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Posted: 8/2/2005 7:18:44 AM | | It MAKES IT SO HARD ON THE ONES THAT REALLY WANT SOMEONE IN THIER LIFE. PLEASE DON'T PAINT EVERYONE WITH THAT BRUSH...YOUR LADY IS OUT THERE. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 7:41:40 AM | Women are looking for nice guys, at least the ones with healthy self esteems.
The "nice guy" is sometimes also referred to as " the push-over" . There is a difference between nice, and having no backbone.
Women will typically like a confident man, and that is why a lot of " jerks" are so popular.
Women also ( in many cases) like to nurture, and a "misunderstood" man is always a challenge - especially if the women have low self esteem. It always blew me away that convicted serial killers have so many female fans. Some even marry men like that. They can be super models too, it's not about how they look. It's about how they feel about themselves inside. They find it easier to blame the men for their situation, over blaming themselves. ( Men do this too, btw.) If they think they aren't worth very much, then the "jerks" are right then - aren't they ?
Ever had that " I don't deserve you" comment thrown at you ? 
The next time a woman gives you that line, tell her she is right - and just walk away. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 8:49:00 AM | | That totally bites man, But take it from me, you were lucky that it never really progressed enough for the girl/woman to really bury herself under your skin. I kive with the woman of my dreams for 2 years. 2 YEARS! I put a roof over her head, food on the table and clothes on her back. I was a perfect gentleman...we did everything together. She told me she loved me and all of that crap and then one day, she got a job. I was both happy for the both of us and proud of her. However, this is where things got F-ed up. She worked at this job for less than one week and then moved to another, higher paying job. Well, in that week-ish time span, she managed to "fall" for her 46 yeard old boss! Yeah, ok...so what, right? He's friggin' married!! So yeah, after investing 4 years of my life and tens of thousands of $$$ into building a future for the 2 of us, she dumped me for a married 46 year old man she only just met and barely knew. Now I'm pretty much down most of the time, but things are looking up. I've gotten back to being super close with my friends and my family. Never lose sight of the fact that woman or no woman...family and friends are always there for you man. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 9:07:31 AM | @ specialjen
If only it were that easy ...But I am sure we have all been shitty at one time to another...I'm afraid the world would be empty....Of course, after giving this further thought... We could get rid of the "habitually" shitty people? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 9:36:15 AM | Hey Wraith - It's not just nice guys that finish last....there are good girls that finish last too.... I met a man on this site about a month ago. We met in person the same day we met online. We seemed to hit it off and started talking on the phone everyday. Soon he was coming to see me every other day. This guys was so perfect for me. We hit it off and emotions and feelings for each other started flowing. If we werent together or on the phone we were chatting online. When we werent together, we both talked about how much we missed each other and when we were together we couldnt get enough. This went on till Sunday when he came to my house and layed on me that he couldnt handle the feeling he was having and walked out. Which makes no sense - this is a poem he wrote to me.....
I can see your every move
Without even opening my eyes
I can hear your tender voice
Without a mere whisper
I can feel your warmth beside me
Without you in the room
I can smell your sweet perfume
Without an aroma around me
I can taste your wonderful lips
Without so much as a kiss
All these things I can do
Without any senses used
These things I can see, hear, feel, smell, and taste
Because my heart allows me so
You are wonderful, and I feel wonderful with you!
How do you write something like to someone and walk away from those feelings a week later???? I will never understand. But, I will learn from my experience. I know that I am a good person and that someday I will find my prince charming. You have to take the good with the bad and learn from it. I told him that my heart screams for him to come back and my mind says dont come back. I couldnt take him back now. The trust that we had was broken and I know that if I did take him back I would always have thoughts in the back of my mind, is he going to get scared and leave again? That is something I will not do. I enjoyed the time we had and will always look back on it and know, I had a good time while it lasted - but he just wasnt "The One"....I feel in my heart there is someone for everyone and they will present themselves when we least expect it....Hang in there your "princess charming" may be just around the corner....Learn from you experience...being bitter about it just makes it harder for you to let yourself be yourself when the right one does come along.......Good Luck to you..... | |
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rd53
| | Joined: 7/14/2005
Msg: 34 | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 9:51:26 AM | Guess you can see your not alone Reaper;
Been there done that myself, it sucks!! Best to lick your wounds, learn from the healing and move on, I wouldn't change though, you still have to have faith in people, it's not fair to paint them all in the same brush....God Luck | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 10:02:10 AM | | The actual quote is "Nice Guys Finish 6th or 7th". Still no place to finish, but sometimes you have to look at your self and your motivations. If you are always out to save "wounded birds" are actually attracted to sociopaths. Then the answer lies within you. I have learned in life that women dont like P U S S I E S they like D I C K S. It is a drag, but thousands of years of evolution do not go away overnight. Keep your chin up and act in your own interests. Only be selfless to those capable of being selfless twords you. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 10:10:01 AM | That girl is stupid, but as was previously stated, you didn't lose a dammed thing.  Be glad she's gone and you are now free to find someone who truly deserves your time and effort who will spend their life trying to make you as happy as you make them. At least you found out now rather than invest in a long term commitment and find out she's been lying to you for "x" amount of years.
