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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/11/2005 3:16:03 PM | I like the idea that it sounds like it could be a good idea in theory, get to know someone casually, no pressure, just talk and get to know them better...
Only upside to this over talking on the phone is that you're there in person so you can see eachothers body language.
The big downside however is this is a BORING date idea, since there's no real "activity" involved, there's no walking together, there's no dancing together, no doing anything really fun together other than talking, it gets stale quickly... great if you're both EXTREMELY shy types, but if either one of you has more fun being on an "action date" then a coffee-only date is a sure recipe for disaster (one or the other person being totally bored out of their mind will see their partner as a total bore and lose interest fast)
IMO I think coffee is best used as a STARTER to a good date... and a good date should transition between about 2-4 places depending on how early in the day the date starts and how close other segments of the date can be... example go out to coffee at noon, talk for a little bit while enjoying it and then head over to say the video arcade or amusement park at 1pm, be there for a few hours having a great time until I dunno 4-5pm, if things are still nice go to a regular park or a public beach with a broadwalk (better idea, more social place) for an evening stroll along the beach... this could go on and on, it could lead to dinner around 7, cuddling on a beach towel at 8:30, going to a dance club at 10pm, going back to eachothers place at 1am... the only thing that REALLY determines the length and complexity of a date (which should take place on a day where neither person has ANY other plans), and how far it can go, is how mutual each person is on wanting it to go on, how open they are about communicating eachothers feelings to eachother, and how good their chemistry is.
I would imagine, though, that a scenario like the above going that far probably doesn't happen but maybe in one in a hundred, or maybe one in a thousand+ dates.... more realistically a good combo is coffee-something fun-something relaxing-end of date.
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My best internet date started at Starbucks... we met at noon and the date ended up lasting into the night.
Ok... maybe it's not that unlikely afterall! | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/11/2005 5:05:48 PM | coffee dates are boring, plus i can't drink coffee because i have an anxiety issue...coffee makes my head spin...ever seen the Exorcist? | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/11/2005 5:42:04 PM | | I like coffee dates, they are informal, and therefore more relaxing and gives a good chance to chat and really get to know the person. Save dinner for a second or third date. | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/11/2005 6:40:49 PM | | I prefer them. I don't like dinner dates as there is never food available that can be eaten gracefully! Pasta is too messy, salads are too hard to eat as there is always a great big clump of lettuce, and there is always too much food! | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/11/2005 7:10:37 PM | I do think is just one of the best places to meet somebody for the first time,
it is informal, so you kind of feeling relaxed and casual, is like a neutral place.
I believe that if somebody could feel comfortable with you in that place, well
chances are you just have a good connection; and is very likely you will feel
good with each other company in any other place too...
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/12/2005 2:00:58 AM | A coffe date is a good thing because if one of you or both of you don't like each other it is an easy thing to get out of after you meet. If you like each other you can go and do other stuff and thus turn it into a real date. 
Coffee dates don't mean you have to drink coffee. It can be any beverage. :tongue: | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/13/2005 6:13:01 AM | | Coffe Dates are fine, but i feel that if you take a Lady out on a date, that Dinner, or a Picnic is much better along with the coffee. | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/13/2005 1:35:02 PM | | I always meet for a coffee or drink first, depending on time of day....Nice icebreaker, no commitments to a movie or dinner if you are not attracted to him...Just have your coffee and make your goodbyes...redneckgirl133 | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:51:03 AM | I hate coffee dates.
In fact I don't do them.
I want a guy to more creative than that.
As for me, since most people on here seem to be "coffee daters" or "give me your messenger" people I'd rather just host a party and meet people that way. I figure if the purpose of a coffee date is to have a meeting without pressure - what better way than meet oodles of em at a party -right? | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:23:21 AM | What is life without coffee? I can imagine you've never tasted a cup of real Blue Mountain Jamaican coffee. I once purchased $180 worth, (that's duty free price.) I must tell you I made many a friend over that coffee.
To appreciate coffee, and tea, is to celebrate and connect with a timeless ritual that has been enjoyed throughout the centuries.
(sounds like a commercial eh?)
I can't help it. It's my only true love affair, that and good tobacco... | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/17/2005 11:16:13 AM | | Ah sweet lady caffine. Both a stimulant AND a laxitive, coffe is good for the heart and a life saver some mornings. But it makes your breath yucky... thats why coffe dates are good for the first few dates where there usually isnt much kissing, and better later on in the relationship when niether of you gives a crap what your mates tounge tastes like. I usually bring gum just in case though. | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 5/17/2005 12:51:08 PM | I don't drink coffee so I don't particularly like them. BUT you've gotta meet somewhere and dinner is out of the question for the most part. So I try to plan coffee around something else we could do. Maybe at west ed, if we can get past the coffee, a round of mini-golf is nice, or a trip to the amusement park. NOT the waterpark way too soon to have him seem me in a swimsuit
There's just more to do than sit there and try to make converstation. And a rollercoaster is a great way to get the heart pumping.  | |
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| Re: What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 4/28/2006 4:56:09 AM | coffee dates are ok but Id rather try somthing differnt once in awhile lol
Like......................skydiving .................bungie jumping...............cross country sking....................................Canada's Wonderland .................... chilli Fest ............................beer fest etc lol now that would be a great ,fun first meeting
I try to get them to meet me where I like going because its in a crowd of ppl I know and I can be myself and if they dont like it they can leave and I still have fun lol no loss | |
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| What do u think about Coffee dates ?
Posted: 4/28/2006 7:47:49 AM | I'm not a fan of the coffee date and I've decided don't want to do them. They just don't see to work out well with me. I'm sure its me though I'm rather quiet, so I prefer more of an activity. The first 10-15 minutes, I'm still getting a feel for things, so by the time the beverage is done, I'm just warming up 
There's been a few situations where the busy coffee shop was completely occupied. For me, it's awkward to stand around looking for a table and / or the date. I've encountered dates that were so engrossed in their book they didn't even seem to notice me!
It's even more awkward in planning. I'm also not very spontaneous and like to have things planned out. What to wear? I generally will be casual, but is he expecting me to be all dressed up? Seems silly just for coffee! Is the meeting just a coffee date or pontentially the start of a longer meeting? If it's just coffee, I'd want to eat at home first so I'm not hungry. Should I keep the rest of the day / evening open or plan another activity? If I plan another activity (no, not another date!) how does that sound that I'm busy? As you can see, I've thought about it WAY too much.
This is just weird--I'm not a coffee drinker, and I've had more than one person comment if I ordered tea, hot chocolate or some other beverage. True story, I bought a frappuccino while waiting for a coffee date. He's running late and then had the nerve to say I'm "high maintenance" because I'm having a $3 drink? 
I'm thinking, who cares what I order? Or better yet, I'm thinking why don't save myself the trouble, I'll just stay home and put on a pot of my favorite tea instead of some limited store selection.
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