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Posted: 8/10/2005 7:56:17 PM | interesting thread... one that many think about but dont discuss it
COMMUNICATION is the key... lust and lustful activities are seperate.. one can lust which is normal but the activities must be done respectfully.. most men what to live in that fantacy world and have some fun.. they do it with thier male friends.. go home and have sex with thier partners and think that they are #$%^%^ the one they spent $100 on.. if my partner was to participate in that with me, great.. however, I look for thoes sexy qualities in my partner and that is why we would be together | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 8:03:41 PM | I am one that does not seem to mind if I am in a relationship with a guy if he goes to the strip club on occasion... Hey I may even join him!!
I have been to Strip clubs with guy friends and u know what it is a show and that is all it is !! As for the touching it is all in fun I say !! As long as your man comes home to u and so he touched another woman he is not sleeping with them !!! U know it is a form of entertainment some people may not think that this is right but it is a booming business and has been around for centuries!!!
If your partner is totally honest with you on where he has been and what he has done I do not see any harm in it !!!
I am not saying let your partner go every weekend but on the occasion , a nite out with the guys y not !!! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 8:14:04 PM | I wouldnt mind him going once in a blue moon [ for bucks nights only that kinda thing] like special occasions only. I would trust him. If I didnt trust him I wouldnt or shouldnt be with him. You can go to strip shows and not touch. Even if there is a little bit of bum grope or something, I probably wouldnt worry so much. Most of it is all a big show, those girls dont really care about the guys or the other way around. I agree with you viewing is ok, Ive been to Hens night where there are male strippers and I dont think Im a degnerate or anything
If anything the benefit of these places is how fired up your partner is when they get home, just be waiting with a bottle of bubbly and fluffy mules......and a big smile to reap the benefits. I would.
[ wink wink ]
However if it was on a really regular basis for no special reason than a night out - I would start to get concerned there are some issues/ something wrong....each to their own and go with your gut feeling. I think it should be the exception and not the norm | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 8:19:55 PM | Ps I agree with another post on here - who thinks that it is all touching. If a guy wants to touch the girls they usually have to pay. Hence the $5 going down the girls thong etc. In the real world, some guys arent as keen to part with their hard earned cash to " cop a feel" more than once or so. Lap dance and all that other stuff constitutes s-x acts, and they cost and that to me is another whole seperate issue to a strip show.
Happy pole dancing people : D | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 8:22:00 PM | | Never been to a strip club ... I've always preferred the private shows at home from an amateur that I'll touch to paying to see a professional I won't. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 11:08:50 PM | "fluffy mules" how wonderful does that sound? Is that some kind of Tijuanna thing? lol
It seems this thread has taken a remarkable turn towards the accepting and open-minded recently....good to see. I think it's wonderful when people can share their differing viewpoints without all the judgemental insults.
I'll keep reading, I'm sure there is more to learn yet. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 6:08:55 PM | HI.
Yes i do find it wrong.I think that if your with someone,no matter if its marriage or just a
b/f g/f thing,its committment no matter what.And as far as im concerned if i were with someone like that and they wanted to do something like that then i'd just pretty much give them the third degree and force them to make there choice now,me or someone else.And i also agree about the honesty thing in your profile,it really is hard to find honesty,but if people looking for relationships weren't always looking for the greatlooks then they might just actually find a mate that would last forever.I mean why people worry so much about looks i really dont know because in the blink of an eye the good looks could very well disappear and if your lucky you'll make it to 50 and after that well,looks just dont matter,now do they?See ya | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 6:22:18 PM | | blueeyedragon i'm with you on that one. i do believe that it is disrespectful for a guy to want to go to a strip club. whether he's touching them or not. just the fact that he wants to look at other women should be enough to piss you off. if you weren't enough to keep him happy, i'd think he would have to go. you want them, you can have them, but without me. i just think that it would only lead to bigger problems down the road. if i had a woman that i loved very much, i sure as hell wouldn't be going around fondling another woman's breasts. i would be fondling her's. that just doesn't make any sense to me. i'd say get rid of the sick-o. to each their own as they always say. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 6:30:07 PM |
and if your lucky you'll make it to 50 and after that well,looks just dont matter,now do they?
