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Posted: 7/30/2005 6:51:35 AM | Little things, why do people let that bother them, thats what I was trying to say, they are little things.
Experience the death of a loved one, have kid in the war, worry about the future, will my kids be safe in the future, will they be okay, that is what counts.
It is time to voice about things that really matter, until that happen nothing will change.
This site has just become the 5th largest dating site, that is alot of people, who can make a difference.
These forums are great, I love them, but for the most part, it is a place to whine, about things that in 30 days, will not matter.
There are people here that have over 1800 posts, and you know what they do, they ask why cannot I find my true love, hmm, well get off the net, and go out, engage somebody!
Nope, they sit and ask stupid shit questions, like what do you think about born again virgins, lol, what the hell is that crap, but it happens, there is no such thing, but if we can find a title for it, and slap it on, oh well lets call ourselves that, and then lets go out and look for validation. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 6:59:46 AM | Hey Ratpack,
If I didn't know better, I'd think you were flaming me for posting this question. 
You want to know the REALLY funny thing about your posts about 'people worrying about the little sh*t' as you so eloquently put it?
You're worrying that other people are worrying about so-called 'stupid-shit'. Geez, talk about worrying about 'stupid shit' like idle threads that people post!
Sorry darling, to have pissed you off. Perhaps in the future I ought to email you privately to get your UN approval and perhaps we can talk about the tribal wars in Zimbabwe and then we can rehash the death of our loved ones (like both my parents, for instance) - hey, maybe we can even discuss what it was like to watch my mother die. YEAH, that sounds like fun! 
On second thought....I'm here for the same thing others are here for. To converse. Not every conversation and every medium has to be about the serious pressing issues that we all face. And for the record, social status DOES matter to people.
And you have no right to demand that from others. If the posts and the topics of threads piss you off so.....then move on. Don't try to put down others because they aren't in your 'current' frame of mind.
THAT is what pisses ME off.
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Posted: 7/30/2005 6:59:50 AM | I agree with the Born Again Virgins, lol, I think that is a bit much. Those are people with too much time on their hands, lol. But it gets them heard. I've read the forums and some are really good. Then again, some are like the "Born Again Virgins"
People might post silly things like that to get their mind off of other more important issues that they are having trouble dealing with. :) | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:03:38 AM |
People might post silly things like that to get their mind off of other more important issues that they are having trouble dealing with. :)
ABSOLUTELY, Dartgirl!
Could you imagine our frame of mind if we constantly discussed and mulled over our pain?
Deflection is good. Thanks for proving my point.  | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:08:16 AM | | The world would be more screwed up than it is. I would much rather listen/read about the little things that don't matter, that we can possibly change, than to listen/read about things we cannot change. That's just depressing. And, life can be depressing enough. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:12:14 AM | The one forum I stay away from on here is Current Events - I get that all day long!
Although there I some 'serious' issues on this site that I sometimes get involved with - it's the goofy fun ones that I really enjoy.
There are some things that go on here that are HYSTERICAL! I almost choked last night reading a post while I was eating dinner from laughing so hard.
I'm with both of you on this one!!
Hey dart - nice to agree on something!! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:12:35 AM | I agree, Dartgirl, and we CAN make changes to the larger picture one at a time. What really piqued me was the audacity of someone out there who doesn't know anyone here outside of this site to say that we don't volunteer our time, donate our money or express our interest and opinions on social issues elsewhere.
And why should we discuss serious issues 24/7? This ISN'T the medium for that unless you click on some of the other forums (which I suggest one particular poster may want to peruse to save his blood pressure from rising on the more 'stupid' topics).
We need down time. All of us. And the fact of the matter is that these social status 'labels' DO bother some people.
I found it to be amusing that a divorced person is technically single, so why are they divorced in label? A single person and divorced person are still 'single'. I just find it to be one of those old and archaic 'labels' that really don't mean much. LOL...especially in this day and age of common law marriages. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:14:39 AM | | Yeah, you are technically single, so why say divorced? It shouldn't matter :) | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:15:26 AM | ^^My ONLY point.
