| | What do Women really want???Page 3 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | Hello,
I have not read your profile yet, and I wanted to respond simply based upon what I have read in your thread. I hope that presents a real opinion based only on what you have said here. Firstly. You are a gentleman, and only good breeding brings that about. A woman of maturity will always go for the "good guy". The maturity is relative. Not all women reach maturation at the age that society projects onto them. I have been there the obtuse phase of loving or rather "lusting" after the bad boy type. I now understand that kindness is "special". As for being in love the next time around it is all about the guy being "good". Seeking after the best possible relationship that the two can make together. Your kindness does not make you "weak" it is obvious that you are Strong in every way. A good looking, strong in mind spirit and soul kind of guy. I would never worry about fear when I was on your arm. Of course you would never drop your standards, that is obvious to anyone who really read and understood your thread. I am going now to read your profile. Good Luck in your search.
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| What do Women really want???
Posted: 6/17/2006 6:06:19 PM | | Well, I keep getting it proved to me, over and over, that nice guys really DO finish last....... | |
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| What do Women really want???
Posted: 6/17/2006 8:56:34 PM | well then if you really do want it then lets have it together,,a no strings attached love affair dinner drinks and a jacuzzi awaits us | |
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Posted: 6/25/2006 1:27:44 AM | | My sons recently told me the same thing. The two younger ones were joking about it one day, but there was a ring of truth in what they said. They said that they had decided to drop the manners and thoughtful gestures and the next time they meet someone they like, they are just going to walk up to them and smack them in the head. They said it seems like the only guys who constantly have a girl on their arm are the ones that treat them like crap, and then the girls come and boohoo on the nice guy's shoulder. My sons are getting tired of having wet sleeves. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 9:49:43 AM | | Its all a matter of taste and confidence I think most women go with bad boys thinking they can tame them "wrong" a leopard never changes its spots. If a guy is over nice we think theres some motive behind it or cover up. So what do you do nothing, just be yourself relax enjoy keep smiling have fun and the right woman will come into your life respect them and talk to them as an equal and you'll do fine. p.s. wish I lived closer I wouldnt mind being treated nice by such a confident good looking guy xx | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 10:22:41 AM | You know thats a really good question., I think its a low self esteem issue for most women, and when a really good guy comes along they dont think they are good enough for them(you)
when a woman has been in a failed relationship she blames herself in some ways, and feels she is a failure when many times its not her fault. (am I right ladies?) but your self esteem still isnt where it should be,. What a woman needs and what a woman wants usually are two different things,. Many times a good man comes along and unless she thinks she diserves him she will not aproach you and settle for much less,,, and guess what,, ends up dating some jerk that is no good, but I tell you I am single and I have met several ladies with this low self esteem issue and have convinced them they are wonderful people they are and now many of them have found love and are now married, (no im not cupid) | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 11:36:02 AM | | Honesty & loyalty....is that sooooo hard for guys to understand??? Think with the head that's sitting ontop of your shoulders for once!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:32:10 PM | you show respect, you get respect...simple!
I have heard this before... and it always sounds good... especially when it comes from someone who has gone the distance to say something incredably humiliating to that special "someone" that they care so much about. A canned spill like this always comes from hate and not from the heart!! Such expressions of love are so overwhelming... especially for the one it is intended to harm!
If you want that special someone to cherish you and "respect" you... cut them off at the knees with an expression like this that is intended to hurt them. You probably will not get what you want... but chances are good you will get what you deserve! I find that the people with a string of the fancy little quotes are the ones that can't figure out why life has been so bad to them... and for the life of me... I can't understand why either!
If you have low self esteem it is easier to hurt someone to make yourself feel better than it is to do somehthing to help yourself so you can be there for the ones who need you the most!
What would the world be like without the little words of hate? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 1:08:26 PM | | I agree with TexasExe. No man has the rights to abuse any woman under any circumstances. The last time a man tried to physically abuse me I thought what was good for the goose was good for the gander. That is when a good heavy frying pan came into the mix , and his head was a fryin real good. Granted I went to jail , but it was worth it. He never , ever hit me again. If a woman even allows abuse one time it will begin the path of no return. Abuse usually starts slowly so run when you see any signs. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 7:07:23 PM | C A...here's one you forgot on your list......
Wranglers hugging a well formed butt !!!!!
And a hard worker. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 10:41:03 PM | and that is why so many of you get in trouble with men and end up screwing up the next batch of good men...
