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Posted: 12/10/2005 6:35:02 AM | You're right countrygirl. I was getting ready to start a thread until I read your post. Almost like you took the words out of my mouth. Dating on the net is very different than the way dating used to be years ago and in a way it is like a candy store here. It will continue to be that way because everyone is looking for something different. I think maybe most people need to get all the shopping out of the way before they finally realize what they are really looking for.
Time seems to be a big issue as well. Everyone is in a hurry to find what they want. I understand nobody likes to be alone but if you are serious and especially serious about finding the one to spend your life with it is going to take time. Getting phone calls is a good way to get to know someone especially if there is distance between you. You will know sooner on the phone whether you found someone worth that time because many times those phone calls eventually lead to a different kind of conversation. Sex! In a way it almost seems like a test and it's a difficult test because you may feel like you lose if you fall for it or will lose if you don't fall for it. The decision I have made is if the conversation turns to "will you talk dirty to me" then they are not looking for a serious long term relationship because in my opinion that kind of talk only comes easily with someone you truly care about, and that goes back to taking the time to get to know someone. | |
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| WHATS A GUY GOT TO DO TO GET A DATE IN THIS TOWN
Posted: 4/3/2007 7:27:11 PM | clio I couldn't have said it better. lol My very first post said pretty much
the same thing. I'm amazed with all the people we have in our lives we can't
find a date. Weather it be church, the store, or where ever we go , We don't
take the time to get to know people. That being said I have to say theres alot
of guys/girls that won't find a true love either till they get some conidence,
love for themselves,and be proactive in fixing what they can for themselves as well.
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| WHATS A GUY GOT TO DO TO GET A DATE IN THIS TOWN
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:16:19 PM | | I absolutely agree with you. I think the reason why so many people are still looking because some are not being honest. Some people say they want to establish a long term relationship but in reality are just looking for someone to have sex with. I won't say all are that way, but these people are out there. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2007 8:18:45 PM | | I absolutely agree with you. I think the reason why so many people are still looking is because some are not being honest. Some people say they want to establish a long term relationship but in reality are just looking for someone to have sex with. I won't say all are that way, but these people are out there. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2007 2:26:33 PM | Hey dalejrfan1 if you were a little older I would sure go out with you, you sound like a great guy. Don't know why you are having a hard time finding some nice lady. Keep fishin hun she is out there for ya. You will find that lucky lady. Good luck
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Posted: 4/12/2007 4:03:51 PM | | Everyone here and anywhere else is a good catch just maybe not the good catch for you.... Be bold take the chance what have you got to lose. What is a crazy person to you is normal to someone else so swim through all the fishies if you have to. Remember that the person we are looking for might not be so easy to see. Might not even be what we thought we were looking for but they end up being perfect for us.... | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 7:59:10 PM | I have a hard time believing that you cant get a date out there with as many eligible bachelors there are ...
what I am finding out is that the men are too critical of the women ... I had 26 men look at my profile today ... and only ONE had the guts to message me ... even tho he is not the type of person I would want for long term I did take the time to message him back and let him know that friendship is possible.
guys are wanting someone to hang out with ... I would be happy to go hang out with someone as a buddy or pal ... but yet NOT ONE OF THESE chicken hearted men will take the step to say ok ... lets go have some fun ... NOT ONE of them will even answer you when u write to them ...
so Im not thinkin its the women .. its something seriously wrong with the men ... so why dont you guys get off your asses and start askin the ladies out .... you never know .. the person whom you thought was unapproachable may end up being your MRS. RIGHT ... wont ever know till you try | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 3:43:38 AM | The process seems to be a lot more complicated than one might think.
I've met a few local ladies through POF and just through daily life. A few of them were interested in getting together again, while others weren't a great fit one way or another and drifted away. Two of them are still friends, enough to call when they need somebody to look at their furnace making scary noises and such. One even wants a companion for a vacation trip but "I don't need a man" (code for "not you anyway").
I have pulled way back from women at a distance. This has never come close to working. I don't rule some driving out but when it gets close to 100 miles you end up with a telephone relationship at best and soon somebody finds somebody closer...
So guys, put yourself out there. It isn't hard to get that first meeting and maybe even something you might think of as a date after that (people are quite cautious). Sure, you'll get turned down. Sometimes right off, sometimes after doing things together a time or two.
