| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/6/2005 6:14:53 PM | you know, love is always worth it......love illuminates dark areas of our life........an so many of us walk around in tha dark!
but when yer wonderin about tha value of love....what exactly are ya considerin? once love starts growin in yer heart for someone else...are ya watchin what he/she does with it.......or do ya really give it freely........and simply let it go ....NOT worryin or wanderin if they are gonna take care of it..or return tha same feelings for you....i used ta think love had to be returned in order to have value.....then i thought tha depth and heigth of my love was what gave it value...then i thought mebbe its tha duration of love and how long it last, even when it aint returned............but ya know, i really am grateful fer my ever growin eyesight...cuz i finally got to tha stage where what grows in my heart...........doesnt need to be evaluated by any other standards....it just IS ........... | |
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Posted: 8/6/2005 6:22:08 PM | Di,
 to you and all who are so brave. Personally, my mind will never change. IMO, "love" is not worth compromising one's self. But, that's just me | |
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| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/6/2005 6:30:44 PM | | Love is the only thing worth anything, but like anything worth having there is a lot of risk. Keep fishing, your hard times will be rewarded eventually | |
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Joined: 3/26/2005
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| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/6/2005 6:38:27 PM | thanks yam...wheres my coffee, sweety?
now ya now it aint bravery, not really....cuz ya know, when it comes to love, its really easy to love someone who loves you, shoot, some ppl are easy to love even if they dont love you back.......an alot of times we start out lovin someone but something happens and we take that love back...or wish we could.......
but to really grow where it counts...ya gotta learn that yer love is valuable an if it was ever worth givin in tha first place, then its non returnable......you can feed it....or you can starve it........but ya cant make it disappear........and ya cant put it back where it comes from...if acceptin that knowledge makes me brave......well, hellfire, put a dan'l boone hat on me and call me an adventurer!
an yam, if ya can love yerself, an yer son, an yer parents...then you have tha ability to love...i think tha only thing yer really limittin is tha ability to RECIEVE love .......but i am sendin ya some anyway, cause God made ya precious an i aint arguin with Him! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 8:59:01 AM | I don't think it's totally about self gratification but it might be some of it. I've tended to get out early in relationships because I've felt the other person having the feeling and not wanting anyone hurt, knowing that I didn't feel the same way... Does this make sense or is it just rationalizing? Anyway my take on it.. Ps nice profile
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| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/7/2005 9:18:27 AM |
Love meaning that the person you are with is your best friend, your lover, and your biggest supporter - and someone that will be with you through anything the world can throw at both of you.
Someone who sees your soul, and everything about you - and loves you even more for it.
Ohmygod, Montreal, the thought alone of that perfect kind of love makes me melt.
That's what I want. Nothing short of it. We all have flaws, but that is what makes us so perfect.
The key is to discern whether or not those flaws compliment ours, and can we live with them?
Time is our weapon. It's perfectly natural to be scared of commitment once we've been burned. But to use OUR scars as weapons on someone else (i.e., the proverbial 'booty call' or mind game because one has a total lack of respect for the opposite sex) is when the problem really lies with the person and not the partner. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 9:48:36 AM | Sometimes it may not seem worth it, but when the feeling is returned, it is amazing! To know that someone can compliment our lives by making it all that much sweeter! Love does bite at times, because who wants to risk getting hurt. To have a lover who is also my best friend is beyond words.
When a person is in love they glow. So, yeah, its worth it! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 10:09:56 AM | I'm on the same with with you Montreal and babylonia. Perhaps we're too deep, too intense, too romantic... I find a lot of people to be shallow when it comes to true, honest emotions. I'm not saying it's smart to open your heart up to just anyone - it takes time to develop true love.
All in all I'd sum it up this way:
"I'm looking for someone who apreciates me for who I am, accepts me for who I am not, and challenges me to be who I am capable of being." Is this not the epitome of 'unconditioal love'?
Hopefully I will meet a woman who has a similar mindset - life is better shared in my opinion.  | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 10:10:09 AM | What is love?
Is saying you love some one, love?
Is thinking that you love some one, love?
Is feeling that you love some one, love?
If you truly love some one, can you stop loving them?
We ask for honesty in our love. Are we ready for honesty in our love?
We ask for trust in our love, if we lose that trust, do we lose our love?
Are we brave enough to say I love you, without knowing if it will be reciprocated?
If it is not reciprocated, then do we hate?
I don't know.
I do know that I am responsible for how I feel.
No one else can make me love, no one else can make me hate, no one else can know my heart but me.
Will I ever truly know my heart?
I don't know.
I do know, I will keep on searching.
Searching for my true heart, because I have seen a fleeting glimpse of it and liked the way it felt.
I know it won't be easy, if it is, it won't be what I felt.
IS LOVE WORTH IT?
YOU BET YOUR SWEET BOOPY IT IS.
"Justices gives the other his due. Write justice on our minds.
Charrity says The beloved is not the other, but myself
Engrave Charrity and compassion in our hearts"
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Posted: 8/7/2005 10:28:17 AM |
"I'm looking for someone who apreciates me for who I am, accepts me for who I am not, and challenges me to be who I am capable of being." Is this not the epitome of 'unconditioal love'?
I love it !
Too bad it doesn't fit on a t-shirt.
