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Posted: 3/15/2006 3:29:02 AM | what if its not interferring with the family at all?
in fact what if your spouse knows your hittin a bar after work for a half hour but just doesn't know its a strip bar? | |
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Posted: 3/15/2006 4:36:44 AM | | Nope...strip clubs are out! As far as I'm concerned, my guy might as well cheat on me if he's gonna go to those places. I've never been to see the guys either...nor would I do that to a guy I'm seeing. If I'm involved...I'd rather see him run around half naked & rub all over him than give my money to some guy who doesn't give a sh!t about me anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2006 4:39:58 AM | I don't care if he goes to a go-go club just out of curiosity and doesn't make it a habit...
And while I won't go to see cheap'n'dales show, cause those guys just make me sick.. I'd like to see girls at a go-go club... 
*Cats - always ready to learn sth new  * | |
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Posted: 3/15/2006 6:57:31 PM | To me, it's all about the money. If a man respects his g/f, wife, s/o, he would not give his hard earned money to strippers. Going to the strip bar is a very expensive habit....that money is much better spent on the home and family.
Even if a guy only goes once a month, at $100 a visit (which is very realistic), that's $1200 a year that could go towards bills, retirement, vacations, savings....... | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 12:07:04 AM | | It doesn't bother me at all... infact, I go to the strip club with my boyfriend. It's all in good fun - and if your secure in yourself and your relationship - then what's the fuss about? If you have a problem with the touching, and if he respects you, then he'll respect your concerns and leave his idle hands for you only. Have you ever thought of going with him though? | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 3:38:37 AM | who said anything about giving away money? lol
Just go to the bar, have one drink, catch some eye candy, and leave.
Who's been harmed? I'd tell ya about my visit, but since it bothers you so much, I'm forced to keep it quiet. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 5:16:47 AM | I worked as****ail server in adult entertainment clubs ( fully covered in tuxedo /bowtie) for 12 years. THere are so many reasons a man comes to club and its 90% of the time its NOT ABOUT CHEATING .....
The music is always excellent, A sports event will be playing and usually they come in groups of the boys "just out for a drink".99 % of all patrons are gentleman and respectful when they come in .
I have rarely seen any dancer leave with any customer or A CUSTOMER TOUCHING a DANCER .I can guarentee ,you touch a dancer ,you;ll have bouncer touching you faster and in a way you weren't after!!!! I have seen more fondling in regular clubs .....
Its up to you to trust your mate no matter where they are ,Ladies and gents ,if the other expresses an interest ,you can do one of 2 things. Go to a club with each other to see whats it like and then your mind will be more settled if they do out to a club and you stay home, YOU MIGHT EVEN LIKE IT!!!Why sit home ,worry and worsen a relationship with an emotion ( jealousy ) that has no place in a strong relationship. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 7:14:33 AM | I'd have to say that there's a double standard on this topic. Or so it seems.
What do I mean by that?
Well, if a man goes to a strip club the woman in a relationship usually is either unknowing or has nothing to say about it. However, if a woman goes to a strip club, the guy ususlly has some sort of beef with it.
Why is that?
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Posted: 4/1/2006 9:06:11 AM | At the times in my life where Ive been single, personally I've never gone to them much unless it's the odd time (like once in 4 years, LOL) for a Stag or something.
If my partner wanted to go, I wouldn't have a problem with it cause if you don't have trust in a relationship...ya really don't have too much of a relationship.
Overall, tho' my thinking is, if you're in a relationship besides everything else, your partner should turn you on physically, so why would you even need to be "window shopping" or whatever...don't really see the point myself....
Just my .02 cents..
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:30:30 AM | i gave up reading at page three....(overindulged last night so not really up to reading fifteen pages). I personally have a huge problem if the man that i am with wants to go to a strip bar. I have very personal reasons for that. The short version is i was married and sick my now ex husband f***ked a stripped in my car while i was in the hospital. I have always had a problem with strippers. I wil NOT however go into my reasons any further as i do not want to get into an argument with someone over it as i am sure there are at least afew strippers on this site. When i got into the relationship i with my now significant other i told him straight fromt he beginning that if he wanted to go to strippers than this was not going to work out. Thank god he doesnt like those places and it doesnt interest him.
TO THE GUYS: i was rather shocked at the number of guys that shared my opinion on strip clubs during a relationship...
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:38:32 AM | I am not a church going guy, nor am I so straight laced that I won't notice an attractive girl or a nice smile, but for me, in no way is going to a strip club right when you are in a relationship.
It's just not right in my book. I have never cheated on a woman or done this kind of thing even once when in a relationship.
When I was in the Navy at age 20, I was in Vancouver, BC and a bunch of us went out and hit a club like this. I was quite put off.....and TRUST me, I LOVE the look of an attractive woman and know how to touch all the right places at the right times, but a strip club? Yuck! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 11:42:36 AM | As long as he goes every now and then, maybe for a birthday or whatnot, what's the problem? I go every now and then, maybe a couple times a year, it's more about an excuse to do guy sort of things.....pending that it stops there, in just going for fun. I'd agree about it being a negative thing if he was thinking about taking her home or something, but I put it in the opposite category--if someone i'm going out with goes to the strip joint with her friends, so what? As long as she knows who's she's loyal to, I have no problem with that.
