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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/9/2005 9:08:07 AM | | I would love to date a single mother. I love kids, have time for them and there a joy to be around. Kids today need father figure's in their life and you shouldn't be negative about any of the single mothers out there anyways. People make mistakes and they learn and im sure all mothers (hopefully) have learned from their mistakes. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/9/2005 9:49:36 AM | | Well I hope there's guys out there that still date single moms or I won't be dating at all!!! LOL I have raised my children on my own...Granted they are older and it's much easier now! I do think it can be difficult to date when the kids are smaller!! Now im pretty much on my own... | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/9/2005 11:09:34 AM | Hunnysuckles you seem like a very understanding person from my last post if you have read it in your mind should I deserve another chance and be able to make things right or should I not ever try to have kids or such , I am asking this for help , I am still in love with her but the hardest part is seeing her with another and trying to get over her . I just need to know if I was the bad guy or does it go both ways ? | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/9/2005 1:05:59 PM | chrislanphere.....perhaps you didn't mean to be insulting when you stated,
"People make mistakes and they learn and I'm sure all mothers (hopefully) have learned from their mistakes."
I'm sure you meant that to sound good hearted?
Because I'm not sure which 'mistake' that I (or any other mother) might have made that you're referring to? Maybe you could clarify? Thanks! | |
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Joined: 8/9/2005
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/9/2005 5:42:10 PM | I'm a single Mom and most of the guys I have dated (since my divorce) have been single, never married, no children. Nice gents - it just didn't click. None of them had any problem with the fact that I had children. I'm sure there are guys that don't date single moms, just like there are girls that won't date single dads... but it's not the majority.
I think, I would prefer to date a single Dad myself ... just so we both know what it's like and have that in common.
In any case... I'm new around here, and this seems like a nice place with nice people (for the most part ;) ...
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/9/2005 9:50:11 PM | I am a single dad providing for my daughter. Her mom walked out on us when she was 7 mo old. Try reading everything a dad needs to know on your lunch break. She had tried to bribe me, steal from me, taken to court and yes even tried having me arrested. Do you think I would let her back into our lives? No way!
Self reliance is the best cure, never let someone make you dependent on them. He could hurt you or worse your daughters. Good men are out there you just have to go slower. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 12:16:13 AM | I dont know...personally I am a single mom and I am looking for someone too...but not to take care of me and my son...I want a partner in my life...an equal...maybe I am a bit femenist...but I like to take care of myself...I just want someone with me is all  | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 12:03:40 PM | | Me personally i will not do leftovers.I will let the next fool do that.Sorry been their done thatI am not a back-up for no friggin woman. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 1:40:17 PM | | Leftovers!!!!!!! A single parent is considered a leftover.....talk about issues. You need to get out more Tar.After reading all of your comments, I wouldn't even consider you a leftover you're more like the stuff that people scrape off their plate and throw away in the garbage.... Get some counselling! | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 1:56:13 PM | | Talk about issues.You need to get out more kitten.After reading all your comments.I wouldn't consider you trash but sh_t.GET SOME COUNSELLING! | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 2:22:21 PM | | So what .i was a doormat in my 20s.No more though.I will let the next guy have that title.I gave that title when i hit 30. | |
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alp65
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Joined: 8/6/2005
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 6:32:47 PM | | Personally I wouldn't date a single mom. Not that I'm denying that she's a great person but the fact remains that I'd also be married to her ex- and his family....and I'd be responsible for raising another man's child...dictated on how to discipline, educate, religion (yes/no) when to allow to wear make up, the list is endless....I'd prefer to start with a clean slate and create my own family with ground rules that me and my partner set. I don't need to deal with "in-laws" (who'd probably resent me) and everybody else who want to visit the baby (grand-fathers & g-mothers)....it's a crazy life style. Life is too fast and stressing as it is to give into that. It boils down to this: I don't want to feel like an outsider in my own home and I believe that is the problem for single-mom's and dad's looking for something more long-lasting then a weekend date. And remember, dating is like a job interview; it's important you reveal to him/her that you have kids....if you with hold this fact for more than 2 day's you most certainly won't be 'hired.' | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 9:07:51 PM | I think it's situational dependent alp. For one, (in my situation) you wouldn't be 'married to her ex and his family", as he rarely has anything to do with my son, and his family sees him perhaps twice a year. Two, you'd never have to worry about allowing my son to wear make up, (we've already covered that on our own thanks!), Three, I believe that when creating a blended family comes into the picture, the couple should attain a little bit of counselling to learn how to effectively COMBINE their parenting techniques....rather than 'dictate' to someone else what should or should not happen. If someone is going to seriously bond with my son, than they need to feel very much a part of the equation as well, something I recognize.
