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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:24:01 PM | Every morning when I wake up, I say "have a nice day" to someone who has added me as a favorite. Why not start the day off on a positive note.
When I was on here before I was well into the 300's , women would contact me and say you have too many favs for me, my question is, so why did you contact me.
I couldn't care if a woman had 3000 like there are on here, I will still contact her, favs don't bother me.
Some of you people should be questioning yourself as to why it bothers you so much that you feel you need to complain about some else's profile.
Then I started blocking men ,my favs dropped considerably lol. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:51:39 PM | Msg 576:
lilmslefty...... I just came back over here and looked at this thread again. I have added you to my list. Feel free to do so yourself. Thanks for the compliment and the kind words Msg 587:
Favorites list is just another way to play with some peoples emotions. Favorites list should be done away with. You are either interested or your not. So, fellow poster.. are you saying it's okay for you to have a friend add you and you add them.. but everyone else with a larger amount of friends .. is playing with peoples emotions? Talk about Contradictions and Assumptions Msg 603:
Use it or not the way that works best for you, it's the assumptions as wishes said that is the rub. Thanks I'd add you to my favorites.. but yur already there *winks*
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:59:46 PM |
I have a few in my favorites but i talk to them. These with 100, 200, 300, on up is just plain ridiculous and a huge turn off. When i see one with over 15 or 20 favorites i just keep going. The first thing i think is they are collecting trophy's.
So you will rule out a person just because others have added them to their list which they have no control over. Talk about an over reaction.
As for the testimonials, some people have friends in real life who just wants to let people know how wonderful their friend is. Say what you want but you can say good things about yourself all day but if others say the same about you that means a lot more. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 4:08:04 PM |
I have a few in my favorites but i talk to them. These with 100, 200, 300, on up is just plain ridiculous and a huge turn off.
Ridiculous, well I suppose then that you also call everyone in your personal phone/address book every day, and email everyone in your contacts list constantly. That's what I'd call ridiculous. I don't have to talk to my friends all the time for them to know they ARE my friends. Maybe yours are a little more needy and require a lot of attention. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 4:21:46 PM | | People really care about this? People are so strange. :P | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 4:28:27 PM |
People really care about this? People are so strange. :P
Smartest poster on this thread by far.
Things to complain or be angry about
1. Cheaters
2. People who post old pics
3. Men who lie about their height
4. Gas prices
But not favorite lists. I think some people just need something to be angry about ALL the time. THe four things i've listed affects you finding the right person for you but not a damn favorites list. Just laugh it off and go on with your life. Life is too short to complain about dumb things, well it's cool to complain but I see a lot of passion in complaints here. Which is weird. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:29:10 PM |
rule out a person just because others have added them to their list which they have no control over
No control over adding, yes. However you have the option of going in and deleting all the people who never communicate, as well as requesting in your profile that people do not add you unless they want to communicate. If someone just collects hundreds of them it's nothing more than an ego trip. I would not contact them either. I mean, if you have 300 serious admirers why are you still on PoF???
but if others say the same about you that means a lot more
Just because your FRIEND likes you, it does not mean you are good relationship material. Totally different dynamic. And if the testimonial is from a former partner or date, even more suspicious. Why aren't they still together? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:35:05 PM | Msg 607
Apparently you didn't read far enough back. "EVERY ONE" That is on my list are people i either talk to or they are people who asked. That i don't mind. What i do mind is people who just add me and never offer to say a word to me. If i message them and they don't answer i delete them. If i am not good enough to speak to then i am not good enough to be added to someones favorite list. This is why i say it messes with some peoples emotions as in pissing them off because there good enough to be added but not good enough to speak to. And no, It's not a contradiction. The person you are speaking of asked right here on the forum. And if you had read far enough back you would have see that. And you would have seen where she told me she would be glad to speak to me. Right now my favorites list consist of 6 people. Every one of them i have spoken to at one time or the other. At least 4 of them i speak to everyday. Can you say the same thing about your 141 favorites? I doubt it. The only thing the favorites list is good for is the ego factor. Look how many men want me' Look how many women run after me. Women and men both gripe and complain about being ignored and 98% of there messages being deleted. If that is true why have such a huge friends list of people if the grand majority are being ignored. I would rather have 6 people that i either date or talk to on my list than 200 strangers that i have absolutely no contact with and know nothing about. There has to be a reason for a person to have 100, 200,300 400 people on there list that a person doesn't know, they don't speak to and never cull them out. Sounds like ego to me. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:37:05 PM |
Ridiculous, well I suppose then that you also call everyone in your personal phone/address book every day
I don't see where this person specifically said they talk to them EVERY DAY! The entire point being whether you have had any contact with them or not.
