| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 9/21/2005 9:55:43 AM | OK PEOPLE WAKE UP YOUR ALL DOING AWESOME BE PROUD OF HOW YOU TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS.LET THEM KNOW YOU LOVE THEM AND DO THINGS FOR THEM.I AM SO OVERWELMED W/ THE MEN ON HERE WHO TAKE CARE OF THEIR KIDS MADE ME CRY.ANYHOO
I THINK YOU ALL DESERVE A PURPLE HEART CAUSE YOU ARE ALL  HERO'S IN MY EYES.
AND I WILL NOW LEAVE IT AT ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND "EVERYONE GETS THEIRS IN THE END.GOODLUCK TO ALL MOMMIES AND DADDIES.
YOU CAN CALL YOURSELVES THAT CALL THE ONES WHO NO LONGER WANT THE KIDS MOTHERS AND FATHERS BECAUSE ANYONE CAN BE THEM BUT IT TAKES ONE HELL OF A MAN TO BE A DADDY AND ONE HELL OF A WOMAN TO BE MOMMY.SO REMEMBER THAT EACH TIME YOU HEAR YOUR BABIES CALL YOU MOMMY OR DADDY JUST THINK " HELL YEAH".
TAKE CARE EVERYONE. | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 9/21/2005 11:14:31 AM | Hey - Yosimmity Sam ... you wrote
Oh yeah, she was ordered to pay support...LOL! What have I seen? $135 total for all this time. Thats the legal system for you.
I noticed you are in Ontario Canada - Have you gone through the FRO (Family Responsibility Office)? They chase after her for the money - and pay you when she pays them. | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 10/2/2005 7:30:49 PM | | yes i can relate!! my ex-wife was unfaithful to me and left the marriage because of a mid life crisis!!! she left behind two wonderful little boys who are now 9 and 12. we have joint custody but the boys spend more time with me because i was mr. mom for 4 years with them!! they have more of a bond with me which i truly appreciate!!!! she is a parent when it is convenient!!!! divorce is a terrible experience for children that will hold lasting scars!! | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 10/2/2005 7:52:10 PM | | If it weren't for the state taking the money for support my ex would be a deadbeat mom. SHe left the kids behind to go and have "fun" with a younger man many years ago and when the divorce came around they ordered child support. She thought she was getting away with something having a good time spending her money on everything except her kids and when the support was ordered and a wage garnishment was initiated she freaked. Kept asking why she had to pay and since she did can't she make the payments to me personally. They told her no beasue there was an arrears payment already, and I told them also, she had been gone for some time and never made any attempt at all to help out financially after leaving me with all the bills and everything. Thank goodness Support Enforcment actually did it right for a change. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 10/2/2005 8:04:38 PM | me personally...none...but I have mom friends that I think could be doing things a little better (and really thats only like one)
I do know a few single dads who have their kids most of the time and the mothers aren't very good moms (but are still around)
my sisters b/f has a little boy who's mom is a heroin addict and isn't around.
Deadbeat dads, well I know a few (including my sons father) | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:33:52 PM | well I am basically in the same boat with a 6 yo boy and a 4yo girl. Their mom does pay child support only because it is garnished from her wages. But she sees them once a year for about 3 hrs and calls for a few minutes about once a month.
Just have to remember there are deadbeat parents of both genders all over the place. Long as I have the kids and they are happy, healthy, and well adjusted I'm good. she could finish disappearing and it wouldn't bother them anymore. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 10/2/2005 10:21:24 PM | I have had my son for over 10 years now and no it's now an easy job but I do it because he is my boe and i love him . His mom got into speed and just really turn out be a real nut case after that we moved out of state becuse of all the problems with her and her druggie friends. I agree any one can be a debeat ! but I don't know HOW they can be that way . Not with there own kids. I and not the bets father by all means I make plenty of mistakes as we all do but I stayed by his side ! and she could have at the very leat stayed in touch with cards ,letters O and there is that thing call the phone ! my son is 15 now and i found a pic of his mother from way back when. I said " hey here is a pic of your mother got put it up in your room " he just say naaa and threw it in the trash ! Now that was sad ! very sad ! I am a single father with a kid that has no mother ! at leat in his mind ! please people think of your kids and what they will think of you if you WALK AWAY ! moms and dads. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 10/2/2005 11:26:39 PM | Unfortunatly, I know of many deadbeat moms. They give thier kid 1 present at Christmas, and they don't even give it to them directly. Drop it off at grandma and grandpa's 2 weeks after christmas, don't call, don't pay child support. We talk so much about deadbead dads, and there are so many deadbeat dads.
