| | Vanilla Sites vs. Adult SitesPage 2 of 2 (1, 2) | OP,
Another thing I can tell you, from personal experience, in fact, that once guys post a profile on those adult dating sites, and come to the realization that they have little chance of actually meeting a woman through it, logging into the site and trading stories and observations with other members becomes an amusing form of time-wasting. I'd guess a lot of the attention you received at that other site was like that.
And, so far as I'm concerned, the POF forums are pretty much the same kind of time-wasting, just a little less explicit. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 9:50:33 AM | Anytime men think they're going to get any kind of cheap sexual thrill, they're RIGHT there. Talk about sex and play to the mouth-breathing male masses, and that's what you'll get. Neanderthals writing to you about what they want to do to you is not romantic interest; if that type of "interest" is flattering, then you're a better woman than I because I sure don't. It was nothing more than spank material to most of those cretins - and they were probably typing to you with one hand. Blech.
These guys could say whatever they wanted to you because they were miles away and they didn' t have to put their money were their keyboards were. I'm sure plenty of them acted as though they'd be with you "in a New York minute if you just weren't so far away." What crap. No doubt, 98% of them probably had a wife a few feet away out in the kitchen cooking their dinner while the buttmunch was acting like an idiot out at a sex site on his computer, making promises he couldn't keep.
That type of "interest" is hardly the thing dreams are made of. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 5:54:47 AM | It means they want to have sex with you but don't want to introduce you to friends or family....
It's a bit of a reverse situation: Most men will be more successful finding a relationship than getting laid. Most women will be more successful getting laid than finding a relationship, regardless of intent...Why? Because we own the ****, lol.
Just a generalization I know but from experience, I'm pretty sure that's how it goes... | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 3:37:05 PM | Many of the men on vanilla sites are on Adult Friend Finder- w/ their vanilla pic up! Some just want to get laid & have a hard time doing it on traditional sites, whereas some are sex addicts & need a constant stream of NEW sex partners & many of them...so they will email many women. Also, when on a pay site, they want their money's worth & will work harder, than on a free site when they can email a woman any ole day.
Sometimes I think a sex site may be more HONEST than a dating site...and from what a friend told me, at least they buy you dinner! LMFAO! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 3:44:37 PM |
Sometimes I think a sex site may be more HONEST than a dating site...and from what a friend told me, at least they buy you dinner! LMFAO!
Your friend has a valid point. (About the HONEST part, not so much about the dinner part....LOL)  | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 9:46:00 AM | BLoNde_ANgeL,
Many of the men on vanilla sites are on Adult Friend Finder- w/ their vanilla pics up!"
So I take it that you've spent a fair amount of time cruising AFF to gain your insights into what motivates men to post profiles there? | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 12:34:24 PM | | YOU are definitely right!!! I have had better luck at finding men who were open about their intentions and a lot were actually open to a LTR ... just not my type. :( | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 6:43:30 PM | I too, had a profile on an adult website when I was going through a time in my life where I wanted to experiment and have "fun". After awhile it got old and the men on there that I actually did meet in person were only one dimensional with nothing else on their mind but the mattress mambo. It was fun in the beginning but after awhile it got to be where I didn't like the way I was treated. I go on there every now and then just for the forums (I have some friends on there) but I tend to stay away.
I never took my profile down so some of the guys on here are also on that site and will say something to me about being on the other website. I try to explan I don't go on there very much, maybe once in a blue moon but they think it's ok to talk sex and junk to me on here. I also dated two guys on here who had profiles on the adult websites as well. I've found that , as a general rule, the same guys on the adult website and on here will treat the women the same way. Like crap. They say they are looking for a relationship but they're not. Just looking for sex.
I feel as a general rule, people should just be honest about what they are really wanting. If you want to just hook up or some meaningless sex just say so. If you are really looking for a relationship then you should say that as well. It's a shame so many "adults" have to play games. I would expect this type of behavior from teenagers or even 20-somethings but guys my age playing these types of games just makes them look stupid and pathetic. Unfortunately, in my experience, guys do this on here as well as the "adult" sites. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 7:18:19 PM | I kind of think of the two types of sites the following way.
The guys on an adult site want sex. Straight up and they are honest about it. It is honestly kinda liberating to know that when you are hit on, it is for the one thing only.
Alot of the guys here want sex only, however they are hiding behind wanting a LTR to add notches to their belts. Once they get what they want they move on. I had one of my dates from here tell me that there is a three date rule here on PoF. If he didn't get laid in three dates then it was time to move on. I asked how long the relationships lasted when he did get the sex right away and it was counted in months, not years. I don't think he had ever had someone ask him that question which actually was kinda funny.
It is weeding through these guys to find the next type of guy that most of the women here are looking for and when you find him girls keep him happy. You finally have the sliver of guys here that are seriously looking for a relationship. The problem being is that they are in the minority. Do they still want sex? Absolutely. If we are honest we all do, men and women alike. However they understand that for the right one they might have to hold off and get to know her as a person first. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 7:24:44 PM | | I think you should message more men on a site like this, those that live near you. Maybe you do, or maybe the "rules" such that women shouldn't approach men are hard to bypass. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2012 9:27:42 AM | | You are ABSOLUTELY right. I have seen some of the same men on both sites. They are just more aggressive on the sex site. If they get an ounce of enthusiasm that you are open to that type of behavior .. or talk .. it is ON though. They only want one thing .. for the most part. The small percentage of men who are actually looking for a lasting relationship is getting smaller and smaller. | |
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