When I had an active profile here I clearly asked people not to put me on their lists unless they had already communicated with me. (And I deleted all others on a weekly basis.)
If you have 300 people who have you as their favourite, there is NO WAY that you have been in contact with even half of them, never mind being friends! | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:52:13 PM |
So you will rule out a person just because others have added them to their list which they have no control over. Talk about an over reaction.
What do you mean they have no control over. Put it this way. Lets say 200 people added me to there favorites list. Out of that 200 only one answers my message and the others just delete me and never answer. There are 199 favorites list that i will be deleting my self off of. Very simple. Another thing, In the year i have been here most women on here don't answer the messages guys send for whatever reason. There are a lot of guys that pass these women with huge amounts of favorites by. Simply because it SCREAMS there not serious in there search for a potential mate. I have already seen one on here with 700 favorites. Out of that 700 there's no one she is compatible with and been here since 2004. A guy who is serious is just gonna pass that right on by. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 11:56:13 PM |
There has to be a reason for a person to have 100, 200,300 400 people on there list that a person doesn't know, they don't speak to and never cull them out. Sounds like ego to me.
I do not have even 100 but I do not delete because it does not bother me. Even one click to delete is more effort than I want against something that has no effect for me. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 12:06:25 AM |
Ridiculous, well I suppose then that you also call everyone in your personal phone/address book every day, and email everyone in your contacts list constantly. That's what I'd call ridiculous. I don't have to talk to my friends all the time for them to know they ARE my friends. Maybe yours are a little more needy and require a lot of attention.
MSG 609
Well yes, We are in contact everyday or every other day. Mainly because we get along very well and we like to talk at least every other day. But i guess that would be impossible if i had over 200 people in my address book. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 12:15:06 AM |
I do not have even 100 but I do not delete because it does not bother me. Even one click to delete is more effort than I want against something that has no effect for me.
I think your profile said you have 96. All i can tell you is there is a lot of guys that will not take you serious with a large number of favorites. Read around the forums. Find out for yourself. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 1:03:31 AM | It's 2 or 3 a.m. and I've been online too long to communicate coherently any longer , so I put the pretty lady in my favorites file in order to contact her later. Personally , I have genital herpes and am upfront about it; I get worn down by women flamin' on me for contacting them ( esp. when they claim to be looking for "friends"). If they want to talk, they can respond to my placing them in my favorites. It happens.  | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 1:06:44 AM | | Doesn't your profile show the number of people who have YOU on THEIR favorites list ? | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 1:08:46 AM |
I think your profile said you have 96. All i can tell you is there is a lot of guys that will not take you serious with a large number of favorites. Read around the forums. Find out for yourself.
If someone does not like me or take me serious because of something so trivial, I am very glad to not talk to that person, we would not very compatible. This makes everybody happy. :) | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 5:50:45 AM | | I have started putting someone on as Favorites before writing to them as I am tried of witting with not reply. If they see I have added them and they have looked at me profile without a reply then I delete. You write to someone and they can't even say "No Thank YOU". Why have people become so people so RUDE. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:18:07 AM | | why have people become sooo rude? because the ones we reply to with that no thank you become so rude! its MY choice who I respond to, I don't owe a stranger anything. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:34:35 AM | It's supposed to be a compliment. Also it's a date site so they are getting to know people so I am sure they will drop a line when they are ready.  | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 6:55:26 AM |
There has to be a reason for a person to have 100, 200,300 400 people on there list that a person doesn't know, they don't speak to and never cull them out. Sounds like ego to me. Perhaps You didn't read far enough back either, Sport cause there are several Very Good Reasons why someone may have more than "6" people who have favored them.