I happen to have a friend that is raising his little girl on his own, and he's doing a phenominal job. He loves her sooooo much, because mom is too busy being a idiot. So here's to the great single dads in the world!!!!!   | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 5/28/2006 11:35:22 PM | HoW MANY DEADBEAT FATHERS DO YOU KNOW?!
I came across this interesting blog and had something to add. I myself am a single mother of two beautiful/smart little girls and couldnt imagine leaving them for nothing. They give me reason to wake and sleep, and yea Im also a young mother, 24. I had no chance to soil my wild oats but that kind view in life changed after my first daughter.
But what about those great good for nothing fathers??? My childrens father decided he would go to jail for six years leaving me to have to DEAL with it. My job to make it as positive as I can can for the babys and for myself. Happiness is healthy! :)
My point though to this is that women are increasingly leaving th efathers with their kids. Its true and I had this taqlk with soem fellow co-workers. Basically women are fed up. They figure that man have been doing it for years so what could it hurt. Thats the good part of having two parents you know. Just to think, atleast you were able to be ther and take your son, cuz if you wernt who would be there The child is always safest with the parents. male or female.
I look at the single parent position as strength. It takes a lot for both male or female and to accomplish this never ending task should make you feel like a hero. Just be glad your the one who's doing the job and doing it right. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 5/29/2006 1:06:10 PM | I don't know many, however I do have a story for you. My wife divorced me in February 1989, and I got custodial care of four children; ages 8 month old boy, 2 1/2yr old girl, 3 1/2 yr old boy and a 9 yr old boy and a week later her folks kicked us off the farm northeast of Andover, Ks. I packed up what I could and moved back to Western Kansas to go to college and raise my kids and work. I never got a dime, never a letter from her or her folks (only grandchildren these people had) and did not here from her until 2003 when she decided to see the kids. Well when she did get to see them she acted like they were treating her badly, only these kids did not know her. She claimed the kids the entire time on her taxes and never sent a dime ever. She never paid any medical bills, bought no x-mas gifts or sent acard and still has the gall to ask why none of them contact her on Mothers Day, well she asked for it and she got it.
All you mothers out there who are placing your children on a back burner wisen up, or you will be really sorry, and I know what I am talking about.
Fella just do the best u can and as my oldest said when he was four,"Dad don't worby bout it". I raised them all and youngest turned 18 on April 28, 2006 and we are doing fine. Her loss! | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 5/29/2006 2:51:23 PM | Well it does take all kinds, but as long as you are providing a good home that is the main thing.
It is amazing how some people can turn their backs on their kids, but even more amazing is how some kids would be better off if the parents turned their backs on their kids. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 5/29/2006 3:30:43 PM | | I think the thought of mothers not seeing there child is horrible. I can say my ex wife does pay child support, but has not bond with my child. I call women like that selfish! Hat off to you and men like us for stepping up to the plate. | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:23:59 PM | "Hug your son extra tight and if he asks about why she left, tell him it's her loss, she turned her back on a special boy."
I agree...thats true and it is same for the other parent even tho this is NOT about the other parent but i think it is her/his lost if they CHOOSE to walk out on their child/ren because they are missing out on, the most IMPORANT part of THEIR (parent/s) lives when they are not around to watch that lil guy/girl grow up or even take their first steps.
I think people should be LUCKY/HAPPY that they still have a dad/mom who WANTS to be apart of their child life because now days child/ren do NOT have a mom or a dad who still wants to stick around and be apart of his/her, life or mom/dad DOES but just can NOT be right now due to some "imporant things". | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 7/29/2006 12:08:49 AM | copy and pasted from another thread (at least I quote myself lol)
"My children and I are victims of an abusive and "deadbeat mother"
When she ran out of ways to blackmail me out of money (thur agrueing custody), she was awarded supervised visits at a custody battle. Thankfully, for my children's physical and mental well being, she hasn't bothered with 'em.
