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LANGA
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Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 201 | |
| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/3/2005 7:19:24 AM | Majestic
You actually in a way spoke for me and what i think about people like that. I just don't want to sound harsh on here. But I agree for the most part and it don't matter at all what those people think, assuming it's negative offcourse, if they have soemthing nice to say or think and do then thats a different story.
By the way when i was mentioning nice guys and nice people in general I was talking about people like you and many others. But like I said don't worry about those judgmental people, they may have to learn the hard way . Not to sound harsh or anything but thats just that, I guesse it's what they ask for in a way. But hopefully cooler heads will prevail at the end.
Oh by the way, WE ARE ALL LOVABLE! | |
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teejai
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Joined: 6/28/2005
Msg: 202 | |
| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/3/2005 1:34:46 PM | | It's got nothing to do with whether you're "nice" or not... it's all about looks. Women are shallow, superficial creatures. | |
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rani
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Joined: 9/2/2005
Msg: 203 | |
| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/3/2005 2:06:21 PM | Hey Reaper...
you know it is not only the nice guys who finish last but also the nice girls so what's the problem? Hm, I don't know... but I can say that from a female perspective women go through the same things that you have described.. I am living proof and yet still seem to end up with liars and cheaters... men who don't tell you they are really, really married.. you give them enough trust when they say that they work on the weekends and you do not question anything about why all the dates seem to end up staying at home and only in the evenings and nothing local.... so in response once again I re-iterate that nice girls seem to finish last too... | |
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| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/3/2005 4:39:48 PM | sorry to get in on this one late ,,,,,,,but i found that most women are hipocrytes.they tell you they want a guy who doesnt do this or that or the other thing and usually end up with that sort of guy anyway,,,,,,,take my ex for example PLEASE,,,,,i am and will always be some sort of a bad guy but ive always treated women with respect,,,,shed tell me the same old line "if you want to b with me then dont drink a lot,,,,,dont get anymore tatoos,dont gamble ,and always respect me",,,well of course i gave in but what did that get me,,,,,,,,she cheated on me with a guy that was everything she didnt want me to be ,,,,,SAP i know but u always gotta have an angle ,,,dont be too nice ,,women dont want that ,,,,,,and any that say they do are liers ,,,mix a little niceness with attitude,,,,A HAPPY MEDIUM so to speak ,,,,,,,and soon my friend things will be different .....trust me i know
YOU SEE I USED TO BE A NICE GUY ,,,,,JUST LIKE YOU
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| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/3/2005 8:57:38 PM | | Wow, what a B****! That really sucks. I know how you feel. I have come accross plenty of people that used to play mind games with me. I had a friend who did it for years. I finally became strong enough to stay away from people like that. Don't be too trusting of people right away. And always listen to your gut, it never goes wrong. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 4:04:59 AM | My soon to be ex-wife told me the other day that I'm a nice guy and nice guys finish last. Imagine my speechless look of disgust at hearing this from someone with whom I have spent 10 years and had 2 daughters with. How immature is that?
So anyway that's one reason why this topic is of interest to me because I just don't see it that way. The problem isn't with me or the "nice guy", the problem is with the people we meet. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 4:29:46 AM | ^^^^^
boy, if ever i needed a reminder as to why i won't get married...that really sucks, man. i can't even put into a less cliche sentence...that totally sucks. i wouldn't blame you for bashing women for the rest of your days. woah...with kids too? good luck with everything else, bro. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 6:23:35 AM | Thanks, man. That statement from her really did knock me back but it reminded me of how juvenile a mind she has and that is her problem not mine. My first wife was also one who after making a commitment to grow up decided she wanted to be in Jr. High while in her 30s. Again my fault for those choices.
But I won't bash women based upon the choices I've made in the past. I read the profiles here and see that outside of the little hillbilly hell in which I live that there are wonderful, intelligent, and mature people out in the world.
Thanks for the good wishes... or is that well wishes? | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 6:48:01 AM | I read what all transpired
I must say that it equally happenes to women
I have not been on here for long but let me tell you
I converse with alot of man on here, yes my picture
is one of art taken at a university, it is not just a naked
picture to lure man it is a picture that makes us dream
and takes us to a place where it makes us feel good.
But the point is this I spoke to an individual on here we gotten
to know each other in a very deep way, then we spoke on the
telephone, all I am saying here is there is lots of players and they
do not care if we have a heart or soul all they care about is
what can they gain from others if you have nothing to offer them
in what they want they move on.