Everyone should think like that, although this site might go out of business in about a week if they did. | |
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Joined: 7/13/2005
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| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/7/2005 10:32:40 AM | I would like to believe so...but life isn't that simple! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 10:39:23 AM | | WEll, as far as my case goes, I think I make it pretty clear in my profile, and in here that this old man doesn't lead women on by e-mail or any private messaging. So I can't be among those you describe. By being up front, I know it's clear to anybody that I'm not looking, and most know that. I rave, cuss, rant and joke, but that's as far as it goes. No phone calls, no meetings, just no contact beyond the open forum. Anyway, it's also known I'm married, and just an ugly old man anyway. I get verrrryy few e-mails, and that's the way it ought to be. As for the fakers, players and liars, they would do well to have enough respect for any lady in POF and be honest. Games to lead on women, (or men) is not funny, nor nice. But ladies, they still hit on you, lie like dogs, and you can never trust anybody. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 10:39:59 AM |
I would like to believe so...but life isn't that simple!
But that's just it. It CAN be.
Man likes woman, woman likes man. Hey, so your man/woman might do things that drive you bonkers but rest assured you do the same to them (general you, not you specifically).
Sit down, chill out, you both are in it for the long haul. Everything else in life is so complicated, from dealing with family issues, bills and idiots you have to work with/for - the relationship is the one thing that makes it worth it.
If the relationship has no real SERIOUS issues like disrespect, abuse, unequaled responsibility (one works, the other can't hold down a job), infidelity, etc., then there simply is no need to create drama.
Sometimes the best answer is the simplest one. Life's too short. Live - and drink beer goddammit!  | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 12:49:16 PM | | Love is worth it!!! Both the good and the bad!! you can not have one without the other. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 1:15:28 PM | Love is not worth it. People are too stupid/opinionated to invest emotional attachments into people who will potentially not give a jack about you.
Go for the sex. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 2:25:35 PM | | No it is not the risk for everyone.Back in my 20s i use to think it was,But now with all the liers out there no.The way i see it if a man has alot going for him(a house ,a good paying job,auto)unless he is going to have kids why would he want to risk that.I lost all of that in my 20s because i trusted women.Never again.....And for the poster that say you have to be hurt to learn.Then that is sad thinking......I knew what i wanted out of life at 18.I do not have to mingle with screwed up women to know what i want out of life.I know what i want.I do not have to go through hell to figure that out....If you have to be hurt to find yourself.Then that is sad...That is the whole problem with the world today. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 5:21:34 PM |
an yam, if ya can love yerself, an yer son, an yer parents...then you have tha ability to love...i think tha only thing yer really limittin is tha ability to RECIEVE love .......but i am sendin ya some anyway, cause God made ya precious an i aint arguin with Him!
Di,
Thanks ... and sure, I have the ability to love. I love my parents. I love my son. That's blood. I'll appreciate others, but never love them. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 6:04:27 PM | | Even with the pain, I'd have to say it is definitely worth it. I've spent many years single by choice because I was raising my daughter and going to college and I refused to let anything, including relationships, get in the way. Sure, I graduated and my daughter is grown. But making such a unilateral decision may have caused me to miss out on something that could have been great. I've loved, been loved and have lost love. It hurts. I think the key is to learn the lesson from the mistakes and leave the pain of it behind. That is easy to say but harder to do, and I know this from experience. If you want something badly enough, you have to take the risks. Nothing is really guaranteed. But if you really want it, and don't take the risk, then you will end up alone. I for one want to give so much to another, and receive that back in return. I know I can do it, and more importantly, I want to do it. If I get hurt while searching, so be it. Some people aren't cut out to live their lives alone. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 6:16:57 PM | | And just because your alone doese not make that person lonely.And just because you are with somebody does not mean you will not be lonely.But of coarse what ever works for you...As far as myself i gave that crap up in my 20s and i am almost 40 and work very hard to get myself in a house good- job.I will no way risk that.I did that in my 20s.The only thing i learned you can not trust nobody.Sorry, iIdo not learn from another persons mistakes.I do not take risk to learn from mistakes.I know right from wrong.I do not get involve with a person to learn.I think that is the whole problem with this world today. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 6:22:34 PM | Tarheelman,
I agree ... oddly, I was just watching "Meet the Parents" and the character played by Bob Deniro asks "Can people be trusted?" ... Ben Stiller's character said "Yeah, I suppose." Denior replied "No. No person can be trusted." ... When you trust someone you're only exposing yourself to being taken advantage of. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/7/2005 7:01:35 PM | Real, unconditional love is always worth it. It is a requirement for the human race to survive. Sure, you'll get folks who will say "why take that chance - its such a hassle". I believe we are born with the innate need and want for love. It keeps us going. Each and every one of us have different definitions of love and that's what makes it complicated today. You watch the movies and it is all about glitz and glamour. That's nice, but real love is like the candle that burns eternally, one minute it may burn bright, the other minute, it may flicker but it never blows out only to become darkness.
I love being in love and loving someone. It's the best gift that I can give and receive! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 7:05:08 PM |
Real, unconditional love is always worth it.
I guess that's why I have two dogs ... seriously though, humans aren't capable of "unconditional" love on a romantic plane. If that were the case, there would be no rules to marriage. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 49 | |
| is love worth it???
Posted: 8/7/2005 7:15:40 PM | Yam - point well taken. Real love doesn't keep score. I know its hard for us humans not to, but keeping score really accomplishes ziltch, nada, etc. Believe me, humans have lots to learn from animals about love, etc.
Rules for marriage? Is there a book out? I'll run to Barnes & Noble. Should I get crazy enough to remarry again, society won't dictate the rules in my marriage. It will be up to me and my man, pure and simple. I'm way past the age of where I care what society and others think about how I live my life. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 7:21:09 PM | Ksue,
When I refer to "rules of marriage" you can find them in the supposed "vows" people make. Unconditional love, by definition, would survive and be uneffected by anything - including infidelity, etc. That's not humanly possible. | |
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