| mom bathing boy
Posted: 5/1/2006 10:23:55 AM | | One of my sons is now 10 and showers on his own. My youngest son is 9 but has special needs and I assist him with washing his hair and back, while teaching him to work on his life skills and self help skills. It all depends on the ability/comfort level of the child. They will let you know when they do not want your assistance. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 5/1/2006 10:39:09 AM | As a mom of older kids, trust me the day soon comes, when YOUR privacy is not respected! Little girls and boys, used to seeing mom or dad naked, seem to find all sorts of ways to get you OFF the toilet before you're done; get into your room WHILE you are doing something VERY private, yank open the shower curtain to tell you the plumber's at the door, and feel little embarassment describing the details of what they witness to outsiders!
If you like privacy, DON'T make bathing a communal thing. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 5/1/2006 6:12:43 PM | Hi
this thread brings up a good point. My son is eight and I still give him his baths. My concern is that he won't clean himself properly. It is not from a lack of trying to teach but because he just can't be bothered. I would like to encourage him more to clean himself but he still wants mom to do it. I wonder if I should worry?
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 8:49:16 AM | My daughter is 3, and she bathes by herself. I buy her these cloths that have soap in them. She wets her hair with a cup, and then rubs this cloth all over her head, its shampoo. then she rubs her hair, until its all sudsy. then rinses it. She uses another sheet for her body. I leave her in there by herself, and do something in the next room. She likes to be alone, and i respect that. Every few minutes, I ask her if shes ok, and i pop my head in to check on her. When shes ready to get out, she calls to me and i go in to make sure all the soap is out of her hair, and off her body.
OP, bathe your son until he is ready to bathe on his own. My daughter can do it alone at 3, but each child is different.
i would like to bathe her, to share that time with her, but she's too stubborn to let me. Little shit. 
Oh, and sometimes she will come in the shower with me. She sits at the end of the shower, and just plays withthe water. Shes such a little weirdo.  | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 8:58:17 AM | when do i stop bathing him where things dont get all weird and all
when they lock the bthrm door & don`t wanna letcha in!.. lol.. at least thats what both of my kids did when they were about 7-8.. i let them both know at that time that if they needed my help.. 2 yell 2 me & i would be right there.. but i also had let them know NOT 2 lock the door again cause if they had slipped & banged their heads.. that i wouldn`t have time 2 look 4 a bobbypin 2 let myself in!.. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 11:12:40 AM | You dont have kids lwsndv1 so you wouldnt understand... | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 2:02:56 PM |
when they lock the bthrm door & don`t wanna letcha in!.. lol.. at least thats what both of my kids did when they were about 7-8.. i let them both know at that time that if they needed my help.. 2 yell 2 me & i would be right there.. but i also had let them know NOT 2 lock the door again cause if they had slipped & banged their heads.. that i wouldn`t have time 2 look 4 a bobbypin 2 let myself in!..
That is a very wise mother. Listen to her.
Otherwise, somewhere between age 5 and 10 your son will want privacy and object. You will get angry and insist. Of course you son will have no choice but allow you to bath him. However, he will pout, be unhappy, and he will be very sad. You will not wish to do that to your son so thereafter you will allow him to bath himself. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 2:18:06 PM | Well as a father i don't think it right for a mother to be naked in frt of her boy help bath him yes but he's four lady stop taking showers with him unless what is the need you feel to have to take it with him not just bathing him but you get in with him what is this your providing him with a four year old understands a lot more than you think. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 2:53:00 PM | Ok, I haven't read allllll the responses, but my b/g twins are 4 1/2 and they still take baths together, as well as the occasional shower with me. I don't see it as being a big deal. ESPECIALLY with an infant. Who's going to bathe him properly if you don't? I think it's absurd to think that someone will think badly of you for bathing your infant son. I've never heard of such a thing.
And 4 year olds- they think being naked is cool. They love it. Sure, I wouldn't let them roam around the yard naked because of pedophiles, but come on... they're gonna see a naked body or two in their lifetime, and teaching them from an early age that it's natural is NOT harmful. It's not like my son is sexually arroused by seeing me naked. Come ON!!! He occasionallly asks questions, and I answer him, just as I do my daughter. Afterall, she's going to grow into an adult body just like mine. And he's going to see female adult bodies. What's so wrong with being naked in front of your kids as long as they don't see a problem with it? Why make it a taboo thing? To me that will just make them shy away from being naked in front of their sexual partner. Like my title on my profile says - They're JUST boobs! Chirst, many people need to lighten up. Really. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 5:59:11 PM | | People need to relax.. the only people that need to worry are the ones that are doing something wrong. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 7:42:08 PM | Well my opinion on this is the child will let you know when it isn't ok. My 5 year old girl is totally comfortable with being naked around ME, but she baths herself, and I don't see anything wrong with her father bathing her either. Although, I asked him not to shower with her when she was about 3, mainly because if you think about it, when they are both standing in the shower, guess where her face ends up being...eeek...I didn't feel comfortable with that. Bathing with children, hmmmmm never did it, my tub isn't that big. Anyways, I feel she is at an age where she needs to start learning about privacy and she will close her door and ask for privacy when there is other people around and I'm the only one allowed to see her in the tub...her rules..heeeheee.
