| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 5/29/2006 6:48:42 PM | 911 girly girl said:
I ALWAYS reply... even if they are 1000 miles away and not my type.. if someone takes the time to write you message its just good etiquette to at least say thank you but I am not interested... I cant tell you how many guys reply to that by saying "thank you for at least replying" ....they appreciate the manners....
You are indeed rare. All I ever see is "read deleted" "unread deleted" or "read" - but never deleted or replied to. I *always* reply to every single first contact message I receive....unless it's a 'comment message' - not really indicating a reply is desired. If I'm not interested, they get a polite but short message thanking them for contacting me, and wishing them good luck on the site. It takes so little time to type a short message. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 5/29/2006 6:55:50 PM | jaya4cd said:
I think saying, thanks but I'm not interested is kind of hurtful...it makes the person think...."why is she not interested"....I'd rather just not reply at all.
But don't you see? By not replying, you're saying, "I'm not interested.....but I also think so little of you that I'm not even going to reply to your message". They took the time to contact you. The least you could do is to reply. Now, I'm not saying you have to put up with endless responses from them. One reply from you is all that is necessary. If you've made it perfectly clear in your reply and they keep going, then by all means don't bother. One reply of "no thanks" from someone is all that is necessary for me. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 5/30/2006 3:28:18 PM | atleast have the common courtesy to reply...
if someone takes the time to send you a message you and say Hi then have the same respect and atleast say you're not interested...it's all about respect and courtesy...
not too many people in this site have it...
come to think of it...the women that choose to "unread and delete" my messages are doing me a huge favour...I would never associate, date or hang out with someone shallow, petty or that looks down on other people....
and by not having the decency to type out a simple "Sorry I'm not interested" it puts out a huuuuude message that the message recipient is either one of the 3....
after all, this is a meeting/dating site isn't it??
I seen so many women with "where are all the decent guys?" as thier tagline, yet they shun potentially decent guys that take the time to approach them....
kinda like throwing bricks in the Grand Canyon...completely pointless...
come on...get with the program ladies!!...have fun, make some new friends...
It could be the knight in shining armor you're deleting...
a sidenote to the technically challenged...
if there is someone persistant after you say "sorry I'm not interested" there is a handy function called "block"...
That can get a message across... | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 5/30/2006 7:19:18 PM | Valkyrie said:
Maybe it's my username that they're not responding, i don't know.
Hmmmm. Could be - since a Valkyrie is:
"(Norse mythology) one of the maidens of Odin who chose heroes to be slain in battle and conducted them to Valhalla." | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 5/30/2006 7:31:38 PM | | On a related note, what about women that you message.....and never EVER read your message??? Or delete it? On two separate occasions now, I have messaged someone, and then my message remains unread for weeks (as do subsequent follow up messages) - and yet they've been on the site sometimes as often as 2 or 3 times a day since I wrote the message! I find this baffling. In the two and half years I've been on this site, this has NEVER happened. And it's not even 'unread deleted'. Just 'Unread'. This totally floors me. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2006 9:40:29 PM | It's just numbers ~ is what a Salesman will tell you ~
~ as for myself, it's not an issue ~ however~ to those who say" I'm not into games" are blind ~ for it's all a big game ~ the game of life ~ and you must accept the fact that ~, Some girls might like guys like you ~ but some girls don't. ~ so don't be offended or hurt ~ just go on. ~ ~ Like fishing, change the bait or fish another hole, cast out your offering delibertly and often ~ Women are a minute by minute creature, ~ you can be one wiggle off~ one word off, ~ just always be kind and open. ~ and believe in little but yourself.
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/6/2006 4:13:03 PM | I reply, even when I want to hit them over the head with the [insert body part here] that they've offered for me to "encounter." Although there is a time or two when I have realized I've missed one. There are some people that just get on here to see what they can find and aren't really here because they're available. It's sad, but true *sigh*
One thing that does bother me is that it's quite obvious that some email me without reading my profile (but thanks to those that do and I appreciate that). I would say I get half-and-half reading before they ask me what flavor body lubricant I would like for them to bring.  | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/6/2006 4:22:10 PM | | Because no body here is obligated to reply to a message and nore they should be. If someone messages me and I don't feel like typing a response, why should I? | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/6/2006 4:30:45 PM | | I am not bashing or growling but I can also attest to the fact that men are also not kind in responding to messages from women either. I mean if you are just not interested you can politely say so. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/6/2006 5:08:55 PM | So clearly what we have discovered here is the question: why 'some women' don't reply to a proper message?
