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Some times typing, is just too much bother, my tounge has no action. Fancy a phone call instead?
Oh wait... stop! LAW! , Do I need to be CRB checked?
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Posted: 8/6/2012 4:26:35 PM | Well it depends what you call good conversation.I'm sure we all think we are wonderful , witty and erudite conversationalists.Whether others agree is open to debate.
I used to find it reasonably easy to have online conversations and email exchanges, taking the time to quite often write at length. Brain rot set in somewhere along the line and these days I seem to struggle for something to say.Maybe because I've said it all before. There's only so long your own bons mots remain vaguely interesting to y'self. Then you start thinking I've heard that one before and it weren't all that interesting first time round!
I'll tell you what it is.It feels self centred and egotistical spouting on about y'self and there's only so many questions you can ask before you feel like the Gestapo.Conversations ebb and flow, have a rythym and go off to allsorts of places before remembering where they started. I love it when you suddenly stop and try to recall what you were talking about in the first place and have to go through the conversation backwards to find out. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 1:17:53 AM |
I'm tired of guys talking to me and say "Hi, u k?" All I want is someone who I can have a decent fun conversation with, am I asking for too much?
may i ask how many guys do you actually message first?
Oh, and regularly get messages with just a cell phone number and 'call me' - yeah right!
ever thought they might get bored of playing email tennis ....
most of the bints on here want to play endless emails and not realising its an actual dating site not something for them to use whilst waiting for there soaps to start, you see it on the profiles with keep me entertained or make me laugh etc though its good fun inboxing them numbers for a clowns act whilst saying this should do it for you! lol | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 1:31:22 AM | Bints......Charming. I guess after a while on this site it gets tedious keeping up the facade of being a decent person. So reverting back to true form and name calling is where it's at?
There is no gender attached to on-line behaviour. There are 'lazy' people in both camps. And there are unrealistic expectations in both camps.
The thread that was started by a guy, basically referring to the same thing, was removed swiftly. It's interesting to see that when a female starts this kind of thread it gets a lot more pats on the head.
I have written both kind of messages. The short and sweet "Hi, how are you. Liked your profile. Would you like to view mine and we could take it from there" To the messages that refer to specific points in their profile. They have an equal success rate. (And by success i mean they both get minimal response).
Swings and roundabouts. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 1:58:18 AM | Practically every single message in my in box is
"hi, what u upto"
or the flirt notification. I'd rather respond to the flirt notifications as then I can make up a decent opener.
I'm not complaining by the way, I usually send the first messages, I just try to make up something funny based on their profile text.
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Posted: 8/7/2012 2:04:14 AM |
I always reply to messages that guys have actually put some effort into.
Hmmm... really? I don't believe you! I think you are fibbing! In fact I know you are! ;-)
I dont blame you though, why reply to someone you know you won't be interested in?
I get the one liners as well on the rare occaisions I get a message, sometimes I send out a short message, but never just a bland hello. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 2:24:01 AM | | I even reply to those I am not interested in. To let them know I am not interested in them. Seems the polite thing to do, IMHO. Regardless of the length of message. Unless it's the guy who messaged me with "Hu". He didn't get a reply. I felt rebellious that day. ;-) | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 3:41:45 AM |
I even reply to those I am not interested in. To let them know I am not interested in them. Seems the polite thing to do, IMHO.
Thats pretty decent of you, the common consensus is just to ignore, which seems harsh but it is understandable. Men for instance don't always recognise the no thanks response and consider any communication as encouragement, sometimes. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 5:42:19 AM | In response to message 29, I am not a bint and I daresay that most of the other women on this site are not either. Nor do I spend my evenings watching soaps, in fact I dont watch tv, so for you to generalise the women on here is bang out of order.
Your comment about the messages I get with just a cell number - Im hardly going to phone a complete stranger, after having had no contact with him, just for a chat am I? Once we have exchanged a few messages, then yes, of course, we would have a phone chat. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 6:46:11 AM | What is wrong with the line'hi, liked your profile, wondered if you might be up for a chat?'.
There you're being ASKED if you want to carry the convo on.
Again, what's the point of keeping out typing out paragraphs that are only going to get deleted?
Also, if someone you fancied and you liked the look of their profile, but they just opened with a one-liner, what would be your response then? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 6:55:22 AM |
What is wrong with the line'hi, liked your profile, wondered if you might be up for a chat?'.
There you're being ASKED if you want to carry the convo on.
Again, what's the point of keeping out typing out paragraphs that are only going to get deleted?
Also, if someone you fancied and you liked the look of their profile, but they just opened with a one-liner, what would be your response then?