Hmmmmm....... | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 8:09:20 PM | aradienne I was thinking the same thing, girlfriend. Gotta love it someone 35 with NO pics is talking all about looks. Don't ya find that strange the ones with no pics are always the ones droning on about looks. Makes you scratch your head and go whaaa???
OT: A trip to a strip club every once in awhile or for a special occasion shouldn't cause a major hurdle in a relationship. Frequency is definitely a factor as far as I'm concerned, but some guys go for male bonding behavior and who the heck understands that?? hahaha | |
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Posted: 8/15/2005 9:56:55 PM | you look very nice and i would like to hear that from you ? i do feel with you . i am sorry about that
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Posted: 8/16/2005 10:13:23 AM | | I think its downright insulting to the guy's other half. In fact disrespectful. maybe even a little perverse---- when you can enjoy the same from your girlfriend. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 6:06:55 PM | Have any of you ever been to a strip club?
If you even "accidentally" touch one of the girls, a large man with a bad attitude discourages you, and quite effectively.
It's not a brothel; it's a place for stupid drunk guys - I've been one - to hand over their money. And it's fun, once in a while.
Remember Hugh Grant, who was married to ELIZABETH HURLEY for God's sake????
What stable man would look for a better deal?
I'm not excusing his behavior, because it was wrong (and I'm not just saying that) but evidently even Liz got tiresome after a while... Even sex with one of the most beautiful women on the planet probably became "just sex". Sex with someone he argued with about the carpeting, the in-laws, someone whom he smelled in the bathroom every day. That's reality - accept it or don't. And just so we're clear: I'd like the fairy tale, too.
Ladies, we look at every pretty girl within a twelve mile radius anyway; we're just being honest with you about the strip clubs.
Don't take it personally as long as he comes home to you. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2005 6:40:27 PM | | dave04 Thanks for an honest post. Sex can become boring it you let it be. And keeping it exciting with a challenge. Although I wouldn't encourage my man to go to a strip club, I've gone with a group for a single friend's birthday. It wasn't a big deal and myself and the other women were raring to leave. Even though I wouldn't be excited about it if my man with went some guys after work now and then and I mean NOT frequently, I wouldn't sacrifice a good relationship over something that trivial. If he knows I don't prefer it and goes anyway, so what. I wouldn't hold it over his head and punish him for it as long as he was a good partner otherwise. There are women who like to go with their men, and I say live and let live, more power to you. I just personally don't enjoy it. There are things I don't like and others do, but I won't get upset or judgemental about the people who enjoy going or who like that form of entertainment JUST because I don't. I don't like cottage cheese either, but I don't think people who DO are strange. One of the challenges to having a satisfying long term relationship and satisfying sex life IS boredom, with men AND women. For me and whoever is involved with me it's a frequency thing, if he needs that to get aroused everytime we want to make love and/or have a sexual encounter, then it'd raise a red flag. If it's a male bonding thing with the guys, then it's just that. No biggie to me. Just don't give me guff about having my female bonding night out with the girls every once in awhile and it won't be to a male review. For some reason, those don't interest me at all. I guess I'm saying I agree with you, it's nothing personal, but to the guys, just be understanding of her feelings and talk about it. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 10:35:34 PM | Maybe a lot of men think there is no such thing as seeing too many breasts. You can love someone completely, but that doesn't stop you from wanting to see naked women.
Personally I'm not interested in strip clubs, been to a couple and they just frustrate you.
Women really do need to realize that men are "mostly" much more visual than they are and it actually makes us happier and more productive when we get to see different titties.
If you give up chocolate and having emotional relationships, then that would be the same as us giving up wanting sex and seeing naked females.
And those people that are so extreme in their views, grow up, very few things in life are black and white.
