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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:18:22 PM | What Eddie said^^^^
I mean..been there..done that..got the t-shirt.
What I find interesting is that when I changed my pic the fav. list tripled in a week. Found myself asking..Hmmm..is it the pic or me these guys are interested in. And when they don't send correspondance or acknowledge the fact that you have wrote to them then whats the sense in it?
I see pof(only here for forums and tunes at present) as somewhat of a catapult into the real world of dating. And I was looking for one. Just because oodles of ppl put you on their fav list doesn't mean you are going to be interested in them. If you want to go that step then atleast say something that shows you do want to maybe take it further then just having a picture on a private viewing screen .
I find it a bunch of fluff and ego thing..ppl come and go daily on that list.
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:19:20 PM | "I read as much as I could but thats NOT what I got out of it at all?"
Me either, but people tend to see what they want to. Any predetermined mindset of how people should behave is a projection of that own person's standards of behavior on other people. That to me, is uncool.
Just as many that gripe don't give a wingding, those that gripe tend to be more verbal.  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:27:45 PM |
Online Dating for Dummies (Paperback) by Judy Silverstein (Author), Michael Lasky (Author) seems someone beat you to it.
Thanks Bucsgal: I knew that already. (rolls eyes. ) It was a joke sweetie. I'll bet your one of those gals that go check snopes.com for every email? Even the silly jokes... Is there some special "grin" or smile" or "wink" I need to add for you?? Just trying to help you here?
Cowboy
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:09:30 PM | predetermined mindset..thats an interesting thought. Wouldn't a paperback actually be a predetermined mindset of that authors views? Not exactly everybodies views.
Everyone perceives the written word in the way in which they wish to perceive it..honestly thats the problem with online dating.. if infact you are actually looking to date someone..you have to become an expert almost in reading between the lines!
And if you take the fav list seriously..c'mon now!! there was a girl who posted saying she was on almost 300 fav lists and no date on a Saturday night..now what does that tell ya?
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:11:42 PM | "I'll bet your one of those gals that go check snopes.com for every email?"
Heard about the website, never gone there. I do go to bookstores, no worries, you don't me I don't know you. I was joking too, should have put a smilie, sorry you took it the wrong way.
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:21:37 PM | DirtyDeeds....actually...I kinda sorta already have a sh1tlist! ;) Though it is a mental one! ;)
Actually...I agree with the poster who said it would never work...people would use it every second that someone disagreed in a forum, did not reply to an email, or...faved them but did not say hello! ;)
However...making our "sh1tlists" not visible...just for own convenience...and not having to go as far as "blocking" someone...would be priceless! It could be done the same way as the faves, with a "notes" option! ;) Just for each of US to view!
Regarding faves lists...I think it would be far more telling, and far more interesting, to see how many faves someone has on their list, instead of how many faved them! ;) After all...I would think dude with 669 faves speaks volumes, compared to being ON 669! I usually have no clue as to who faved me, unless they write and tell me...and I would NEVER delete myself from someone's list...what's it hurting? | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:30:37 PM | dirtydeeds101 msg 758- Apparently some are not reading very close. There has been other posters that have said close to the same thing as you. Why add someone if your not going to speak? There are some on here that when they add you they intend to speak to you. I will acknowledge that. From what i read there seems to be more that don't than they are that do. With that said it is enough to make someone wonder about some of the people here. The guy that adds women but never speaks and doesn't answer when you write seems kinda creepy to me. A lady friend of mine on here said it made her wonder what the guy was doing with her picture. I read another one where a guy just kept deleting the same one and she would keep adding him but never speak. Seems creepy all the way around to me. Seems to me like it's a way for one person to stalk another. I don't take it serious. I don't let a lot of people add me either. So far i have four and i speak to three of them at least once a week. To me, To my way of thinking, That way maybe i will not give the impression that i am stalking them.  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:38:37 PM |
Why add someone if your not going to speak?
