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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/24/2012 4:59:53 PM |
Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Both... in one package, mind you. I want a real relationship with someone I'm sexually compatible with. There's no either/or in a healthy relationship. I learned that the hard way.
What keeps you coming back to POF?
I don't have much of a social circle in real life, at least one with an abundance of available women in it, or even some wingmen to go and hang out in the fray with... so online dating is one of the better options (unfortunately) where I MIGHT encounter an interested party if the stars align.
and are you getting your needs met ?
Are you serious? I suck so bad at this... LOL! I've messaged about 500 - 600 women (maybe more) over the last 10+ months and I've not had a single reply that wasn't a one word answer / blow-off. I've had two dates, both messaged me first. One wasn't interested in me, the other I just wasn't attracted to. I think my profile gets viewed about once a month.
Do you really make new friends offline that you met online?
A few... but from REAL forums (not here) and shit, and through existing friends on social media outlets. Here is for dating, you know going out with the opposite sex for romantic trajectories. More should actually use it that way. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/24/2012 6:41:24 PM | Came here because of being told that there was a thinking woman curious about me behind every advanced search. But I was seriously misinformed!@!@!@!@!@@!
More seriously, there are some very damaged if not down to the pavement shoddy people haunting this url of OZ. Same is true outside the net, but free sites have attractions to the ruthless hunters out for the sport. The advantage of a huge, free site is to sort though a great number of people very quickly whenever. Use the profile searches well, and there are many tricks to that, and new users (more likely to be some one who has not found another) in your area.
It is a mixed bag even considering dating long distance, even for those who have speciality interests. But consider the implications of the wider net: A) finding a compatible mate is the first or second most important road to success in life and so is worth the troubles. B) It is a lot more fun with some one who thinks like you do, or fits your gaps and generally helps both parties grow. These are also essentials in today's modern world. It is true that there are cultures and subcultures around even in Asia, Europe, and even the Americas where the average guy is perfectly happy til death do part with one of three girls in the street. (Not so sure about the female side of the equation, as these cultures tend to be male dominated.) They tend to be poor in economy, though. These are never in the big city where ever the culture or economic status. In short, it pays to shop around, and what better way to do it except by way of hundreds of thousands of entries to chose from? C) Do it in the proper way, especially if you have something that is in high demand, a ready real time and huge audience is at beck and call. Then the difficulty is for gently pruning away, for those who are not into the ego trip or free for all bait and switch or fooled you routine.
Answering your question more clearly, yes, I have gained, met a friend or two, and discovered more on what I want in a relationship. POF is not really free, as it takes quite a bit of time if you are not hot property (like a 20 year old woman with good figure in the oilfields or a straight 55 year old guy who dances and lives in downtown NYC), a more precious resource. How long does it take to use the correct body language at the right time and place when already at the physical location, like a social event you normally enjoy regardless? Not very long. For those people who are good at meeting others, POF has some clear disadvantages. I have never sought a quick physical relationship here.
This might not be very rare at all. Probably people more fall into that lusty trap because of the frustration with men and women being so damned different and modern society more pushing them into temporary arrangements. Because all women lack the Y chromosome, a man's DNA is closer as a % to a male reptile lizard than a human female. (Most of this is for the sex differences, but the two sexes are engineered differently.) Body lust does talk to just about us all whether we listen to it or not, and in a meat market approach like POF laws of the jungle do apply. So I think. And where better else to do it in a relatively annonymous cavern like POF?
Anyway, don't give up hope. Try, try again, and then take a break. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:00:35 AM | | I just come for the jokes, you just can't make this shyt up. Who knew there are so many freaks in the world who aren't even in the carnival? Reading these forums has led me to believe most of you women should bolt your doors, get a large dog and possibly a handgun. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/26/2012 9:15:37 AM | I come here to be entertained by douchebags, clueless guys, crazy women, oh and get some point of views from the opposite sex. Oh and my work is pretty relax and slow so it's a nice pastime (spelling ? i'm french canuck)
Oh true love or lust ! true love would be nice, lust bah I'm getting tired of meaningless sex, unless the girl is extremely hot. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/29/2012 6:41:38 PM | | I am on here because I am recently divorced and live in a small town, and work full time and have kids-so meeting men is really hard for me. I truly want a relationship-but kind of starting to doubt I will ever find that on this site. But I do stay on, going out on dates cause hope srrings eternal and hoping one of these times it just happens. I have some fun when I go out-depends on the man and what we do-even if we don't "click" we usually try to have a good time anyway so no one's night is wasted. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/29/2012 8:06:13 PM |
Posted By: dmzvisitor on 7/29/2012 9  12 PM Subject: Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ? Message: What keeps me here? Eternal optimism. And, the free laughs. No one told me about the cookies. Darn.
