| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 11/12/2006 5:03:10 PM | Why argue the point, it is an exercise in futility, not to mention it may wreck havoic on your self esteem. Time to move on I say.
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 12/2/2006 7:36:48 AM | Hey nothing wrong with honesty,there has to be an attraction and chemistry,and yes dont carry it on just move ahead and dont worry about it, | |
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Msg: 203 | |
| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 12/2/2006 12:28:10 PM |
Though you have to admire the persons honesty after they saw your pic, would you argue the point with them?
why? why would u be interested in someone who obviously isn't interested in you based on your looks??? | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 12/2/2006 12:36:25 PM | | Beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? Everyone can't be attracted to you. Don't be offended, I commend them for their honesty and not playing games. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 12/2/2006 12:48:08 PM | Though you have to admire the persons honesty after they saw your pic, would you argue the point with them?
Nope!!....there is no accounting for some peoples tastes!!..
seriously now!....what would be the point...what some people find attractive..others do not.
it makes none of us bad people...
we just have to find the person who we can float their boat..as much as they do ours | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:00:25 PM | Hi,
I think being told the reason for someone not wanting to see you anymore or even talk to you is better than either being ignored or worst yet, after going on a date and everything seeming to go well, you don't hear from them again. Then you are left wondering what in the hell did you do wrong....so, if someone was truthful, I think it is better. I hurts, but you will know that not everyone will like you...the good thing is that there are more who may! | |
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| One can argue beauty et al but one cannot argue re personal attraction
Posted: 3/29/2007 5:40:57 AM | >>> Though you have to admire the persons honesty after they saw your pic, would you argue the point with them?
The only way one can "argue" re one's attractiveness that is by showing them other pics. That is why having many pics on one's profile is better. The more diverse they are, the more they give a more well rounded "view"/insight on not only "how you LOOK" but who you are (a pic is worth 1000 words, then 8 are worth ... 8000).
I would move on, what is there to argue??? Personal taste? Yeesh!
PS. Plus, to assume that a person who reads one's profile and replies that is not attracted to the person the profile is about, does so on account of the pic ONLY and not the other elements in the profile (interests, text about the person) TOO is not that "attractive" a sylllogism.
PS2. A more logical reply would be "I am not attracted to you", because it emphasizes even more the subjective nature of the person's own view compared to the one the OP says the OP received. Still "attractive" is much different than "beautiful". "You are not my type" also clearly states the subjective nature of one's view thus is a direct but polite one too.
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 3/29/2007 5:46:27 AM | | how can you argue this point with someone . if someone does not find you attractive all the arguing in the world wont change their mind. you are either attracted to someone or you are not. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 3/29/2007 5:49:18 AM | | Well yes it is a bit too honest, I think there are other ways of putting it, "well perhaps your not my type " is better, I really dont think its a good idea to argue with some one over that as that have obviously made up their mind, and visual is all that you have to go on initially, also you can't think that you will give everyone a chance you would never get off here.!!!!! | |
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Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 213 | |
| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:03:27 AM | no matter how old you are...it still is hard to take. I found it weird when men said in their profile they were "visual beings" and no picture, no reply. Then I met a couple of men for coffee that didn't have pictures up. They were homely men and if I had have seen their pictures and they had not had any common interests I probably wouldn't have taken the time to try to know them. It was the common interests that brought us together and in the hour or two that we chatted I could see that they weren't interested in me. Now if they had been keen it would have been very uncomfortable. I don't know how I would have handled that. Perhaps it's a bit easier with age? At least you got the straight goods and not some sweet talking crap. You have to be grateful for that. I see this rather like handing out resumes. The more you hand out the greater the chances of getting a job and the more people you meet. It gives you a chance to eliminate the weirdos and the losers before you have invested any time or money. So as disappointing and frustrating as it can be... I'm still having a go at it.
Keep smiling. Keep handing out the resumes. All the best to everyone. | |
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Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 214 | |
| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:18:14 AM | arguing about anothers personal view and trying to defend yourself only makes one look bad.
it only validates that person's decision to not pursue something with you when you attack them. just because you are not that persons cup of tea shouldn't be seen as a knock at what you look like it is only one persons preference, their opionion is not the opinion of the world.