I have read some good responses to the original.
Firstly, you guys who have responded are the types who give a damn and therefore, I have to give you the benefit of the doubt that you are basically all telling the truth, at least how you percieve it.
I thought the IM response the most alarming. Yes, if we men don't get our way we focus on women derogatively - guilty in the past I must confess. I'm trying to play devil's advocate and say like the suffragists that women have a moral superiority, especially when they look down on men as pervs. How many men call women pervs (many are you know - i.e. latent lesbian tendencies about dressing men up as women - using strap-ons etc - what a load of ****).
There is also a large element of social psychology at work here - the self-fulfilling prophecy of the dutiful 'second sex' wife. Remember many women see from birth their mothers, sisters and aunts on the recieving end of horrendously unfair sexist attitudes, often repeating the cycle by marrying the same sort of men who drink away all their earnings whilst she struggles to feed and clothe the weeuns on the pittance that is left.
I can hear many feminists repeating Wolstencraft here 'women vie for the position of chief affectionate spaniel' (top dog if you like) in the hope of a pay-off at the expense of the other women. Do women hold long term grudges against each other - no of course not what am I saying. Do they stab each other in the back over men - naaaaaaaah.
Listen, women ditch nice guys in favour of those who just have that something (I can't help you as I don't know what it is). Trouble is most other women want him too. Now let's be fair many men behave this way to famous sex symbols only on a different level of course.
As an academic educated at least in part on egalitarian feminist principles and house husband of several years standing I can honestly say that Washing, cooking, nappy changing, sewing, dusting and vaccuming doesn't make the slightest difference - it is never enough - if you are not the one - forget it - but you won't know until you get ditched and you'll be even more puzzled when you see her with Mr Insignificant - but don't be too hard on yourself you produced the offspring so take a pat on the back and see them occasionally and pay for their upkeep with pride and responsibility. Know 'your' place.
As most men and women equally don't know how to talk to each other when one of the opposite sex comes along saying and doing all the right things - hey what a softee stamp on him or her for wearing that big invitation around their neck.
The interaction between the sexes has now become so sexualised that we will have to slide to the bottom of the slippery slope before we can start to fully respect each other again.
From a bloke's point of view I must say that on the several occasions that I have really opened up to a woman on this and other sites I have experienced a total blank.
Hey girls - do you know something, you aren't worth it. This bad karma will come back on you ten fold and when you are sat there weeping to your buddies (half of whom will have slept with your ex already) that you want Mr Right back and you will do anything to get him just remember those guys out there who are prepared to do anything for you that you never give a moments consideration to.
A woman's mind really can be a dangerous place to go - even for herself.
Women say they want a man who will care for them but they go for the ones who treat them like crap. In turn they treat men like crap but don't let it provoke you just walk away.
So what is it, nature or nurture? | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/6/2006 5:34:53 PM | | If they aren't replying back, they just aren't worth it. I get the same things with guys. I have sent out lots of messages that were just deleted and never replied too. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/6/2006 5:49:28 PM | | Gee, why do you think that they won't reply? Because they are not interested! This is not Rocket Science, and maybe your spelling is a complete turnoff! My 4 yr old spells better than you do. There are hundreds of threads on this topic so do some homework next time. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/7/2006 12:52:52 AM | | I *try* to reply back to most of the messages I receive, especially if the person had taken the time to write to me; but I will not reply back to messages saying, "wassup" or "urhott!"infantile responses like that (are a waste of my time) and I delete them! | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/7/2006 1:30:20 PM | | Simply not interested, thats the sweetness of the online thing...you can screen as much as you please. I dont reply back usually if the guys way older than me ...married...or simply not what I'm looking for...but hey this goes both ways, it sucks I know..I've taken the time to message a few interesting guys I"ve seen on here...but it seems the ones I'm truely interested in knowing more about are the ones that don't reply back.....heres a tip though, if you message someone and they dont reply back...dont keep emailing them, take it as a hint | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/7/2006 1:39:25 PM | what i have found besides being s--t on they seem to have a shot attenion span, about 2 minutes and there gone. either your a 10 , like if you were why would you come here right?or they think they are and could do better, like why are they here? i dont get it either way. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 6/8/2006 3:39:01 PM | | i've had some women be really rude in their replies, one told me i was the most boring person ever and that it was a joke that i even thought she'd be interested in me, it was actually the first time i had ever messaged anyone on a site like this and it really put me off for a while, another friends of mine had to convince me to keep trying though | |
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