| | Sorry, I just don't find you attractivePage 10 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | | Though I appreciate honesty, a little more tact would probably be better I suppose. If they don't find you attractive, why argue? Just move on and be glad they didn't waste your time. | |
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| Pictures are Misleading
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:51:22 AM | Pictures are meant to give you an idea of the person on what they look like and to see if they are "your type" , but to base your decisions purely on a picture in an online dating site is ludicrious.
Some of the most beautiful people are just not photogenic, people forget that a picture is a flat picture in time, you can't capture a person's real essence no matter how many pictures you take. The bottom line is use this as a vehicle to meet people who you
"connect" with and then meet in person, that will determine true chemistry and compatibility , not a bunch of pictures. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:15:08 AM |
would you argue the point with them?
I'd be more likely to soothe my wounded ego with a big bucket of rocky road....no need to argue when you've got ice cream that loves you.................... | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:21:22 AM | There's nothing to "argue" either someone finds you attractive, or they don't.
I did ask one man if there was anything in particular. No need to be thin skinned about it. Maybe I'm putting forth something in my pose or setting that doesn't accurately reflect who I am. I figure it only helps me learn and look to the next fish :) | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 3:42:07 AM | | how can you argue with them? it is their own personal opinion. what are ya gonna say? I know you seriously want me deep down. take it as what they said "they don't think you are good looking." take it on the chin then find another and swing again son. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:19:21 AM | ^^^^ yep...I'm with you there Joquer... I've been told quite a few times that I'm not someones type. Just pay no mind to it and move on to someone that you find attractive and vice versa.
Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone...I just basically tell them that we don't have that much in common. They usually just delete my reply and move on. Of course I do wish everyone the best and I hope everyone can find exactly what they are looking for. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:25:12 AM | I dated someone on here (who approached me) who continued to date online while we were together. We spent a fair amount of time together but if I went a day or two without seeing him he would go out and "meet for coffee" with others here. It started with "you should dye your hair blond". Then it was "you should get a make over" and we got into the conversation of extreme makeover. I said sure I would love to have that (most women would love a makeover) but its not going to happen. Then the other day we were getting in the car and a lady was getting in the car in front of us. He said how ugly she was! He kept repeating it over and over. Then he made a comment how all women in Moncton were ugly... I am a woman from Moncton! This played over in my head ( which he accuses me of thinking too much ) along with everything that happened and was said. This is when I stopped taking his calls. When he called I told him we could just be friends. Hopefully that is it. I don't want to see him because I AM attracted to him (unfortunately) | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:41:07 AM | Well i guess its nice to know they were honest and bothered replying,
most wont even reply, because they know a lot of people will get
a bit waspy over being told that.
Althou personally i think its a whole lot kinda not to reply,
people have feelings and its hard hearing someone say that.
My advice thou, is dont let the comment effect you and start
having a downer over it,
There is someone out there for everyone and to the person you end up with,
you will be the brightest star in their sky. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:49:28 AM | People really need to be able to distinguish between being attractive generally, or being attractive to certain people. That would really make the process easier. Just because the person you contact isn't into you doesn't mean everyone isn't. Big difference.
Personally I realize I am not everyone's cup of tea. The reason I know that is that not everyone is my cup of tea. It's really just common sense. | |
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| Not Interested
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:59:10 AM | I would say simply "I'm not interested" or "we wouldn't be a match". There are several possible reasons a person could say these things. Pictures, lack of common interests, age, smoking/drinking habits, having kids etc
Pictures are meant to give you an idea of the person on what they look like and to see if they are "your type" , but to base your decisions purely on a picture in an online dating site is ludicrious.
Some of the most beautiful people are just not photogenic
I agree. Some people can look much better ( or worse ) in person than they do in a pic. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:17:12 PM | | Most people consider physical attraction part of the distinction between "romance" and "friendship." If i am seeking friendship, physical attraction means nothing to me. As someone seeking big bang long term romantic chemistry, physical attraction means almost everything to me. A man who replies, "Sorry, I just don't find you attractive" (and many have done just that in responding to an initial e-mail from me) is taking the time to acknowledge my interest and write back. He has also just respected me enough to be honest about why he is not interested in pursuing romance with me. For this i always respond with a second e-mail expressing my thanks and best wishes for finding His Special Someone. And mean every word i've just sent back to him! | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 2:22:40 PM | | Usually that knid of response comes from the person who has no picture let alone have one posted for all to judge them by. The ones who do have a picture posted that say something like that are quick to block you so you can't judge their own pictures and give your opinion back. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/27/2007 3:38:39 PM | if you are an idiot and have nothing better to do with your life argue with them.
you shouldn't be looking for someone who thinks you are attractive anyways you should be looking for someone who likes you and doesn't give a damn about how you look. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:24:25 AM | No, there would be no point in arguing with someone who has obviously made up their mind. Why would you want to be with someone that shallow anyway?
* Just realised I have already posted here.... *note to self: posting in forums after midnight is a BAD idea* :( | |
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| Pictures are Misleading
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:15:42 AM |
Some of the most beautiful people are just not photogenic, people forget that a picture is a flat picture in time, you can't capture a person's real essence no matter how many pictures you take. The bottom line is use this as a vehicle to meet people who you "connect" with and then meet in person, that will determine true chemistry and compatibility , not a bunch of pictures.
For those of us with a cam, this entire paragraph is outdated. Photos to start, cam to confirm and then meet. Saves a lot of time. | |
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| Pictures are Misleading
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:49:44 AM | Some of the most beautiful people are just not photogenic, people forget that a picture is a flat picture in time, you can't capture a person's real essence no matter how many pictures you take. The bottom line is use this as a vehicle to meet people who you "connect" with and then meet in person, that will determine true chemistry and compatibility , not a bunch of pictures.
For those of us with a cam, this entire paragraph is outdated. Photos to start, cam to confirm and then meet. Saves a lot of time.
Betty, I have a camera and a cam. But I'm not photogenic. I don't know what it is. Women always prefer me in person. Plus, I have serious pheromones. Just doesn't quite do it.
As to me, I can just say "thanks" and move on.
But don't tell me that after you've been flirting with me a lot. That's just confusing.
Also, don't then get jealous if I flirt with your friend and she flirts back. That's just jealousy, and games. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:41:26 PM |
Though you have to admire the persons honesty after they saw your pic, would you argue the point with them?
just out of curiosity, what exactly would your argument be that you would use to persuade them? | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:58:07 PM | | I don't "admire their honesty"....... I deplore their rudeness. ......and No I wouldn't argue the point with them. I'd be Damn glad to get rid of someone like that as early on as possible. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:03:09 PM | I may not have a pic. up but that doesn't mean I'm ugly.When someone comments on how they aren't attracted to you credit them for having a lack of good taste.All the guys I met off here have been nothing but losers so that says a lot about themselves. Hang in there! lol | |
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