Ive come to know that WORDS are CHEAP actions speak louder
then words and there are not alot of HONORABLE people on here
or out there to say the least
Just know that in your soul you were honorable and know
My Lord she did not take my soul she bruised it but she
did not take it
I am happy to see that you created thsi forum here it helps
to heal and let others know that they are not alone in this
May you wishes in life become reality .... :):) | |
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| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:11:19 AM | | Speak for yourself i am a nice guy (Honest) but i got a heart of gold leaf stone. I fight for the right reasons and the little weaker guy and i fight dirty if i finish last you can betcha it coz i let you win | |
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LANGA
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Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 211 | |
| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/7/2005 8:52:45 AM | itechman
If it's true that she said that, then she wan't a genuine person from the beginning and she probabbly has issues with herself too. There is a difference between being open or courageous and having guts on the one hand ,and acting stupid on the other. That was a stupid thing she did. I am talking about her words offcourse, as no one is born stupid. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 10:01:25 AM | | Nice Guy or **stard its all about comparability, I find the nastiest people always find each other somehow in the end, be yourself, and be as good as you can and you will find the person you deserve. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 10:51:38 AM | | Since my breakup with the love of my life 4 years ago, I haven't really cared about meeting women, I was too down about the whole thing. I did everything, treated her to all our meals, bought her gifts, wanted to do everything for her, and she lied in the end, I was just used up I guess. Next time I will not be the nice guy, but the jerk, | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 12:19:52 PM | | First of all I would like to say I am sorry you had to go through that Reaper. I think most of the problem people have online is that the other person does not realize that there is a real live person on the other side of the puter screen. To many of these people this is just a game or an ego stroke. It makes it hard for the "real" people who are looking for relationships to trust enough to let it go any further then emails and ims. I have had my fair share of hurt, disillusionments, head games all rolled into 1. My advice to you first of all is that from experience long distance relationships never work. You have to spend time TOGETHER, face to face, up close and personal. By someone living hundreds or thousands of miles away that is just impossible. Another thing is you should only email and im for a short time, 2 weeks tops. If that person is not comfortable enough with you to give you their phone number there are a lot of sites where you can call them without acutally knowing their number. It is so easy to put someone on a pedastool here, they can be anyone you want them to be. The real test is meeting them in person. See if there is chemistry, attraction, if they can even hold a normal conversation! smiles. Well good luck to you Reaper in your search. Believe me, there are plenty of "normal" people on here, just watch for signs of players and avoid them. Seems like you need a hug my friend........warm hug to you, Debbie | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 12:48:11 PM | That sucks man! You got railroaded, happens to the best of us. You have heard that expression before? .........And thats because only the BEST guys have stuff like this happen to them. just don't leave yourself open next time, remember what your grandmother always said.......................you will know when its time to share all with your life long lover when, the relationship has already been .....a lifetime. (keep a bit of mystery to yourself)cheers......... | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 2:01:18 PM | | yes i have. i met a sweet woman and we hit it off. everything was perfect. until i came home to find out she had packed and left with no reason as to it. i find it odd love one minute to hate the next. is honesty and upfront outlawed. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 4:34:45 PM |
I did everything, treated her to all our meals, bought her gifts, wanted to do everything for her, ... Next time I will not be the nice guy, but the jerk,
Spending money on someone and doing everything FOR someone doesn't always constitute a "nice guy." Not saying that this poster isn't, just making a point.
Often the "I buy all the meals, look at what a nice guy I am" is a sign of someone who is not looking for a partnership, but something ... else. If someone's looking for a partner to SHARE life with, the "do everything for" doesn't always come across as nice. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 5:06:30 PM | ive said it b4 and ill say it again A HAPPY MEDIUM... its strange but when i meet someone at the beginnig they act as if they r attracted to the mystery of me but once they think they have me figured out ,,,,,thats when the real mystery begins ,,,,,,,,,dont be too nice
for me niceness got me a few things i wanted and my attitude got me the rest ,,you gotta be an  and combined  | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 5:33:17 PM | | I personally gave up on being nice or bad. I gave up the games when i turned 30.I careless.I found out you cannot be average.You either got to play games or be some weirdo with 50 peirsings with green hair to fit in.Yes the days of opening doors,keeping a job,and drug free does not cut it in this days society.I am so glad i have gave up on it.And what i have seen i am not missing nothing. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 6:43:32 PM | | I do not go to no places.I gave up on dating games that women play.I gave up on it when i hit 30 and i do not miss it.I careless..I did what i was suppose to do in my younger years.Never got me no where .I got my pride . | |
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LANGA
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Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 222 | |
| Nice guys finish last.
Posted: 9/7/2005 6:46:42 PM | Sicilian.
I agree with you for the most part except about the "real test " part. I have different views. Physical attraction is not the real test ok.
Also a relationship CAN work even without phsyical attraction. Mind you there are so many components to a relationship and to say with psychical attraction it just wont work, I am sorry mame, but you are wrong and so is anyone who thinks that. It has been prooven to work. Those that say otherwise i feel are just rationalizing what they are doing so it doesn't appear shallow, but it is.
By the way this gentlemen was asking about nice guys, my point stays the same as what I said before, that is that nice guys and nice girls don't finish last no matter how he/she looks.
I am saying this not merely as an argument or opinion but as a factual statment worthy of strong consideration.
No offense to anyone offcourse, but i am just speaking from the heart.
God bless | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 7:07:01 PM | | I think that its too bad that people cant treat other people the way they want to be treated. To play with someones emotions like that really sucks. If it just so happened that you developed feelings for someone who just couldnt return those feelings...thats one thing....but to just string you along all that time...thats just not right. I dont feel sorry for you...but I am sorry that you had to go through that the hard way...but all women arent like that. Good Luck. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 7:10:03 PM | | Not all women are superficial.....just as all you men arent. There are good and bad in everyone but in reality. The people who are superficial and always think that they deserve better...will find themselves still looking for their perfect person while your sitting happily cuddled with the person you love. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2005 7:15:34 PM | | I understand your hurt but how does you being a jerk hurt anyone but you and an innocent person who has to pay for someone elses mistakes?? I have been told by an ex that Im too soft hearted and that I will keep getting walked on and hurt....I said..."yeah, I might get hurt and walked on a few more times in life....but there will come a day when I will meet someone special who will appreciate the way I am." I will never become hard and change who I am because of someone elses need to control and hurt another person. I like who I am. | |
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