| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 6:23:30 AM | Either it does or it does whereowhere. first you say it does then you say no but then retract and say it does.
I wouldn't contact you at all, since you look like a high maintenance female | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 6:30:26 AM | ^^^^^But thanks for proving my point that women JUDGE on looks alone
Mr.Unattractive, there are two sides to the coin here. There are many guys out there who just want arm candy or a piece of jewelry (meaning the woman) on there arm. If the woman isn't all skin and bones or doesn't look like a barbie doll, they don't even acknowledge them. This is a two way street. So please don't put all women down. Men do the same thing. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 6:47:08 AM | Everyone on the planet is judged be it intellegence or appearence. When we look for a companion we all need to look at all. You have to be attracted to thier appearence as well and thier intelligence. If one of those 2 things are missing It just will not work out.
Everyone is beautiful to someone and not beautiful to the vast majority of the population. Don't take it to heart when a person says they are not attracted to you and dont hate them for it. I would rather someone be honest they may not find you attractive but we meet everyone for a reason.
Beauty is only skin deep be beautiful on the inside it will show on the outside.
Be grateful they were honest and did not string you along waiting for someone better. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 6:47:10 AM | | hi.. and at any age its rude...however, to each his own. when I see a profile, on looks being important, I am thinking how superficial it is, and it doesn't get a response from me. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 7:03:32 AM | Well how about being with someone for almost 8 months and he lives for you for a month and a half and then all of a sudden tells you hes not attracted to you Now that hurts. But during the whole time telling you that you are sexy and beautiful best thing that ever happened to them figure that one. Confused yes lol
That exact same thing happened to me two years ago. We had dated for 6 months and were making plans to get married including planning the reception and all of a sudden she wrote me an e-mail that she wanted to end our relationship. She wouldn't answer phone calls or reply to my e-mails. Found out afterwards that she had been "hunting" on a couple of dating sites and had found someone else she "loved" more. I saw her mother one day and asked how she was doing and found out that she has broken up with him and also two others since our breakup. Talk about hurt. I was devastated because she was the love of my life. A few months ago, I met a lady online and when we met in person, I did not find her attractive at all. She was very nice though and we went out to eat as was planned. During the meal she said "You know, I don't think we have very much in common". I told her that I agreed. We are still e-mail buddies and I appreciated her honesty. As the old saying goes: "One man's junk is another man's treasure". There are plenty of very nice people that I am not attracted to in a romantic way. Whatever you do, be honest and gentle when you tell them.  | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 9:18:07 AM | busygirl43 while true; it is apparent that it is more common in women then men.
Twenty years of experience backing it and NO it is not a lack of self esteem as some would say. That's just another way of redirecting the true problem | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 10:46:09 AM | I agree with the fact that it was honest, and you aren't left wondering. People are going to not be attracted to you, if you are on a dating site, you have to realize that's part of the whole thing. I would be annoyed if someone argued with that, since it's not something that you have any control over.
People have said they weren't attracted to me - who cares? I'm happy to know the truth. Naturally I can't be everyone's type - I'd have to be extremely full of myself and/or insecure to expect anything else. It's life. I get that, just like I get that not everyone who likes me is my type either.
Luckily there are a million other people out there. Arguing with someone who's not interested keeps you from meeting any of the people who are. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/9/2006 1:53:26 PM | | If someone thinks that they are attractive to everyone, frankly I would not want to date them. It is good to be confident about one's looks, but good to realize that you are not everyone's cup of tea. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/10/2006 6:51:18 AM | I believe my views on physical attraction have changed considerably with maturity.
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Though I still acknowledge the esthetic value of a person it is only part of the thought process when deciding if this person is "attractive".
I also think that being "attractive" and being "beautiful" are two different things. Basing things on attraction alone (or that chemical reaction) though wonderful for the most part, is usually short term. Beauty defined to me is the sum total of all that person is, spiritually, emotionally, intellectual, etc.
I could live without the chemical attraction element if everything else was there!
JMO
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/10/2006 7:04:54 AM | this is very true one man may want a hot barbie in his life, another man may want a average
woman that can be hotter than hell... | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/10/2006 7:09:10 AM | I look at at a guy with how he presents himself, if he has a nice smile and warm eyes...a
gq man can be very flakey from the inside but an average man is so much better to know
as long as he takes care of himself then this is cool... | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/10/2006 7:14:34 AM | i went out with a man that we had a lot in common..there was a lot of passion..we went away for the weekend had a lot of fun...then i did not hear from him...i called him and he
finally called and told me that there was no spark..I could not believe this...this hurt my heart
it seems that he wanted to find other woman to date..may be some one better looking then
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/11/2006 9:46:38 PM | | There is no argue period. If you do, then you will compromise yourself. Also it would be like begging the person to accept you. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:01:51 PM | I was once in a relationship that broke up. The fella came by to get his "stuff" and during the course of helping him move his stuff to his vehicle, he had the gall to tell me, "You've changed my perspective on women. You've shown me that there is more to women than just good looks...." And I thought to myself, "What am I? Dog meat?" And this was after we had been living together for several years.....But I've found that most men tell me that I'm funny, have a great outlook on life, love my honesty, but that they don't like my size.... So, after reading all the comments on this thread, I guess everybody's idea of attrative is still in the eye of the beholder. I'm just grateful that I have good friends....both male and female. I'll keep  for a partner..... | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:07:32 PM | No, there would be no point in arguing that at all. You cant make someone like you and we shouldnt try to do that anyway.
I'd much rather someone say that to me than play games and find ways to get out of it.
My theory is call it how you see it and just say it! | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:59:11 PM | | Most everyone here is correct.Just move on.Arguing or asking for reasons will just make you look very pathetic.Its ok to find out if they are attracted to you but once that is established just pic up the peaces and move forward. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/12/2006 5:53:02 AM | Least they sent u an email and told you honestly what they thought before the actual date....try going on a date and they say...oh, your not what I thought you would be...or your not my type!! I have learned to not judge a book by its cover and have found thru trial and error that altho someone may be attractive on the outside, their insides SUCK!!! ON the other hand, I have taken a chance and gone out with the not so attractive ones and found them to be sweethearts on the inside....LOOKS are nuthing but outside covers...take away all that and go for whats on the inside. If the person says your not attractive to them, then just move on....someone else will find you really HOT!!!! Good LUCK Sweetie!!!! | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/12/2006 5:58:30 AM | | No not at all. If you are not attracted to someone then your not attracted to them. Lets just all admit that there has to be some physical attraction. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/12/2006 4:01:25 PM | | Yes there has to be some physical attraction, but what may HOT to one may be EEEWWW to another...its up to the individual! I am often told that I am cuter in reality then by my pictures...and vice versa...so its all just a matter of chemistry, karma, whatever you want to call it... | |
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