| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 7/31/2005 4:05:42 PM | I meet people everywhere, they just come up and talk to me. Of course most are babbling incoherently but hey I'm not picky.....
Seriously, when I am relaxed and open I tend to meet women in whatever environment I am in, whether a bar or the grocery store. If I am tense and 'on the look out' I meet nobody. So much about meeting people is about the energy you put out. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 7/31/2005 4:24:31 PM | I've met more girls at the club than anywhere else. But of course that's because I work there. lol
I would have to say there is no good place to really meet them. At least in my experience. It's all blind luck really. I'm not the type who fires off like a shotgun, trying to hit on every girl in the place and hope to get lucky, so popular social gathering places don't do much for me.
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 4:15:46 AM | You don't have to drink just because you're at a bar. I've gone a few times to bars and didn't drink on those days I went. That's usually the only meeting place to find people and the good looking women or men. Unless you want someone who isn't, then go to the grocery store, I don't know. Just my opinion, babe...
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 9:36:44 AM | Mike;
I'm surprised no one has said 'church'--- kidding. I understand the problem , as I do not drink--- nor do I care to be around people that are drinking. I HATE bar rooms. They smell, and one has to deal with a room full of drunks. No thank you very much. That doesn't leave a guy with much else, at night anyway. You can only go and eat dinner once a night.
If one goes to the same all night drugstore, grocery or whatever frequently enough, then the employees start wondering about you. If you take prescription drugs, like I do, then stagger out the time for refills, and you can go to the drug store frequently during the month. Women LOVE to peruse the makeup counter in Walgreens. haha I don't.
During the day, a really nice gun shop :-) That way, one can find out if the woman is serious about being an American :-) Met my late wife at a handgun training class I taught years ago in a college near here. I suppose I should do it again.
I really get a kick out of the ones that suggest the gym. haha. Yeah, the gym is great for the up to thirty something people that are obsessed with looking like Ken and Barbie. Real people seldom use the gym, as it is a LOT cheaper to buy a Weider machine and use it at home. Also, it's ok to sweat and breath hard at the house. It is frowned upon by the Bimbos and Bimbettes at the gym. Here in my part of Florida, we have what is called "rails to trails", where the counties and State, condemmed old rail road beds, and turned them into 'green friendly' bicycle paths. Not a bad deal, unless you owned the land. If you are into bicycling, might not be a bad bet if that is available in your area.
As has been written in these forums, and to be quite honest I'd simply forgotten it over the years: Just go about your daily routine, doing what you 'like' to do, and when the time is correct, she will appear. At least if I meet a woman at the shooting range, she probably will not be an anti gun Socialist. They usually do not like to go where people can fight back. Supposedly. I guess we are all guilty of trying to hurry up the process, via the internet.
This is one gigantic shortcut to marital bliss? or whatever. I wish you well, bro. It's tough on us all who are not bar flies. | |
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Carri3
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 1:05:55 PM | Well, i work at home depot and someone on the first page mentioned that it would be a place to meet. I got a job there just to check out all the guys LOL. just kidding, but i do work there. I usually find though that guys are only interested in pulling my hair at work (yes my hair's long), but no phone numbers out of it so far lol.. I think i'm going to charge a phone number per pull lol
I find theres a lot of great guys in the store, so all you male customers dont be shy! Ask us cashiers out! | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 3:47:54 PM | I'd be willing to hang out in bar if people actually went to meet! Places I have gone for a drink were either local pubs where the married alcoholics hang out, way too young or college crowds or way too old. Never met anyone at the grocery store either, but I have heard of people meeting in book stores. I found that since internet dating became so popular, people don't venture out very much anymore.
Good luck and when you find get some really good suggestions..............please pass them on. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 5:58:26 PM | When trolling outside of divorce court waiting for potential mates fails ya, these might be good alternatives:
adopt a pet: Not only do you get a lifelong companion, but the chance to meet a new one. Walking around the park with a goldfish and a frisbee is a great icebreaker.
join a book club: Gives you the opportunity to meet people whose vocabulary goes beyond "My alien baby is Elvis' love child" and "Love affair with bigfoot ends in tears". But if you don't read much yourself, then try the next one.
take dance lessons: If you have two left feet, find someone with two right feet and next thing you know you'll be flowing around the dance floor together. Most dance studios have liquor-free socials and plenty of dateless singles. Not to mention a few married ones, if you're into a quick fling thing.
and of course there's always prison visiting hours. After all, they can't really run away from you now can they? | |
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Carri3
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:27:42 PM | Bars? I'd rather meet someone at Mars at this time of my life  Actually, bars came in handy about 17 years ago, right after my divorce. Not so much to meet someone, but happy hours, they always have free food. I didn't want to have to cook for myself. I'd always tell the****ail person to come back later as I was waiting for someone. Never would buy a drink, I ran that scam for about 3 years.
