| | From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.Page 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | The best one I read so far is message #23 by *cowboys* along with his advice. Also would like to add the age range that sex are more in the mind of males age range up to around early 70s if he is in a good health without using viagra but then depends on each individual mind and ego how he see of himself.
However it is an open headline for easily exit for one whom using it. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/23/2012 7:37:27 PM | I think these are the most hopeful people who have reached a point that they see a lot of obstacles between them and love. It might be their personal needs, their values, their life circumstances, but they really feel like love is a needle in a haystack thing and they are not quite up to the search at this time, BUT JUST IN CASE, they go ahead and enter the pof lovestakes. I mean, *somebody's* gotta win, and if you don't enter... They are also bored and would like new people in their lives.
But if you are quite determined to find a relationship, then they are not good investment of your time, and could waste it. In spite of being hopeful, they have a lot on their plates, they will settle for meantime and ditch or dump later. Or worse, become the person you want to dump just so they don't have to dump you. The designation screams commitment phobe.
I know all of this, because that is usually my choice on relationship needs. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/24/2012 10:52:38 AM | I put that I'm looking for a relationship since it is what I eventually want. But realistically, people tend to start with just causally dating, and take it from there. I'm looking to meet people and see where it goes.
To me, dating but nothing serious means exactly that. No pressure to build any kind of serious relationship, and the two of you take your time and really make sure that you fit each other. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/24/2012 3:55:39 PM | | It completely depends on the person. Now when I see a woman's profile and it says looking to date, but nothing serious. I interpret it as I will date you until it gets serious...then I will court you. That is the only optimistic way I can interpret it. But of course, don't be naive....it also means that her dance card is open- if you know what I mean. :) | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/24/2012 5:15:57 PM | From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
That can also mean that we men are not looking to be stalked(like some women do) I myself have nooooooooo problem with having a woman arrested or having a possie put on her asz. Some of us fellas are pretty genuine when it comes to friends of the opposite sex.. we may just get along better is all. Theres nthing wrong with fun and laughter with the no strings attached. We may not be ready or willing to put all the cards on the table just because a lady after a couple dates gives you just what you like, want(sex in the wildest form) Sometimes we are just looking for a true friend who confides in each other and sex is something that can just happen without the emotional baggage and still be friends | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/24/2012 6:09:48 PM | | I see the same option/comment on quite a few female profiles. "I THINK" it means they just want to meet new friends, keep their options open or be open to date/see other people. But, as someone stated earlier, it depends on the person. I truly believe even if you are not looking for a relationship and you meet that "RIGHT PERSON" who you seem to click with on multiple levels..............you will fall head over heels, whether you want too or not (smile). | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/25/2012 4:51:29 PM | | Im a girl but I felt the need to comment anyway. I might be interested in a relationship, but I say looking to date nothign serious because i think I sshould get to know someone. It seems like people wanna move fast and I think "seeking a relationship" isn't out of the question but its not something Im gunna do after one date. Im wondering if putting "seeking a relationship" is a red flag that people may think you too serious! | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:34:10 PM | It might mean that, looking back on the past, you could see how
a 'serious' relationship developed, and you don't see one looming
on the immediate horizon, based on past patterns and history.
It's a bit of a 'convince me otherwise' kind of proposition, I think.
You have to ask, to get any sense of what it means, individually. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/26/2012 1:42:12 AM | OP, "looking to date but not serious" can mean several different things to a man, depending on the particular man and his background.
For some men it's code meaning, "I want to comparison-shop a lot of women, bed as many as possible, and keep going until I tire of the game." For others, the only change from that is the hope of eventually finding a woman they'll someday want to settle down with -- but "someday" is not today.
There are men who truthfully don't know what they want, so they're unwilling to even suggest the possibility of commitment. They're keeping their options open, and keeping their expectations for a serious relationship low.
