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Posted: 7/19/2008 5:43:44 PM | | I don't even speak to 98% of the guy that added me to their favorite list but i mean they must have a reason why they choose to add me right lol. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 7:32:52 AM |
Eh -- If someone adds me to their favorites list and DOES NOT email/talk to me within 10 days then I drop them like a bad habit.......... lol
Now if I add someone to my favorites list, I give the potential fishy 72 hours, if they have viewed me but have not made the first effort........ again I drop them like a bad habit.........lol
It's pretty rare I will even bother making the first effort unless there was something about him that made me go HMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!
Ok.. I don't understand.. you are doing the very same thing that the guys are doing.. putting someone on your favs... getting all pissy when they don't talk to you.. YOU put THEM on your list for a reason.. so why not say something to THEM.. they are probably on this very forum wanting to know why women put them on THEIR list and don't speak.. SHEEESH..
I only put someone on my list (none now) if I have talked to them.. so that I don't have to keep searching for their profile.. but I have several that I am on THEIR list and they have yet to speak.. AHHH.. frustrating... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 5:31:29 PM | dlmagoo Said,
OK.. I don't understand.. you are doing the very same thing that the guys are doing.. putting someone on your favs... getting all pissy when they don't talk to you.. YOU put THEM on your list for a reason.. so why not say something to THEM.. they are probably on this very forum wanting to know why women put them on THEIR list and don't speak.. SHEEESH..
AMEN, Couldn't have said it better myself. Makes me think there weird. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:12:57 AM | I vote we ban favorite lists.....
Never understood them and never will
Think some people keep them on there to make themselves feel good, wow there are 300 men that think im beautiful... ok if that works for you | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:22:57 AM | | ^^^ Or some don't bother to look at the number or do not care to erase them only because of the opinion of other. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:38:30 AM | | Some of us don't actually do that to be ignorant. I'm shy with men and I find making the first move uncomfortable so it's my way of sort of encouraging them to talk to me first. I will favourite someone I like and hope that they'll contact me as a result of seeing them on my favourites. Some might see this as a negative or old fashioned attitude but I like it when a guy makes the moves first because it shows me he is interested. I just don't feel comfortable making first moves and putting someone on my favourites allows me to catch their attention without having to send a message. I've tried sending messages first in the past and it never worked for me. I got no replies no matter how many times I sent messages. When I add someone to my favourites it also means I liked something about them and I want to keep them all in one place so I can go back and check over them later to see which interest me most. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 1:21:26 PM | | sparklyshell, If there were more women on here like you i don't think there would be very many guys wanting POF to get rid of the favorites list. For every one like you that will answer there is a thousand that will add you to there list but not answer your return message. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 1:30:42 PM |
It's pretty rare I will even bother making the first effort unless there was something about him that made me go HMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!
I just love it how a woman will put up a profile, expect men to make the first contact (even when it's someone SHE'S interested in), and then gripe about never getting any dates from here. Putting them on your favorites list is supposed to be their signal to contact you? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 1:42:08 PM | The only list I look at is the one I generate (80% women, the other are men that I actually do communicate with from time to time.) The other list? I don't know who's there or who isn't because I learned long ago, it means absolutely nothing.  | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 2:23:56 PM | | Yes I get this... but I also do it... Some people I put on my favorites list in order to come back to them later when it feels right. Sometimes at the time I am rushing around so don't have time to write so I put them on the favorites list so I can find them easily and drop them a line when I have more time to be thoughtful in my emails. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 7:37:09 PM | ...seems some are in the race of collecting guys/ girls in favorites as their main goal here, and probably by adding someone, they hope you will add them too!!!  | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 8:33:51 PM | | the only favorites i get are from girls that are like 500 miles away. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 9:49:22 PM | S H IT L I S T : Harleykat this is hilarious yet ingenious at the same time! Definitely should be brought to the attention of the BigFish. I'm 100% in favour of a s h i t l i s t .
But 2 ideas come to mind which should be madatory :
1) If you put someone on your s h i t l i s t you have the option of writing a little blurb beside the pic explaining why it is you put them there(like you do on your profile pics) . you then have the ability to pull it up at any time incase they change their pic or username and you don't recognize them right away.