OMGawd...how many times does it need to be said...let me count thy ways!
Here are the main reasons I am on the faves list that I am....they like to follow my forum posts...they know I host POF events and can refer to my profile easily to see such...they think I am hawt **lol...hey, a girl can dream!**...we have met in person, usually at a POF event...we are realllly friends, versus the imaginary sort!  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 9:05:27 PM | HarleyKat, You are HAWT . I have to admit that i do get a kick out of reading your forum post. I also like the name you have chosen. I been thinking about calling myself "The Instigator" Seems like it would fit me. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 9:58:58 PM | | I don't think anyone on my fav's list ever contacted me...The more I delete, the more people who keep adding me back! Ahhh, it's the neverending cycle! I feel like part of the garbage pail kids collection | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:17:15 AM | I don't see the big deal about this is someone adds you to their favorites list take as a compliment. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:18:43 AM | | I'm with you Blueangel..it's a neverending game...I do write to people on my list and those who add me to theirs...they never respond. The way I look at it? Their loss! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:45:23 AM |
I have put no one on my favourites list...but people me on theirs. Most of these guys have never spoken to me either in email or in forums. I have no idea what the theory is....
I found a guy's profile the other day with 183 favorites! Mind you, that appears to have been overy a couple of years. Why not delete them? I don't either. Kind of a feather in our caps. Human vanity, I guess.
What I don't understand, is why people who live in another province or even country would add me to their favorites. What really confuses me is why someone who lived in close vicinity wouldn't then send a message?
What I don't like is that once you are on a favorites list, that they can easily know when you are online. Makes me feel kind of spooky sometimes.
Can anyone tell me if I delete someone from my favorites list and block their messages, if they can still know when I'm online just because I'm on their list? | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 9:57:02 AM |
Can anyone tell me if I delete someone from my favorites list and block their messages, if they can still know when I'm online just because I'm on their list?
Shirley, This is a question for one of the moderators maybe. But, as far as i know it doesn't matter if someone is blocked or not. They can still know when your on.They just can't contact you. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 10:02:07 AM | | I don't know, Some folks might think i am being kinda harsh about this favorites list thing. I had 7 different people to really freak me out that added me to there list. Real weirdos. I haven't liked the favorites list since. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 2:57:46 PM | Shirley Darlin.... (wink)
It shows your online when they just see your pic at the top of the pages and it says "IM user" if you have IM's enabled. I mean they know you have still been online recently if your pic is at the top of the page but.... Other then that then "No" I do not know how anyone can tell when your online. Now when you say you deleted them from YOUR favorites... You have to also delete them from being in their favorites also. That probably all happens when you block them but... Thats two lists to delete from.
I feel taht the count of how many has you on their favs should not show. Markus the head of this site said women liked the feature and used it to tell how active a guy was on here which is just balogna as it really means nothing. I have not been contacted ever by 90 percent of the ladies that have me on their favs. I was up to 150 or something at one time and satrted getting nasty letters about it and trimmed it down to the 9 I was really talking to at that time.. (rolls eyes) The favs count means nothing. I wish it was not posted. Cute gals in a bathing suit pic with a whole profile that only says "I'll fill this in later" will be on 700 favs... lol
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Posted: 7/26/2008 4:37:44 PM | Harleykat: kewl username btw.
Your reasons to stay on ppl's fav list are much different than the reasons I choose to remove myself.
When I saw the numbers going up this is what I found:
majority of married men(no thanx),
men younger than 30(K..could be fun but lets get real..I would usually ask them how many beers they've had tonight),
men sending me their phone # with partial or full nudey pics(again..could be fun but I'm tryin' to keep it real here),
and my personal favorite the guy who told me he saw me in the grocery store at the deli counter, described what I was wearing and what car I got into when leaving(Alright..time for stun gun or mace perhaps??). Sorry that one freaked me out. BLOCKED!!!