Remember, even eating steak & lobster and gourmet dining all of the time gets a bit old, maybe we just want to go to a burger place and smell the food once in awhile. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 10:15:06 AM | ABSOLUTELY
of course it's blatant disrespect-ur dating the wrong guys sweetheart-of course there is no accounting for taste-if it is necessary 4 u 2 ask opinions about this u should ask yourself if u are more concerned about what others think than what u think-start listening 2 yourself-i assure u u will experience less problems-befriend yourself-you'll like her... | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 5:01:06 PM | | i don't have a problem boyfriends going to a strip club as long as they know they aren't getting sex from me that night.! | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 6:53:29 PM | | I wouldn't have a problem with it...unless it was part of that person's routine. I think it's kinda strange when a man goes to them on a regular basis. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 7:49:39 PM | | I went to a strip club once with a female friend (platonic). Did the lap dance thing (just to say I had done it) and turned down the upgrade. It did nothing for me and in fact found it disturbing. No, I would not go with or without a girl. Don't care for the tease or the whole flesh for sale thing. Gross. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2005 9:45:20 PM | | great Oh really no such thing as seeing too many titties? Cool, if you're in a relationship I would assume that would mean that your "woman" could never imagine seeing enough sausage ever. And that'd be fine with you?? Sorry and I may be wrong, but you're trying to put this off as other men, but it's obvious that's the way you think. Men can't get enough of seeing women naked? Or seeing naked women? Maybe you should just work in an adult bookstore, and if you check out my posts, I wouldn't have a problem with my man or husband going for a night out with the guys, or for something different. If it was a big deal, then maybe, I'd go, the men in those places to a woman trust me, you guys are amusing as heck. That's the only entertainment for a woman, so yeah, I'd rather my man go with his friends if that's what he wants to do, for a guy's night out. I let my husband go with his work buddies didn't make a big deal even though he knew I would rather personally he didn't. It's a male bonding thing or ritual, and he didn't come home to me any more or less sexed up than before. Because he loved me, and I was more beautiful and coming home to me naked in bed was much more arousing. I'm good with that. It's so NOT about steak and lobster....egad!! It's about something that I'm guessing or assuming from you post you don't understand. It's just too obvious, or am I the only one who sees it? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 1:44:25 PM | First and Foremost everyone has a right the make a choice, some choices we all don't agree with but that's what makes us individuals.
As for myself, I kinda think that if a man/guy is single and has no other persons feelings to consider IE: isnt in a relationship then go do whatever.. I think its kinda nasty.. and do not really understand why strip clubs are a social event.. but whatever I dont go soo I don't care. However, stating this I definetly would not date someone who frequents these types of establishments....
And as I have stated in other forums, If you want to endorse something- such as a strip club.. I wonder if anyone has ever stopped to wonder who through your actions (going to a strip club) your choices are affecting.. I doubt, and why because most people don't care enough to think past themselves...What I really wonder is..."if you wondered into a strip club and say your wife, girlfriend peeling...how would that feel to you? ALSO....If you went into a strip club and saw your daughter bouncing up and down, spreading and playing with her hoots and ****...how would you react to that......Now only if people would think before they jump to please only a "urge" or to "hang out with the guys"....would they realize that that is SOMEONE"S DAUGHTER UP ON STAGE>>>>>> IS THAT OKAY FOR YOUR DAUGHTER??? I wonder what some would say now???
Anyways, Just one girls questions..and thoughts..
Keep smiling Always, | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 1:54:48 PM | | Ok, up until a year ago I worked at a strip club. I vowed to myself that I would never date anyone that goes to those places. I know what went on at the one I danced at. The last straw for me was the night I was on stage watching men taking off their wedding rings. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 2:41:10 PM | | Honestly I doent see the point when your in a relationship. A good friend of mine said it best when he said why would I want to look and ground beef when I can go home and have prime rib. But then again I doent see anything wrong with looking but the touching part is going abit to far. | |
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