I'm not looking for a partner, or a date, or a father for my child....but if I was interested, than I've given you my thoughts.
Again however, it is entirely your perogative to not date a single parent.......I know that I too, used to feel the same way. (as hypocritical as it made me, I didn't date single dad's, even as a single mom) So not judging, but just 'helping the gap to widen' a bit.
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alp65
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Joined: 8/6/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 10:42:12 PM | | Ease up on Tar, guys, i don't think he's a bad guy but i think he feels like he's hit a brick wall. Tar, just ease down a little....it can get frustrating at times and I feel that too. We are all in this together for whatever reason NONE of us have connected with our dream woman/man. If we honestly believed we were perfect we wouldn't be in these forums except maybe Canadian....because she's not really looking. That Hermit plan - DAMN!....bad idea - you'll go crazy. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/10/2005 11:37:10 PM | u r absolutely right....
all parties has mistakes in this matter ...
F = Female M = Male
the F would normally presents their mother status as an approach and unfortunately and dramaticly use the kids image as a judgement ruler for the M. M on the other way, trying to symphatic...
we are talking abt LOVE not SYMPHATY....
with or without the kids, if love is there... there will be a relation...
and i agree with u...
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/11/2005 1:45:09 PM | | No i didnt mean what i said in a bad way i just single moms would look at us good guys like me instead of these ones who are always beating on them and mentally abusing them as well. I've dated plenty of single moms and all they wanted to talk about were their ex's and they went back to them so any single moms im single :) :0 :0 | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/11/2005 2:02:43 PM | | Im a single mom that has older kids...21 and 17...Thier fathers' passed away when they were little..So not every single mom is the same!!! There are no exes to deal with, no inlaws, Just me!! It's as though you are generalizing single moms!! | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/11/2005 2:45:30 PM | | Sorry to hear about that sweetpea i know its rough to lose someone but single ladies why wouldnt you want to date a nice, sweet, kinda guy like myself i know my pic isnt there????? | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/11/2005 2:48:06 PM | alright...i know there are plenty of men out there willing to date a woman with kids...but you shouldn't be asking for someone to take care of them....you are their parent...if you are their only parent then that should be enough...i have a daughter and a son on the way....i would love to have a guy in my life...but i'm not going to make him feel as if he should be their father...i am more than capable of being my kids' parents...if i were to date a guy..which you should do this too...you should just let them know that you want them to be a good role model...and let them know that your kids are a big part of your life and you're not willing to sacrafice your happiness or their happiness for the guys' happiness...if they can't understand that or if they can't stand the fact that you have kids...then you don't need them anyways...just keep looking...
the worst thing i think you're doing is getting around your ex again...if you guys are ex's then there is a good reason for that...keep it that way...you're just going to make more problems in your life and in your children's life... | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/11/2005 7:18:48 PM | | I think that being a single mom, although my children are older, I have 2 young Godchildren. I love my children and dating men that have never been married or not had children don't understand that you want to spend as much time with your children as well. I want someone who will share my life and I share his, not make it. When 2 soulmates join their lives will meld together. I think that it is wonderful that the first interest on your profile is your child. Good for you. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/11/2005 8:06:47 PM | I have been a single mom for 5 yrs. now. Dating is difficult, but I don't find it difficult because men don't want to date single moms...it's more of a challenge because of the availability to date. I personally am not looking for anyone to take care of me and my daughter....she isn't even involved in my dating life, and won't be unless I start seeing someone on a serious level, so them taking care of her isn't even an issue since they don't even see her.
I do think if you go into the date as looking for someone to take care of you and your kids...that neediness is easily picked up on and will definitely scare alot of guys away. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/22/2005 1:37:00 PM | | OMG cant u see that she just used u over and over and if u think that buying u $2000 clothes means she loves u OMG i think u are blind sorry for being so blunt but wow. I don't know if u had a job or not but it sounds to me that u were the live in babysitter with benefits that is probably why she was so easy to let u walk. U sound like u would have given her anything and she wasn't really into the relationship as u were. If there isn't love from both sides if it isn't equal, It will never work. I think truely u need to forget all bout her and move on and find someone that loves you for u not what u can be for their children or what u can do for them. It has to be 50/50. Lopsided relationships don't work!!!!! | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/22/2005 2:57:33 PM | | I personally would rather date a single mom. I ave my two children alot and I need to know that the person I am with understands that they are my world. I have tried dating women that didnt have any children and it just led to complications(my situation, dont jump all over me). Dont give up, there are people out there who will be interested, you just need to get through the jerks to find that prince........... | |
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