2) s h i t l i s t number is available to all who view your profile as the fav list number is.
I personally don't see quality in quantity of fav list numbers however a s h i t l i s t number? I see quality in quantity of that number. I' would be more interested in how a person ended up on 100 persons s h i t l i s t then 100 persons fav list.
In that sense though we may all want to responding to ppl who put us on their fav list or else could end up on a whole lot of s h i t l i s t s!
Just my view. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 10:07:59 PM |
I don't know if its just me, but i think it is hilarious that someone will put you on their favorites list and never drop you an email or anything. What is the point of being on your favorites then? Wishful thinking won' get you a date. Say hi or something. Anyone else get this?
I can't speak for those who do this, but you might want to check the criteria you set for someone to be able to message you, versus these peoples' location, age etc. You might find your perfect mate is 5 miles outside your acceptable radius, or a year older than you thought you wanted, and they're unable to message you. So to try to get your attention, all they can do is put u on their favorites list and hope you'll notice. Just a thought...
cheers - Grant | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:24:25 AM | Shyt list, Hum, Sorry, It will never work. The first time a guy gets on these forums and doesn't agree with some woman who posted, right to the shyt list he would go. He11, It's hard enough to get a woman to answer a man on here as it is. With almost every man on here on someones shyt list a guy like me wouldn't stand a chance. Matter of fact i would prob, be the first one on someones shyt list. I don't mean to hurt anyones feelings but i am gonna say what i feel is right. When it comes to shyt lists folks like me don't last long at the bottom of the list. It would be a rocket ride for me, ZOOM, Right to the top. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:20:52 AM | | A disagree would not put some one on list. The troll who try to "expose the truth" of women will probably. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:00:45 AM | | ive added to my favourites list twice cause it was the only way to say hi as they had so many limitations as to who could contact them. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:34:39 PM | | ^^^^^ I would think that those that feel the need to have all of those limitations, prolly wouldn't be someone that I would want to talk to anyway... so if I were you, stop trying to go in through the back door and just respect their barriers.. they are obviously looking for something very particular. Just my opinion.. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 1:05:16 PM | Haven't or dont look at Favorites on profiles as seems to be just a popularity thing.
Usually favorites to me are people youve contacted and want to keep in contact with.
Seems hard enough to get replys most of time anyway when u email. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 1:27:37 PM | I didn't read through the gazillion pages in this post but I think many view the favorites deal all wrong here. At match or yahoo or American singles etc... almost all the other sites have a way to send a "wink" or a "flirt" or an "icebreaker" to let someone know your interested. We don't have that here. I reply to every single person that adds me to their favs period. At least saying thank you and that was sweet etc... But for GAWDS SAKES if someone does that and your interested in them after seeing their profile also WRITE THEM for SURE!!! (wink) Doesn't have to be long ! Just say thanks etc... this is just like a guy winking at you at the grocery store or something ???? SMILE AND WINK BACK ! And he will probably come talk to you. (grin) Favorites here get used as an icebreaker of sorts. You folks that are not taking advantage of it are missing out on opportunities. Quit waiting for the followup contact and be pro-active. If he/she ADDED YOU AS A FAV then thank them, and if they sound interesting ..... just add in there that you read their profile too and say you hope they write back???? (wink)
I swear I am going to really write an "Online Dating For Dummies" book. (smile)
Kindest Regards
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Posted: 7/23/2008 4:28:50 PM | | Cowboy, What you say makes good sense, Nothing wrong with it. What most of the men and women on this thread are griping about is being added to someones favorites and then writing them to say thank you or what ever and have there message ignored or read/deleted. Very uncool. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 4:33:47 PM |
I swear I am going to really write an "Online Dating For Dummies" book. (smile)
Online Dating for Dummies (Paperback) by Judy Silverstein (Author), Michael Lasky (Author) seems someone beat you to it.  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:15:08 PM |
What most of the men and women on this thread are griping about is being added to someones favorites and then writing them to say thank you or what ever and have there message ignored or read/deleted. Very uncool
I read as much as I could but thats NOT what I got out of it at all?
Whoa,
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