Chasing ass... and giving it up to those of us that took it from you and went to the next one in line.
STOP THE MADNESS! STOOppppppp! THE! MADNESS!
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Posted: 8/28/2006 6:19:53 PM | | hmm maybe she didnt believe that you were bein genuine, maybe you gave her a feeling that something was wrong? | |
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Posted: 10/3/2006 3:15:33 PM | I hope this helps:
#1 CONFIDENCE: The most attractive quality to a woman is not money, looks or who you know. The most attractive quality to a woman is confidence. Women like men who are confident in who they are and what they want. They do not have to be the best looking or richest guy in the room but if a man is confident in himself as a man, who he is, what he wants in life and what he wants from her and any possible relationship women find this the most attractive quality. Women do not like insecure men or men with self esteem issues. They do not want to always reassure you why they are with you. They do not want to hear "I cannot believe a girl as beautiful as you is dating me"...what they would rather hear is.. "We make a good match: you're stunning and can turn heads wherever we go which gives me time to sneak into the best parking spots". You've complimented her, used humour and reinforced how good a team the two of you make.
#2 DECISION MAKING: Women like a man who can make a decision. IF you pick up a woman for a date and say what do you want to do and she says what would you like to do and you respond whatever you want to do...you've lost her. Go to a date with a plan, and a back up plan... be decisive. If something doesn't work make a decision about what will work. The reason women like men who can make a decision is that it demonstrates their leadership qualities. Men who are leaders make decisions, men who follow cannot.
#3 ASSERTIVE NOT AGRESSIVE: Women like men who can assert themselves. They like if you can take charge of situations whether those situations are on how to deal with a bad waiter or how to help a stranded motorist. They admire men who are able to take charge without running over other people or treating other people with disdain. They like men who stand up for themselves without having to get agressive, but who will get physical if it is needed.
#4 RESPECT: Women like men who respect them. This means that YOU ARE PUNCTUAL for a date. NEver show up for a date late, it shows a lack of respect for her. If you are going to be late then call well ahead of time to let her know and show up with a small token of appreciation for her patience waiting for you like a chocolate from Bernard Callebaut or even a flower you picked on the way there. Also women want to know you respect who they are and what they want in life. This means YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO THEM. PAY ATTENTION TO THE DETAILS! If a woman says she wants to be a doctor, ask her what kind of doctor, what inspired her to do it, what she hopes to achieve. And do not just ask her this but REMEMBER WHAT SHE SAYS! If you do not remember what she is telling you why bother asking. If you cannot remember something that is important to her then she is not important to you!
#5 MONEY: YOU DO NOT NEED IT TO IMPRESS A WOMAN! Women find men who talk about how much they make to be insecure and vulgar. If you make a lot of money a woman will know by the way you dress, the kind of car you drive, the way you carry yourself, the kind fo gifts you buy her, the places you take her for dinner. She does not need to be told. Women think about money differently than men. Whereas we use money as a measure of our manhood women consider money as just a means to an end. They only need enough to live happily with a few extras. The reason women like a man to be financially sound is not to take care of them most women can take care of themselves. How a man handles his money whether he is rich or poor says to a woman: is he responsible, is he ambitious, can he make a commitment, can he hold his own in this relationhip?
#6 PERSONAL HYGIENE: Women like a man to smell and look nice. That does not mean you have to have a six pack. It means that you should dress in clothes that fit you and are age appropriate. Don't wear a tight T shirt if you have a big belly. Wear something that fits you well. And oh yeah, don't go out in wrinkled clothes, it says you can't take care of yourself. Also, women hate hate hate B.O. Make sure you have clean nails, and put on a little cologne or at least make sure you shower regularly. The other thing women hate hate hate is Bad Breath! Nice teeth help too so brush em n floss em!
#7 PHYSICAL APPEARANCE: Each woman has her preference but in general if you want to date the hottie with the body..you better take care o your own business! Your body is your temple. It houses your soul, it is who you are. How you treat yourself tells a woman a lot about what you think about yourself. It is ok to be larger, or skinnier but be healthy! Many women like love handles for what reason I don't know. But if you want to date a really fit person then you yourself should be somewhat fit. Many women also like strong arms. They like to be held and feel like a man is holding them not a boy. They like to feel protected in your arms even if some of them are loathe to admit it..so skinny boys start eating your wheaties!
