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Posted: 9/7/2005 7:15:48 PM | i , for one agree with rasberries last point,,,,,,,,,,unfortunatly there arent many women out there that share your sentiments | |
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Posted: 9/8/2005 6:55:23 AM | Amen to that Ras!!!!
I think I mentioned above that my response to that similar statement by the Ex is that I get to stay true to what I am and I like what I am.
I think the way I am has allowed me to fall into significant relationships with the wrong people. They need and want what I am but only for as long as they want it. And I know that I only fell under the spell of the Siren's Song of merely a few and that all over out there, there are actually more compatible adult people to associate with. Merely it is those people that don't need so much that they don't need to pursue and ensnare as much as the takers in the world. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2005 1:34:43 PM | hey bro;
IT DOES SUCK WHEN ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS BREAK THROUGH ALL THE CRAP AND BE WITH SOMEONE, AND IT SUCKS EVEN MORE WHEN THEY ARE STILL GOING THROUGH THE MOTIONS, THE GAMES, AND THE WHAT WILL YOU DO TO PROVE YOUR LOVE SHIT. if you see that just stop it right there, because they will drop you the second you fulfill their little fantasy. no more game no more show. from the ones that have already done this to you; only thing that can heal that pain is time brother. you can however avoid it from now on, do try not be jaded with new people though.. not all of em are bad apples. good women aren't easy to find. but they say the same about us too..
take care and God bless | |
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Posted: 9/8/2005 1:35:07 PM | hey bro;
IT DOES SUCK WHEN ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS BREAK THROUGH ALL THE CRAP AND BE WITH SOMEONE, AND IT SUCKS EVEN MORE WHEN THEY ARE STILL GOING THROUGH THE MOTIONS, THE GAMES, AND THE WHAT WILL YOU DO TO PROVE YOUR LOVE SHIT. if you see that just stop it right there, because they will drop you the second you fulfill their little fantasy. no more game no more show. from the ones that have already done this to you; only thing that can heal that pain is time brother. you can however avoid it from now on, do try not be jaded with new people though.. not all of em are bad apples. good women aren't easy to find. but they say the same about us too..
take care and God bless | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 1:11:45 AM | Girls want hot guys, not nice guys. Soooo. i'm taking matters into my own and the hands of some (hopefully) skilled surgeons and personal trainers.
been called a nice guy many times, it's cool to be appreciated in that way, i'm pretty proud of it.
but i'd like to be the guy girls leap upon at parties. being caring and compasionate isn't gonna make that happen, ya gotta be hot.
so when i'm done the months of what I need to go through, i'll still be a person who is compassionate towards people and wanting to make ppls lives better, but i'll be hot too.
somehow I will be seen as a sexual being without becoming a jerk, now to raise the coin for what I need to do. Anyone wanna donate? lol | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 1:24:31 AM |  HELL NICE GUYS DO WELL IF THEY EVEN LIVE LONG ENOUGH TO FINISH AT ALL!!! | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 3:35:32 PM | Hi there,
First off I want to tell you that I feel terrible that you are going through this, but I feel obligated to share with you a lesson that I learned very recently. In order to be a better person you have to own up to your own mistakes and acknowledge how you contributed to the pain you are experiencing now.
Now, dont be mad, I know it sounds bad and you may feel really terrible, but you need to reclaim your spiritual power that you ignored. By that I mean you need to own up to the fact that you didnt see the warning signs. You ignored them, we all do, but you did and you persisted and it didnt get you where you wanted to be.
Insted of feeling sorry for yourself and asking "why wasnt it me what did I do wrong' you should be asking yourself "why did I let this happen, and why am I attracted to the WRONG kind of people"? When you acknowledge this all the sudden things become crystal clear and you start paying attention to warning signs, and then you learn, and you live your life knowing that you did all the right things. And when the time is right, and you are in the right place, you will find someone and not a moment sooner. You are not ready, you are not in that place right now. I know cause Ive been there. Take some time, get to know yourself, go see a therapist, and get well. Live, learn, and have fun doing it!!
And also, not to be too harsh, but seriously you need to acknowledge that your 'love' or 'deep feelings' for someone you dont know is only a fantasy that you created. The sooner you realize that and start seeing reality you will be well on your way to making dreams come true.
Good luck out there
Jennifer | |
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Posted: 9/13/2005 10:42:42 PM | | I read this entire thread and I have to agree with one thing I saw over and over again, Montreal Guy has the right of it. Women use their power, and a lot of them do it in a very bad way. What most women want is a man who will give in once in awhile, one who will also take the lead sometimes. Indecisive is bad, know what you want and state it plainly, when your limits are pushed you (and women this is for you too) have to decide where they actually are. IF you let a woman walk on you one time, she will do it to you forever. She will take your money, your heart, and in the end your self respect. Being nice doesn't mean you have to be a Wussy or whipped. Nice guys aren't like that, we women call them idiots and fools for putting up with that type of thing. I let a man do this to me for a very long time, then I woke up and realized I deserved better.. Men need to realize that as well.. You do not deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel less. It has been very hard, I haven't dated for more than two years now, I miss having someone to talk to, someone who I can lean on, and someone who will listen to me, but I have learned alot about me in the last two years as well. You won't curl up and die if you do not have a Significant Other, being alone is not as hard as being lonely and that the really nice guys, the kind you take home to mama, are few and far between. I am truly sorry you seem to have met a "man eater or is that hater?" I have discovered that there a great many of those on sites like these, caution is always a good thing, don't just jump in when your common sense is telling you that something isn't right. If you feel that, more than likely something isn't right and you are in for a bad surprise. Getting to know some one is like judging a fine wine, you have to take your time and savor the experience. Little sips are better than big gulps, but testing it will make the end worthwhile. I am pretty new here and haven't really posted anywhere else yet, but this thread got my attention. A very worthwhile read for those of us who don't understand why so many men don't want a relationship.. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2005 11:01:51 PM | I agree with the fine wine part. I have mentioned it before too. You need to get to know the person in detail and for while and then you can make any sort of conclusions. One cannot just superficially judge on an arial level and say "ok that person is like that" or "that guy or girl is mean forget it" , no, one must take time and just get comfortable.
Take time to get to know the other person and see who they really are and you will have better results. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2005 10:24:50 PM | Hello how are you all doing?
I am 25 and married and I would NEVER EVER cheat on my husband because I love my sweet guy and he has had his heart broken and trust me I have had my share of broken hearts too. I am so sick of women hurting nice guys because it took me years to find the love of my life and sometimes the road gets bumpy but I stick it out because I know he is my soulmate and the one I want to be with all my life. He is one of the "nice guys" and thats one of the reasons I love him so much and thankyou to all those girls who dont want a nice guy that helped me meet the one and only so to the sweet guys out there dont give up your princess is out there and btw this profile is for me to help my friend find a good guy shes got her heart broken so to all the nice guys out there give me a message and i will tell her
God bless | |
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