Don't worry about it, it's totally up to you and you will know when the time comes to back away, I can tell you 100% that 7 months is not even close to too old to bath with. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 9:16:05 PM | lol... I can understand the concern now a days about when it's still appropriate to bath your child, especially when there are bitter exes involved...
But I think, if you are not doing anything inappropriate and your child is comfortable and enjoyes the time with you then it's great.. Kids need to be secure enough to be able to discuss their bodies with their parents for many different reasons and you shouldn't feel weird.
Let the child decide when they need their privacy, but my son is 11 and he struts out of the washroom without a care in the world, until I tell him that his cousins are downstairs...lol then he runs like hell into his room!!
At least he closes the door to use the bathroom but I am not going to make him feel that he has something to hide. He knows that no one else should see him in his garden-of-eden attire and he knows that there will come a time when it's not appropriate to just walk out of the washroom with your willy hanging out proudly.... lmao | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 8/28/2006 10:07:03 PM | Um, my son will be 12. I haven't been around his baths or showers for a long time. I think there comes a point where you will definately know. My kid just started to shy away...became modest or just didn't feel comfortable undressing in front of his mom. Boys won't be afraid to tell you. On the other hand, I still have to set the shower for him! Go figure! lol My daughter on the other hand, still gets in baths with me on occassion. I don't say no to her, because I don't want her to think the naked body is a bad thing and she should feel comfortable around girls that are naked. God I have gone to the local swimming pool & in the changing room there are women & girls of all kinds for my daughter to see in plain sight. Its different around the same sex. But, if she just didn't feel comfortable anymore, well its her choice. Just like it is my son's choice to be in private when showering or bathing.
But bathing a child that is so young and doesn't really know the difference, I don't see anything wrong with it. A child needs its mom & as long as they need us, mothers or fathers need to be their for their children.
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 9/3/2006 7:36:46 PM | | I bathed with my son when he was a baby. No big deal. He's four and takes showers by himself but I still go in and make sure he's okay and clean. Again no big deal. Unless you're having feelings upon seeing your child naked that you shouldn't be having-if that is the case get help immediately-you're just blowing bathing your son way out of proportion. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:19:44 PM | I say bathe them until they say I can do it my self .....Let them
Check them until they do it right
Then every other time and so on
It also teaches the reward for advancement consept.
Actually when I got my son back he was 7 and thought it was wrong for me to even see him with his shirt off. It took a year to get him to loosen up. Now he showers and runs through the house like a nude banshee and I have to get on him about going outside in his underware
It's all about BALANCE | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 9/4/2006 1:49:10 PM | I have bathed my kids till about the ages of 3 or 4.
I would only help out with rinsing my duaghter's hair to make
sure the soap got out.
I think the kids need to be able to bathe themselves at an early
enough age, so they can be independant and eventually they do
get it right!
I would never get in the tub with the kids, and I did not do that when
they were small either.
Even though, you know you would never do anything sexual to your
child, I feel you need to give them some independance so they can feel
responsible.
It is a Big relief when they can do a lot of things on their own! | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 9/5/2006 12:01:09 AM | | I don't see anything wrong with bathing your kids if needed.Although i would not truly feel comfortable the father bathing their daughters.To many freaks in the loose who knows what their doing to the them. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 9/5/2006 3:14:09 AM | Now he showers and runs through the house like a nude banshee and I have to get on him about going outside in his underware
^^^^^this describes my 9 year old to a TEE!!!!
I bathed with all my children, until they were about 3-4. Then just watched them, and helped when they needed me after that.
My late husband bathed with all our children too...4 girls, and a boy...( he was NOT a freak) .He would always lay a wash cloth over himself while they were in the tub, would bath the babe, then call out for me to come and get them. There was never a problem. It was as natural as breathing for us...None of our kids ever had any hang ups about running through the house naked like a banshee either!!...