One other thing keeps me here: a tenuous grasp on reality. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/31/2012 3:33:45 AM | did someone mention cookies ? what type?
I joined in 2007 looking for someone for a relationship... gave up and then left... came back in feb or so just for the forums because I study full time at home for a Psychology degree... get bored as you can imagine.
now... cookies? | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 7/31/2012 12:17:56 PM | | lust and love both...and to give recipes to strangers. Someone just sent me a message asking for a recipe for barbecue sauce, I sent my recipe and he was on his way. At least he read my profile long enough to see that cooking is a hobby of mine. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:02:26 PM | I can't decide which makes less sense
rude people who won't talk to you & are only after one thing
vs.
getting rich by handing out free advice
No really. Truthfully.
. I originally joined out of purely lustful impulses (please don't tell my mother).
. Found to my surprise, I couldn't go through with it.
. Made a project that I was going to write to 100 men and log the results in a notebook.
. Got bored with that , it was too hard to find that many who I really wanted to write to.
. Had some interesting phone calls & meets.
. Dated a couple of nice guys and one real shit.
. But the nice guys got me back in the mood. For Luvvvv.
. So I decided to hold out for true love.
. When I'd about given up hope, I met him.
. I quit the site & returned many times before deciding I'd like to go down with the ship.
Kidding -- I enjoy the forums for reasons that are selfish, lazy, and procrastinatory.
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 1/9/2013 12:35:30 AM | Out of mind 'Fifi47 'motownCowgirl
Yippee
Lot of humor 'I like that ''
I came here in hopes to meet Man with good karma /connection ! That has not happened yet .
Only in my mind /DREAMSTATE
I come to the forums for Fun 'Love to laugh 'and some of you really tickle me LOL
Also when here in the forums if my
Life Experiences /wisdom can help others sooo be it !
Oh yea I do like Drama as long as its yours and not under my roof ''woof ''woof
LOL
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 1/9/2013 2:37:45 AM | I came here because people in my life who love me gave me an ultimatum: "make the profile yourself, or we will make it for you. You have to get out of your house and away from your books sometimes." It was something of a wake up call. *smiling* At the time I was reading about the transitions of the indigenous South American cultures prior to the western colonization of that continent. There were a number of somewhat nasty sarcastic comments involved. Something about not having anyone to share my future adventures with if I never actually met anyone to drag along for the ride... and since my kids are off doing their own things now (college, getting married, working, stuff), I can't very well drag them along anymore.
So, I guess I'm looking for someone to drag along for the ride, to be blunt about it. My approach is somewhat lackadaisical however. I severely limit access to my profile, and only "go fishing" sporadically. When I meet someone that is interesting, I wander into whatever it offers for however long it goes. Mostly, I'm looking for friends... with potential for that ride, of course.
I become bored easily, and the forums are entertaining. *laughing* It's interesting to read how different other people and their various experiences are. I occasionally chip in with some of my own. I've had in interesting life thus far, and am amazed at what I often read here.
Since I keep coming back, it's fair to assume that some need is being met. Yes, I am having fun... both in the forums and with those I meet. Yes, I really do have a friend or two (just friends) that I met online. | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 1/9/2013 5:59:23 PM | | Neither really-but hopefully true love, which all starts by meeting people until you find a true connection with someone compatible to you. Am I hopeful, yes, and until then I'll just keep kissing frogs (actually not many frogs just normal guys that aren't always a match). That's why they say, "Keep fishing!" | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 1/9/2013 6:01:38 PM | | Neither really-but hopefully true love, which all starts by meeting people until you find a true connection with someone compatible to you. Am I hopeful, yes, and until then I'll just keep kissing frogs (actually not many frogs just normal guys that aren't always a match). That's why they say, "Keep fishing!" | |
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| Did u come here for TrueLove or Lust ? Why r u here really ?
Posted: 1/11/2013 12:04:18 AM | | Some people are here to have fun, others are here to seriously meet people. Many people are here to see how many hits they get off of their picture. Others to see if they still have flirting skills. Some just see it as a social site. At this point, it's nothing more then a site for social interaction. Weed out the fakes. | |
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