Okay guys, let's just throw another wrench into it--she likes going to see girls strip at the strip clubs every now and then, which some girls do. Alot of times, it's perceived as harmless fun, but as comfortable as you are with this, not so comfortable you'd be if she left you for her....  | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 11:27:20 AM | well I go & see the females strippers almost every Wed with my galpals from school... we just like to kick back, cheer on the ladies, enjoy the place all to ourselves (we're off school at 3pm)... so it's all good :)
i've had b/fs in the past go the strippers & haven't had a problem with it -- BUT just be honest about why you're going... when I hear "it's the only place where guys can get with their guy friends & just have guy conversations" well that's whole lotta bullshit, pardon my language :) you got sports bars & hooters if that's all you were after, ya dig? admit ya like to see girls naked dancin' around a pole for god's sake!
or better yet, like my b/fs have done -- get your girlfriend to dance naked for ya! drinks are cheeper & there's not cover! haha
peace
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Posted: 4/7/2006 11:52:05 AM | ARE you crazy or what?
No men with one iota of respect will go to a strip club while in a relation
(unless she asked for it, and she is present..kinky) | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 6:59:39 PM | Evanism you said in post 268 that strip clubs are the safest place for men because they can look but they cant touch.....That is NOT always true. I can attest to that. As my ex husband did more than just look. I am not in any way trying to be rude to you are anything like that i am just stating a fact.
THere has been a lot of arguing back and forth on this issue. I personally hate strippers and strip clubs. I agree with the person that said that these women (and men for that matter) could get regular upstanding jobs.
It is time for everyone to stop biting everyones head off about their opinions. I thought that this thread was a question that went something like, how do you feel (insinuating that an opinion is warranted) about people in relationships going to strip clubs?
What i dont understand is this......this thread could have been a very good debate without the name calling and bashing and carrying on. But instead it has turned into an i am right and you are wrong type of scenario.
I personally am very firm on my opinion and thinking of strip clubs, that is due to a very bad personal experience. However, i am up for listening to other peoples opinions on this and other issues. We could all learn something from each other.
Have a good night all
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Posted: 4/7/2006 7:13:42 PM | | LOL..the Pollyanna complex again..I've never gone to see male strippers, but I've seen female ones. Yes..I'd be somewhat hurt if my man wanted to go...I've gone with guys I've dated, but I wasn't in love with them...and it was really a joke. If a man I loved had to go to the strip joints, I'm afraid he'd be with the wrong woman. I don't want my man coming home because he got all hot and bothered over something so crass...I want him coming home because he's hot and bothered over me;) | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:01:27 AM | | I see both opinions,thats a matter of choice i guess,but would not bother me at all...I have went with my exs to a strip club and sat at the bar while they were hooting at the naked women...I knew he wanted me not them...No threat i am trusting and very laid back with that...And dont feel inferior,if he wants to be with one then i would let him go,he wouldnt be for me i supose... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:02:31 AM | | my last gf was the one who wanted to go to the strippers, (I ALWAYS DO), so I'd just go whenever she wanted to. It was cool | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 1:34:09 PM | A VERY LONG thread here....
Although attending strip clubs is not generally the most benificial thing in a marriage situation (Remember...in a strip club, ALL the patrons are are always "SINGLE"!)...I'm going to be a total worm on this one and say that if it's OK with BOTH parties to indulge...then do so...
Now if you're married TO a stripper, however...well, that's going to be a given!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT - Oh yes, one more thing...there IS touching in the VIP rooms (Money is a factor here...and how much you dole out, and not necessarily...only to just the stripper...this depends upon the strip joint, and whether the owner/manager does double duty as a pimp)...and Lord only knows what one can do BEYOND the confines of the club...the only limit...is the size of one's bankroll... | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 1:55:06 PM | I have no interest in going to a strip joint. They're all the same and once you've seen one you've seen them all.
What reason could you possibly have for going to one other than sexual gratification? If you're in a relationship then you should have no need to be there. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 2:23:15 PM | | I think everyone should stop wearing clothes. Strip clubs would then become redundant... | |
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Posted: 10/30/2006 2:40:18 PM | A friend of mine recently told me about a book called Sex, God, and Man. It outlined some rules about how one should behave when it comes to sex and your relationship. The rules where pretty clear and if you take the time to truly consider them they make sense. Porn, strippers and any other sexual thoughts directed anywhere other than your partner are bad for your relationship. Masterbation should also be limited.
here is the logic, we are what we think and do, no avoiding that. "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he,". We try and pretend that the things we think do not affect our lives but they do. Try this out as a test. Assuming your relationship is not already shot to piss.
For one month direct all your sexual thoughts and attention at your partner. See what happens.
Just a thought.
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