If you convey discomfort while bathing your children, or bathing with them ( and Im talking about when its age appropriate), they will pick up on this, and be uncomfortable too.
Unless you have cps watching every move you make already, you should have no problems at all as their mother, especially at your childrens ages. If CPS IS watching you for some reason, or if someone has accused you of wrong doing with the kids, then you do have to be more careful...even if the accusations are unfounded.
Relax a little and enjoy bathtime with the kids...its a chance to play with your kid in the water, and will create a lot of sweet memories..
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 6/29/2007 8:47:04 PM | I wouldn't let a boyfriend bathe with my child or bathe my child, but I think it's ok for parents to do that. It doesn't bother me for a child to grow up having seen mommy and/or daddy naked. I think kids should grow up happy and confident with their bodies and respectful of the opposite sex. If you behave as though there's an issue with either gender, then they will learn there's an issue. If you behave as though everyone has body parts--matter of factly--then they will learn there's nothing to be ashamed of.
I think it's good to teach them that they don't run naked all the time or in front of company because their bodies are private, but if they can't be comfortable with mommy and daddy, uh oh.
Please keep in mind that I'm referring to small children--I do believe at some point we all need to keep our clothes on lol.
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 6/30/2007 6:59:12 PM | | "If I knew someone with a 10 year old in the tub with them, I would likely contact the authorities and report it. (barring any medical reasons for it)"I would say bring it on bring it on....Like,what are you going to report? "Parent is bathing with kid...uhm.....uhm...well....uh..well,uh...."..."Have a nice day!"....CPS told me that I couldn't even report two gay guys or two gay women kissing each other around the kids,how are you going to report that? | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 6/30/2007 7:10:10 PM | It's fine to help them bath until they are fully capable of doing it themselves. I think my brother and sister were 8 or 9 when they first started to bathe on their own with no assistance at all. I can't remember what if my mom bathed at first with both of them or just one. But I would have to say for you bathing together with your child, it should at least be until the age of 5 or 6. Then they should be learning how to do it on their own if they haven't already wanted to. You just have to let them know that they are becomming big boys/girls now, and that they've got to learn how to bathe on their own instead of with assistance from mommy.
It only starts getting "weird" if they're starting to go through puberty. At that point, they should be able to bathe completely on their own unless they're special needs and can't do it on their own. If the child is "normal" and is 11+, and still has mommy assisting him with bathing, then you need to get that taken care of right away. The child then needs to be taught to bathe on their own and not to be scared of that.
Some kids tend to get too dependant or attached. That's when the child is going to not want to do things on their own and rather have mommy do things for or with them. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 6/30/2007 7:18:51 PM |
You dont have kids lwsndv1 so you wouldnt understand... You might want to look at her post again. You misread it slightly. Just thought I'd point that out.
And by the way...Just because someone doesn't have kids, DOESN'T mean they don't understand. I don't have kids, yet I can easily understand many kid situations. It all has to do with how much knowledge you have about a certain subject. You don't have to have gone through it to know about it. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:40:21 PM |
when they lock the bthrm door & don`t wanna letcha in!.. lol.. at least thats what both of my kids did when they were about 7-8.. i let them both know at that time that if they needed my help.. 2 yell 2 me & i would be right there.. but i also had let them know NOT 2 lock the door again cause if they had slipped & banged their heads.. that i wouldn`t have time 2 look 4 a bobbypin 2 let myself in!..
YEAH THAT
You are there parent as long as you are not doing anything in appropriate and you are all comfortable with your helping your child everything is ok. Also you would not want to leave a child under that age of 5-6 unattended in a bathroom ever there are to many hazard in a bathroom that can harm a child. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 7/1/2007 2:11:48 AM | | I taught my son to clean himself and supervised until I thought he was ready to do it on his own- the sooner the better IMO- which was by 4. At that point he'd bathe with curtain closed while I was in the bathroom drying my hair or cleaning or whatever. Kids are completely capable by then if the parents are willing to teach them. | |
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| mom bathing boy
Posted: 7/1/2007 4:54:38 AM | hi, I have a 9 year old son, who I still bath with, not often but once in a blue moon, we have always done this and yes its a bit of a sweeze in the bath now but we both enjoy it just like he enjoys coming into bed in the mornings for a cuddle, he's my son and there is no harm in it whatsoever. I must admit as he get older I kinda think when he gonna stop doin this but over time it has lessened and lessened until ,I'm sure, he wont bother at all.
Dont push your kids away, they're only young once and need the love n bond of a great mum. | |
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