note: a response even if it's not the one you were hoping for is more respectful of your time. it allows you to say ok, moving on now, instead of wondering why you didn't hear back | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:28:36 AM | What's to argue...They didn't claim you were not attractive.....They simply and directly told you they personally did not find you attractive....In other words you just were not their type..That's all! You can step away from the mirror now and get over it
Example: A lot of guys think Pamela Anderson is the hottest thing to walk on the planet
personally i wouldn't care if she left the planet
If there were only 2 people in a room ..Her and a mousy brunett ...I"ll take the mousy brunett evey time! | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:39:01 AM | Hambone, my mom used to say "Opinions are like a**holes, everyones got one", don't let someones opinion scar you from putting yourself out there again. Don't argue with them, it's obviously not worth your time, have fun and keep fishing! | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:44:06 AM | I hate to say it but looks are very important these days... At least in terms of two being physically attracted.. Although, I'm just not attracted to you can go far beyond looks..What are they not attracted to??? Is it personality, attire, or is it mere physical appearance??? To the people who say sorry I'm not attracted to you , I say ..Thank you for your honesty..and move on...Who cares what they are'nt attracted to, I'm sure somebody else will be...Although I am not a believer in 'Someone for everyone' , I am a believer in 'what you focus on is what you will attract'..If you are superficial and materialistic, you will attract people like that...You just better have the goods to back it..i.e. good looks, great body. If not be prepared for let downs....I have dated women that I was'nt physically attracted to, and, it did'nt work....I think the key word here is Chemistry...It's there or its not, you can't invent it, although you can supplement it initially for a short while...anyhow, thats my two cents....
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 1:57:01 PM |
Though you have to admire the persons honesty after they saw your pic, would you argue the point with them?
how the h**l do you argue someone's opinion with them....if they don't find ya attractive, they don't and arguing about it makes you appear petty, stupid and in desperate need of attention. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 2:58:30 PM |
Though you have to admire the persons honesty after they saw your pic, would you argue the point with them?
Not at all! I might politely suggest that they visit an optician.. but argue, NO!
Seriously, I wouldn't be able to convey a lack of interest by telling someone so bluntly, " I just don't find you attractive". I'm known to be open and upfront but naw.. that's harsh and unnecessary. The reality is, MOST people will and do take such a sharp comment personally, whether they should or not is irrelevant to me. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 3:14:53 PM | worse is seeing someone pic online, going to meet them and you don't even recognize them... then you have to shove them off in person.
They often get bent out of shape... saying how they are planning to lose weight soon.. lol
gimme a break. | |
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Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 221 | |
| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 6:17:13 PM | Nope, what the hell would I care if she finds me attractive or not.. If she doesn't wanna talk to me or isn't interested in me then that's her problem/luck, I'm not gonna bother her anylonger.
And I already know I'm not the most gorgeous guy out there, so nothing new under the sun.... !!!! I'd be amazed when a beautiful woman comes up to me and says I look gorgeous.. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 6:58:46 PM | The majority of people on here say they value honesty....but... sometimes people can't take it.
You are either attracted to someone or not and what I find attractive will be completely different than what the next person does and so on...If there's absolutely no initial attraction, just exactly how far do you think you're gonna get in a lasting relationship?
If I am not, I tell the person the truth, and the specific reasons I am not. While I try to do this in a non-offensive way, I admittedly have probably offended a few.
My point of view is this:
I do value honesty and I would not want to be with someone who does not. If you are not attracted to me, tell me and by all means elaborate w/ the reasons if there are specifics. I'm an adult, I can take it...and maybe even come away from it w/ some deeper insight of myself. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:56:23 PM | Well there is "honesty" and there is HONESTY!
You can tell a girl her face will "stop time"
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You can tell a girl her face will "Stop a clock"
They don't mean the same thing. My family tells me I have TACT--"the ability to tell someone to go to hell and make them HAPPY to be on their way."
No one has to tell you that "I don't find you attractive," that is crude, rude and indescent. You can say something "tactful" that says in effect, "You're not the type I was looking for" but you dont' have to say "You're not attractive (i.e. pretty/handsome). Not too many of us look like Cindy Crawford or whoever the latest hunk is today, but that doesn't mean that most folks are "ugly."
I am sorry, if someone was rude enough to say somthing like "you're not attractive" they are a loser anyway, you're better off without them in your life. I don't care if you look like a gorilla in the face, no one has any kindness in their soul if they say something so rude. | |
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| Sorry, I just don't find you attractive
Posted: 4/12/2007 5:44:47 AM | | There is no point arguing with them, obviously they base their judgements solely on looks and I wouldn't want to date or be in a relationship with someone that shallow anyway. Its also a very cruel and rude thing to say to another person, there is a fine line between brutal honesty and heartlessness (is that a word? ) | |
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