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#8 BE YOUR OWN MAN: Most women like men who make up their own minds and are not told what to do by them. They like you to cooperate, communicate and be together with them in a relationship but they want to know you can disagree with them. They want to know you have your own mind and cannot be pushed around not even by them. This is why those guys who you think are a-holes are always dating great girls. They are their own men and do not let anyone push them around not even their own girlfriends. You can do things for your girlfriend, wife or lover but if she asks you to do something that you find either demeaning or that compromises your own integrity you should not do it. You should tell her why you will not do it even if you have a fight and work together with her for a compromise. She will respect you more for it. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2006 11:17:06 PM | Robert, it has been demonstrated many times that your "personals correctness" list is not the whole story. It does work very well for players though. The number one factor for women is a man's height. For men, it is hip to waste ratio. All other characteristics are secondary and vary by individuals.
I was dumped by several women for "being a nice guy". I was replaced by abusers. One of the girls was later nearly killed by the guy she dumped me for. It was not her first beating. I found out later that he had beat her before I met her.
1. What kind of "confidence" can a jealous abuser have? It is the confidence that she will somehow admire you instead of leave for next good guy that comes along.
2. What kind of "decision making" is involved in beating your wife or girl friend? It seems to demontrate you love them because "you only hurt the ones you love"
3. I suppose beating your wife instead of taking on someone who could fight back is being assertive but not aggressive.
4. Spending the rent on booze demontrates that money is not that important. One girl I was dating wanted to borrow money from me to help a friend. I was about to give her the money when I found out it was for another guy. He had wrecked his car while drunk and the money was to help fix the car for her future husband.
5. An abuser commands RESPECT. That is why so many women seem attracted to them.
6. Does "Personal hygene" mean cleaning her clock?
7. The exercise of beating her will certainly be good for the build. She learns to appreciate the strong arms an abuser demonstrates. I have discovered that no matter how much I work out, I don't get any taller and that is by far the most important physical characteristic women are attracted to. It is about the only physical characteristic mentioned by women in their profiles as a requirement, not just a desire.
8. It is quite clear that many men make up their own mind and will not take any dissent from their woman. They are being their own man.
I am confident in who I am and I will continue to be honest even if that cannot compete with a well crafted player's facade. I will take no for an answer even if that is not what she really means. I will make a yes a much better decision. Being less than the required 5'9", I have learned to be patient in my search but that is not stopping me from having fun. I do miss having someone to share the more romantic settings I come across in my adventures. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:19:54 PM | Brother there are questions that have been asked from time imortal and only a few have the answers in every generation.
those who get it are extremly sucessfull with quality women that THEY pick.
if you would like this option in your life, i have a pdf file to send you. it realigns your perceptions about the whole man woman interaction. a must read for anyone who wants to get this part of their life handeled. just contact me privately. or continue down the same old path you are now on.....your decision, your results c);{ | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 5:24:58 PM | | Image Con, you remind me of someone but that's another thread. Not everyone is an addict, not every bug has a cure but everyone can rationalize their behavior. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 8:06:14 PM | Let me try to help you out here, cowboy.
Women WANT what they can't HAVE.
Somehow, since they don't come with an owners manual, it's up to YOU to get to know when they mean what they say and when it's an illusion or a smoke screen.
This is the dating phase - when you try to figure out when she's says she's fine, what that actually means. When she says she wants space, what that means. When she says any number of things, it's up to men to
1) Listen - oh my GOD listen
2) Ask questions to uncover what she really means and her motivation
3) Learn
don't try to fix it. don't try to argue. don't try to solve it.
when all else fails - remember what you were like when you first met and BE THAT. Hell, that's what she liked so much in the first place, and to be "too flexible" makes you easy, and women love a challenge.
best of luck
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Posted: 10/4/2006 8:12:58 PM | This is the MOST INTELLIGENT and intentional response I've ever read -
I agree whole heartedly - question is, do WOMEN realize this is what they want? Or has some left over unmet childhood need or baggage from a previously relationship blinded them to the truth?
Only 15 % of the divorces in this country actually NEED to take place.
The rest are representative of quitters. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 8:20:29 PM | a hey there dave........ how does your post help texexe with his problem?
my post was directed to him and not you. why did you hijack the post directed to him and absorb it internaly, as if it was created for you? feels like your focusing on something off topic..... as you can just start a thread on that subject and can be constructive and on topic somewhere else.
i will share a secret with you though,
what you carry in your mind, the thoughts you think, ever day...... is what you will manifest in your life.... if you feel you are not tall enough, can't measure up, won't be able to grow enough, to suit the people allowed in your life.....
