| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:39:26 PM | None. All the Mothers I know are good people, they put their kids first and never have crazy drama in their lives. The men I know are good Dads too, they take their responsibilities seriously and put their kids happiness way ahead of their dislike of their Exes. I always take with a grain of salt, all co parental put downs on this forum.
I don't think I am unique by knowing decent folk. But there are so many that protest so much.
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:55:59 PM | i know quite a few, but people overlook that aspect of society; its easier to focus on dads; alot of moms are playing the system and the men they deal w/at the kids disadvantage.
an i some of the stuff i have seen single moms do is just nuts; i have had friends have guys they met online come and stay the weekend at their house, hang around their kids and have sex w/them to the point where the kids are aware, i.e. the guy laying in bed w/mom or the guy and the mom being loud enough the kids heard. An this is multiple men who they spend money on drive away or let borrow their vehicles
one woman i know had sex w/a friend of mine, an she had her kid in the bed sleeping like an arms length away from them; an b4 they finished the kid woke, an rather than just stop she shushed her child and told him its ok go back to sleep while she continued to f*ck..an she is the same spending money on guys, paying their bills, child support etc and letting her kids suffer.
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| HOW MANY DEADBEAT MOMS DO YOU KNOW?!
Posted: 2/18/2009 8:39:31 AM | Hey man,
I hear ya on the run out part. I have raised my kids for the past 5 years on my own. Im fortunate to have family that helps out and helps ensure my kids have the love and support they need in there lives. Why some people do what they do.....i guess we will never figure that out. We always try to make the best out of a terrible situation, hopefully our kids learn enough from this situation when there adults to not make the same mistakes that some make. And someone always said that what doesn't kill you.......makes you stronger!
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/18/2009 8:51:08 AM | | Only knew of one while I was working for my area regional behavioral health authority. Sadly, the father was working so hard to kick his meth habit, but the mother was 100 times worse over. Before my caseload changed, I managed to get him accepted into a phenomenal substance abuse program that worked only with meth dependency. And amazingly, he was able to keep a clean home, get his kids to school on time every day, provide meals, clean clothes, etc. He kept his use private from his small kids, and family court was very supportive of keeping the children intact with him. I still think about him every now and then and hope he is living recovery. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/18/2009 9:39:20 AM | My ex doesn't pay child support, visits our 2.5 year old daughter once every few months. Lives in the same city, calls only to talk to me and try and get laid. Not much concern, if any for our daughter. Sleeps around, does drugs, get in trouble with the law.
That's a deadbeat mom..to me.
However, I couldn't care less about child support, her seeing our daughter. My daughter is safer not knowing all that much about her mother. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/18/2009 10:44:15 PM | | Actually I used to work at a group home for the mentally retarded(children) and I have seen it numerous times, mothers done crack when they were pregnant, don't come to see there child, I have seen it all, I have a two year old and I could not even think about doing such a thing to my son, It blows my mind, so I would like to know also how can a mother do this to there own child, that they carried for nine months. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:17:10 AM | | I am in the same situation. My kids have not seen their mother in 10 years. I have tried to find her, but I have been unsuccessful. I get no support. The only thing I got from the breakup was her bills. My son dosent even remember her. I know someday she will crawl out of the woodwork, and try and con my daughter. I dont know how I will react if that day ever comes. I know I am not supposed to hate anyone, but I hate her. I will be honest. I have nothing good to say about her. I feel your pain though. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:57:38 AM | I don't know any deadbeat moms, but I know a few who should not be raising their children......
