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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:08:57 PM | | okay, cuteathleticman, I've nothing against you but I'm reinforcing what myself and another have said in here. It was a "if you go, I go" type of thing. Curious though, if going to watch live dancing makes a woman trashy, what does that make the guy who buys the Penthouse magazines, or has the porn infested on his comp, what about ordering it on late night t.v? Does that make you guys trashy? Most porn advertisements, magazines, and movies are geared towards the male audience because it's obvious, they turn to it more than women do. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:13:14 PM |
what does that make the guy who buys the Penthouse magazines, or has the porn infested on his comp, what about ordering it on late night t.v
Do guys really do this in this day and age??? After all there's no need for it as there's the internet to meet the same woman! lol! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:13:44 PM | | With porn you are watching a couple or a number of women have sex. With stripping, you watch them take their clothes of, with the rules, most of them you can't touch and don't touch you. Yeah you can't compare but which is worse? Neither. It makes a guy just as trashy if he's a collector of Jenna Jameson videos, or turns to the videos instead of his gf. It's the same thing if he's a regular at a strip club, he's turning to other women, not his gf. How are they so different other than the content? | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:15:50 PM | I don't really have a problem with this. He is full-filling his fantasy. A hot girl a sleezy place. Unless you want to do this for him why do you have a problem with it?? If this truely bothers you, why not do a striptease for him? By the way it could be a male bonding thing (if he goes with his friends). Not everyone goes into the VIP room. Really, he may be just looking and I truely don't see the harm in that.. Ask him what he is getting from these type of places that he isn't getting with you. If it isn't to wierd for you, maybe you could do these things for him and it will solve the problem. Don't take these things to personal. Unless he goes by himself and won't tell you why. If this is the case RUN!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:17:16 PM | | a stripper is REAL You can smell her and feel her porn is just porn. I wouldn't want my bf or gf to look at it but I think it less riskier to hook up with porn than a live woman flesh to flesh | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:18:30 PM | On this site no I won't as I don't want to tarnish your name......in private maybe......
I have a name? An untarnished name? That's the funniest thing I've read ... well in the last few minutes anyway.
You've got mail bizie.
Or the guy has some class and doesn't want his buds to think that his wife is a whore......
If a man I date goes to a strip club, how does that reflect on me, exactly? What would make a group of mature men think that their spouses are whores for not having a problem with that?
Why would a grown up woman have the need to watch guys dance when she can have it at home?
I don't think anyone would say it's a need. I've only been to see male strippers once in my life. I can live without it. However, if a man I date wants to go to a strip club with his friends I don't see any harm in it.
Sounds like trailer trash to me! lol!
Perhaps the email isn't required. After all, you did imply that women are whores and trailer trash if they either see strippers or don't have a problem with men who do. I do look forward to the reply, regardless. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:18:59 PM | | I think you've seen one too many porn's where the stripper actually screws the guy in the back room. lol | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:21:06 PM | Hey, I actually have paid a guy to come over and dance for my girlfriend at a woman's club.
THAT is love, people. 
It was a one time thing, and I went out of my curiousity about how women reacted in those places. It was an eye opening experience, and all those stories I had heard about wild women at clubs were born out.
It just amazed me to see these drop dead beautiful women sitting there pulling out ten dollars per song. I saw one woman who must have spent 100 dollars easily.
I would think it is strange if a MAN did that. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:22:42 PM | | I've been to strip clubs and trust me having a pu**y rub against your nose and her grabbing your co*k really happens! At least for me it did! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:25:25 PM | I have been to strip bars and seen the way guys act around those strippers. Not only is it degrading to the girls, but very much so to the men and their ladies back at home.
A man should not have to get together with guys, drink and watch some naked lady rubbing her ass on a pole to get turned on.
I do not encourage my boyfriend to go into a strip club because in my eyes it is disrespectful towards me.
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:28:49 PM | well cuteathletic...THAT is trash. Sitting through something like that is trashy, as well as the person doing it.
The types of strippers I had in mind were just that...they did a little dance, lost a bit of clothes, and in no way got to second base with the audience. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:30:52 PM | I've been to strip clubs and trust me having a pu**y rub against your nose and her grabbing your co*k really happens! At least for me it did!
Seeing as how you live like 10 min away from me, you would not happen to be thinking of a few clubs in the Dayton area would ya? I know it is not allowed. Nice kink score there, how did you score so high? Things that make you say hmmmm.........hahaha | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:32:45 PM | I used to go with him...fold his dollars..........its quite fun........