Agreed, I think one sentence is more than enough to start a conversation. Plus as long as the profile has enough information then people can easily make a decent conversation out of it. If someone sent a message like, "Hi, liked your profile, wondered if you might be up for a chat?" My response would be, "Sure :) Oh I noticed on your profile you like etc etc etc." It's not rocket science, you don't need giant essay at the start of a conversation, they tend to build up towards stuff like that. Unfortunately if you send a sentence like the line above women tend to go, that's a copy and pasted message! You put no effort in, I'm going to explode! Arhghghhhhh | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 7:02:33 AM |
Unfortunately if you send a sentence like the line above women tend to go, that's a copy and pasted message! You put no effort in, I'm going to explode! Arhghghhhhh
Lol stick their name in and then they can't! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 7:03:33 AM | | If I was lucky enough to get a whole sentence sent to me, I wouldnt hesitate to send a reply! I dont expect a whole essay but if they can only be bothered to write 'hi babe' then its not worth a reply! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 9:42:11 AM | | The last message that was sent to me was just "hellow" LoL. I did reply and started a conversation but it seemed all one sided with one to two sentances in reply. I did ask if she fancied meeting up sometime? She replied it would? When i sent a message back how we could meet and 2 or 3 suggestions and if she fancied something else?She replied and chickened out.LoL. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 9:45:53 AM | | ^^^ thats a notable point, with rare exceptions, usually IF i get as far as getting replies, i`m trying to keep things rolling with at least 3 or 4 line messages, then getting one line back, often consisting of 3 or 4 words, that does make it difficult to keep up, and i tend to lose interest quite quickly if i have to make all the effort, it takes two ! :O) | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 9:59:25 AM | | im afraid, due to texting,facebook most young peeps dont talk,when they do they cant hold an articulate conversation(big words for tuesday i know lol), so try higher up the food chain/older,some of us are intellegent, cunning linquists lol | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:03:52 AM |
Bints......Charming. I guess after a while on this site it gets tedious keeping up the facade of being a decent person. So reverting back to true form and name calling is where it's at? rather tell the truth ... so for you to generalise the women on here is bang out of order. afraid not as guess which sex watches the soaps more? Your comment about the messages I get with just a cell number - Im hardly going to phone a complete stranger, after having had no contact with him, just for a chat am I? Once we have exchanged a few messages, then yes, of course, we would have a phone chat. so what can tell of a person after a "few" messages? what about insulting people, is that ok? who did i pacifically insult? feel free to report though with your rest of post has actually broke the rules of the forum but hey ho .... The thread that was started by a guy, basically referring to the same thing, was removed swiftly. It's interesting to see that when a female starts this kind of thread it gets a lot more pats on the head.
I have written both kind of messages. The short and sweet "Hi, how are you. Liked your profile. Would you like to view mine and we could take it from there" To the messages that refer to specific points in their profile. They have an equal success rate. (And by success i mean they both get minimal response).
Swings and roundabouts. exactly .... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:05:37 AM | Good conversation about what?
This was my initial thought...... So many subjects, so little time 
It seems like you're just frustrated at not been able to find someone who you 'click' with yet but if you let your frustration guide you it'll never be alleviated.
Just stop looking, enjoy the forums for what they are and chances are the person who you'll really click with will happen across your path from an avenue you'd never even expected. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:23:48 AM | Message 45 - just because I am female, doesn't mean that I watch soaps - I don't!
What I can tell after a few messages, is whether or not the person is interesting enough, and has a solid grasp of the English language, to warrant a telephone conversation.
'Who did I 'pacifically' (assuming you meant 'specifically') insult?' - well all of the females on this site I would imagine, by referring to us all as 'bints'! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:32:05 AM |
well all of the females on this site I would imagine, by referring to us all as 'bints'!
I daresay that most of the other women on this site are not either. <--- remember saying that? so you imply there are "bints" on the site?
just because I am female, doesn't mean that I watch soaps - I don't!
keep stamping that foot .... you never know the earth might stop spinning. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 11:19:42 AM | I must admit, a lot of the ladies out there could do with a lot more imagination than messages like;
"hi"
"hu r u?"
"ur cute"
boring....! Come on, do better than that! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 11:20:34 AM | | and what's with just sending some BBM number (and I don't have a Blackberry) or a mobile number? That just doesn't work for me... | |
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Posted: 4/7/2013 6:40:32 PM | | hi I jake I'm not trying to pick you up as it were I just want a decent conversation with another human being who isn't a complete idiot. i mean I'm nothing close to a genius but for Pete sake has the world completely given up | |
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Posted: 4/7/2013 6:43:48 PM | | I agree with you but I cyber space adds a bit of mystique to the experience. plus there are allot of weirdos in the world. granted hiding behind a computer may encourage cowardice it practically guarantees safety. but sadly verbal communication is a lost art | |
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