I know one deadbeat father, but I know a few who should be raising their children instead of the mothers and many who should be permitted to have more involvement in the lives of their children than every other weekend access. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/20/2009 7:49:18 PM | i know 2 and they both arent even working and relying on welfare with 6 kids to one father and the father has3 more kids to another woman then theres another one who is ntwilling look to for a job either and her son is really rude in public and she dosent even pull him up and she lets him do what anything he does in shops and local restraunts and her ex was on drugs and he was relying on welfare as well i guess these2 woman raise  redflag i guess alot of guys would from these 2 woman and the other day there was these 2 rude and arrogant single mum at a shop and they were getting impaient and really showing them selves up the otherday and she couldnt control her kids as they were screaming out loud and they wernt working either | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/21/2009 5:42:28 PM | | some moms just as bad as some dad my x- boyfriend had an x-wife that was bad illinois has a web site of dead beat parents some women on there but more men think it the sympathy card thing | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/21/2009 6:48:51 PM | Same way a dad can be so horrible I guess.
Except we feel for you as a single dad. Hardly anyone gives a crap about us single moms who deal with the same thing.
I've spent many Christmas' and birthdays and just plain old days wondering how the hell someone can be such a horrible dad.
Sorry Dude. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/21/2009 6:50:20 PM | Oooops, could have looked at the date of the OP. It's interesting to see how people react to men vs. women though.
PS - Cant think of any deadbeat moms that I know. Oh no, actually I know of this girl Kelly. She has 3 kids and she doesnt have custody of any of them. I dont know if she pays or sees them, all I know is she exists and she takes pills for a living. lol. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/21/2009 7:04:28 PM | I know of one. She rarely picks her daughter up after school, so she usually ends up at my home. I feed her dinner and at times she ends up spending the night. She is forever loaded with lice too. I've tried to tackle it a couple times, but it is so bad and nothing is being done at home to end the lice life cycle.
How could anyone be so lazy to leave thousands and thousands of eggs and lice on a little girl or boy? It makes me sick.
My kids have a dead beat dad who doesn't call, visit or give them anything. It's very hard on them. I know how important it is to have both parents, but sometimes, I think, the kid is better off without them. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/21/2009 7:09:18 PM | Ok, well this is an odd thread.
I have been raising my daughter on my own with no contact to "mom" in over 3 years. It's more common now that us guys are stepping up to the plate, but it's overlooked. It doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is I'm happy single (lonely but happy) and my daughter has a good life. What more can we ask than for our kids to have a good life?
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/23/2009 8:23:28 AM | I think through my life I have known 1 or 2 that I can think of, but it seems like too many of "us guys" just want to be angry at women for something.
However, for the "us guys" I have known way more dead beat dads. Some may say that single dads are overlooked. Truth is, we are still in the minority (maybe not buy much anymore) when we are compared to single moms.
I guess I could make a case where widows and widowers are overlooked by the rest of the single parent scene. But I don't fully believe that either. We (widows/widowers) are an even smaller group. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do u know what about dads! mhume
Posted: 2/24/2009 3:02:35 AM | well i got one why are men like that he was ok while i was with him as we broke up he broke up with his 5 year old lil girl! why ( he says lil girls belong with there mom) he also have a 11 year old son full custody from another girl! wich he calls a dead beat mom who is he to judge when he has no part in his lil girl life my daughter! yes i say mine cuz i ve givien him every chance to be a dad sent pictures took her to see him etc.. all i ask was for him to call her once a day or every two ! she five so yes she knows her daddy at least she did1 i think he nuts the one time he told me he didnt call he for a month miss ed her b day everything he told me he had cancer and was sick a week later he told me they made a mistake wtf? how bad can some one lied! he does not pay child surport nothing lol he also on here mhume is his screen name (ladies beware he bi pole mark humenik)and doesnt even acknowledge his lil girl what father can do that to a lil girl!???????? i ask why if u truly love or care about your child i myself would go to the ends of the eath to see my child if the other parent had him or her pay surport or get a lawyer or just be humen and do somthing to get your child back no matter if a mom or a dad we have custody for a reason its cuz the other half is so lazy and irresonible to get any kinda of custody ! YOU PEOPLE ARE LAZY DEAD BEATS!!!!   I FEEL NO PITY WHEN U SAY I CANT SEE MY KID CUZ OF A my CRAZY MOMA OR BABY DADDY UR A LOSER WHO LOST THAT RIGHT GET IT TOGETHER!!!CHILDERN REALLY DO NEED BOTH PARENT BUT EARN THAT RIGHT!!!! GROW UP | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do u know what about dads! mhume
