| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 5:47:58 AM | I'm of the opinion, that "love" is something we subconciously allow. If you think about it, the captivating and intoxicating of "being in love" is really us just being willfully ignorant of consequences and/or the 'reality' that we're all just people. I try to lose myself / be ignorant as much as possible  - It's all about being open-minded and allowing yourself to take a change on someone.
Sure, there may not be another "Jennifer", but who's to say that "Mary" won't be twice as good / fulfilling?
"missing" love happens when we regret the loves we once had...that regret stings, but the only way to get out of it is to remind yourself, there are more people that will trigger those same and even greater emotions.
"For all the loves you've had before, just know that you only had those to prepare you for the next one...." ~ er...uh....that's sort of paraphrasing John Mayer there, but it works. | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 5:52:20 AM | It's a lot like a good wine.....
Sure, you may not have a Merlot that tasted or captivated you like the one you had last Summer when "everything was going right"....so you can only enjoy each sip of the new glass. Fall in love with it's uniqueness and don't hold previous tastes up as the STANDARD. It may not come from the same vineyard, but that doesn't mean you should guzzle it until you're drunk.....take it in and enjoy the flavor.  | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:05:13 AM | my experience is there was pros and cons with it. It came from my insecurities and not wanting to be a schmuck and make "moves" on the girls. I always felt like the idiots in the movies saying, "Hey baby, can I buy you a drink". Or I always felt akward making first moves.This comes from the fact that when I was a kid, I never had to, the girls always did. In my adult years things changed a bit. Atleast with the girls I felt love or infatuation with. The ones that I didn't made moves on me , heh. I haven't been in love with anyone for years. You can call forth the feeling of love without one to provoke it, and carry it around with you all day. It will also increase your chances of attracting someone into your life. I'm not very good at it tho, since I am still single.
The pros were, the feeling of it, the excitement of someone exciting in your life, the attraction, and joy you get from talking and being with that person. It also gave me more of a reason to live, and want to live. | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:30:29 AM | @ Ladybug: You are truly a woman after my heart and soul.  --relax folks, she's a good friend!
OT: Yes, I miss it too. I've been married for 20 years and honestly fell out of love a few years ago. I'm thankful that both my wife and I are not the kinds that fly by the seat of their pants on every emotion as we have fallen in and out of love over our many years together.
My pastor recently told me that couples just aren't patient anymore. So many want to ditch the relationship as soon as the intense "in love" feeling is absent. He really understood me when I told him that I love my wife, but that I'm not "in love" with her right now and haven't been in a few years. He was surprised and encouraged that we have stayed together inspite of that.
Emotions are fleeting at best. Patience is a virtue few have today. Hate to say a cliche here, but relationships do take work and if I had let my feelings get the best of me, I would have divorced years ago. | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:35:24 AM | I do remember being in love, I dearly miss that. To me, coming from the family background that I do, to me, love is one of, if not, the single most important aspect in my life. I live to be in love again, but I don't let it consume my every day personal and professional lives.
At one point in my life, I did hate it because I didn't have it and I wish I had it again. But, that was just stupid.
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:42:18 AM | I really miss it. I think its moor of a fear than anything else......
......the fear of being alone and unloved......I know thats how i feel....... | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:53:19 AM | | @ Cecily: I felt like that for the last few years of my marriage. It can happen even when you are with someone. A sad truth. See my post #131 above. | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 6:59:20 AM | | Yes, I do miss being in love. I miss my 2nd GF alot, but she is no longer here nor there. I have stuck her in the corner of my heart to make room for some one new. Still looking for that simple honest women who knows how to communicate. | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 7:05:47 AM | | I do miss being in love, I was blessed to have loved and to be loved, I can say it is the most overwhelming feeling anyone can experience, it is the most powerful feeling ever. I count myself very lucky to have experienced it, I was not aware I was capable of feeling so many emotions and yes, I miss being in love....... | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 8:08:50 AM | | I had love once and only once (minus love for my family and friends but obviously thats different) and now often i wonder if it's true what they say that you only love once. I have not found anybody that has had the same impact on me as my first love. I'm still trying and unless fate discloses that there is something greater meant for me I'll keep trying to find love (which yes means i do miss it lol). | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 8:17:51 AM | With every breath I take.
But I've learned to be happy with myself and on my own.
Soooo, when love comes again I'll have the gravy on my taters instead of just butter! | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 10:23:29 AM | | I miss the friendship that a good healthy relationship brings. That closeness shared by only the two of you. Yeah, love is a good thing. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2005 11:01:31 AM | | TO Love269: hey i like what you said in your first post, its amazing that your still married regardless of your lack of feelings, if more people had patience like you there would definently be less divorce an people my age could have something more to look forward to in marriage then we do now which is " when you get sick of a person divorce them" | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 12:51:03 PM | awwwwwwwww...BamBi Not true.....................
its like stubbing Your toe on a coffee table sometimes... | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 1:18:32 PM | | yep, bambi i would have to disagree with that one myself. sorry you feel that way. love can be so wonderful if your with the right person. | |
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| do u ever miss being in love?
Posted: 8/23/2005 1:25:42 PM | Yes, I do miss being in love.
I miss truly caring and looking after a man because as much as I am a feiry and sassy little creature, I am also very devoted. I found this out in increments in my twenties while in various relationships. I also don't give up on relationships, even when I know it's time to pull the curtain.
In the years since I have not been able to truly say "I love you" to someone, I've realized that loving someone that much and that exclusively, is a gift to that person as much as it is to me. Which is why I am so careful to love the right person.
Truly, I miss giving myself. I am likely the most faithful person out there once I agree to be exclusive with someone, and I'll be damned if I'm going to give that promise to someone who isn't worthy of 100% of my attention.
Until that time I'll play the field. I don't take dating seriously, but I DO take relationships seriously - or the promise to be faithful. I've got to trust someone in order to love someone.
My Mom was right about me, as much as I hate to admit it. It's hard to catch my heart, but for the person who does, I'm their's. Totally, every cell in my body. They'd never have to worry about me fooling around. As much as I'd like to flirt and maybe check out a good looking guy - the sun rises and sets in the eyes of the man I love. That's all I have to give, and all I ask in return. That, and friendship. | |
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