If he wanted to go alone....that was fine too......... | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:43:29 PM |
I have a name? An untarnished name? That's the funniest thing I've read ... well in the last few minutes anyway.
You've got mail bizie.
Yeah I got your mail....when I have time I will read it.
If a man I date goes to a strip club, how does that reflect on me, exactly? What would make a group of mature men think that their spouses are whores for not having a problem with that?
Ya missed that one didn't ya? Read it again! I was saying that if the woman I was seeing was going to a strip joint I would NOT want my buds to think she's a whore and up for grabs......think about it.
After all, you did imply that women are whores and trailer trash if they either see strippers or don't have a problem with men who do. I do look forward to the reply, regardless. Not oce did I say that.....you just assume that as that's where your mind is. Typical mo2..or bumblebee....or whoever you are this week.....always trying to get the last word in!
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Posted: 8/4/2005 10:49:29 PM | I have seen all kinds of guys in the clubs I work in, and it's funny how you can always pick out the ones who are in relationships but not overly commited.
I don't do the lap dance thing, I have issues with being touched at work, but I know it happens.
What you need to keep in mind is that men and women are stimulated differently. Men are very visual, and going to the strippers has nothing to do with wanting them. It's almost the same as a woman reading a really trashy romance novel.
And please don't worry that we want the men who come to see us dance, those are the last ones we would EVER go home with! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 11:10:44 PM | Indigo, when you say things like that I have to wonder why any guy would have a problem with what you do for a living?
I've dated women who didn't like the idea of me going to the strip club with the boys so I didn't...not a big deal. Part of me can't stand strip clubs because it's a bit like putting a glass of water in front a man dying in the desert and saying you can't touch it! Another part of me just loves to see beautiful naked women once in a while. I haven't gone to one in nearly a year but I don't have a problem with it or with those who do go. Guys who go all the time and especially ones who behave rudely when they do piss me off, but for the most part it's fun to go once in a while. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2005 11:12:41 PM | | Here's my view. I wouldnt get involved with anyone who had a serious issue with peeler bars. I dont come home and think of the strippers while I get with my girl. Guys go there to blow off steam and look at eye candy. The ladies bars are far worse. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2005 5:13:41 AM | | I had some time on my hands this morning and I read this whole thread with great interest. In my opinion INDIGO1 hit the nail on the head. Men respond to visiual stimulation and women respond to verbal stimulation. Going to a strip with my friends is a visual stimulation, just like it would be going to regular bar and staring at the women there. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2005 5:53:49 AM | | I think "just" going to view is a major problem. Any man who is with me views me and me only. That is not to say that obviously, if he notices a pretty woman out in public, that he's not going to take notice; I certainly notice good-looking men. But he'd better keep his tongue in his mouth and his opinions politely to himself. I doubt he'd like to hear, "Wow, did you see the unit on that guy?" anymore than I want to hear about some bimbo's boobs or ass. People who are in relationships treat each other with RESPECT. At least, that's the way it should be, IMO. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2005 5:59:44 AM | "t's not funny that women are for it and men are against it - ..."
I don't know about "funny," but I find it very odd. I cannot fathom why a woman would want to go to a strip club unless she is a lesbian and, in which case, the point of this conversation would be moot. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2005 6:09:14 AM | "Men are very visual, and going to the strippers has nothing to do with wanting them. It's almost the same as a woman reading a really trashy romance novel.
And please don't worry that we want the men who come to see us dance, those are the last ones we would EVER go home with!"
Personally, I'm getting really tired of the "men are visual" excuse to justify their cheating behaviors. You know what? Women are visual, too. I'm not blind. Think I don't notice beauty in things, particularly in a man's body? I personally don't see anything "beautiful" about a trashy, often drug- or alcohol-addicted woman who will take her clothes off for any man who happens to wander into the place. What on earth is enticing about that? Men who frequent those places are losers, IMO. As to comments about "he's coming home to me," well, not me, he wouldn't. Because when he got home to "me," he'd find the door locked and his clothes out in the yard. There's no way in hell I'd sleep with a man who was first aroused by some other women, particularly not something as disgusting as a stripper is. It's just "fantasy?" Fine. Let his fantasy become his reality. I don't want a guy like that and I don't need a guy like that. I want a REAL man who knows what it means to be respectful when involved in a committed relationship. I refuse to settle for anything less. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2005 6:17:03 AM | | never had a relationship where the guy went to a strip club. I can imagine I would be ok with it if it was only a once in a while thing but if it was regular it would be a bit creepy. Porn is one thing where the girls are unobtainable but a strip club is too real. | |
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