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Posted: 9/10/2005 2:56:22 PM | Wow this is a long thread, probably somewhere in here there is a reply similar to mine if not identical. Anyway, I read for awhile and glazed over.
My point: I'd like to ask if you have ever entertained the notion of going with him. the purpose would be twofold. One to hang out with him and see just waht the hell it's all about. And two to fire a shot across his bow so to speak. Scenario being, I'll go with you this friday, you go with me next and watch the guys. Personally if I was into you I'd be all excited if you'd agree to go with me. I would not however be enthused in the least at the prospect of watching Chip and Dale. Be demonstrable. Don't criticize until you've had opportunity to dislike it for more than the concept. I'll bet you a doughnut he'll not want to attend the all male revue. Your point would be aptly demonstrated. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 3:54:52 PM |
Did the lap dance thing (just to say I had done it) and turned down the upgrade
Ok, I'm naive....what's the upgrade?  | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 7:00:20 PM | I'm sure someone already touched on this. But around here you can't touch the employees, that is off limits.
I personally don't have a problem with it! After all he is coming home to you. And if nothing else he will be all horned up and you get the benefits of that! A hot night of sex! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 7:09:08 PM | | Okay, fine call me simplistic and simples minded but I'm in near hysterics that a poster with a priest's collar posted here...yeah, I'm not over laughing over that yet!! Aw crap, where's my habit, I did offer to do a remake of the flying nun series.... | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 7:10:12 PM | | I am totally amazed at how long this thread is. Everyone is so passionate about expressing their opinion and sticking to their guns. Maybe we can all take that energy and focus it on more important issues than whether it's ok if your mate goes to a strip club??? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2005 7:14:14 PM | Maybe if you went WITH him to the strip clubs it would spice up your relationship a bit! Just a thought.
CG | |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 9:44:48 PM | | I am 50 / 50 on this one. I wouldn't find it acceptable to do on a daily basis but if my man had a bachalor party to go to for a friend, I'd give him $5 and tell him to have one on me. He'd come home and be in the mood lol. I'd never date a guy in the first place that I dont think I could trust. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2005 11:57:47 PM | | ok im with the girls who say no way!!!i was beginning to think i was the only one till i fell upon this forum.I hear excuses like "its only entertainment","it's not really sexual".I say ok then when your bud shows up for you and youre not home yet ill just keep him entertained with a lap dance till you get home.not sexual?!please then why do you watch porn?those people in the movie arent even in the same room and youre turned on.no some girl in your lap naked gyrating doesnt do anything for you.my sister was a stripper my roommate was a stripper and i know a few that come into my gym.whoa what attitudes and holier than thou ideals they have.and most do more than just strip if ya know what i mean.true why should i sit at home being bored and cleaning up after him just to have him come home and want immediate sex cuz he's horny over someone else hell im not a receptical and i need a little warming up.they dont want their women dressing that scanty and piling on the make up and strutting down the street playing up to other guys cuz they think its cheap and slutty but then theyll pay for it elsewhere.yes the human form is beautiful ...in a sketch or a attractive painting or something not displayed spread eagle.just what my man should want some other girls juices on the front of his pants.and then shes onto the next one.yup sure bud theyre nice girls cuz you talk to them and you know ...please!!!shes paid to be nice.you dont know her at all.some even dance on their periods and just cut the tampon string short ...yup want that in your lap.how many are druggies and alcoholics?have children they dont spend time with cuz theyre asleep all day and out all night?very few have anything to show for their money.what do they do when theyre old?no education,ugly,probably single cuz who wants to marry a stripper.oh all men think they want a relationship with one till they have one. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 12:02:24 AM | | um hate to tell ya buddy but not all strip clubs disallow touching in fact some even have girls performing sex at the table while doing lap dances.they got vip rooms for a reason and lots just take you to the washroom.its almost inevitable to have a girl offer you a bj for a price.and i wont take it personal if he wont take it personal that i got a naked guy over dancing in my lap when he gets home.just cuz he made it home doesnt mean he didnt get it elsewhere or at least didnt try.and i dont want to relieve his frustration over another woman just cuz he was nice enough to bring his erection for her home to relieve himself with me.give me the money he spends and ill buy a kinky outfit and dance for him if he paid half as much attention to me as he did there | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 12:05:28 AM | | For the record... A 'classy' strip joint doesn't allow touching. Secondly, I'm secure enough in myself that it wouldn't bother me. Hell I go to them on occasion and would most likely join him. I've even been known to buy a guy a lap dance so the fact he's admiring naked women really doesn't bother me, I'm the one he's going home with. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 7:37:30 AM | sometimes it's hella fun to go to the strip joints together... hehe. That way if you are insecure about it you can see what goes on. And yes, most reputable places have bouncers that will beat you senseless if you try to touch.
If a woman offers your boyfriend a bj and he accepts, that's a problem with your man, not the woman.