Nice guys dont always finish last and that is a fact. I found a nice guy here at POF and I am never, ever, ever letting him go. He is everything I could possibly want and I am glad that he has been pervceived as the "friend" or "big brother" by so many selfish and blind women. I know what I have and there are women out there who really do appreciate a good man.
 Cheers, lilwhip | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 10:42:03 AM | Great posts Guys and Gals.....Now I know where all the normal people hang out on this site..
Anyways......Nice Guys Finish last??? ..Yes ...and If I have to finish last...well then at least I finish.... | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 11:23:59 AM | I NEVER said I was "normal" SC!!  ^^ but that is a good viewpoint to have. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 12:30:03 PM | You have no idea what I am going through! You and I could be twins except my problem I have to deal with every day! This girl I'll call Wendy (Breezy) and I have been seeing each other for about 2 years. In all that time she has been constantly seeing someone else or looking for someone else. When I ask her what is up with us, she replys that "you never know" in other words hang in there and maybe someday I will give you a chance. Bear in mind that we have sex just about every day and she claims that I am the only person that get her to climax! I have given this girl everything from diamonds. money and I even bought her a car! She claims she will pay me back! so far she has kept her word $250.00 a month!
Here's the real problem, I shouldn't say the real problem because her cheating and running around is the big problem. Here it is, every time we make plans to do or go anywhere she never shows up! This girl has stood me up over 150 times!!! Either she is at the very least 2 hours late or she doesn't show up at all. I bought her a cell phone that when I try and call her she turns it off or doesn't answer it at all. She has done everything a woman can do to a man that is wrong! Cheating, Lying Standing me up. And has even stolen from me. Not muxch that I know of but I know she has. All I have ever told her is that I want to take care of her and make her happy. She say's she loves me but not in that way. When I ask her how many ways are there to love someone she has no answer. I say sex is great. Ifd it wasn't we wouldn't do it so often, right? She tells me to play hard to get. What the %&^%% HARD TO GET? If I have to play hard to get I will just be gone! She knows I am lying because she has been give at least 50 last chances! I want out but now I just want to get the money back I gave her for the car. $6000.00 dollars so I don't feel like a complete idiot! All our friends I am sure think I am crazy and I am beginning to believe it too. For instance, She went with a girlfriend to pick up trhe car she wanted and on the way back to my house she said to her friend that she wanted to cruise by one of her old boyfriends house and shjow him her new car. Her friend said to her: don't you think you should show it to the guy that bought it for you first? T Even that didn't derail her. Being involved with her is like a continuing nightmare! I am not a bad looking guy and I have more women than I knoiw what to do with . I save everything for her and I get very little in retuirn. Even our sex has gone to giving her what she wants and as soon as she is done, So am I! even if I'm not finished! Believe me ther is so much more that there isn't enough ink in on this page to finish. How;s that for a lifestyle? | |
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Nobody
| | Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 42 | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 2:00:38 PM | Nice guy does not equal pushover.
In my humble opinion nothing is sexier then someone who respects themselves enough to let no one push them around. I think many women may see it the same way. I would personally rather die a very painful death then be someone's slave. That said I have worshiped the ground a couple of my past lovers have walked on, and while some deserved it others didn't, the trick is knowing the difference isn't it? Their are a lot of nasty ladies out there ready to shred your feelings for their personal or material gain.
Some advice from a friend of mine, David his name, comes to mind; I'm not sure I agree with every word but I should say there is some truth in my friends advice. He says;
Things that are annoying to women...
- Calling her too often.
- Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too
early.
- Giving away your power to her and making her the
boss.
- Always asking a woman what she wants instead of
leading.
- Acting submissive and weak.
- Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and
manipulative requests, especially when irrational.
- Being her doormat and putting your own needs
aside.
Things that are false programing, and eventually self-defeating beliefs...
- I need to approach and pursue women.
- I need to convince women I am worthy of their approval.
- I shouldn't ever upset a woman.
- I'd better not mess this up, because I have a lot to lose.
- If she rejects me, it will be an important event and carry a lot of meaning.
- I had better impress her as often as I can.
- I should let her be in control all the time.
- If attractive women aren't interested in me, then I must be the problem.
- "Nice" guys finish first, and I had better be super nice to women all the time if I want them to be interested.
It's not only about nice, it's about a lot of things and sadly for us humans, attraction is not a choice.
Have you ever noticed that as men we have lost a lot of our social artifacts about how we should behave, many of our folkways are confused and often even contradictory about the right ways to approach women. This is why I think so many vulture-harpy-women, prey on charming good guy's out there. I think every man owes it to himself to work on his scrofulous harpy radar. I will only go with a girl who I can trust myself to be nice with. Little upsets me more then when someone tells me a way that I behave, that I thought was virtuous, is actually spineless and surrendering power. Hold all the doors, pay for what ever you want, and walk on the outside of as many curbs as you can, as long as that stuff is natural and easy for you. I think many men do yearn towards an aggressive yang filled energy, and that can be a deeply healthy and societally constructive urge. I guess its all about disentangling the things that get the**** mocking abusive asshats so much more then their share, and using it to beat them at their own game. Polite, nice, and charmingly aggressive, how about James Bond or something like that for our new patron saint? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 4:15:13 PM | | That is why you dont want to do the long term stuff. To be honest, she just was not that into you, to play you like that. Most women like and look for nice guys. There are some out there who like the "bad boys" but those are few and far between. My advise to you would be to find more local girls to date and make sure you meet them in person before investing too much time on the phone or internet. Its human nature to fill in the blanks w/the things we want in a person when we dont know what they really are. And as far as wnen a girl says you are too nice, she may just be saying she wants a guy w/some backbone, you know, someone who has their belief system and does not agree w/everything she says, because there is nothing wrong w/being nice. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 4:35:29 PM | My feelings go out to you man.
Been there done that, got the T-Shirt... Good Garage Rag now.
Nothing you can do. It's hard, it sucks, but man, just remember people say that nice guys finish last.
I don't believe it for a second. I'm a nice guy, I will listen till she can't communicate no more, be the one who stands at her side through it all, carry her when she can't go on no more. I know how painful it gets. Though, just remember, you are the one that she will never speak of again, you will be the one that she carry's always knowing why you aren't there no more. You will have that one piece of her, that the other guy will try to earn, but will never get.
I know this well. I never shed a tear when I stepped off to the side. But as the song goes, tears behind her hazle eyes.
Dreams do come true. When they do, all we do is say it's an illusion. But yet we hope for this dream every day, some of us even pray. So take this advice and learn it well. Time goes by, and this dream lives through your life. Don't question it, for if you do, that dream will vanish, why not just live it, cause it will never come around twice. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 10:21:48 PM | @ tammy ( I refuse to add "tacky" to your name) ...
I am not sure where the wires got crossed. But, if I may correct any doubts.... Betrayal is not a he or a she...but the pain another puts one through. Quite frankly, I believe once once a lady has hurt me emotionally, I walk away but..... I walk with the memories of the times we had that were precious to me. Kinda like going thru pictures every once in awhile... There are ones you never want to remember and you throw them out.... But, by that same token, there are those that bring a smile to your face every time you look at them and those are the pictures you save.... So every time you feel down, you look at these pictures of happier times and smile...
It is not in my nature to be bitter because if one is bitter due to another's trespasses... You are giving that person power over you even though neither of you are aware of it... Just think about the last time you were angry and bitter.... It is like you gave control of your emotions to a person that is no longer in your life....
Take comfort in the strength you get from healing and knowing that there are some good times you can cherish from it all.... | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 10:48:47 PM | Wraith,,You just made My Favs list ...You have an awsome outlook on life..thank You for Your insight....
All any of Us can do is Just keep going on and Make it the best We can...everything happens for a reason....... | |
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Posted: 8/3/2005 12:03:43 AM | Wraith..is POF proof that nice Guys....Don't always finish last....Rock on Wraith...
As well as Montreal_Guy...uplifting Posts Guys keep up the good work... | |
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