I'll be lobbying the Government of Canada come Tuesday. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:17:30 AM | OT - truthfully, I joked about credit earlier in this thread. But here in the states where EVERYTHING you do is based on your FICO score (credit rating)
I'll bet you there is a difference in your rating based on whether you are single or divorced.
And there are probably a million other bits of beaurocratic nonsentia where it makes a difference... | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:21:00 AM | | musicman. It is nice that we agree on something :) | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:25:57 AM | Hey Babs
I sent this to you in email, and I wanted to post it here as well.
I was not trying to flame you, I really have no idea how to flame.
I saw a topic and I responded, nothing more, nothing less, sorry if I hit you, that was not my intention.
I am not up on all the rules of engagement when it comes to the net, I see it, I jump!
Again I apoligize and I will throw this into the thread! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:29:25 AM | dart - I wanted to send you a quick email - but I'm too old!!!
just wanted to say I truly admire your honesty over in that other place - you've got guts my dear!
OT: I'm a convert - I'm changing my status to Single on all official forms from now on.... | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:40:57 AM | For the record, I just wanted to get people to really think about what is important, in an attempt to help.
I used to worry about the same things at one time, now I don't why, because life is so short, and you only get one shot.
In re reading my posts, I can see where I came off as somewhat of a, oh the hell with it, a jerk, that was not my intent.
I lost my dad, and before that happened, I was so wrapped up in similar things that in the end, did not and do not matter. It took his death to wake me up.
I miss him every day, and sometimes well, anyway!
I am sorry! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 7:45:13 AM | | I'm sure you wont, but don't let it bother you. Sometimes the things that are said, especially when being read, can come across wrong, even though it's not intended that way. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 9:31:54 AM | At Leafy one - You changed it! Good for you.
OT - Maybe if we sent enough e-mails to Admin requesting an expansion of the Marital Selection criteria they’d consider it or even provide a freestyle box for you to use a term you see fitting. There are so many good, and Fun, terms out there for the Now Not Married crowd, for example:
Mate challenged, Previously loved, Gently used, Slightly seasoned, Mildly used, Seasoned, Roughly used, Seasoned veteran, Non-committed, & a 1,000 more.
Ones I’m partial to: Free, Freed, Open to suggestions, Options open, Available, & Hey, I got my life back! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 9:36:25 AM | ^^That's actually an awesome idea and gives the entire site a fresh edge.
Lightening up the 'social' stigmas...I LOVE IT! 
(Ratpack, you've got mail) | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 9:38:46 AM | | Musicman-Thank you for that. I would rather admit my faults than be in denial and act like I'm perfect, because god only knows,........ from that mistake I have learned. I live in a glass house, so I don't throw stones. :) Have a great day! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2005 4:42:21 PM | Whatever your experience we have the power to be someone else's sensation.
Be what you, not cponvention, choose to be! | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 4:46:43 PM |  Another zombie thread I'm resurrecting... I'm feeling evil today.
Now about this whole single vs divorced... I wonder if anyone really cares.
But I have been wondering that when my divorce is done, if I should list myself as single (which would be true... hell, it's true right now technically since I'm not 'with' anyone right now no matter what a government document says) or should I list myself as divorced...
I think what I'll end up doing is trying one designation for a while and the other after... | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:24:18 PM |
who's going to come make you change it the "single/divorce" cops--
I'll bet you think they don't exist, but I see them on POF all the time "How dare you lie and say you're single when really you're divorced! A person like you probably cheats on their taxes and steals candy from kids, too!" 
ETA: oops, Zeke, I'm not following you around, really! I promise! :)
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:38:19 PM | | I'm guessing it's for legal reasons...for example...if they're trying to avoid paying child or spousal support....legally , listing divorce is a must for many reasons....inlcuding the support payment issues, there are other things such as bankruptcy, debt repayment during a marriage, tax reasons, the list goes on and on......this is just an easier way for the government to catch you if your trying to avoid paying up. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 5:22:41 AM | | I think you are only single, if you've never been married. Then it is widowed or divorced. Only true way to say the real status with one word. | |
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