as we all get more mature(not me ) is normal. You need to stretch more..and make sure your doing it right..see your doctor . Working with weights ,staying more flexible ,eating properly and make sure your taking all the vitamins/minerals you need. Many people over look that ..and find cramped muscles in places you didn't know that could cramp ! And stay away from " sunscreen " till you used up your supply at home! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 3:54:48 PM | | Hmmm . . . I don't look at my inflexibility on some issues as becoming more rigid but as my refusal to do things I never wanted to do and don't have to do anymore. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 7:03:26 PM | | More than when I was younger but I am not near as much fun nor do I have as much fun as when I was younger. BUT the plus side is I am not near as unhappy as when I was younger. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 7:04:11 PM | Well, I may get more rigid I just cried watching John Robbins videos on youtube of how animals get slaughtered etc.
I'm just about ready to jump onto the vegetarian ship! | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/20/2012 7:30:42 PM | ^^ I hear you. I'd like to date Crazy Vegan Lady, and take the pledge.
I have significant trouble getting myself fed (not money, but the whole
food procurement/cooking cycle is just too big a time budget, and there
are savants out there who seem to do it so much better than I).
One of the very few areas in which I'm totally lost, without a partner. I do
manage. It's as not effective (and ethical) as I'd like it to be. I need the
example to follow -- daily. I really do.
ScottishHouston: Fun is over-rated, I believe. A person isn't fun;
they have fun. Sometimes.
A hard rain's a-gonna fall. | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/23/2012 6:15:20 AM | I am less tolerant of those that don't share my religious or political beliefs. I've heard it all and don't want to discuss it anymore.
As others have said, I am more rigid with my dealbreakers but more open with everything else. I love to try new things and the best way to do that is with an experienced companion. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 9:17:19 PM | I've just slowed down a lot and became an extreme homebody. I used to be compelled to go out ~ very restless.
Now I have a hard time getting motivated to venture out | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/26/2012 1:25:04 PM | | As others have said, I'm more rigid when it comes to my tolerance of other people's BS, but less rigid when it comes to life in general. The older I get, the more I want to experience new foods, new music, new places, new interests. No rigidity there. But, the older I get the less I want to deal with people who are needy, negative, and annoying, and I tend to write them off quickly. I also tend to write off people that are too rigid about food, music, places, and interests ;-) | |
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| Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/26/2012 2:07:24 PM | "But, the older I get the less I want to deal with people who are needy, negative, and annoying, and I tend to write them off quickly. I also tend to write off people that are too rigid about food, music, places, and interests ;-) "
Agree totally. | |
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