One day, seems like an eon ago now, I phoned an abuse center asking for help. They laughed at me claiming "only women get abused". Since that call my ex has assulted my children serveral times including burning my son's penis with a hair dryer and scarring my daughter's face with a hot cookie sheet.
I haven't seen a child support check in quite awhile but yet I don't complain because I don't wish to fight for custody again.
The main problem is; there is NO help for men with these problems, yet there is a "woman's shelter" in every county in Michigan. The nearest shelter that could've/would've helped my children and I is over 100 miles away."
For this thread:
I know of couple deadbeat dads as I hang with several single mothers. However mainly in all the devorce cases I am friends of; the female pays nothing in 50% Joint Custody and/or the male pays in 50% custody. In EVERY case I know of with the father getting 100% custody the female is a deadbeat and either doesn't see the child(ren) often or doesn't see em at all.
Deadbeats (either male or female), my advice to you: point the gun at the ROOF of your mouth, I wouldn't want you to live thur blowing out the back of your mouth. | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 7/29/2006 2:51:15 PM | | we do not need her we do fine nowbut my son misses her she is his mom and i do not down her to him one day she well try to be his friend and he well tell her wher to go i think she has all ready lost he is good in school and an a/b oner role and is my son and beast friend to | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 7/29/2006 3:06:11 PM | | my x dose not pay ether i did over 600 per but it is not about that i love having my son and noing he is safe now we go fishin /camping/ and sports i am just happy to be ther for him | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 11/17/2006 6:26:12 PM | this is "How many DEADBEAT MOMS do you know" NOT deadbeat fathers............
I wish people would stay on TOPIC this thread dont even have anything to do with "deadbeat dads" it is TITLED and talking about "DEADBEAT MOMS" and i know none of us moms on here are "deadbeats" and it is NOT talking about, us (moms) so why should it offend so many "SINGLE MOMS" on this thread????????? | |
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Posted: 11/17/2006 6:35:32 PM | | I think the topic died almost 4 months ago and so it should RIP ....enough already....move on to another topic like world peace for our children or something creative anything but deadbeatism. It's been beat to death me thinks.... | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 11/17/2006 6:40:08 PM | | Good then you'll stop resurrecting dead posts and keeping the redundancy going? It's counterproductive if all that is written is the same comments no? | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 9/13/2007 11:46:33 AM | I know maybe about 5 Deadbeat Moms...My own ex-wife was one until I tracked her down. I actually looked her up on the net and found her. The child support unit had been looking for her--get this--6 years and said they could not find her. You see--I live in Mississippi, She lives in Texas. To make sure she lived there--I planned a trip to the Houston, TX area....IN fact that was her address...
I made it a point to give up the info and within 3 months--my kids started to get support...I have sons--11 and 9... | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 9/13/2007 3:53:36 PM | I have had my daughter for 4years now . This is because of a attiction problem with her mom.
I had to spend about $36000.00 to get cusdody and another $5000.00 to get support.
She has no less then 3 university degrees and they only ordered $105 per month.
She calls once in a while and visits about 10 time a year.
I still remember last christmas when she told my daughter she would be down and only too call me(high as a kite) too cancel.
Too many people don,t realize that if you have sex you can make a baby and have too support and care for that child the rest of your LIFE!! | |
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 9/13/2007 4:11:08 PM | | I know loads unfortunately....not that i associate with them because i don't agree with their principles....or lack of them! But i don't think it's any worse than a deadbeat dad!!! A child needs 2....That's TWO parents, 1 really good 1 is not enough....no matter how good he/she is! | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 9/13/2007 8:36:33 PM | | That is the million dollar question, how can mums be so horrible??? I think that mums that do that seriously have something wrong with them, if i didn't have my kids i'd be ringing them every night and seeing them every opportunity i could, i just can't even comprehend how a mother couldn't, if you every find out though let me know. | |
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