Posted: 2/24/2009 12:18:31 PM | | chased her out many years ago, even when she was around she did not help much with the kids, so long baby, been happier and better off since she left, me and the kids, we've gone thru hard times, i feel we are better for it, bitter no, best thing that could have happen. she hardly ever talks to the kids, never helps with money, now they are in their 20's, i guess dad did alright after all. " alone " | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/26/2009 12:45:03 AM | I read an article that compared the percentage of deadbeat fathers to deadbeat mothers. The information(article) is about 5 years old and may have changed. About 30% of non custodial fathers never pay child support. It was close to 60% for non custodial mothers. Yeah I'm a cornicopia of trivial information especially when it hits so close to home. I would like to say that I was shocked but after being a single parent of 3 for the last 10 years and dealing with child support enforcement agencies in 3 different states my kids have never received a single check. The CSE in NC was more interested in the mother getting visitation rights that attemping to collect child support. I actually had to get Social services to intervien(sp) and tell them it wasn't going to happen as long as she was a homeless crack prostitute. A little equality in the enforcement of child support would be nice. I've been sending child support to my first ex wife for 16 years now and I don't doubt for a second that if I missed a payment I would be going to jail.
In defense of single mothers the only real relationship that I've had since divorcing was a single mother of 2 who like myself at the time was working and going to college. She is one of the good ones that you mentioned. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/26/2009 5:13:33 AM | Here is the article and you are right still as a % dads do much better then moms do.
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,59963,00.html
Single dads are sick and tired of being labeled "deadbeats" when it comes to paying child support. And data suggest they have good reason to be upset.
The percentage of "deadbeat" moms is actually higher than that of dads who won't pay, even though mothers are more consistently awarded custody of children by the courts.
Census figures show only 57 percent of moms required to pay child support -- 385,000 women out of a total of 674,000 -- give up some or all of the money they owe. That leaves some 289,000 "deadbeat" mothers out there, a fact that has barely been reported in the media.
That compares with 68 percent of dads who pay up, according to the figures.
Men who are due child support are also getting tired of deadbeat moms' excuse that they can't pony up the money, and some courts have responded. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:19:02 AM | What makes a dead beat mum, alot of the time we are labeled as unreliable, loosers.
Anyone who knows me, can tell right away that it is most untrue! | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:19:48 AM | I know a couple of moms who don't have custody, but I don't know any that pay support.
To be honest-- when my ex was thinking he might lose his job-- we talked about our son living with him. My gut reaction was : and I am going to pay YOU support? hmmm.. not proud of that moment.
But of course I would pay support, it wouldn't be much-- but I would do my best- the same as he does.
The dads that I know that have custody-- don't do anything to pursue support-- just go along without it. But I don't know any moms that don't get after dads to pay.
Someone I love had a deadbeat mom- she would take off for a couple of years here and there,the kids were in and out of fostercare- living with family-- she kind came and went as she pleased. I know that there were mental health issues, but oh man--- did it mess up her kids.
It is from a different thread- but we probably need to change perceptions of mothers too. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:22:22 AM | Q: "What makes a dead beat mum"?
A: A mother that does not pay court ordered child support. The same thing that make a dad a deabeat. | |
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| How many deadbeat moms do you know?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:26:44 AM | | My ex recently left me and my 14 year old son with special needs, to live with her lover some 500 miles away. She wants my son to go and visit her, and when he does she dumps him on friends for the night, so she can spend another night of unbridled passion. She offered to take him with, but seeing as she never told me about the lover (I found out through other channels) she genuinely believed that living at her mum's place would be sufficient, and he'd also get the education he needs immediately. I begged to differ, and this is why he lives with me now. He also loves his Dad, and feels that his mum crapped on him bigstyle. | |
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