You never known when you might meet someone, it always happens when you least expect it. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/20/2005 8:37:26 PM | | one guy once told me that in the town where he lived (upstate NY) they actually had a monthly singles gathering once every 2 months at the town hall....this is a small town of about 20k pple......some pple knew each other but many didn't and that how he met his wife after 3 or 4 gatherings!......don't have anything like it where i'm living! | |
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Carri3
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/21/2005 4:57:17 AM | Well out here, people put together singles get-togethers through this site and its an open invite. I think thats a great place for people to meet other people and mingle, and who knows who you might meet.
sum1reel -> Maybe put a thread up and see if anyone in your area might be interested in a party? If theres a good show of hands then set something up? Just a thought. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 8/21/2005 9:49:56 AM | There are dance clubs if you like to dance, though i really suggest you at least drink aqua!
Clubs (like hobby/interest clubs).
You could go to a pool hall, too. Play pool all night, nurse yerself a soda!
Many many options. Sport events, Malls (although, meeting a woman there is a CLEAR sign that she likes to shop and may give er the not so true sign that YOU like to shop), beaches. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 5/29/2006 5:18:05 PM | There really aren't any 'parks' here, unless you count the Rio Grande Bosque, the rest are just little patches of burnt grass that are often used as receptacles of,umh, health hazard type trash.....
One fairly attractive lady on a bike asked me today if my dog was a 'real wolf' (he's a Husky), and another one, jogging with her dog, pointed at him and kinda whispered 'gorgeous'.....
I have made a good amount of 'girl friends' at the skating rink, problem being that the vast majority of them are under 15 or over 50.......
Or very married or not attractive.
Dance classes are EXPENSIVE!!!!!
You'll think you're taking advanced rocket science or something at that price.
So far, I'm a little ambivalent about the prospects there, the one 'party' of theirs I went to kinda felt weird, since it's supposed to be 'practice' and the ladies can't really say no when you ask them to dance.
Felt like a cruise ship, complete with the 80-year olds made up to resemble some mummified version of Marilyn Monroe.
All the attractive girls either work there or attended class before the 'party' and were waiting for their real life beaus to join them for the 'party'.
And judging from what I've seen in the bars here, I'm gonna have to learn how to 2-step....
Yeeeehaaaawwww!! | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:43:06 PM | Try large social gatherings (i.e., pre-screening for a movie coming out shortly) for something you like. It may even lead to other such gatherings. not only will you meet new potential interests you may make new friends who may help introduce you to them. If nothing else you get out of the house and have some fun which never hurts either.
Online has been hit or miss with me. With a few exceptions so far online dating sites have mostly resulted in new friends rather than new relationships. I'm hardly complaining, with my previous record of assignments they've proven useful for forming new social groups. But if hard-core looking for a date I wouldn't rely on them too much. Plus too many are getting greedy and making insane content restrictions unless you pay $100/month or something. Yay PoF! lol
Basically try to get out and do something. If you're shy try finding an online site/forum for something you're interested in that has local monthly meetups and start there.
Personally if I go to bars or clubs I'm there to 1)get out of the house to watch a game or something or 2)make a fool of myself dancing around people I'll likely never see again, etc etc. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:51:23 PM | I have noticed a couple of comments, unfortunately mostly from guys, focusing on only 'attractive' women. If you mean attractive as in to you, i.e. your type, understandable. If you mean you're only looking for America's Next Top Model that might be part of the problem.
Wolfie, I would definitely recommend the 2-step venture. Heck, even just line dancing (easier to learn and a bit more fun at times if not dead-set on hooking up). One thing that does often seem to hold (and ladies feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) is women like a guy who's at least willing to try and dance. The ratio for line dancing often seems to be at least 4-1 women to men, and often you'll end up out there with a number of the same ones so you might end up hitting it off on the floor then talking off instead of vice versa. You just have to be willing to swallow some pride if you're the only guy out there, but that's not always a bad ego check either. | |
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| Where do Ya meet people when you don't drink , or hang in bars?
Posted: 10/19/2009 9:56:10 PM | BrummelBrow: It probably isn't helping no. If you're tense it often shows in body language and/or other behavior and women will likely pick up on it. I think that's why the phrase "just be yourself" is so popular, aside from the obvious reason of not trying to fool someone who'll find out the truth eventually anyway.
If you're being yourself you're more likely to be relaxed. Then not only should you be having more fun but others will pick up on that and possibly find it inviting to talk to you and join the fun. I'm often the quiet type so I used to try and force conversations, etc. It rarely worked out more than a couple of brief exchanges. Now I just keep quiet, make occasional casual chat and occasionally get into a conversation. It's interesting how many times some of those conversations wound up lasting half the night, and depending ended with a phone number &/or e-mail address.
Just let it happen as it'll happen, if you have to force it for someone to notice you it probably won't work out anyway. | |
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