Personally.. I answer every email sent to me.. I've never gotten a rude comeback to a decline.. perhaps it's because of my gentle nature and sense of humour.
Anyone who passes anyone by due to a number at the bottom of their profile doesn't have enough confidence in themselves for me to find them attractive anyway.. so you, and anyone else like you, are doing me a huge favour. Thanks! Good luck in talking to your "6" dames of interest... cause with your thinking and ridgid views... right now everyone of them are competing with each other for your sincere interest... good luck to you "6" may the best gal win  | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 7:41:30 AM | | Yeah I have a few on mine and never got a message from them. I even have a woman who put me on her's. Sometimes I go thru it and delete myself off the faves who I don't want to be on. I do that every now and then. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:55:12 AM | No control over adding, yes. However you have the option of going in and deleting all the people who never communicate, as well as requesting in your profile that people do not add you unless they want to communicate. If someone just collects hundreds of them it's nothing more than an ego trip. I would not contact them either. I mean, if you have 300 serious admirers why are you still on PoF???
This is so funny. Favorites list do not mean a thing to me so why would I spend time dealing with something that has no bearing on me finding a future mate? I swear people put too much emphasis on silly things. About the 300 admirers, have you been reading the previous posts about people not being contacted by the people who add them. Really, is the favorites list really that big of a concern to you?
Just because your FRIEND likes you, it does not mean you are good relationship material. Totally different dynamic. And if the testimonial is from a former partner or date, even more suspicious. Why aren't they still together?
In my world what people around the person says about them means a lot. May be different with you.
There are a lot of guys that pass these women with huge amounts of favorites by. Simply because it SCREAMS there not serious in there search for a potential mate. I have already seen one on here with 700 favorites. Out of that 700 there's no one she is compatible with and been here since 2004. A guy who is serious is just gonna pass that right on by.
So you probably passed Mrs. Right by due to a stupid assessment of favorites list. Whatever happened to getting to know a person before passing judgment. Are you sure YOU'RE serious? | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:23:26 AM |
So you probably passed Mrs. Right by due to a stupid assessment of favorites list. Whatever happened to getting to know a person before passing judgment.
OK, You want to know what happened to getting to know someone before passing judgment. It's called the delete button. It's call adding someone with no intention of speaking to them. This so called "Mrs Right" added me to her favorites. So i looked at her profile and decided to message her. You know what i got? Read/Delete/ Ignore. Another one who thought she could add me to her trophy list. So i deleted her.
As far as me being serious. Not anymore. I was when i first came here. But since i figured out that there are a lot of people who treat this site like there own private play ground no i don't anymore. Why should i? The grand majority seem to be all talk and no action anyway. Sorry, Don't mean to offend, But truth is truth. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:26:09 AM | Eddie
I didn't say anything about the ones who add you. My response was to this
have already seen one on here with 700 favorites. Out of that 700 there's no one she is compatible with and been here since 2004. A guy who is serious is just gonna pass that right on by.
The way you word this makes it seem like you passed her by b/c she had a ton of favorites. There are billions of people on this planet and only one is meant for us so 700 favorites and no connection wouldn't spark a red flag with me. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 10:51:58 AM | Magnanimous One
In the start it didn't throw up a red flag for me. The ones i am talking about are the ones that have this huge favorites list and have no intention of speaking to that person. If someone adds me all i am asking for is a little bit of respect. Ask first, Say something, "I like your forum post" Say something. Something that lets the other person know that you respect the other persons feelings as a human being. If you add me have enough respect to answer when i message you. If you add me for only the reason of following my forum post i don't have any problem with it. My problem is with these that have this huge list and are just looking for more to add like trophy's. They have a huge favorite list and never speak to none of them. Then turn around and add another one and when that person messages them they don't even have the respect to answer that message of the person they just added. Sorry but that sucks. It's just my belief that if a person is good enough to add to someones favorites then they should be good enough to speak to. | |
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