Then there are men like me. I'm older, I've been married and I'd like to be in a serious, committed relationship with the right woman. But my first marriage didn't last, and I don't want to make the same mistakes again. So I'm more cautious, I'm trying to learn from my own mistakes, and I'm hoping to find a woman with whom I can make a relationship work before I take that next big step.
"Friends with benefits" can sometimes be a stage on the way to something more serious. Whether he will become serious about YOU, though .... | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:22:14 AM |
All of the above......and to enjoy as meant to be....friends, lovers, and whatever happens........but nothing planned!!
Pretty much.
Does not make them a player. I for one, just don't looking for my next wife, to move in together.
It's really not that hard to understand. if you are looking for something serious, just skip these guys. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:20:57 AM | REDDRAGGON.....and anyone else who wants to be a JERK!
Don't be an ***hole putting me down by making me come off as 38 and stupid for asking the question. No sense in that okay?
As you can see, there are MANY different answers from MANY different men on here so it is not a "one fits all" definition for everyone and that was in fact my main reason for asking.
I'm an extremely intelligent woman of 38 years and I also don't take well to ***holes like you who try to bully and put people down for asking simple questions. If you don't like the question, feel free to SKIP IT!
It's a free country!
For those guys that took the time to be polite and answer sincerely based on your thoughts and feelings, "Thank you", it's interesting to hear different perspectives from different people. That was my whole intention in posting. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:36:25 AM | OP Don't be too upset with Mr Draggon...He's probably bored to death and need's to do something to stir the pot...There is one in every thread.
Looking to date but nothing serious...Mmmmm can mean a few things.
Maybe the person works away and cannot committ to something full time.
Maybe the person has personal issues they are coming to terms with and doesn't need anything heavy right now.
maybe the person is new to the dating field and want's to take things slow.....Let's face it WHEN we feel we have chemistry with a person lot's of things change and this status may just be something that changes. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 3:02:05 PM | I dunno, for me I'm definitely not looking for a FWB but "Looking To Date But Nothing Serious" fits. I want to date and while I'm open to a relationship I'm not necessarily looking for one to dive into. I want to go on dates (meeting new girls whom I find attractive physically and mentally). I'm basically looking to meet some female friends that I can hang out with (not have sex with) and enjoy some flirty conversation without having the pressure (on either of us) to turn it into a LTR and without having to worry about (either of us) overstepping the boundaries of a friendzone. I can see how people may assume that this means FWB but at least for me it's definitely not my intention. Not in the least.
If you're concerned, just ask what they mean by it. Some guys may have my point of view, others may mean FWB but you won't know until you ask. If you don't ask, you may be skipping over someone who has genuine intentions or you may be giving a dirtbag too much credit. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/2/2012 9:30:07 PM |
If a girl has that in her profile, I assume that she is just looking for some action, or that she wants to date more than one guy at a time.
Not looking for action or mulitple men to date. I think its more similar to what this guys said....
I'm basically looking to meet some friends that I can hang out with (not have sex with) and enjoy some flirty conversation without having the pressure (on either of us) to turn it into a LTR and without having to worry about (either of us) overstepping the boundaries of a friendzone. I can see how people may assume that this means FWB but at least for me it's definitely not my intention. Not in the least.
I would pursue a relationship if I felt it was right, but dont want to put the pressure on to do so "if its not a good fit" because my profile says otherwise. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:02:12 PM | | I think there could be a category between "looking to date but nothing serious" and "looking for a relationship". I hate both of these because even though I am looking for something serious, I want to take it slow and not give the impression that I want to rush into something. I specify that in my description because I'm not looking for a FWB thing, which is what everyone seems to interpret. | |
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| From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 8/6/2012 8:40:42 AM |
Wow! Quite interesting? Since when does dating mean you're looking for sex? lol I'm not looking for a relationship or sex? I just got out of a relationship and start dating! I'm not looking for anything...
Dating is synonymous with sex, according to many people---it's just a matter of when. Unfortunately, for those of us who prefer to take our time in getting to know someone, if sex doesn't occur soon enough for these people---say, within the first two or three dates, they will move on. | |
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