Again, it's all about trust and honesty.... | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 9:24:56 AM | | strip joints are like Rolls Royce dealerships they all look real nice but who the hell could afford one and they eventually break down and don't look that great anymore anyways | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 10:15:59 AM | | You are right, there is a time to grow up. At the beginning of my previous relationship,my now ex would frequent the strip clubs. I never liked the idea that he was there, but I dealt with it. Until he decided to tell me that he does "Twoonie Slides," I hope I dont have to explain what it is. But that is when I put my foot down. There is no way a man of mine is going to go to these clubs and have a womans privates close enough to touch. No way, no way, no way. It was a fight for him to understand that these actions are not nececcary and it leaves me feeling insecure. I will never know if he truly understood my feelings on this matter and I guess that is one of the many reasons he is now my ex. | |
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corry
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Posted: 11/17/2005 5:18:50 AM | | well Stellazz he musta been a moron to go to strip clubs when he's got a girl like you at home | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 6:56:15 PM | you know i have heard both sides of the coin when it comes to stripp clubs . i went as a young teen . i even had a girl friend who was one . i have absolutly no desire to . go and watch a women get naked and then go home to my women . to me it is just not right . i would much rather be with her and have our own fun . i have an imagination . and if she is with me i sure she would as well . that is about as stupid as the rule guys have going out . "what even happens at the bar stays at the bars " . have some recpect for the woman you love ! and befor you mock or judge . this is my belive and some people have no problem with it . that is up to them to decide . and yes i look at women and i think there beautifull . i just don't need a stripper shaking it my face . when i could be with the women i chose to love . | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 6:59:31 PM | God, been there and done it.... Yawn...... I'm serious... I was sooooo bored after a few visits... Plus, you can't touch em~~~`  | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 10:47:46 PM | | Well I don't mind if my man goes to the strip club, I may even join him (I have in the past.) I'd rather see girls strip then guys strip (I'm not bi-sexual.) The guy strippers just seem gay and fake to me. I am open minded and trusting so more power to 'em. I'm confident enough to know my man has no reason to stray and if he does well it's his loss not mine. I know people tend to want what they can't have but I think strippers are different. For some men it's a reason to get out of the house or how they let off some steam. It is all about temptation and giving in to it or not. Some people are just stronger then others. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 11:15:04 PM | Just think, your boyfriend is going to the strip club to pay some other guys girlfriend to dry hump him.
Go find her boyfriend and the two of you might have a go!
Going with single friends is one thing. Going alone is another matter entirley. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2005 9:51:33 AM | I believe it's dolphins and humans who are the only mammals that have sex for fun... that's right, fun! Sex is not "a perfectly natural biological act" alone, but a wonderfully fulfilling and entertaining experience. Let's not belittle it to the boring science of procreation.
With that being said, strip clubs are adult entertainment simply put. Yes, the dancers are making pretty easy money, but the men are not taking them home afterward. I go to the local strip club (where females dance) every once in a while with some friends of mine. We get in cheap and drink cheap, so why not? We enjoy the atmosphere, and any woman who has ever been in this type of establishment knows, we get tons of attention. We're not taking our clothes off nor catching anything from the surfaces we touch. No, I'm not a lesbian or bisexual (perfectly comfortable with my sexuality and identity), but it is interesting to observe human behavior and see the ladies dance. You can pick up some pointers!
I don't think this makes me any less classy than women who do not frequent establishments such as these. I also don't think that I am degrading anyone, myself included. I respect myself and others, have boundaries, and am there to have a good time.
Am I saying everyone should embrace this? No. If it's not for you, that's ok. I would like to point out one thing, though. Please do not label dancers as "trashy". That is more disrespectful than the men/women who pay them to take their clothes off. They are people just like you, making their own choices. This is just my opinion. I only ask that you respect mine as I respect yours, and I am willing to hear your viewpoint as well. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 6:51:02 AM | yeah it wierd, but how are you gonna stop em in reality?
They'll just go to a different one or go when you don't know or expect them to be going.
My old boss simply told his wife he'd be stopping for a drink before he came home. Which was the truth, but the place he stopped at was a nudy bar. He'd get an eyefull, have a drink and go home. His wife was non the wiser.
Not saying it was right, but he never really did anything wrong either. He did go to a bar, just didn't inform her there was a dancing girl in the bar, cuz he knew i would upset her.
He wanted to do what he wanted to do cuz he's a free thinking adult and shouldn't have to be told by "mommy" what he can't do. So I can't say I blam ehim.
But I can see your point and why it would make you feel uncomfortable. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2006 7:23:39 PM | | I agree, if you cannot obtain the stimulation from your partner, why are you in the relationship? | |
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Posted: 2/7/2006 7:25:36 PM | | au contrair mon amie....'Classy' strip joints DO allow touching...in the VIP rooms. Give me a break if you beliee other wise. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 9:15:03 PM | Yeah, drink cheap... our local establishment has free draws from 5-9 on Wednesday. Plus, guys get a little drunk, they have their dollars out anyway, so they usually buy when the free draws are over... you do the math (pretty cheap to me!). | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 11:37:29 PM | If I've ever learned anything about strip bars, it's the male patrons and their wallets that are exploited, not the dancers. To witness a roomful of grown men going absolutely bananas at the chance of maybe catching a cheap poster thrown into the crowd by a dancer...well it makes me wonder how we made it this far. But then, I hear the women are basically the same at Ladies Night (if not worse)...
For myself, strip bars are entertainment nothing more. If i had a girlfriend and I went out with the lads for a night on the town that included a stop at the nudie joint, I'd tell her about it. I'd feel no shame. I've been to stag parties at strip clubs before while I had a girlfriend and I just sat back and watched and declined the offers of private dances then told her about it the next morning. Heck, I've had girlfriends say they want to go to a strip club together before...and that's been fun too.
If you're going there alone 3 nights a week and spending all your money on lap dances while your wife and kids are sitting at home while your dinner's getting cold, then that's a problem. | |
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