cj22a
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/25/2012 2:28:35 PM | I think you might have made some changes to your profile since writing this so Im not sure how relevant this is but my suggestions on your current profile are - remove the "you should too" comment about looking after yourself, it sounds a bit patronizing.
I would also suggest describing your personality more than talking about how active you are so much, it can seem off putting if women think they couldnt keep up with you. Finally.... add a bit of humour to show that you dont take yourself or internet dating too seriously.
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
Msg: 29 | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/25/2012 10:39:19 PM | There are a few things you can do.
- add a full length casual shot. The hoodie shot seems too posed. You are very pretty, though.
- add some specific Interests. A favourite tv show, food/cuisine, sport you play (Baseball?), team you follow, music group/genre/artist, author, holiday spot, some place you'd love to visit...
- you say you get messages from women that you're not attracted to at all. Do what the girls do. Ignore them. Or - respond with a simple "Thanks for your interest, but I don't think we're a match". Although - as you give no clue whatsoever in your profile about what IS a match, you can't blame them for trying. How about describing the girl you'd like to meet, using positive language only, and avoiding the eye-gouging cliches?
- delete the ridiculous Great Wall of Email Restrictions. All you really need is No Smokers/Druggies/Married or IE. The rest are negotiable.
What are your introduction messages like?? | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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cj22a
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cj22a
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cj22a
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/27/2012 4:21:06 PM | Well I made many changes and still have received zero return messages as well as a very small amount of messages from women in general.
I don't think I belong in the online dating world so I'll be deleting my profile soon.
The only good thing about this site is that I was able to use it as a measuring tool concerning my looks,and I got my answer.
Unattractive guys finish last that's for damn sure!!
Thanks all for advice and taking out the time to throw in your two cents. | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/27/2012 4:32:17 PM | Come on dude. You know you're not unattractive!
The problem with this site is because it's free to sign up, loads of perves and nutters join and bombard the girls on here. No wonder it's hard for us normal guys to get responses, they're constantly deleting all the crap that ends up in their inboxes.
Perseverance is what you need if you want to have success on POF I reckon.
It also depends how far above you're weight you're punching as well. Let's be honest we all do it... well i know I do ;) | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/27/2012 4:39:36 PM | Do the best you can with it.. The best photos, profile, and emails will get responses over the other emails they get.
At the end of the day it is still easier in real life if you have any amount of confidence or style. Easier to be the guy doing the best job of presenting himself out someplace than it is to look the best out of thousands of profiles in your area.
Lets just say nobody has called me ugly either.
Use online as a backup and just get out anywhere.. | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/27/2012 5:09:26 PM | The comment that you worked out, stay fit, etc followed by "and so should you." was a little high handed. Maybe soften in with something like "and would like to meet someone with the same values" or "would like to meet someone who also finds health important". Something like that. I know I'm not phrasing it right either.
Looks aren't everything. Instant attraction is a really good starter, but most women aren't going to be drawn to you buy your "looks" alone. We are different creatures and not as visual as you guys are. Eye candy is nice, but just to look at :)
You have to get inside. (oh good lord, I'm hearing the 'secret garden' song from Jerry McGuire in my head...lol).
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/27/2012 9:50:48 PM | Dude...Im in the same boat as you regarding this website.
Lot's of views, meaningless messages from women not my type (I'm not picky so you can only imagine), over a 100 want to meet you's but they nvr respond when messaged, and over 50 favorites and nvr responded back...lol.
Here is my advice...dont let this website be your only tool for meeting woman. I go out every weekend to different places and clean up real nice with a buddy of mine. Try speed dating, met alot of women that way. Also, hit up the malls in your area. I just go to the malls in my area to buy toothpaste and other stupid stuff so I'm out and about. Met a few women this way.
I was on here year ago and just rejoined 4 months ago and I still see the same women on here as before. Alot of women a permanent fixtures on this website. Basically, they use this website as ego boosters and are complete time wasters.
I will be asking for a profile review soon because I want to change some things up and get some opinions.
Hopefully this helped...Knocke'em dead! | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/27/2012 10:20:34 PM | Well, if top gun and CJ can't find women that respond on here, that boosts my ego a bit. You guys both have decent profiles. Could it be my grilling pic??? Lol, I don't understand it really. What are your first messages like? Do you write about 4 or 5 sentences and include a question? One thing that you don't want to do in the first message is just say "hey what's up, my name is so and so" and that's it OR write a 5 paragraph essay.
EDIT- cj put your real occupation instead of "ninja" lol | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:15:11 AM | "Hey, if it make you lots feel better, 4 / 10 girls I message DO reply along the lines of:
'You're a great guy. I'd totally date you... if you were white'.
I think that burns more. So close yet so far!"
Yup. I know the feeling in a similar way.
The few replies I have received were along the lines "Awwe, I wish you were taller. You seem really fun and sweet!"
Of course this has come from girls SHORTER than I am but whatever... | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/28/2012 7:01:25 AM | [The only good thing about this site is that I was able to use it as a measuring tool concerning my looks,and I got my answer.]
Ok YES your looks are inducive to becoming a poster on my wall! J/K
all jokes aside I just read your profile and found it to be one of the best I have ever read! TRULY!
but alas fine sir....you are so far away, there would be no point in messaging you! | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/28/2012 9:25:27 AM | I don't think I belong in the online dating world so I'll be deleting my profile soon.
I would leave it up. Takes minimal upkeep and you can just ignore anyone you don't want to date. Even those who change their mind and respond to you if you wish. That is fun sometimes. You can even have some fun with your profile.. With the real life dating opportunities I get I don't care if it online works or not I am still having fun. So I added this for fun.
"Hello, ladies, look at that other profile, now back to me, now back at that other profile, now back to me. Sadly, he isn’t me, but if he stopped taking shirtless photos in the bathroom mirror and developed some taste, he could be as charming as me. Look down, back up, where are you? You’re on a sail boat with the man that man could be like if he wasn’t a douche-bag. What’s in your hand, back at me. I have it, it’s an extra helmet for a ride with me on the Ducati and two tickets to that thing you love. Look again, the tickets are now flowers and you are seated in the passenger seat of a Maserati. Anything is possible when your man acts like a gentleman and not a douche-bag. I’m on my horse."
The only good thing about this site is that I was able to use it as a measuring tool concerning my looks,and I got my answer.
I get a lot of meet me and on another site 4-5 star ratings out of 5.. You can continue to use the site for that. Go back to try out some new wardrobe or a new look and see. The forums are fun too. | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/28/2012 12:13:12 PM | Yes you are good-looking! Did someone say you weren't? Your current main photo is a little blurry. I love what you wrote and if you didn't already change it, leave in the sentence that said "you should too." You will only be getting rid of women you don't want anyway. A fit person wants another fit person, nothing wrong with saying the truth. Wow of all the negative things people do say in their profiles, that statement is very minor and politely stated.
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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