| | What is expectedPage 2 of 2 (1, 2) | It doesn't matter what he expects, what do you want to do? I would not find a man who took down his profile, expected me to also, and was so gone on commitment after one date, to be interesting. It reeks of problems in the future with him, I'd keep doing my own thing and if he burns out quickly, just another way to weed out those not compatible with. But some women like men like that, to each his own, it's always going to come down to you doing what's right for you.
Just because people stay on POF doesn't mean they are cheaters or looking for better or any of that insecure crap, and a person isn't showing any special behavior by hiding their profile. They can have other profiles, they can still look if they are hidden, it's a fool's folly to think if someone deletes or hides their profile then they must be serious about you. He doesn't even know you yet, how serious can he be? It's just a power play. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 9:21:35 AM | Maybe the only benefit he was looking for was for the OP to realize how much he liked her...
what a **stard, huh... dump him.
Well...THAT would be rather hasty of her of course (though I've seen women logicalize dumping men on here for slightly less).
All I'm saying is that if you intend to go invis after one date...do it and it's done. For THIS exact reason (meaning the questions that it creates, like this topic), telling her THIS soon is unnecessary. The information is not actionable after one date which she's hardly had time to digest, and creates more questions than it answers. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 9:24:06 AM | Even if a profile is hidden people can still communicate with others. You just don't show up in their search results is all.
No reason to follow his lead since he may just be saying what he thinks you want to hear. I'd feel no guilt at all keeping my options open till someone gives me reason not to. Happens too many times & even after a few dates, that things don't work out.
I've also been on many 1st dates/meets & never said something like that so soon. I'd feel a little pressured for or rushed had it been said to me. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 11:15:42 AM | I just dont get somethings, Might just be me, But if you meet someone and it goes good, why would you want to keep meeting other people? So you will have a choice? Like lets make a deal, door number 1, 2 or 3? I am not saying jump right into a serious relationship, but go on a few more date's and see what happens.
Dont take your profile off, thats all up to you, but if that's what he wants to do, I dont see anything wrong with it. What happens if you go on date's with other people, and you like them all? | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 12:34:08 PM | | I went invis while dating the last gal, lasted several weeks. She never went invis but I didn't let it bother me. I'm not a serial dater either. If I go out with someone and I like them enough I'll see just them until it either blossoms or folds. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 12:36:20 PM | Sorry, you can so 'date' more than one person at a time. I agree 5 is a bit excessive, but 2 or 3 is very manageable. It is up to the individual what they want and also up to them to communicate! Be honest, be yourself, and let people judge fairly.
As for the original question: Don't worry about his actions, if curious ask him. You do what you want! Hide your profile only if you want to. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2012 7:20:00 AM | | Not after one..... DONT DOOOOOOOOOO IT. Leave it visable and see if he can convince you otherwise. If he become insecure.. u'l know it. If he dont think or mention anthing about it.. then your on good grounds to decide for yourself after another date or ten lol | |
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Posted: 8/5/2012 7:41:28 AM |
Sorry, you can so 'date' more than one person at a time.
Sure you can if you're just gonna be buddies hangin' out. But I wouldn't be too invested in going out with someone where I was one of three.
Reminds me of that silly Bachelor program on TV... | |
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Posted: 8/5/2012 1:07:17 PM |
during our 1st date, closer to the end he started saying how he would change his profile so it's no longer visible since we were having a great time and he would like to build on that.
This is silly, weird or foolish. Before any "building" begins you need a foundation. | |
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| What is expected
Posted: 8/5/2012 1:18:24 PM |
It sounds like he is going to do it, and expects you to do the same, very subliminal,lol...
Kind of funny he did not mention deleting his account but rather hiding it,lol...
If you keep your account visible or do not delete it, I smell more than a few questions about why you have not yet,lol...
That! | |
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