.--- then --- those are the failures you will create !
as you think.... i am enough! i am held in high reguard! i am quality! i am desirable! i am worthy! and you will be....... and so it is. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 8:55:39 PM | This thread has been going on for over a year. In looking at some of the replies it looks like most women want to be respected for who they are and not what someone thinks they should be. Most men want to give that respect. I think more to the point, the question you should be asking is why doesn't she want me?
When a relationship ends and she moves on, it may seem that she is looking for the bad boy when in reality it may just not be "you" she is looking for or she is just not ready for a relationship. There are times in our lives when we think we are ready to take that step, but mentally or emotionally are not. In saying that, it happens to both males and females. We've all been in situations where we had feelings for someone who did not return them. Over the years, I've been able to realize, it's not me, I'm just not the person they are looking for. We can't make ourselves feel something for someone. It has to be there, some type of connection. It doesn't make it any easier to get over the hurt and rejection, but the realization of that does help me to move on. I can do that, because I've been the one at some point who did not reciprocate the feelings someone had for me and I know how hard it was to explain that although I cared for them, I did not want a relationship.
Honestly, I really don't know what I want. I mean, I know I want someone who loves me, respects me and will love my daughtger unconditionally as well as myself, but beyond that, I can't give a laundry list. When the right person comes along, maybe that's when I'll know. I've been pretty patient though, so can someone tell Mr. Right to hurry! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 10:00:28 PM | TexasExe asked why women seemed to be attracted to bad boys that treat them like crap and will even dump a good guy for an abuser. He did not ask how to be a bad boy. Some of us find the concept of becoming a bad boy disgusting. I can empathize with him very well. He did not ask how to be a player nor did I. Perhaps it was being a good guy that attracted the women in the first place and something self destructive took over with her, not some change in him. Being what he was when they met will not save the relationship.
It is possible that the nicer the guy, the more likely it is they will connect with someone trying to break her own addictive attraction to "bad boys". Addictions and sexual attractions occupy the exact same very small part of the brain. Since addictions are a life time affliction, I cannot see any way he can fix her problem and therefor his relationship with her. Perhaps we need to be more careful in who we trust. Those that seem to have dated players would appear to be those most likely to have a self-destructive addiction to "bad boys." The old stereotype of the marrying kind verses those good only for a one-night stand might have merrit. The question remains: how did the self destructive addiction start?
To Justonce and Captnbob, most of us can handle hurt and rejection. What is more difficult to deal with is to develope ourselves into what we believe is the ideal man only to be dumped in favor of abusers. It is the goals we strived for that attracted the women in the first place and it was the very same that prompted the later rejection. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 5:51:20 AM | Dallas.......you have written exactly what I want in a man. As a woman, I could not have said it better myself.
We..............who were bred in the South............have traits that definately set us apart. Some people have a very difficult time believing you are as good as you are. I've been reading a book about why men marry B*tch@s. I would have to change my whole person to fit the persona this book has described. I wont do that for anybody. I can't imagine why anyone would want me to change the way I am............
Just remember, the BEST apples are at the top of the tree. With today's hussle and bussle, people in general don't slow down enough and put for the effort to get the best apples. So they get the ones on the ground OR reach just high enough to get the ones hanging low. It's easier.
That's my analogy for today........make it a good one and reach for the best apples. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 9:11:59 AM | I may appear bitter in writing this but I am not. Just confused. I am truthful with tact, I know the beauty and power of communication, I treat a woman how I want to be treated, I am romantic/naughty, civil, GREAT sense of humor, polite, almost never angry, I am intelligent (ok except on making sentences without a thousand commas ), I don't do drugs, I am not an alcoholic, I am sincere, I look at both sides, I discuss versus argue. I keep myself clean.
THAT is why I feel I am a good catch. Not because I am in love with myself or because I think I am the perfect man. I just know I am very conscious of being a good man and working to better myself always. The ONLY area I am not steady and large is my income. That does not mean a woman would have to support me, pay my way, etc.
The reason I went through all of that is because I may not have clean cut short hair, I may wear a cowboy hat, etc. but I am alot of what I keep seeing women posting they want. I'm afraid in saying this I sound arrogant or like a whiner, but that's not it at all. I'm not a gq model, I am 5'11, 185. I truly don't know why I am not getting responses. As sincerely as I can say it...there is no doubt in my mind that LOOKS DO play a bigger part than some are giving credit for. I always thought I was a good looking guy until this. | |
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