The tricky part is meeting enough people and getting to know them and to finally find the right one, or at least one "right enough" that you both want to see each other more regularly. I've had 7 years of first dates, a few seconds, even a few thirds. Sometimes I've even thought I found a keeper... but it seems there is always a better guy right around the corner or something. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 11:47:06 PM | | Nope dalejrfan1 not the only guy having a problem. Seems to me the women are all looking for the perfect man who will match there every hope or want. Well we all would like that but its unrealistic to think it could happen thi day and age at least not very often anyway.... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 5:19:17 AM | | Part of the problem is that women are still living in the 19th century and feel they have to wait for a guy to ask them out. I for one am tired of doing all of the work so I said screw this. Just focus on the things that actually matter in life rather than looking for the next person you're going to date for a few months, and if something happens it happens. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 10:03:49 AM | | Does chivalry still exist??? havn't seen it in a while, I think it's easy to find someone to have sleep overs w/ but to find a truely decent guy, not too sure about that. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 3:53:00 AM | well i do nt know for sure but i have emailed girls on this site and well i never ever hear from them i i not looking for one night stands or anything like that that takes a long time for this but i syaing i just want someone to type back to me and maybe i could talk thats all i ask of you woman out there but hey i you want to be true then be true then give some of us old fasion guys a chance  just makes sure you know yourself and what you are looking for in a relationship and the world will shine for you  | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 12:21:27 PM |
Seems to me the women are all looking for the perfect man who will match there every hope or want. Well we all would like that but its unrealistic
Well we women could say the same thing.
If I wanted a relationship with a guy needing a home, a nurse, an enabler, or I was willing to wait by the phone for a guy to give me a "booty call", I'd be up to my *ss in guys and having to fight them off with a shillelagh!( that's a big walking stick for the non Irish Americans lol)
Or if I was willing to force myself to be in a relationship with a guy I felt 0 level attraction/chemistry with, because he was a "good catch; that is to say, he has job, a roof over his head, a car, and is not running from justice or bill collectors, is this what you guys want? A woman to choose you because you have a pulse and you sent her a message?? Do you date any woman who sends YOU a message?
Guys( and gals) it's about finding not just somebody who meets the bare standards of functionality, it's about finding love. If your profile/pictures do nothing for me, or mine doesn't do anything for you, what would be the point of dating?? Is there some new Michigan law that all adults must be paired up??
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Posted: 4/21/2007 3:42:05 PM | | Seems alot of the women have a type of guy they are looking for, who you are doesnt matter.Its what you look like. Then they will talk to you,and me lol.At least thats the way it come across,Heck I dont drink,have a good job, no kids or baggage like ex s giving me balony,Oh Nevermind, I guess when you re suppose to meet that person you shall and So shall we all Hopefully :) ! Peace Vito | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 7:17:49 PM | Yea well to all those who are frustrated, try this: I'm 18 and my rating with 40 year old men and above is like a 6.5 and with men my age its lower. I've gone nuts trying to change the way I look and if I don't mind saying it I think I'm pretty(yea pretty frustrated!lol). But trying to get someone to even talk to me is hard on here,I'm no good with words on the computer and so far I've gotten 2 guys to talk to me but nothing! So whats a girl gotta do??? | |
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Posted: 4/21/2007 9:50:14 PM | | I would think to get a date in this town, one has to be at least intelligent enough to know that women *NOT BARBIES* do want someone who has a job, a career, a decent set of values and at least rudimentary intelligence. You may think it is " cool" to be in a BAND wowie...but really, that means you are gone weekends, glomed at by stupid bar groupies....ect. Think about it, and by the time you are in your 40s those tatts are going to be somewhere around your belly, now THAT's attractive. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 7:45:06 AM | TO the original poster .... what town r you in ? .. I for one am in Grand Rapids .. and I know there are lots of single fellas in my area ... they all just need to come out from hiding under their rocks.
TO the rest of yall ..... the next thing I have found to be difficult is distance ... seems like all the single guys wanting to date all live in, around or near Detroit and the single women live in West Michigan .... so if you are deemed to be too far away (whatever that magical radial limit is) then its a no go ...
just to let ya know too .. distance is only what you make of it .. I had a very healthy 2 yr relationship with a gentleman in KY .. we saw each other as much as was possible and spent hours on the phone ... it ended because of the phase of life we were both in was about to change and the reason for our being together had come full circle and was time to move on ... we are still very dear friends to this day.
now if I am wrong about those stats .. then prove it wrong ... I too am tired of sending nice little notes as ice breakers and not as much as getting a "plz go away and leave me alone" ... you hear nothing ... so guys u see it works both ways .... if someone takes the time to send you a note ... plze take the time to send them one back ...
Best wishes to my fellow POF'ers ...
ya know .. its spring time when ppl should be gettin out of their homes more ... take a chance on someone local and ask them if they would like to go watch the sunset on the lake or go to a pretty park and walk around and look at the landscaping ( I know .. not many flowers out yet.. but yall get the drift dont ya?) | |
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