I did what cowboy said : talked with some of the rest and had some great conversations with alot of great ppl all from over..always positive. I've met some good guys from here..been to a meet n greet once; good time..a bunch of us took off to a bar across the street and watched a blues band playing.
Most of the ppl I talk with regularly: I'm not on their fav. list and their not on mine..Hell I've got 2 guys on my personal list.
Maybe I've been a lil' cynical about the fav. list. Maybe whoever it was that brought up the online dating for dummies book has something there.
Perhaps we should all have to read it prior to submitting a profile..then that way we are all on the same page when it comes to trivial things like the fav. list.
That way if you break the written rules..you're out of here!!! Kicked off the team!!
btw 31 pages on a discussion for fav. list!! Proves one thing: some keep'em, some delete 'em..Its all good...............................................................
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:41:48 PM | | yeahh is the same for me... cuz i forget whois who... so favourites .. helps to know who i was talking too.... but i usually add them after a while.. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 9:07:58 PM |
I reply to every single person that adds me to their favs period. At least saying thank you and that was sweet etc... But for GAWDS SAKES if someone does that and your interested in them after seeing their profile also WRITE THEM for SURE!!! (wink) Doesn't have to be long ! Just say thanks etc
Oh yeah, when I was on more fav lists, I thanked each and everyone, and guess what? Only less than 30% responded, one read/deleted me, one removed me from his list and the rest never bothered. Is it any wonder I don't acknowledge anymore that they have added me?
Fav list is a way for some guys to somehow have some leverage. I am not too keen on it. Those who responded of course I added to my short fav list. That makes it easier for me to find them without doing a search. But I think the fav list is an anomaly as I have said before. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 8:30:35 AM | | I get put on favorites list daily, but these people never contact me. I always wondered about that to. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 1:04:32 PM | This may have been answered already, but I'm not going 30 pages back to find out....little help from the women please!!
If a women adds you to her favorites list but doesn't contact you. does that mean she wants to be contact by me first? I feel weird because it's like if she wanted to talk to me she should. I feel like a stalker contacting people that added me to their list. Any Women care to respond? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 5:39:56 PM |
Fav list is a way for some guys to somehow have some leverage. I am not too keen on it.
Some of the folks here are just very strange......(rolls eyes...)
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Posted: 7/28/2008 6:23:11 AM | to meinnj:
If a women adds you to her favorites list but doesn't contact you. does that mean she wants to be contact by me first?
HELLO ??? YES !!! LOL ????
Contact her !!! She didn't just view your profile and go Ewwww! She added you to her favs so you intrigue her. Write her right now and tell her thank you and tell her that you also liked her profile. Go add her to your favs also first. Sorta like blowing her a kiss ! LOL. I need to start a POF dating advice column just about favs I swear. (wink)
You guys are just not getting it. If a gal adds you to her favs she just winked at you! WRITE HER BACK !!!
Same for the gals???? If a guy adds you but didnt write and your interested... WRITE HIM and just say thank you ... and you liked his profile too.
He just winked at you !! Why is cyber dating so friggin hard to understand? LMAO
Cheers! And best of Luck Always. HEY ! I am not picking on anyone here. Just trying to help you understand POF cyber dating.
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Posted: 7/28/2008 6:52:15 AM | | I think it is flattering. An icebreaker so to speak. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 7:13:47 AM | Cowboy
Contact her !!! She didn't just view your profile and go Ewwww! She added you to her favs so you intrigue her. Write her right now and tell her thank you and tell her that you also liked her profile. Go add her to your favs also first.
Your right,, but when you write your book,, suggest to women,, if they are going to add you to their fav. list,, they should remove some of their restrictions,, so men can contact them,, such as,, distance,, age,, etc,, ....... so really what was their point in them adding us men,, when we can't contact them, or if they voted on a picture,, their restrictions,, really does stop a lot of communication,, just a thought,, for your book... | |
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